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Is daily texting for relationship necessary?
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By *hagTonight OP Man 5 weeks ago
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I saw this quote and the majority of the replies there said yes that you should text your partner daily, some said you didnt need to do it.
I dont necessarily agree with that, whilst of course it is good to keep in touch. I dont think you need to do it daily if you live together, however if you dont live together I can understand it more if you want to keep in touch on daily basis, otherwise I dont see why you need to do it. I say quality over frequency.
What is your view of it and the importance of it, is it important to text your partner daily and if you are a couple, do you text eachother daily?
I am single, but if I had a partner I would only do it if it was necessary to do it, as I said above, quality over frequency  |
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No, we only text each other if something needs saying before we see each other, day to day stuff I.e “ grab some milk on your way home”
Although I do text her to confirm I’ve arrived at my destination in one piece and I’m not dying somewhere in a ball of flaming 2 tons of metal.
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I think it depends on your relationship.
For some it might be necessary and for others not
When he used to travel for work Mr N would call me every evening. Nowadays if one of us goes out or away for a bit we will message each other.
I always want to share things with him so he's used to getting photos of a slice of cake or ancient monument  |
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We do as we don’t live together it’s nice to have a good morning are you ok then sometimes through the day if we find something funny or we get an idiot on fab then a good night plus R works away for his job sometimes so we don’t see each other all week till the weekend |
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Who cares ? Who's business is it ?
Some people talk to each other all day and some barely pass a word.
Some have deep and meaningful conversations and some talk in catchphrases and puns.
Some need to speak to their partner every day and some love the space between them if one is away for a week or more.
Why does it become a problem because it's a phone call or text ?
For me , texts are for short messages , like .... bring cake or looking forward to seeing you or we are all going to such and such at such o clock ...
But if it was the only way I could check in with someone and vice versa then yes .... it should be as often as they need it or as often as I need it....
No one's communication needs policing. |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 5 weeks ago
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"It's rare that we text these days, but we usually chat on the phone at least once during the day. I do like a text though..probably because we rarely do it. It's not necessary though. "
Hi _olvesxcouple, that is good it is rare these days and how you chat on the phone at least once during the day too |
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I'm someone who loves to pebble my person so I will send all sorts of things through the day on no particular schedule or rhythm. Just casually intertwining our lives with jokes or pics or flirts and all the fun things.
It's not a chore or an obligation. Just a lil nod. |
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As others have said, depends on the relationship and the person. I have friends/FWBs who I talk to almost daily because that's what feels right for us, and other friends that I love dearly who I might chat to once a month but that also feels right.
I don't think you need to live in eachothers pockets in a romantic relationship, but if it feels right for the two of you to talk daily or to talk every other day/couple of times a week, it's between the two of you and what feels natural. |
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My husband and I probably exchange whatsapp messages at least once a day- especially when I am away with work. If I am home, only one floor in the house divides us haha so not much point! 🤣🤣🤣
When we used to have a LTR 25 years ago texting wasn’t really a thing but we used to meet up on webcam for an hour or so to catch up every morning (1am for me, 7am for him 😴)
With my gorgeous partner now, sometimes we exchange several messages in a day, sometimes it can be a week before getting in touch, depending on how things in life go. It’s fine. Last night I got in really tired and I really wanted to write a nice message about my day with photos etc- but didn’t have the energy. So I prefer to be really present and construct a nice message too and he does the same. It is more valuable to us than just short WUU2 messages throughout the day 🤷♀️ |
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We even still call each other on journeys.. we message a lot whilst at work when possible... but for me only with the hubby. Friends I dont message daily or even every othee day.
I will check in and see how they are but chatting every day would seem a little excessive to someone else..
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It depends on the relationship, proximity, how busy they are, location etc.
Sometimes it's important to maintain a constant connection, sometimes it's important to have space. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, although too much and you risk losing it altogether. Each to their own. |
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It depends how far into a relationship you are, and how much your into each other, honeymoon period texting is always a thing in the early days, but does it continue ? depends on many factors, completely individual choices I guess. |
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We barely text unless it’s to remind each other about grocery’s or appointments, sometimes photos so they store on each others phones. The only time we really text is when he works away and texts to say got there safe and now leaving for home and gives me his location so I can make sure dinner is ready when he gets in |
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"the majority of the replies there said yes that you should text your partner daily"
Isn't every relationship different for a reason, and that's absolutely part of the joy!
The important thing is you communicate openly and build trust, not count words or measure frequency. |
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"Also, some people prefer hearing each other's voice or seeing each other. So phone call and video calls end up being more important."
Voicenotes are great for a long term or long distance person. I like to hear their voice. And love a rambling one all about their day if we're long distance. It cuts down the miles 🙂
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Im obsessed with mr so would talk to him all day if I could ha.
We have a little check in through the day to make sure the school run has gone OK etc and just a little chat.
He's my best friend so I love a little catch up |
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If you live together, it's optional but nice as you will spend together anyway at some point, but still feels good. If you don't, yes it builds thingsfor next time together, shows you are thinking of them. I personally write naughty stories for my other half, or teasing pic. 30yrs on it seems to have gone OK so far. |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 5 weeks ago
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"No, we only text each other if something needs saying before we see each other, day to day stuff I.e “ grab some milk on your way home”
Although I do text her to confirm I’ve arrived at my destination in one piece and I’m not dying somewhere in a ball of flaming 2 tons of metal.
