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We have all been there. You get along with someone on here. Only problem is. They live 100+ or 200+ miles away. Does the distance deter you or are you prepared to travel?
I think for me personally. I'm prepared to travel if we get on well. |
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"We have all been there. You get along with someone on here. Only problem is. They live 100+ or 200+ miles away. Does the distance deter you or are you prepared to travel?
I think for me personally. I'm prepared to travel if we get on well. "
For fucks or friends ? |
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"We have all been there. You get along with someone on here. Only problem is. They live 100+ or 200+ miles away. Does the distance deter you or are you prepared to travel?
I think for me personally. I'm prepared to travel if we get on well.
For fucks or friends ?"
Both |
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Seriously OP, for someone living in London I've had to endure The Fåb Curse™ for years. It's not insurmountable but it takes planning and massaging of mutual diaries to make mågíç happen.
But what a spectre to live with!  |
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I've travelled before but if it's the first time meeting them, I try to combine it with something else. Either because it's a city I want to visit or there's a group social etc. I've had it where we've organised a meet and they've cancelled or something's changed so having something to fall back in really helped. |
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I have yet to meet one of my closest friends from here due to distance and diaries. We chat on the phone regularly and message daily and have become important parts of each other's lives. We will meet eventually and I have no doubt it will be worth the wait. |
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"I've travelled before but if it's the first time meeting them, I try to combine it with something else. Either because it's a city I want to visit or there's a group social etc. I've had it where we've organised a meet and they've cancelled or something's changed so having something to fall back in really helped."
Sadly it happens. I was prepared to meet someone before but some idiot went into the back of my car. So it fucked up a lot of plans. Maybe visiting cities are a good way to go. |
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By *CExeCouple 3 weeks ago
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When I was younger man controlled by little brain I once travelled 3 hours for a meet. Absolutely worth it though. Nowadays I'm far less bothered. Chels is a fan of road trips though... |
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"When I was younger man controlled by little brain I once travelled 3 hours for a meet. Absolutely worth it though. Nowadays I'm far less bothered. Chels is a fan of road trips though..."
Wow 3 hours for a meet eh. Did you stay overnight? |
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"Travel all that way to see a man that’s shagging/ looking for someone else to shag at the same time as seeing me? I’d rather wash my hair.And I really hate washing my hair "
I get that. I guess there are exceptions to the rule like if you feel you truly will get on with someone. |
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"I’ve travelled halfway across country (London to Leeds anyway) in past, became FWB and then just good friends and I still make the effort to do that trip fairly regularly.
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Wow. Quite the journey. How long did it take you to head to Leeds? I'm guessing you stayed overnight? |
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We've been pretty lucky that we haven't really had to travel, but in our experience, distance hasn't worked for us. I wouldn't discount it though ..for maybe a one off wild night with someone we was really in to. |
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"I've travelled before but if it's the first time meeting them, I try to combine it with something else. Either because it's a city I want to visit or there's a group social etc. I've had it where we've organised a meet and they've cancelled or something's changed so having something to fall back in really helped.
Sadly it happens. I was prepared to meet someone before but some idiot went into the back of my car. So it fucked up a lot of plans. Maybe visiting cities are a good way to go."
Yeah, that way you have something else to do if it falls through. It's somehow worse when they say "I'm sure you can find someone else to meet 😉". Like... It was hard enough to meet you! 😂 |
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"Travel all that way to see a man that’s shagging/ looking for someone else to shag at the same time as seeing me? I’d rather wash my hair.And I really hate washing my hair
I get that. I guess there are exceptions to the rule like if you feel you truly will get on with someone. "
The exception is they travel to me 🤣💅
If I was in a proper relationship with someone I would be open to travel though |
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"I personally love a little road trip
As am aside... JFC, how did I miss that pic?! 🥵
Lack of being observant?
True, I should spend even more time on here like a normal human being"
Exactly, then you'd have seen it |
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By (user no longer on site) 3 weeks ago
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"We have all been there. You get along with someone on here. Only problem is. They live 100+ or 200+ miles away. Does the distance deter you or are you prepared to travel?
I think for me personally. I'm prepared to travel if we get on well. "
I save the hassle by not speaking in-depth to anyone who’s far away. It’s a recipe for disaster |
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"We have all been there. You get along with someone on here. Only problem is. They live 100+ or 200+ miles away. Does the distance deter you or are you prepared to travel?
I think for me personally. I'm prepared to travel if we get on well.
I save the hassle by not speaking in-depth to anyone who’s far away. It’s a recipe for disaster "
It can be difficult. Especially if they live hours away and you've or they've made the effort and sadly something comes up. |
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"I'm currently experiencing it with 3 lovely ladies I'm chatting with.
