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The STRUGGLE is REAL!!!
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By (user no longer on site) OP 28 weeks ago
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I know, I know! Fab as always been a struggle for blokes - ratios, attitudes, people’s ridiculous prejudices with regard to toilet lid open, pants round ankles, sweaty cock pics etc…
BUT!!!! I’m really struggling to find someone to meet!   
I mean when I find someone who seems attractive, sane and fancies me back, they either don’t take me seriously or our diaries never seem to match up! 
What’s broken with fab lately? Is there some new secret weaponry that I don’t know about since I was last on, or am I just getting too old for this shit, or is the pool getting smaller as everyone shuffles over to other well known apps?m that must not be mentioned?
I mean, I’ll even travel a fair distance too! What more can a girl ask for from a guy? So I need to get some body decorations, scented candles or flashing light or summat?
Anyone have any thoughts or tips? Anyone fancy putting up with me for an evening sometime?   
Lots of love and have a wonderful day all Xx |
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You remind me of someone who is a serial leaver too… I just forgot his name.
If people don’t find you attractive, they won’t want to meet you. People can blame the pandemic, Trump, that Fab is a website and not an app with no swiping, etc etc, but bottom line is if people don’t fancy you they will not want to meet. It is very simple.
I just remembered the name. Brucey! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 28 weeks ago
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"Fab...... completed it mate. "
I’ve literally done it half a dozen times now and once I even defeated the hairy balled giant caveman who flys down after the bit where most people think is the end…  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 28 weeks ago
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"Cant really hold fab responsible if you cant meet due to diary issues. "
I’ve always had a diary, it’s actually less busy these days…. ….I can blame fab for the shitty weather outside if it’s easier? Bloody fab! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 28 weeks ago
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"You remind me of someone who is a serial leaver too… I just forgot his name.
If people don’t find you attractive, they won’t want to meet you. People can blame the pandemic, Trump, that Fab is a website and not an app with no swiping, etc etc, but bottom line is if people don’t fancy you they will not want to meet. It is very simple.
I just remembered the name. Brucey! "
Missed my point, it’s not about the fancying. I’m talking about people who clearly fancy each other but still not being able to fix up meets. It’s defo different, maybe people are getting more comfortable with text va flesh, idk?  |
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Requirements of most are getting more stringent, lists of tick boxes are getting longer by the day.
The more choice available, the pickier people become. If you don’t meet those requirements or tick ALL those boxes you won’t get given the time of day.
Mind you, one could have all of those AND STILL you’d get a thanks but no thanks 🤷🏾♂️
I just stay on here now for the forums, the pics, event guest lists and to keep in touch with those I’ve either met at, or wish to meet at events |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 28 weeks ago
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"Requirements of most are getting more stringent, lists of tick boxes are getting longer by the day.
The more choice available, the pickier people become. If you don’t meet those requirements or tick ALL those boxes you won’t get given the time of day.
Mind you, one could have all of those AND STILL you’d get a thanks but no thanks 🤷🏾♂️
I just stay on here now for the forums, the pics, event guest lists and to keep in touch with those I’ve either met at, or wish to meet at events "
Agreed!
It’s like peoples energy all goes into their presentation, but then when it comes to the fun bit we’re all too busy taking pics and faffing each other around on telespam? |
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I'm not sure what the answer is. We say we noticed an attitude shift post pandemic. We had really good meets predominantly with single guys pre pandemic arranged via fab only. Post pandemic we were messed about and never actually managed to arrange a private meet. That's our only measure there's no science to it! So rather than spend ages trying to arrange something, get messed about, stood up and waste child care etc we now prioritise club events.
If we go to a club there is a good chance we'll bump into someone we know and have a cracking social evening if nothing else. Appreciate that's only our perspective. |
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"Requirements of most are getting more stringent, lists of tick boxes are getting longer by the day.
The more choice available, the pickier people become. If you don’t meet those requirements or tick ALL those boxes you won’t get given the time of day.
Mind you, one could have all of those AND STILL you’d get a thanks but no thanks 🤷🏾♂️
I just stay on here now for the forums, the pics, event guest lists and to keep in touch with those I’ve either met at, or wish to meet at events "
The last paragraph is pretty much why we stay on here. Keep in touch and learn of/advertise upcoming events. |
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By (user no longer on site) 28 weeks ago
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Been on here on and off for about 12yrs, current stint is about 10months.
