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What's the dealbreaker (sexually) that you know she's the one
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When I've dated someone you can usually tell (as a male) whether you carry on dating after our first sex session.
Name a maximum of 3 things
A dealbreaker for me that we carry on is....
1) She sucks cock ! If she doesn't then there's absolutely no chance of us carrying on
2) rimming or being rimmed is a big thing for me . Of course I don't expect her to rim me within the first 10mins of us playing or let me lick her arse, but I would like to think she's wanting to be adventurous in the future and I get that vibe she's up it . This is a kink of mine so it's an absolute must.
3) not prudish ie vanilla
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"How would you know that she will be a future rimmer ????"
Good question hahaha. Well maybe a general vibe she's willing to try it and be kinky . Most ladies I've rimmed it's been their first time and likewise them giving me a rimjob . Yea on the first session. Usually coz the ex wasn't kinky or lazy etc  |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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If it’s just sex then I don’t like people who are overly interested in bums and bum stuff. Mine or theirs.
And I guess I would prefer someone who likes receiving oral. |
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"How bizzare.
You could tell all of that from one sex session?
I’ve been doing sex with Mrs Coyote for 20+ years and we still learn new and exciting stuff. "
Well I would think most guys know after their first fuck if to carry on dating. Just honest really |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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"How bizzare.
You could tell all of that from one sex session?
I’ve been doing sex with Mrs Coyote for 20+ years and we still learn new and exciting stuff.
Well I would think most guys know after their first fuck if to carry on dating. Just honest really "
If you’re going to base a relationship around sex, then yes I suppose so.
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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"When I've dated someone you can usually tell (as a male) whether you carry on dating after our first sex session.
Name a maximum of 3 things
A dealbreaker for me that we carry on is....
1) She sucks cock ! If she doesn't then there's absolutely no chance of us carrying on
2) rimming or being rimmed is a big thing for me . Of course I don't expect her to rim me within the first 10mins of us playing or let me lick her arse, but I would like to think she's wanting to be adventurous in the future and I get that vibe she's up it . This is a kink of mine so it's an absolute must.
3) not prudish ie vanilla
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She only wants me purely for sex. I've had this. So annoying. I mean seriously what kind of a guy does she think I am? Shocking. |
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One lass who I been lucky enough to be given a second chance by recently when we first ever slept together you are always weary of how they will react to having their ass eaten, her response was to start fingering her self knew then she was the one ha |
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"One lass who I been lucky enough to be given a second chance by recently when we first ever slept together you are always weary of how they will react to having their ass eaten, her response was to start fingering her self knew then she was the one ha "
Hahaha brilliant |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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The first few times can be hit and miss whilst you get used to each other and get that connection going but I’d say after 5 times you know if you’re compatible or not…
I was recently dating someone who was fit, good looking, kind and fun but we just weren’t gelling when it came to sex, not saying she was or I was bad, we just didn’t have that connection and for me after years of vanilla marriage it’s a deal breaker unfortunately…
I like naughty and filthy… she was more of a 2 position no touching in certain places kind of a lady…  |
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By *oelMan 48 weeks ago
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"I met my girl 6 months ago, she had been in a horrible relationship for a long time & hadn't had sex for over 5 years. I've unleashed a monster lol She's definitely the one!❤️"
Nice, yeah coming out of a bad no sex relationship is such a release. It's like you need to make up for lost time 🤣 |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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"Maybe she doesn't want to do those things to you because you aren't meeting her expectations & desires "
Why the passive aggressive reply?
I am merely replying to the OP. If you read my message I am specifically not saying anything derogatory about the lady in question… we as a couple just didnt gel whilst with others I do as she may well do herself…! |
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"One lass who I been lucky enough to be given a second chance by recently when we first ever slept together you are always weary of how they will react to having their ass eaten, her response was to start fingering her self knew then she was the one ha
Hahaha brilliant "
It was made even better as had been with the same lass 15 years before then, met her the day the ex said she wasn’t coming back after saying she would for months after she moved out |
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Nah. Not a chance I'd know their future potential from the first time.
