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By *EAT..85 OP Woman 40 weeks ago
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What is love to you?
How do you know if you're in it? How does it feel?
I know I love my children, regardless of what they do it's unconditional.
But it's not the same feeling for a romantic partner. It's more complicated? Do you have a choice? |
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Love is that kind of loyalty, doing things you would never dream of for anyone else. Gooey to start of with, but it matures. Still in love with my ex.....and that's nearly 11 years!
Children are different. That's always unconditional 🤓🥷 |
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There is no answer to the question. Poets have tried to put it into words.
But it has to be felt in the heart, mere words fall short.
I love to be in love, to give unconditionally, and to receive. It can be hard to find, it's always changing, and often difficult to hold on to.
When you find it, seize it with all your heart. |
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HEAT 'ello ......
You speak of romantic love....... that's romance.
Love is decidedly more mature and fastholding ....
romance is not love
Sonnet 116 - simply says that true love never dies. It does not explain what love is and while Shakey was good with words n rhymes, imho - love ( for an individual ) can diminish in some circumstances. |
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By *hilloutMan 40 weeks ago
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The love one feels for children is different than from a romantic partner.
For me, where children are concerned, it's nurturing, protective and everlasting. You wish the best for them at all times and will often forgive things you wouldn't in others, as they're as much a part of you as you them.
True love with a romantic partner is different. It's all encompassing, passionate and seeps into every pore of your being, especially in the beginning. That person occupies a central position in your life and thoughts. Gestures and acts that are reciprocated only fuel the cycle more. You become a part of each other and dream of living a life together with shared experiences. It changes with time, from something explosive and overflowing, to a deeper and more serene affection. |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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I've loved many ways many different times. Sometimes it's been great and gotten deeper, more empathic and more nourishing over time, sometimes it's caused heartache and pain.
But if I find someone who reciprocates equal loving energy I will hold them close forever even in the relationship changes. Cos that's precious and hard to come by 💖 |
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I don't think love is a choice as such. Well you can choose to love someone the right way I suppose. To be in love, to fall in love just happens based on the right ingredients. I cannot use vocabulary to explain what it means to me. Love has unfolded in many ways, it is never exactly the same. |
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By *EAT..85 OP Woman 40 weeks ago
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True love with a romantic partner is different. It's all encompassing, passionate and seeps into every pore of your being, especially in the beginning. That person occupies a central position in your life and thoughts. Gestures and acts that are reciprocated only fuel the cycle more. You become a part of each other and dream of living a life together with shared experiences. It changes with time, from something explosive and overflowing, to a deeper and more serene affection."
The beginning of this could also sound like infatuation. Perhaps when the 'honeymoon' period wears off and you still want to spend that serene time together it's likely love? |
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By *EAT..85 OP Woman 40 weeks ago
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"I don't think love is a choice as such. Well you can choose to love someone the right way I suppose. To be in love, to fall in love just happens based on the right ingredients. I cannot use vocabulary to explain what it means to me. Love has unfolded in many ways, it is never exactly the same. "
I think this is key, there are different types of love. I hear of people marrying their best friends because they had been hurt so much previously by a love so strong gone wrong. |
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I once went to a friend's funeral and the priest gave this sermon about different types of love, I think there were 7?, which resonated very strongly and provoked many thoughts. I've never been able to find it on tinternet.
In any case I managed to find this which kind of goes along the same lines... But for sure there was also romantic love. And how it was expressed..
the deep familial love for a relative, the brotherly love for a friend, the sacrificial love for someone who gave freely to others, or the mature, pragmatic love built on shared history and goals..
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"I once went to a friend's funeral and the priest gave this sermon about different types of love, I think there were 7?, which resonated very strongly and provoked many thoughts. I've never been able to find it on tinternet.
In any case I managed to find this which kind of goes along the same lines... But for sure there was also romantic love. And how it was expressed..
the deep familial love for a relative, the brotherly love for a friend, the sacrificial love for someone who gave freely to others, or the mature, pragmatic love built on shared history and goals..
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To that you can probably add the love of objects, experiences, activities, food, environments, behaviours and probably many more... Other types of love are available at a store near you. |
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By *EAT..85 OP Woman 40 weeks ago
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"Most people are 'infatuated' with someone new; a novelty that sparks interest and new life...
When the infatuation ends, if they are still together , it's more than likely inertia ....