Free time and cash are the only things stopping me.
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This is exactly why I wouldn’t travel, I’d hate to be someone’s third best option but the one who travelled 😅 |
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"Travel all that way to see a man that’s shagging/ looking for someone else to shag at the same time as seeing me? I’d rather wash my hair.And I really hate washing my hair
I get that. I guess there are exceptions to the rule like if you feel you truly will get on with someone.
The exception is they travel to me 🤣💅
If I was in a proper relationship with someone I would be open to travel though "
I'll travel and camp out 😂 |
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I’ve done it where we both traveled. We got to see somewhere new that way. And my journey turned out to be three hours in a car with no AC in the hottest day of the year 😭🤣
We already knew we had chemistry from a group social so it didn’t feel like an odd thing to do. |
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"I've travelled to Edinburgh from London after chatting and connecting for a few months with a lovely lady, and it was totally worth it, if you believe distance shouldn't matter."
Oh thats amazing. I have been tempted to fly to Ireland but I haven't found the time. Time and timing are bigger problems than distance tbh. |
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"We have all been there. You get along with someone on here. Only problem is. They live 100+ or 200+ miles away. Does the distance deter you or are you prepared to travel?
I think for me personally. I'm prepared to travel if we get on well. "
Nope, fuckem. Not literally, obviously. Unless they live in the flat downstairs I’m not interested. Or already using the Costa disabled toilet and I’m next in the queue. |
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My theory is some people deliberately engage in hot and heavy online stuff with someone who's far enough away to feasibly meet simply so the fantasy is never tried in reality
It can never be a disappointment then |
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By *eliWoman 3 weeks ago
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The distance doesn't no. My main issue is being time poor so how far I'm happy to travel can vary a lot - if I'm feeling more invested/it feels like they are, I'm happier to travel further. And the amount of effort being put in, both sides.
I like little road trips, exploring somewhere new. And if I get to spend time with another, wonderful. What I don't like/feel comfortable with is expectations because of travel. |
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I my younger days i did indeed tootle the length and breadth of the Country to meet folk, that was back when petrol was 82p! But now I’m older with kids, dogs, a doddery mum, you’re lucky if I can be arsed to leave the house.
The cost, the time taken etc all just for a shag? Nope. Not for me anymore.
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"Yeah I’m prepared to travel for the right woman. Been all over the UK and also Belfast and Dublin. Many fab memories 
I didn't know Polar Bears were in the UK. Climate Change is getting worse "
They like fish and get it where they can |
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Im prepared to travel up to 40 minutes away anything more than that I suggest meeting half way - though thats not happened yet.
A biggie for me depends if i can get child care in the first place🤷♀️ |
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"I'm prepared to put the effort in if they do...but would have to work both ways
A boat in the middle of the sea?"
I don't own a boat lol
But no if someone is putting the effort in say like they really want the meet and you do,it has to work both ways it can't always be one sided...I don't accom so if they were willing to accommodate or arrange something I'd travel but would take a build up for that |
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"Yeah I’m prepared to travel for the right woman. Been all over the UK and also Belfast and Dublin. Many fab memories
I didn't know Polar Bears were in the UK. Climate Change is getting worse
They like fish and get it where they can"
Great. We are already in competition with other guys on here. Now we got Polar Bears too |
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I you both get on well and it’s something you both wanted…then yes. But communication is key!
I recently made plans to meet someone..he was travelling to me. Unfortunately, something came up and we couldn’t meet. Instead of taking two seconds to send a message, he disappeared for a few days and then returned as if we hadn’t arranged anything |
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"Is it a curse or a deliberate choice to interact with people a couple of hundred miles away?"
I can’t speak for others, but I’ve often found myself interested in someone after chatting right here in these forums. It’s not been a deliberate choice, per se. More attraction that’s developed. And by the time we’re both ‘interested’ … well, the distance is just logistics really. And some of us quite like a challenge. |
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Like others have already stated; happy to travel if it's planned in advance. If we've met before or there's been steady communication then that's a bonus. There is a risk they might be interested in harvesting my organs. |
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"I’ve travelled halfway across country (London to Leeds anyway) in past, became FWB and then just good friends and I still make the effort to do that trip fairly regularly.
Wow. Quite the journey. How long did it take you to head to Leeds? I'm guessing you stayed overnight?"
It’s just over 2 hours from kings x so not as far as one tends to think. And yes I stay over night, usually make a weekend of it as Leeds is a great city. |
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