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By (user no longer on site) OP 19 weeks ago
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Do you think there is a higher percentage or us fabbers that have some level of ADHD and we are here and on the scene as a way of getting that dopamine hit? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 19 weeks ago
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I seem to be finding the same thing which is what got me thinking.
I'm undiagnosed but most definitely do have ADHD and the more I think about it I enjoy the risky sex etc more than the usual
Would he interesting to find out the percentage or this site with diagnosed and even self diagnosed ADHD Vs the percentage of the general population |
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I also wonder whether ADHDers need to chase dopamine plays a part in the volume of cancelled meets that people in the Forums reference.
When you are in the moment and riding your dopamine wave and you have 3 or 4 conversations going, the obvious thing is to set up meets. Invariably though life means those meets are a week or two away. By which time you've 'crashed' post dopamine high and lost all interest in the meet.
Possibly why it would be better to attend clubs, because you would then be playing at the point of your dopamine peak and then return to normal life.
For info I've been 'diagnosed' through a 6 hour work place assessment, not yet via a clinical route. 🙂
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"I also wonder whether ADHDers need to chase dopamine plays a part in the volume of cancelled meets that people in the Forums reference.
When you are in the moment and riding your dopamine wave and you have 3 or 4 conversations going, the obvious thing is to set up meets. Invariably though life means those meets are a week or two away. By which time you've 'crashed' post dopamine high and lost all interest in the meet.
Possibly why it would be better to attend clubs, because you would then be playing at the point of your dopamine peak and then return to normal life.
For info I've been 'diagnosed' through a 6 hour work place assessment, not yet via a clinical route. 🙂
Mrs."
Interesting take! |
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I'm undiagnosed but highly suspected also. Having talked to many others, there's something else that's been put to me as a point of order.
Some ADHD people have an ability to focus to a level that regular people just can't achieve, so we have the patience to stick with our quest through longer periods of being unsuccessful.
As an example, for work, I regularly need to spend time reading & querying very long contracts. On Wednesday I read & commented on a 68 page document in a single afternoon.
Mrs can't understand how it's possible, but it's not that hard really for me. She also hasn't the patience to post, chat & comment in here.
That might add to the explanation.
Special wave 👋
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"I'm undiagnosed but highly suspected also. Having talked to many others, there's something else that's been put to me as a point of order.
Some ADHD people have an ability to focus to a level that regular people just can't achieve, so we have the patience to stick with our quest through longer periods of being unsuccessful.
As an example, for work, I regularly need to spend time reading & querying very long contracts. On Wednesday I read & commented on a 68 page document in a single afternoon.
Mrs can't understand how it's possible, but it's not that hard really for me. She also hasn't the patience to post, chat & comment in here.
That might add to the explanation.
Special wave 👋
Mr"
Hyper focus at work yes ...but often an inability to focus sexually and reach orgasm, because your mind is flitting between multiple things. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 19 weeks ago
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"I'm undiagnosed but highly suspected also. Having talked to many others, there's something else that's been put to me as a point of order.
Some ADHD people have an ability to focus to a level that regular people just can't achieve, so we have the patience to stick with our quest through longer periods of being unsuccessful.
As an example, for work, I regularly need to spend time reading & querying very long contracts. On Wednesday I read & commented on a 68 page document in a single afternoon.
Mrs can't understand how it's possible, but it's not that hard really for me. She also hasn't the patience to post, chat & comment in here.
That might add to the explanation.
Special wave 👋
Mr
Hyper focus at work yes ...but often an inability to focus sexually and reach orgasm, because your mind is flitting between multiple things."
That's often me |
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By (user no longer on site) 19 weeks ago
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"For those that are diagnosed was this done as a child or in adulthood?
How do you even go about getting a diagnosis?"
right to choose with NHS. Look into it  |
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I definitely think so. As a quick ADHD and AuDHD couple we've noticed traits in many people in the swinging and kink scene. I think this can often play out online here on fab in terms of site activity. Sometimes more chasing likes for photos, winks, messages rather/or aside from chasing realistic opportunities for genuine meets. I think some of us can be a bit fickle beyond that initial dopamine hit. |
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"For those that are diagnosed was this done as a child or in adulthood?
How do you even go about getting a diagnosis? right to choose with NHS. Look into it "
Look up reviews on the providers before you choose though - some of them are awful and have numerous complaints. You may have to wait a bit longer for one of the better outfits. |
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ADHDer here. Can confirm that I'm hornier than a dog with two dicks as a baseline, but the hyper focus means I have a hard time stopping once I start! There's definitely something about the dopamine hit, but I think there's a lot in the co-regulation too |
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"I think there's just more attention seekers on here."