There's all the nerves and learning to account for, and the fact that most people do their absolute best for the first few months before you get a glimpse of what normal is for them 💜 |
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By *ambertMan 48 weeks ago
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See I don't think the first time, or the first few times, really tell you anything. There are a lot of nerves as well as a lot of learning how each other respond, and to what.
Sex with a partner is a journey to be enjoyed I think. |
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I have very high sexual expectations, regardless of who im meeting and why, where it be a 1 night stand or long term even into a relationship.
1 - were both/all to have fun
2 - were both/all to be comfortable
3 - stop if someone says stop
4 - after care is must
There my expectations. I dont care if you wear boring granny pants, dont take your top off and want the lights off. As long as those 4 points are met, then all is good.
Sex is the perk, the person is the deal breaker. I'd never throw away a good friendship or relationship just because we like different things. |
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"When I've dated someone you can usually tell (as a male) whether you carry on dating after our first sex session.
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Nope. I've never made a decision on whether to carry on dating someone based on the first time we've had sex.
Whether it was sex on the first date or later.
People don't always plan the first time. Sometimes it just happens, is a quickie or an unexpected spur of the moment decision. Sometimes it's in a bed and sometimes it's not.
Every experience is individual and having some kind of 'tick list' assessment that drives a decision as to whether to see eachother again is to me pretty pointless.
Some of the best first sex I've had with women has been with people I very soon learned I wouldn't want to see again long term.
Good sex doesn't always guarantee a good, healthy relationship. |
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"How would you know that she will be a future rimmer ????
She would have H on her forehead like Rimmer in Red Dwarf
😂🤣😂🤣
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Sally love it "
Chris Barrie used to drink in a pub I worked in when I was a student.
People used to draw an 'H' on his pint glass whenever he went to the loo. |
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"Maybe she doesn't want to do those things to you because you aren't meeting her expectations & desires
Why the passive aggressive reply?
I am merely replying to the OP. If you read my message I am specifically not saying anything derogatory about the lady in question… we as a couple just didnt gel whilst with others I do as she may well do herself…!"
She wasn't replying to you. |
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"Rimming is a deal breaker? .. wow "
Why wow ?! It's my kink that I need in a intimate moment or I find it hard to progress you could say, in the moment of intimacy. Foreplay is very important to me and to have hat connection with a lady is everything for me or it just won't happen. |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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People are usually at their filthiest in the early days of a sexual relationship. You need to know that they’re still hankering after your poo shoot after they’ve seen you at your best and worst, 12 months plus into the relationship.
It’s like we all use our best behaviour and then when we’ve got them hooked we decide nahhh I hate giving blow jobs, I hate your Chili Con Carne, I hate the colour of your bathroom kinda vibes. |
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"People are usually at their filthiest in the early days of a sexual relationship. You need to know that they’re still hankering after your poo shoot after they’ve seen you at your best and worst, 12 months plus into the relationship.
Yes the blowjobs did start to decrease after a few years to the point I had to beg for one to no avail.
It’s like we all use our best behaviour and then when we’ve got them hooked we decide nahhh I hate giving blow jobs, I hate your Chili Con Carne, I hate the colour of your bathroom kinda vibes."
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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Mainly it’s that she desires me, and is ok with me desiring her, all sorts of good things can come from that.
I’m not sure the first session would be representative though? People don’t have their first shag under oath  |
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For me it's about the chemistry felt between us, not whether they'd lick my my arse or not.
There are sexual activities I do that I wouldn't consider doing the first time I had sex with someone.
To base an opinion on someone after the first time you have sex with them is narrow minded in my opinion.
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What you describe is not a 'date' ....
You are looking for a sex partner who has to do certain sex acts or you don't want to know.
And that's fine but it doesn't ring as a 'date' to me.
Also ..... calling people 'vanilla' as a put down because they won't like the hole your shit comes out of ???
I just happen to value my health more than your sexual thrill ..
My 3 musts would be......
1. We laugh at the same stuff
2. He's bodily clean
3. He cares for others as much as he cares for himself. |
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