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Quality over quantity??
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I’ve had a few people find it odd that I’ve not had a meet in months, even be offended that I won’t just meet in first message… obviously there are people that seem to meet anyone with a pulse (literally had people wanting to meet without seeing face pics or even chatting) I’m not looking for a relationship on here obviously but I don’t want to meet a complete stranger for a one night stand and never speak again, the connection is so important to the kinks I enjoy. I also don’t want to work my way thru fab.
Does anyone else feel like it’s impossible??
I also wanted to post this to show it’s not just hard for single men on here. Not a woe is me just pointing out there’s negatives for everyone x
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"I’ve had a few people find it odd that I’ve not had a meet in months, even be offended that I won’t just meet in first message… obviously there are people that seem to meet anyone with a pulse (literally had people wanting to meet without seeing face pics or even chatting) I’m not looking for a relationship on here obviously but I don’t want to meet a complete stranger for a one night stand and never speak again, the connection is so important to the kinks I enjoy. I also don’t want to work my way thru fab.
Does anyone else feel like it’s impossible??
I also wanted to post this to show it’s not just hard for single men on here. Not a woe is me just pointing out there’s negatives for everyone x
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I think only those who are looking for a quick fuck care about how often you meet. Anyone who cares about you as a person will know that you're better than that |
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"I’ve had a few people find it odd that I’ve not had a meet in months, even be offended that I won’t just meet in first message… obviously there are people that seem to meet anyone with a pulse (literally had people wanting to meet without seeing face pics or even chatting) I’m not looking for a relationship on here obviously but I don’t want to meet a complete stranger for a one night stand and never speak again, the connection is so important to the kinks I enjoy. I also don’t want to work my way thru fab.
Does anyone else feel like it’s impossible??
I also wanted to post this to show it’s not just hard for single men on here. Not a woe is me just pointing out there’s negatives for everyone x
I think only those who are looking for a quick fuck care about how often you meet. Anyone who cares about you as a person will know that you're better than that"
I suppose you are right. I think I prefer to get to know someone abit before letting them inside of me 🤣 |
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How do they know you’ve not met anyone in months OP? Just because you don’t have any verifications? I don’t display mine as it’s no one else’s business. Anyone who would comment this to me can get directly in the bin.
What you’re looking for as a connection isn’t uncommon here. It’s quite normal and don’t be tempted to read the “fuck now” messages from horn-dogs in your inbox. Either delete them unread or turn all your filters on and message the people you want to.
Whatever you want to use fab for is up to you (within the rules). Fuck what any keyboard warrior types in a shitty message. Sending kisses 😘 |
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"I’ve had a few people find it odd that I’ve not had a meet in months, even be offended that I won’t just meet in first message… obviously there are people that seem to meet anyone with a pulse (literally had people wanting to meet without seeing face pics or even chatting) I’m not looking for a relationship on here obviously but I don’t want to meet a complete stranger for a one night stand and never speak again, the connection is so important to the kinks I enjoy. I also don’t want to work my way thru fab.
Does anyone else feel like it’s impossible??
I also wanted to post this to show it’s not just hard for single men on here. Not a woe is me just pointing out there’s negatives for everyone x
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Probably worth mentioning, that sending another message will not help the cause. |
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By *aven RedWoman 24 weeks ago
who knows, but it's not raining x |
I've been told I shouldn't be on here as I'm not meeting at the moment.
Also been called a slag because I have loads of veris but won't meet from a 'meet now' message
Use the site how you want OP. Hugs sent x
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"How do they know you’ve not met anyone in months OP? Just because you don’t have any verifications? I don’t display mine as it’s no one else’s business. "
I know more than a few people (ladies and couples) who meet fairly often but don’t want veris as they don’t want people to know they are meeting. I think that is a lot more common than people will admit. |
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Yes OP i feel your pain. All i ever hear when i say that i want a connection and someone whos not meeting copeless amounts of others at the same time is "it is a swinging site you know".
I just thank them for letting me know and carry on using this site for what i want to use it for.
Everyone uses it differently but i often get abuse when saying what im looking for.
Never mind block and move on  |
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"How do they know you’ve not met anyone in months OP? Just because you don’t have any verifications? I don’t display mine as it’s no one else’s business.
I know more than a few people (ladies and couples) who meet fairly often but don’t want veris as they don’t want people to know they are meeting. I think that is a lot more common than people will admit."