I think it’s more likely for a person to be wired in an unconventional way to be in this game (could be ADHD or whatever) & that’s all that needs to be said really…
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By (user no longer on site) OP 19 weeks ago
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"For those that are diagnosed was this done as a child or in adulthood?
How do you even go about getting a diagnosis? right to choose with NHS. Look into it "
Thanks dude 🙏 |
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Diagnosed through gp. Was told I couldn't be by the gp because I have a degree, but I asked to be referred. With women it's often diagnosised at say perimenopause, because that's one of the times it shows up more.
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"I'm undiagnosed but highly suspected also. Having talked to many others, there's something else that's been put to me as a point of order.
Some ADHD people have an ability to focus to a level that regular people just can't achieve, so we have the patience to stick with our quest through longer periods of being unsuccessful.
As an example, for work, I regularly need to spend time reading & querying very long contracts. On Wednesday I read & commented on a 68 page document in a single afternoon.
Mrs can't understand how it's possible, but it's not that hard really for me. She also hasn't the patience to post, chat & comment in here.
That might add to the explanation.
Special wave 👋
Mr
Hyper focus at work yes ...but often an inability to focus sexually and reach orgasm, because your mind is flitting between multiple things.
That's often me "
Im neurospicy. For many aspects of my life it is great. I have a very physical job that I love. I’m a hyperactive and inattentive mix. So I agree with the above comment. Orgasms are difficult if the mind starts to wander. Staying present is not easy |
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I agree I think there are likely to be a higher proportion of ADHD and other neurodiversities in the lifestyle community
Fewer limits, bigger risk takers.
Sex is a great dopamine hit, so is posting pics and getting fabs
I was diagnosed ADHD combined back in 2023, it’s made a lot of things in my life make sense one of those being my participation in the lifestyle |
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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ADHD here, I really used fab for many year for a dopamine boost. Wasn’t good for me mental health  I didn’t know anything about adhd then
It really got out of hand 10 years ago but then I went cold turkey for 10 years.
Has any one explored hyper sexuality which I think I have definitely got |
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I have ADHD and the majority of ladies we meet in this lifestyle in particular are neurodivergent we've found x just last night we must have spoken to 5 or 6 women in the club we was at who had it.
Mrs x |
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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"Never been diagnosed but I been told by a friend who has it that I have strong traits of having it and it would explain where my daughter got it from "
Yes I think my parents were adhd tio |
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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My (sadly ex) married partner who I met on another site was undiagnosed ADHD. She is an ex Fabber too. I have traits also. It makes for an absolutely exhillerating experience that I wonder if I will ever recapture. A very very large part of me still loves and misses her and the things we shared. |
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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"My (sadly ex) married partner who I met on another site was undiagnosed ADHD. She is an ex Fabber too. I have traits also. It makes for an absolutely exhillerating experience that I wonder if I will ever recapture. A very very large part of me still loves and misses her and the things we shared."
I feel like this about a couple of my ex fab FWB  |
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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"My (sadly ex) married partner who I met on another site was undiagnosed ADHD. She is an ex Fabber too. I have traits also. It makes for an absolutely exhillerating experience that I wonder if I will ever recapture. A very very large part of me still loves and misses her and the things we shared.
I feel like this about a couple of my ex fab FWB "
Yeah it's really difficult at times. |
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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"Do you think there is a higher percentage or us fabbers that have some level of ADHD and we are here and on the scene as a way of getting that dopamine hit?"
No. |
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"I also wonder whether ADHDers need to chase dopamine plays a part in the volume of cancelled meets that people in the Forums reference.
When you are in the moment and riding your dopamine wave and you have 3 or 4 conversations going, the obvious thing is to set up meets. Invariably though life means those meets are a week or two away. By which time you've 'crashed' post dopamine high and lost all interest in the meet.
Possibly why it would be better to attend clubs, because you would then be playing at the point of your dopamine peak and then return to normal life.
For info I've been 'diagnosed' through a 6 hour work place assessment, not yet via a clinical route. 🙂
Mrs."
This is so true. |
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"Do you think there is a higher percentage or us fabbers that have some level of ADHD and we are here and on the scene as a way of getting that dopamine hit?"
Feels like it's about a third of the scene is on the spectrum. Which is more than the supposed 10% or so in the general population.
It does fit the profile though in terms of spontaneity, dopamine hunting, and general attraction to risky behaviours.
Personally as someone with AuDHD, I enjoy the openness of communication in the lifestyle. People are more prone to be straight and honest, as once we're all naked, and exposing our deepest neuroses, then why worry about keeping up a facade. Which is a godsend for someone who is socially awkward and struggled with body language and reading between the lines. |
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"So it’s a condition associated with ADHD called hyper sexualisation basically the sex drive goes through the roof and they’re inhibitions are quite low"
Expessed as "oh I forgotten you were like this" by an ex partner |
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"Do you think there is a higher percentage or us fabbers that have some level of ADHD and we are here and on the scene as a way of getting that dopamine hit?"