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You're probably not wrong in the majority of cases! Relationships and jobs become far too comfortable. Habits. |
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Cynical me says love is a post requisite to attachment. A throwback from our ancestors who lived in time of having safety in numbers to ward off attackers and to procreate to uphold a bloodline
Not sure what the romantic me says; life partner, someone to share trials and tribulations with....A partnership, who's health care and wellbeing matter
Life isn't like that though |
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I’m feeling it for the first time at 55. I feel not to be alone, that we are friends, lovers, that there are no power fights, that we care for each other and we both want to nurture our relationship |
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By *EAT..85 OP Woman 40 weeks ago
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"I’m feeling it for the first time at 55. I feel not to be alone, that we are friends, lovers, that there are no power fights, that we care for each other and we both want to nurture our relationship"
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Love is Autumn, love is Cinnamon, love is warm comfort food, love is evolutionary ("love" backwards with some "utionary" thrown in for good measure), love is trying to find the best response in a thread about love and failing miserably.
This ^ all doesn't really make sense, just like love. |
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"HEAT 'ello ......
You speak of romantic love....... that's romance.
Love is decidedly more mature and fastholding ....
romance is not love
Sonnet 116 - simply says that true love never dies. It does not explain what love is and while Shakey was good with words n rhymes, imho - love ( for an individual ) can diminish in some circumstances. "
I agree granny, furthermore as you can fall in love with someone, you can also fall out of love with them too. I didn't know that till it happened to me.
But love does exist, and is worth the chase. |
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"Cynical me says love is a post requisite to attachment. A throwback from our ancestors who lived in time of having safety in numbers to ward off attackers and to procreate to uphold a bloodline
Not sure what the romantic me says; life partner, someone to share trials and tribulations with....A partnership, who's health care and wellbeing matter
Life isn't like that though"
Take it from someone who never believed in love, it does exist misilia, I hope you get to taste it one day. |
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"Love is Autumn, love is Cinnamon, love is warm comfort food, love is evolutionary ("love" backwards with some "utionary" thrown in for good measure), love is trying to find the best response in a thread about love and failing miserably.
This ^ all doesn't really make sense, just like love."
eloquent as ever Nero 👍🏽 |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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I think love gets tangled up with lots of other things. Attraction, chemistry, the habits of day-to-day life together. But love on its own doesn’t always make for a healthy relationship. You can love someone and still hurt each other, or realise you can’t actually build a life together. That’s what makes defining it complicated for me.
For me, love is a mix of friendship, attraction, commitment (not always to entwine lives), enough common ground to feel a sense of kinship and enough differences to keep it interesting, a real investment in each other’s wellbeing. And, maybe most of all, a deep feeling of emotional safety. I don't believe romantic love should ever be unconditional.
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You don’t know if you’re in love until something goes wrong. Until then, it could just be lust or infatuation. It’s only when the wheels fall off, when it gets difficult, when you are required to sacrifice, compromise, give up a part of yourself, that you’ll know if you’re in love. Love is defined by hardship. All those feel-good romantic feelings are just the tip of the iceberg. You need to go deep into difficulty if you want the truth of love. If you can stand shoulder to shoulder, two (or three) against the world, no matter what, then you know. And you can’t know, until you’re tested. Xx |
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"What is love to you?
How do you know if you're in it? How does it feel?
I know I love my children, regardless of what they do it's unconditional.
But it's not the same feeling for a romantic partner. It's more complicated? Do you have a choice? "
Some question, I'm affectionate, protective and love the cuddles etc but not sure about being in love |
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By *hilloutMan 40 weeks ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"I've loved many ways many different times. Sometimes it's been great and gotten deeper, more empathic and more nourishing over time, sometimes it's caused heartache and pain.
But if I find someone who reciprocates equal loving energy I will hold them close forever even in the relationship changes. Cos that's precious and hard to come by 💖"
An exceedingly rare and priceless thing. Fortunate are those who find it, recognise it and hold on to it. |
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Most , if not all , people spoke of love as something they are 'in' with a partner.
There is no need to have a partner to know what love is ....... love begins with the self. In fact ALL love comes from the self, from within. It is impossible to show love to another unless you show love to yourself. That love within you becomes something stronger when you give it to another.
There is absolutely no need for them to love you back , love is not obligitory, it has no rules.
Your love for another shows when you let them be exactly who they are - and if being who they are means you must let them go it does not follow that you love them less - just that you continue to love and respect yourself.
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"Not worth it, is what it is.
Familial love means obligation to be a punching bag.
Romantic love is just about letting your guard down so you can be brutally savaged."
Oh swingy darling, that's not true. Some people do take advantage of other people's love, that's true. But you just need to find someone who's generous with their love. I truly hope you can taste some of the love I've experienced in life.
Not everyone is capable of being loving, so find someone who is. Everything else is just a sideshow. |
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