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By *EAT..85 OP Woman 15 weeks ago
Nottingham |
As grown adults with our own full lives, how often do you take time out to spend time with your parents?
I'm just back from taking my parents out for lunch and thinking that I should make the effort more often - they're not getting any younger. But I have to be in the right frame of mind to cope with my mum, she pushes all of my buttons like no-one else on earth is capable of 🙈 |
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My father died when I was in my 20s.
I used to visit my mum most evenings when she lived near me, and during the day when I stopped working.
When she moved I would visit her every Wednesday evening and Saturdays.
The last Wednesday I visited I'd have chatted longer if I'd known she would be taken ill while I was on holiday, and die the day after I got home.
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I see them 2 or 3 times a week as they help a lot with childcare, that's more than enough interaction with them for me but I still end up at their house probably every other weekend for a meal or something and sometimes I feel bad and invite them to mine. |
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Everybody has different sort of relationship with their parents but personally if I could would see them and talk to them everyday. I always enjoyed doing that. Sadly I can't any more as they're gone. |
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"Everybody has different sort of relationship with their parents but personally if I could would see them and talk to them everyday. I always enjoyed doing that. Sadly I can't any more as they're gone. "
I do really miss my parents. I get nostalgic when I hear birdsong. |
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I lost my dad 39 years ago and my mum in 2015.
I would love the opportunity to spend time with either or both but that's never going to happen.
Apart from a couple of cousins I no longer have any family left who are older than me and I'm the last of my family line.
I won't give anyone advice because everyone's circumstances are different but at least take the time to appreciate those around you. |
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"Everybody has different sort of relationship with their parents but personally if I could would see them and talk to them everyday. I always enjoyed doing that. Sadly I can't any more as they're gone.
I do really miss my parents. I get nostalgic when I hear birdsong. "
I often do too. The little chats about nothing in particular and lots of other stuff |
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Lives with me and does my head in, but unless he becomes violent I'll put up with his intransigence and mildly dementia addled mind. Just puts a crimp on being able to play as often as I'd like. It's either a military planning exercise getting cover arranged or I manage to encourage him to take a holiday (supported), TBF he likes travelling
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OP, If parents want their kids in their lives, they also need to control themselves. As you say about your mum pushing your buttons, I had the same issue with my dad. If they want to behave badly, the answer is to not spend time with people who don't treat you with respect, even if they are your own parents. It's a two way street. |
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We visit my dad who is nearly 99 when he needs us which is regularly and I speak to him daily.
I think there's a tendency to believe that the parent/child relationship is an easy one but that isn't always so.
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"As grown adults with our own full lives, how often do you take time out to spend time with your parents?
I'm just back from taking my parents out for lunch and thinking that I should make the effort more often - they're not getting any younger. But I have to be in the right frame of mind to cope with my mum, she pushes all of my buttons like no-one else on earth is capable of 🙈 "
They'll be gone one day. So long as when they're gone you have no regrets about how much time you spend with them. |
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By *viatrixWoman 15 weeks ago
Back in Surrey, Dahlings! |
Mine are both dead and I have lived across the Atlantic from them for nearly 25 years.
When they were still around I tried to go at least once per year, especially so they could see their grandchildren.
I love my children but honestly I won’t mind if they make their own lives and they’re so busy they won’t see me often. They are still very young adults and a teenager, so pretty much still dependent on us, but say 10 years from now I’ll be too busy really to be wondering if they’ll call or message etc. Even now sometimes I forget I have a child away at Uni! 🤣🤣🤣 |
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By *ydaz70Man 15 weeks ago
Rotherham /newquay |
I see my parents most days I take them out regular I literally have to pass there door to get to mine so like tonight just popped in see dad as it's last Friday mins out 82 still rocking it. |
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My Dad died over 30 years ago. And my Mum died 10 years ago. I would give anything to spend some time with them
As for my own kids, we always have something planned, whether it be a meal out or a concert. They still seem to like hanging out with me which is great 
Our next trip is to the Circus, used to take them as little boys and they still love going now 🥰
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By (user no longer on site) 15 weeks ago
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I was raised singlehandedly by my grandmother who passed away 12 years ago. I provided palliative care for her and spent a lot of quality time with her but would love to see her again because after she died I became and orphan as my mother is a twat and my father is an arsehole and I wouldn't piss on either one of them if they were on fire! |
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By (user no longer on site) 15 weeks ago
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My mother greatly annoys me if I see her for for more than 20 minutes or so, she went to the bingo every single night and had daft rules like toys were only allowed downstairs at Christmas and would fly off the handle at the slightest thing so naturally I never got close to her, now she old and my dads dead she tries to force a closeness that was never there as it suits her and I try for my dads sake but just cannit |
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My mum is so funny. She's 81 but fit and young for her age and independent. Last summer the neighbor caught her on the summer house roof dismantling the roof.
Just before christmas she took a carpet up on her own.
Nosey she the nosiest person o know sp I play to her so I leave amazon packages on the table unopened and it kills her not to know what's in them.
Only last night she knocked my spice rack off looking for something.
But shes my back bone. she does everything for me and nothing id to much trouble. I l love her so much even with her eccentric ways |
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I rarely see my parents from one week to the next and yet they live 2 minutes round the corner. My mum is obsessed with my sister who can do no wrong so I cant be bothered to listen to the bollocks. |
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Fell out with my mother for about 15 to 20 years. - Small doses she's ok. But we do clash. - An oddball like myself. After I returned home from working abroad for a couple of years. Lasted a week, before I moved out.
At 81, she's seriously frail now as well as almost blind with COPD thrown into the mix, after years of smoking. (Go food shopping once a week and also have something to eat.) |
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My dad died 30 years ago and I vowed to myself that I would never let my mom be lonely. I cared for her for about 13 years before we lost her, so I would both see her and chat to her every day, and pretty much every day before that, when she was more able bodied.
Id of hated to be that person who wished I'd made more of an effort. |
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Ahh man, some of the posts on this thread are pulling on my heartstrings so I'm sending big squeezes to you in the ether.
I'm very fortunate to still have The Mothership and she is an incredible woman. I see her most weeks and she usually makes me a Sunday dinner too.
I tell her that im just her 56 year old baby.
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