It’s no one else’s business. And that’s not why I don’t display mine by the way 👍🏻 |
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"I’ve had a few people find it odd that I’ve not had a meet in months, even be offended that I won’t just meet in first message… obviously there are people that seem to meet anyone with a pulse (literally had people wanting to meet without seeing face pics or even chatting) I’m not looking for a relationship on here obviously but I don’t want to meet a complete stranger for a one night stand and never speak again, the connection is so important to the kinks I enjoy. I also don’t want to work my way thru fab.
Does anyone else feel like it’s impossible??
I also wanted to post this to show it’s not just hard for single men on here. Not a woe is me just pointing out there’s negatives for everyone x
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You are far from alone, I totally agree and have politely declined more meets than I have taken up.
It may in theory just be about sex but a meeting of minds and mutual trust is important to me too.
There are some lovely people on here, finding one locally is more of a challenge! |
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"Yes OP i feel your pain. All i ever hear when i say that i want a connection and someone whos not meeting copeless amounts of others at the same time is "it is a swinging site you know".
I just thank them for letting me know and carry on using this site for what i want to use it for.
Everyone uses it differently but i often get abuse when saying what im looking for.
Never mind block and move on "
I don’t mind getting abuse - just proves I was right to decline! |
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"I’ve had a few people find it odd that I’ve not had a meet in months, even be offended that I won’t just meet in first message… obviously there are people that seem to meet anyone with a pulse (literally had people wanting to meet without seeing face pics or even chatting) I’m not looking for a relationship on here obviously but I don’t want to meet a complete stranger for a one night stand and never speak again, the connection is so important to the kinks I enjoy. I also don’t want to work my way thru fab.
Does anyone else feel like it’s impossible??
I also wanted to post this to show it’s not just hard for single men on here. Not a woe is me just pointing out there’s negatives for everyone x
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Its not uncommon that people (yes ladies and gents) on here want to have some sort of connection.
People will think what they like...as long as you are happy ....fuck em 😁 |
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Having just come out of a 5 year fab relationship I've no intentions of getting into another one anytime soon and any potential meets will be local, well closer then the 200 miles that me and my ex done,
One night stands don't really interest me, I will go to clubs if that's what I want,
A couple of friends with benefits in the is all I'm looking for at the moment |
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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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"I’ve had a few people find it odd that I’ve not had a meet in months, even be offended that I won’t just meet in first message… obviously there are people that seem to meet anyone with a pulse (literally had people wanting to meet without seeing face pics or even chatting) I’m not looking for a relationship on here obviously but I don’t want to meet a complete stranger for a one night stand and never speak again, the connection is so important to the kinks I enjoy. I also don’t want to work my way thru fab.
Does anyone else feel like it’s impossible??
I also wanted to post this to show it’s not just hard for single men on here. Not a woe is me just pointing out there’s negatives for everyone x
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I have zero meets since i have been here... mostly through health stuff but also not willing to just meet anyone who wants it... I may have a great game and talk on the forums but I am definitely looking for absolute quality meets over quantity. |
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It's the same when you say you'll only meet socially too first, with those just after a quick shag.
Ie Its not a dating site etc, yeah I know, I'm already in a ltr though so I'm not after dating.
It does amaze me that people ask to meet me first message, without asking to see my face or sending theirs.
They might be happy to just meet anyone, but doesn't mean we all are. You do what works for you op. |
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I don’t think I’d say I feel it’s impossible but I do feel it’s difficult . Not difficult in a moaning manner , more that it’s difficult to actually find mutual interest , attraction and compatibility .
A one night stand for a one night stand sake is something most people can have if they go out and seek that , if that’s what people find fulfilling then good on them . Personally that’s not what works for me , maybe I’m not much of a swinger ? I’ve not met anyone from fab in about 2 years (admittedly until a couple of months ago I’d been off site for about a year for unrelated reasons )
I don’t think anyone has the right to question your choices OP or your reasons , it’s your business and yours alone , except others directly involved obviously. I feel the same with veri’s , I don’t read them , I’ve no need to have someone else’s opinion on someone . Anyone taking offence at someone not meeting them tells you pretty much all you need to know about them . |
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"I've been told I shouldn't be on here as I'm not meeting at the moment.
Also been called a slag because I have loads of veris but won't meet from a 'meet now' message
Use the site how you want OP. Hugs sent x
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Who's right is it to tell you if you should/shouldn't be on here....
Mind blowing really.... |
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