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How to convince partner into lifestyle
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By (user no longer on site) 22 weeks ago
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"Just wondered how you guys (assume its mostly men) to convince your partner into the swinging lifestyle. How did you approach the subject, break the ice etc. Always facinated me. "
Bring it up in bed, gradually build from there, explore different scenarios etc.. |
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you cant convince all you can do is talk and hope they will either be interested or not ... since its your partner then you should know them better than most
and if they say no then leave it at that theres a reason the swccene is small as most just are not interested |
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I think convince is the wrong word.
I was lucky in so much as I was able to help her feel safe and be herself and unlock some fantasies that she hadn't ever talked about before, but I encouraged her to be open and not be shy or ashamed. A lot of our conversations were me talking about my feelings and fantasies about things and having her acceptance of me has really helped me to open up as well as her.
I think if you need to convince someone then it's not the best foundation for this life because you are imposing a vision onto someone who may only be giving you answers they think you want to hear.
I could of course be wrong, but just my opinion. |
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By (user no longer on site) 22 weeks ago
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I had a conversation with my wife about us meeting bi men for threesomes and we have gone from there.
If she had said no I would have left it and never mentioned it again. |
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By (user no longer on site) 22 weeks ago
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You cant convince her at all. Its got to be a joint agreement. We found out we both liked it when we visited a naturist beach in majorca. Liked the fact people was looking at us having sex. Maybee try naturist beaches next year |
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My husband set up a threesome with me him and another guy. After that I realised it was just about fun. Been doing it ever since. So he made the first move and I followed. So if that's what you want to do ask your other half if she wants to be double teamed by you and another guy. Then the door is open. |
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As a start I’d definitely remove yourself from the site if she doesn’t know, one of the biggest parts of swinging as a couple is trust, being open and being honest. If she doesn’t know you are on here, you are already going behind her back!
If on the other hand she does know, you are already on your way, however trying convince her of something she doesn’t want to do, can only end badly |
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