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Think trying to reduce sexuality to straight, gay or bi doesn’t really always work.
Like gay men don’t find me attractive at all and I have a willy. But it’s not like every straight guy is ok with that either. And if a guy would sleep with me but then wouldn’t sleep with a man they aren’t exactly bisexual.
Think it’s ok to have fluid attraction to different aspects of people. I don’t really find any men aesthetically attractive compared to how feel for women, yet still enjoy sex with them from a mechanical perspective occasionally. |
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"You are gay or bi. Deal with it."
OP may be confusing sex and love.
Not wanting a relationship with someone of the same sex , but still enjoying playing with someone else’s cock.
There’s a lot of people in that area, which is why medical professionals don’t use those labels but alternate broader terms like “men loving men”
But as far as fab labels, OP should change to bi-curious or bi and accept that there is nothing wrong with enjoying someone else’s cock occasionally. He can put his limits in the profile. |
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I think sometimes we are metaphorically trying to cook a frozen ready meal on an open fire.
We've become a huge way in the last 50 years of sexual discovery & liberation yet we continue with the same three boxes to define everybody; gay straight or bi.
I think it's mostly man of a certain age that hold this attitude, younger people and women seem less insecure about defining themselves in one of three boxes |
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Classic fab straight.
I’m the same, I’m not attracted to guys and not interested in meeting a guy one on one but am up for some bi play in an MMF scenario.
Only tried it once (we wanked each other off as his Mrs watched) but left me curious enough to want to try it again. |
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"I think sometimes we are metaphorically trying to cook a frozen ready meal on an open fire.
We've become a huge way in the last 50 years of sexual discovery & liberation yet we continue with the same three boxes to define everybody; gay straight or bi.
I think it's mostly man of a certain age that hold this attitude, younger people and women seem less insecure about defining themselves in one of three boxes"
There’s the Kinsey scale (which many people have issues with) which at least acknowledges that there are more variations than the big three |
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By *olfiMan 15 weeks ago
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This is where I sit, I don't find men romantically attractive as such. Like I could never see myself being in a relationship with a guy.
But I do like cocks, just haven't been with one yet.
I classify myself as bi-curious for the time being. If I discover that I really like it, then it might change to just bisexual but for now it's curious |
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OP, not quiet sure what your point is?
Been blunt, does it matter how you define yourself. If you want to say you are straight and fondle and fuck as many as you want (know that is not what to fuck, but you stretched the straight definition, where do you stop?), then you are straight.
It is up to you and only you how you define yourself. You don't need anyone else's permission. |
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"OP, not quiet sure what your point is?
Been blunt, does it matter how you define yourself. If you want to say you are straight and fondle and fuck as many as you want (know that is not what to fuck, but you stretched the straight definition, where do you stop?), then you are straight.
It is up to you and only you how you define yourself. You don't need anyone else's permission."
I agree that the OP can pick whatever label he likes.
But if a straight male messaged me about some mutual cock play, I’d probably pass, because it’s a red flag for me, if someone is lying about things in their profile.
Equally some people on fab might pass if he labels himself bi. (Which is why fab-straight exists)
So OP doesn’t need permission, but should be aware that choices have consequences |
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I changed my thing from straight when I first joined to bi- curious. I could have left it on straight and hid all verifications, but me personally? Who would I be doing that for? I like being open about things like that. You never know what you might find you like, and there does not need to be any “shame” in it at all. Be as open or as discreet as you like/need to be.
Of course, advice from random denizens of the internet may or may not be useful |
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I know what you mean. I consider myself bi playful rather than bisexual down to the fact I dont find men attractive, dont want to kiss or fuck them. But I have wanked and sucked cocks in threesomes. And enjoyed it. Strange situation but there we are |
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"Classic fab straight.
I’m the same, I’m not attracted to guys and not interested in meeting a guy one on one but am up for some bi play in an MMF scenario.
Only tried it once (we wanked each other off as his Mrs watched) but left me curious enough to want to try it again. "
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If you're interested in having fun with men, pop it on your profile and maybe call yourself bi curious.
Otherwise it's a bit deceptive op and people won't know what you're truly into or looking for.
I don't think actual straight people are interested in the same sex at all, in that way. A man's cock is still part of a man, it's not clear if you're looking to try it or have and liked it etc. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 15 weeks ago
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I didnt realise how many people seamed to relate to this, If you put bi on ur profile you seam to have an influx of guys wanting a relationship, but that's definitely not what I want |
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Mr here.
Surely if a man is interested in or turned on by cocks, then while he may be reluctant to use the labels gay, curious or bi, he can't use the label straight?
Can a vegan enjoy a beef burger? Can they legitimately claim to be vegan if they do enjoy a burger? Or are they then vegan-curious?
Can an electric vehicle advocate use a petrol engine car?
I prefer country roads but I sometimes use motorways.
I'm generally a fan of labels & definitions, but my opinion & perspective is determined by my own observation rather than other people's claims or self-label.
If I was at a swing party and saw a guy giving another guy a blowjob or a handjob, calling either of them straight just wouldn't sit with me.
Agree with the idea of don't overthink the labels, just enjoy whatever you enjoy, but some folk need & appreciate labels.
Maybe the fab-straight thing is valid? Maybe straight/bi/curious/gay is actually a sliding scale? 0 is repulsed by cocks, 100 is addicted to and wants only cocks?
I do admire and appreciate a quality cock, but if I find myself turned on when I see it, it's exclusively from imagining P enjoying sucking or fucking it. Me doing anything with it or to it myself never comes on my radar nor turns me on.
Anyway, enjoy my straight cock pic lads...  |
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I personally think, let’s stop labelling ourselves with any of these.
How do we really know if we’re gay straight bi…. If you haven’t tried it, you don’t actually know. If you do try it does then that mean your bi/gay?
I don’t know, it’s just confusing so I think let’s get rid of labels. If you are interested cool, if you’re not, also cool!
Happy Tuesday, M xx |
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I really don’t see what’s so confusing about it!
I would NEVER be in a relationship with a woman. Doesn’t mean I’m not bisexual! This kind of thing has always baffled me. If you suck a cock or fuck a bloke you’re not straight. It’s not rocket science. |
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"I personally think, let’s stop labelling ourselves with any of these.
How do we really know if we’re gay straight bi…. If you haven’t tried it, you don’t actually know. If you do try it does then that mean your bi/gay?
I don’t know, it’s just confusing so I think let’s get rid of labels. If you are interested cool, if you’re not, also cool!
Happy Tuesday, M xx "
This makes no sense either. You don’t have to try something to know you don’t want it. |
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"I personally think, let’s stop labelling ourselves with any of these.
How do we really know if we’re gay straight bi…. If you haven’t tried it, you don’t actually know. If you do try it does then that mean your bi/gay?
I don’t know, it’s just confusing so I think let’s get rid of labels. If you are interested cool, if you’re not, also cool!
Happy Tuesday, M xx
This makes no sense either. You don’t have to try something to know you don’t want it. "
Surely you know by now that the laws of the fab forums state clearly that if you don't try something you are afraid of your own sexuality or you are lying to yourself? |
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"I dont consider my self gay or bi etc, as I dont mind men attractive at all. I am interested however in their cocks. Any other straight guys like this?"
You’re bisexual, which is fine.
However if you prefer to identify as straight but want to cross swords with other straight guys, that’s also fine.
The problem is that most straight men consider that kind of caper a bit too gay for them. |
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