Meet/not meet ratio about 50/50 across the 15yrs. Current stint not been good, 2 meets, both unvarified so we couldnt verify eachother, but still 2 meets in 10months.
Afraid in my experience its like everything in life, what you get out all depends on what you put in.
Make the effort, join chats, go to organised events, use the cams/forums and you get known and possibly get more interest.
Sit back and do nothing and expect everyone to come flooding to you with offers, and you'll get nothing. |
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"Requirements of most are getting more stringent, lists of tick boxes are getting longer by the day.
The more choice available, the pickier people become. If you don’t meet those requirements or tick ALL those boxes you won’t get given the time of day.
Mind you, one could have all of those AND STILL you’d get a thanks but no thanks 🤷🏾♂️
I just stay on here now for the forums, the pics, event guest lists and to keep in touch with those I’ve either met at, or wish to meet at events
Agreed!
It’s like peoples energy all goes into their presentation, but then when it comes to the fun bit we’re all too busy taking pics and faffing each other around on telespam? "
A LOT of clout chasers, thankfully they’re pretty easy to spot 😅 |
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Just be patient. No idea what you are doing wring but when I first came here, I was having fun instantly.
I find those who like a regular pm. You can have fun and flirt in private.
Once you have that, surely plain sailing.
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"Requirements of most are getting more stringent, lists of tick boxes are getting longer by the day.
The more choice available, the pickier people become. If you don’t meet those requirements or tick ALL those boxes you won’t get given the time of day.
Mind you, one could have all of those AND STILL you’d get a thanks but no thanks 🤷🏾♂️
I just stay on here now for the forums, the pics, event guest lists and to keep in touch with those I’ve either met at, or wish to meet at events
The last paragraph is pretty much why we stay on here. Keep in touch and learn of/advertise upcoming events."
I walk into a club and I feel on top of the world like a million dollars & I’m welcomed with open arms in some cases, come back on here and it’s back to being a small fish in a big pond.
I’ll just continue to go where I’m celebrated as opposed to staying where I just feel “tolerated” |
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By (user no longer on site) 28 weeks ago
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There's no quick fix, even if you have an excellent profile it may not make a difference... As I've always said, sometimes you just need a bit of luck, I've never had a meet that's been instigated my me, messages just fall by the wayside, then out of the blue you get an offer, and suddenly you've got a regular..... Patience is also key. |
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Lives are I think more complex and busier than they used to be. Plus, as no strings partners, you will come lower on the priority scale than full time partners, friends, work etc
And maybe you're not that well matched. Not having public photos also creates inhibition for me and some others |
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Try comparing your profile to some others. It's a bit sparse in photos & words. OK so ours may be a bit long, but it's hopefully considered balanced & honest. We can't really tell anything about you from yours. |
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Yeah it’s all about secret weapons and stuff
Secrets as fuck it is , you only get to know the secret after a secret amount of time determined by the fab secret society of secret keepers . Then you get the thing that makes all your most desired fabbers come flying in , flapping their undies in gay (and bi as well as straight ) abandon ! You didn’t hear this from me though !
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"You remind me of someone who is a serial leaver too… I just forgot his name.
If people don’t find you attractive, they won’t want to meet you. People can blame the pandemic, Trump, that Fab is a website and not an app with no swiping, etc etc, but bottom line is if people don’t fancy you they will not want to meet. It is very simple.
I just remembered the name. Brucey! "
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In fairness Brucey never struggled to get meets, despite his self-perpetuated debunking. His dance card had more stamps on it than the entire ensemble of Bridgerton. He only returns to Fab when he needs a break and to create dorky 'horn dog' threads. |
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"I know, I know! Fab as always been a struggle for blokes - ratios, attitudes, people’s ridiculous prejudices with regard to toilet lid open, pants round ankles, sweaty cock pics etc…
BUT!!!! I’m really struggling to find someone to meet!
I mean when I find someone who seems attractive, sane and fancies me back, they either don’t take me seriously or our diaries never seem to match up!
What’s broken with fab lately? Is there some new secret weaponry that I don’t know about since I was last on, or am I just getting too old for this shit, or is the pool getting smaller as everyone shuffles over to other well known apps?m that must not be mentioned?