Great question...took me by surprise actually..I've got an adhd video call tomorrow.. I think the addictive nature and the trill brings us here... I only log in when I'm manic if I'm honest...very confusing |
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"So it’s a condition associated with ADHD called hyper sexualisation basically the sex drive goes through the roof and they’re inhibitions are quite low
Expessed as "oh I forgotten you were like this" by an ex partner"
Can be a total nightmare finding a partner who can handle it 😔 |
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I first went into this lifestyle thinking it was a release. Letting my inhibitions go.
What I became very quickly aware of was the addiction side of what I was doing. Everything became about orgasms and it went really quickly off the rails.
I reigned it back in just before lockdown and really took stock of why I was here as a 'swinger' or whatever Is call myself.
I then took a better and healthier view of myself and the dopamine hits then became less but then more intense.
Even now, in my interactions, my total focus is about giving pleasure, not necessarily receiving it. If even say I find attention can be quite difficult.
So yes, I do think there is a correlation between this lifestyle and ADHD ... But it starts with being self aware to break out of the dopamine addiction to have a healthier journey.
Enjoy being who you are and do it safely, for others and yourself.
Undiagnosed ADHD, some RSD and other bits thrown into the mix.  |
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I’ve recently been aware I have ADHD I’m waiting for my diagnosis.
But I am 1000% convinced that fab is my dopamine addiction I have really struggled to cope with it.
I’m in a committed relationship but just can’t seem to cope with out a nsa hookup dopamine rush.
Does anyone else feel the same? |
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Dopamine Dopamine Dopamine yes Both of us can confirm that our ADHD and Neurodivergency definitely contribute to our play and how our high sex drives crave dopamine through multiple orgasms  and spanking x |
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I'm wondering if this is the case with neurodivergence as a whole and if quite a high number of people with autism and other neurodiverse conditions are into swinging and/or ENM and poly relationships.
I'm autistic and I don't think a lot on Fab get why my status updates can be a certain way, so I'm not 100 percent sure about that, but I've come across a few people on the spectrum here.
I likely have ADHD too, and can relate to a lot of what has been said here. |
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"I used to use if for that purpose and would have F&G meets. Then would want to do it again soon after. It was addictive. "
Almost 100% agreed with you on this sister, but as a guy I never really had many F&G meets but know that a meet up with someone new was a massive dopamine hit |
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"Dopamine Dopamine Dopamine yes Both of us can confirm that our ADHD and Neurodivergency definitely contribute to our play and how our high sex drives crave dopamine through multiple orgasms and spanking x "
I’ve always thought that my sex drive and my desire for a hook up was off the charts and it wasn’t until I looked into ADHD I realised why.
It was such a revelation and a bit of relief to learn why I was struggling to keep a lid on my sexual desires.
Anyone reading. this, and thinks they might have diagnosed or undiagnosed. ADHD look up hyper sexuality and that should give you a deeper understanding as to why you find yourself on FAB. |
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"I'm wondering if this is the case with neurodivergence as a whole and if quite a high number of people with autism and other neurodiverse conditions are into swinging and/or ENM and poly relationships.
I'm autistic and I don't think a lot on Fab get why my status updates can be a certain way, so I'm not 100 percent sure about that, but I've come across a few people on the spectrum here.
I likely have ADHD too, and can relate to a lot of what has been said here."
100% agree I think quite a lot of us with that diagnosed or undiagnosed ADHD are looking for a dopamine rush and I think if you look at hypersexuality and ADHD, it may answer quite a lot of the questions as to why you are here! |
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"More and more people seem to be claiming they think they have ADHD despite never having been diagnosed. Once they become the majority does that take the sparkle off being diverse?"
Sparkle??... walk a mile on oir shoes friend and you'd consider such a comment distasteful. |
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"I'm wondering if this is the case with neurodivergence as a whole and if quite a high number of people with autism and other neurodiverse conditions are into swinging and/or ENM and poly relationships.
I'm autistic and I don't think a lot on Fab get why my status updates can be a certain way, so I'm not 100 percent sure about that, but I've come across a few people on the spectrum here.
I likely have ADHD too, and can relate to a lot of what has been said here.
100% agree I think quite a lot of us with that diagnosed or undiagnosed ADHD are looking for a dopamine rush and I think if you look at hypersexuality and ADHD, it may answer quite a lot of the questions as to why you are here!"
We both most definitely agree x |
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