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Gents, do you find a confident lady a turn on or is it intimidating????
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"Having had mostly hotel meets, I do tend to walk in and get straight to business. I love the instant passion but understand that for some men it can be too much. What’s your thoughts on this???"
Confidence for me is amazing and for me never intimidating. Not sure if I personally would call that situation confidence though. Sounds more transactional than confident. |
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Confidence is incredibly sexy, so long as it's matched with communication and consent
I absolutely love when a partner can't hold back her physical desires for me, and just has that look of undressing me..... |
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A woman that takes the lead and initiative is very attractive...however confidence without consent isn't. You do need to make eachother comfortable and perceive what is appropriate and what not for the other person...you don't need to force yourself on to a man to be considered confident...you can take the lead and take your time...which I find even more attractive 🤤 |
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"I want that instant passion, not because I'm confident, but often because I'm not. "
yes this is what I was trying to put across but you have said it better a measure of confidence but balanced out to bring out the confidence in a partner. |
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"Im confident, know what I want and not afraid to ask for it...when I first joined Fab it was going well, now that I've had a couple of meets, its going to shit 😅"
Do you need a break? A KitKat? Or just a Timeout? |
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"Im confident, know what I want and not afraid to ask for it...when I first joined Fab it was going well, now that I've had a couple of meets, its going to shit 😅
Do you need a break? A KitKat? Or just a Timeout?"
Lmao all three 😅 |
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"Im confident, know what I want and not afraid to ask for it...when I first joined Fab it was going well, now that I've had a couple of meets, its going to shit 😅
Do you need a break? A KitKat? Or just a Timeout?
Lmao all three 😅"
It's ok to take a break 👍🏾☺️ |
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By *FF23Man 6 days ago
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"Having had mostly hotel meets, I do tend to walk in and get straight to business. I love the instant passion but understand that for some men it can be too much. What’s your thoughts on this???"
Love a confident woman that likes to take control. So sexy |
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What you've described OP doesn't really strike me as confidence. That is kind of how hotel meets seem to work isn't it? By the time I'm entering a hotel room with a guy, sex is all that is on the mind and we ain't gonna be wasting time chatting about the weather🤣 |
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I find that going and getting into play at meetings the best way.
if you meet someone on fab and chat about what you both like.
I’ve had meetings where I have planned before hand with the lady that she will be kissed once in the room, pushed against the wall with her arms over her head. Her head controlled by pulling her hair. Ect etc with no chat no small talk !
Someone has to lead so if it’s me great. But if not then a lady leading is exciting. But taking that lead back from her is even more erotic !! |
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"Having had mostly hotel meets, I do tend to walk in and get straight to business. I love the instant passion but understand that for some men it can be too much. What’s your thoughts on this???"
Love it. I tend to think about how you would dominate me and not get awkward. |
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Confidence is a extremely attractive in a woman, some of my favourite experiences have involved just getting straight down to business - love that passion of pulling each others clothes off and getting down to it |
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Good topic op my wife is very confident with other men’s company and although she’s not gone to bed with any of them that I know off I’m sure she would be reasonable in her own confidence it surprises me how different she is with out me there I find it a turn on |
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I think the outlook on here is probably different to the general population.
I have been told I'm intimidating by men I've met on "vanilla" apps a few times because I'm highly sexed and know what I want. Quite a few men are put off when a woman has more experience than them too.
Fragile male egos  |
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I need confidence, and intelligence. Someone who isn't quite sure what to do next doesn't really do it for me, even if I am leading. I want to be with someone confident in exploring me as much as I exploring her. |
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Both in my experience, I very recently had some tell me directly that they wanted to fuck me at a social and I was taken a back at first by the directness but very quickly found it attractive and we started to flirt away! |
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"Having had mostly hotel meets, I do tend to walk in and get straight to business. I love the instant passion but understand that for some men it can be too much. What’s your thoughts on this???"
I prefer to chat and see if there is a connection first. I've had a hotel meet with a couple and the lady was quite arrogant as though she was doing me a favour. The gent was ok and we spent most of the time chatting while she just moaned about anything we said! Nothing further happened. Confident is fine but not annoying and arrogant! |
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I don’t think it’s intimidating, if anything it helps the situation. If I’m a bit nervous or I think I’m punching above my weight with the person I’m meeting then it’s nice to not have that awkwardness. |
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"Having had mostly hotel meets, I do tend to walk in and get straight to business. I love the instant passion but understand that for some men it can be too much. What’s your thoughts on this???"
Men probably need this or they’d sit in the room for 3 hours wondering whether to make the first move lol
There’s a difference between confidence and arrogance imo
This scenario is confidence which is good |
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"Having had mostly hotel meets, I do tend to walk in and get straight to business. I love the instant passion but understand that for some men it can be too much. What’s your thoughts on this???
Men probably need this or they’d sit in the room for 3 hours wondering whether to make the first move lol
There’s a difference between confidence and arrogance imo
This scenario is confidence which is good "
I’d still prefer a drink and chat in the bar first |
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It depends how the confidence manifests itself. Direct communication and a flair for double entendres is something that I like to, er, rise to.
Pinning me against a wall in public and gyrating against me (as did actually happen to me once) is a little much. |
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