I mean, I’ll even travel a fair distance too! What more can a girl ask for from a guy? So I need to get some body decorations, scented candles or flashing light or summat?
Anyone have any thoughts or tips? Anyone fancy putting up with me for an evening sometime?
Lots of love and have a wonderful day all Xx"
Looking at your profile, there is one pic which shows very little, no interests on there at all and hardly any bio.
It is of little suprise that you are not getting very far |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 28 weeks ago
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"Yeah it’s all about secret weapons and stuff
Secrets as fuck it is , you only get to know the secret after a secret amount of time determined by the fab secret society of secret keepers . Then you get the thing that makes all your most desired fabbers come flying in , flapping their undies in gay (and bi as well as straight ) abandon ! You didn’t hear this from me though !
🥷 "
I reckon you could be on to something fella! A fab clique!!! |
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"I know, I know! Fab as always been a struggle for blokes - ratios, attitudes, people’s ridiculous prejudices with regard to toilet lid open, pants round ankles, sweaty cock pics etc…
BUT!!!! I’m really struggling to find someone to meet!
I mean when I find someone who seems attractive, sane and fancies me back, they either don’t take me seriously or our diaries never seem to match up!
What’s broken with fab lately? Is there some new secret weaponry that I don’t know about since I was last on, or am I just getting too old for this shit, or is the pool getting smaller as everyone shuffles over to other well known apps?m that must not be mentioned?
I mean, I’ll even travel a fair distance too! What more can a girl ask for from a guy? So I need to get some body decorations, scented candles or flashing light or summat?
Anyone have any thoughts or tips? Anyone fancy putting up with me for an evening sometime?
Lots of love and have a wonderful day all Xx"
Not sure what your looking for, personally it's no strings attached sex for me |
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"You remind me of someone who is a serial leaver too… I just forgot his name.
If people don’t find you attractive, they won’t want to meet you. People can blame the pandemic, Trump, that Fab is a website and not an app with no swiping, etc etc, but bottom line is if people don’t fancy you they will not want to meet. It is very simple.
I just remembered the name. Brucey!
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In fairness Brucey never struggled to get meets, despite his self-perpetuated debunking. His dance card had more stamps on it than the entire ensemble of Bridgerton. He only returns to Fab when he needs a break and to create dorky 'horn dog' threads."
Yeah I know- I never managed to make it to his dance card and we’re like 4 miles away. 🥺
I mean OP reminded me to him in writing style haha x
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"You remind me of someone who is a serial leaver too… I just forgot his name.
If people don’t find you attractive, they won’t want to meet you. People can blame the pandemic, Trump, that Fab is a website and not an app with no swiping, etc etc, but bottom line is if people don’t fancy you they will not want to meet. It is very simple.
I just remembered the name. Brucey!
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In fairness Brucey never struggled to get meets, despite his self-perpetuated debunking. His dance card had more stamps on it than the entire ensemble of Bridgerton. He only returns to Fab when he needs a break and to create dorky 'horn dog' threads.
Yeah I know- I never managed to make it to his dance card and we’re like 4 miles away. 🥺
I mean OP reminded me to him in writing style haha x
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^reminded me OF him |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 28 weeks ago
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"You remind me of someone who is a serial leaver too… I just forgot his name.
If people don’t find you attractive, they won’t want to meet you. People can blame the pandemic, Trump, that Fab is a website and not an app with no swiping, etc etc, but bottom line is if people don’t fancy you they will not want to meet. It is very simple.
I just remembered the name. Brucey!
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In fairness Brucey never struggled to get meets, despite his self-perpetuated debunking. His dance card had more stamps on it than the entire ensemble of Bridgerton. He only returns to Fab when he needs a break and to create dorky 'horn dog' threads.
Yeah I know- I never managed to make it to his dance card and we’re like 4 miles away. 🥺
I mean OP reminded me to him in writing style haha x
^reminded me OF him"
Not Brucey |
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By *avinaTVTV/TS 28 weeks ago
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It’s like peoples energy all goes into their presentation, but then when it comes to the fun bit we’re all too busy taking pics and faffing each other around on telespam? "
I know all MY energy goes into my presentation. I'm very busy getting the right look and posing for my pics (it's pretty exhausting rushing into position in the 10s delay that the phone camera timer uses). Who's got time to meet? Plus then I'm have to spend ages douching, and actually have to do The Sex (ick).
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