The mr "
Hi knightso, that is good you would only text each other if something needs saying before you see each other and how you also would text to confirm when you arrived at your destination too |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 5 weeks ago
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"It depends on the relationship, proximity, how busy they are, location etc.
Sometimes it's important to maintain a constant connection, sometimes it's important to have space. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, although too much and you risk losing it altogether. Each to their own."
Yes, it would also depend on the relationship too  |
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Some of my favourite people get messages several times a day, some get the occasional voice note, some get calls and some get video calls. It is about what works for us and our lives at that point in time. My vanilla friendships are similar in that there is no one size fits all. |
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Varies a lot by context. I don't live with my partners, and will often go few days without messaging. But that's just the way I am, and not a demonstration of lack of caring. If someone reaches out with something relevant I'll always engage, but I can just do without the daily filler and fluff. Some days are just days, there's no drove to talk about them 💜 |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 5 weeks ago
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"I think it depends on your relationship.
For some it might be necessary and for others not
When he used to travel for work Mr N would call me every evening. Nowadays if one of us goes out or away for a bit we will message each other.
I always want to share things with him so he's used to getting photos of a slice of cake or ancient monument "
Hi nicecouple, yes, you are right there, it depends on your relationship, that is good how you always want to share things with him too |
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By *aked beachMan 5 weeks ago
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My ex wife, only when we needed to although we did speak every day during the week while at work.
Otherwise, different relationships, some quite a lot daily, others only a few time during the week. |
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No, it annoys me being expected to reply to texts all day especially if at work, me and the kids mam there would be months between texts maybe that not a good example to use as we not together haha but I still believe not being in each others pocket all time is best way to be |
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"I'm someone who loves to pebble my person so I will send all sorts of things through the day on no particular schedule or rhythm. Just casually intertwining our lives with jokes or pics or flirts and all the fun things.
It's not a chore or an obligation. Just a lil nod."
This…
When we were dating and not living together we’d message each other a lot. Sometimes random pics, random messages, sexy pics, sexy messages…
Now we live together we still message each other - it’s a good way to show you’re thinking of them.
We also love chats with our play friends - we’re invested in people - they aren’t just there for sex only.
K |
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I have definitely done frequent messaging in the past and look back and cringe  I'm single so it doesn't really apply now, but definitely would dial it back nowadays.
I think it's nice to do when you see something that reminds you of them or to share a bit of your day.
Same applies to be fair with those I see from here it's unlikely to be daily (and those that know me also know I'm terrible at replying generally... It's never personal  ) but it's nice to just drop in, say hello, see how things are going from time to time |
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"I saw this quote and the majority of the replies there said yes that you should text your partner daily, some said you didnt need to do it.
I dont necessarily agree with that, whilst of course it is good to keep in touch. I dont think you need to do it daily if you live together, however if you dont live together I can understand it more if you want to keep in touch on daily basis, otherwise I dont see why you need to do it. I say quality over frequency.
What is your view of it and the importance of it, is it important to text your partner daily and if you are a couple, do you text eachother daily?
I am single, but if I had a partner I would only do it if it was necessary to do it, as I said above, quality over frequency "
Necessary?
No, we text our partners and each other because we want to. Because we want to share our days, experiences and thoughts |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 5 weeks ago
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"It is for me yeah, i prefer texting to phone calls too.
When I've been meeting ladies from here, I've also liked frequent messaging.
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Hi cherry, that is good it is for you and how you like frequent messaging too |
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We text if I'm at work, on a ld or night. Otherwise, we live together and Jack works from home, so it's not really that necessary. Unless either of us have something to tell the other.
If we're out and about we text. |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 5 weeks ago
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"In regards to messaging, if I have a nice thought about someone and not necessarily TheHusband or TheBF, I like to message them and let them know  "
Hi pollyglamorous, that is good you like to message them and let them know too |
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No, too busy.
If Paul is working overseas then we phone each other a few times a week.
If not, we hardly ever phone or text during the day, leave it all for when we see each other during the evening, much prefer being together chatting and laughing.
If I phone Paul during the day,it's so unusual, that he'd answer, "what's up?"
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By *hagTonight OP Man 5 weeks ago
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"It's always nice if you can still keep the romance alive after 27 years. Texting, and the occasional WhatsApp photo from your partner is always very very welcome."
Hi _luedress, yes, you are right there, it is always nice if you can still keep the romance alive after 27 years too |
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"Wanting to text your partner everyday reeks of insecurity and the need/want of a reply"
really.... I would think something was very wrong if my husband didnt message me every day... but definitely not insecure.
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"No its not, people put too much value on texting. Speak on the phone or see each other in person, im not building a relationship based on online temporary satisfaction."
Here, here.
Although I've recently experienced frequent contact through the day for a few weeks. It was my first experience of it, my last relationship was back when text cost 10p.
I really enjoyed elements of it; but tone and intent is so hard to read.
By 3 weeks I wanted to talk. Not one chance to say everything in text or voice note. I was loosing the sense of connection the inital contact formed and frustrated with the brevity of depth you can go to in a text.
As I'm single and intend to remain that way, I would have much preferred a call a few times a week and low pressure chilled flirty texts when the mood took us to keep building the connection and start considering a social.
Instead I kept being faced with the choice to engage with life or be sat holding my phone.
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By *hagTonight OP Man 4 weeks ago
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"If you don’t live together then yeah, not all day but it’s nice to check in and know they are thinking about you - otherwise what’s the bloody point?"
Hi luna, yes, you are right there, it is a nice to check in and know they are thinking about you too |
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