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For chatting and then arranging a social or straight to sex? Like you'd like to meet someone from here in a certain y or x amount of time from beginning of communication?
Or do you just go with the flow. If there's chemistry via messages, voicenotes, video calls and/or phone calls. Then arrange something.
Personally. I go with the flow. I don't put a limit on arranging to meet up. I'm happy to keep chatting with someone for months before arranging something.
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By *oyoteUglyWoman 6 days ago
Somewhere dark and gloomy |
I've met someone on the day we started messaging.
I've also taken 3 years to meet someone.
So, somewhere in-between.
I talk to very few people though, so if we have ongoing conversations it's a big sign I like you and will most likely meet you. In the next 3 years or so.
I hate guys who push for a meet, if you have a timescale, jog on.
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I have chatted to someone for over a year. We plan and want to meet but distance/life gets in the way. But i still chat with the end goal to be meeting. So to answer the question, sometimes no, sometimes yes.
If someone lived local and were indcating they would like to meet but never tried to take it forward after a length of time i would probably move on  |
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By *WB85Man 6 days ago
Staffordshire |
I dont rush the process as I'd rather find the right people and have no regrets.
I never just go straight for a sexual meet, its always a social first.
Usually I chat with someone for a week or two and then try and arrange a social if it feels right.
If you leave that initial social too long, chats can go stale and people lose interest. |
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I go with the flow it can take time and such but if I amd the point of calls voice notes ect I would expect to come up with a date or at least plans to try set a date as if we have moved off fab its been spoken about. |
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By *ib.Man 6 days ago
Hampshire |
It depends but I'm more go with the flow.
Someone sent me a stroppy message and blocked me because I didn't try and arrange a drink after talking a few times. Totally fair, but I was unable to for a while and didn't want to arrange something two months in the future.
Communication and transparency is key.
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Go with the flow, we all have lives outside this site and they can get in the way. That said if there doesn’t seem to be any enthusiasm to at least trying to arrange something then I’ll probably pop them in the friendzone. |
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"Go with the flow, we all have lives outside this site and they can get in the way. That said if there doesn’t seem to be any enthusiasm to at least trying to arrange something then I’ll probably pop them in the friendzone."
And if it’s meeting with one of my partners as a couple then it becomes a thousand times more difficult and much patience is required 🤣 |
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I like to meet fairly quickly because, however attractive they are, I quickly lose interest when aimlessly swapping often mundane messages with someone I've never met in person. I understand that women often want a prolonged buildup for their own safety and don't criticise that, but it doesn't work for me. |
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I'm generally very slow and I probably lose some people because of it.
My limits will typically be reached by anyone who applies pressure. Or if I sense I'm being messed around, rather than an artificial timescale |
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"Depends if they plan to stop off at the Chinese on their way ower
What do you fancy?"
Beef in black bean sauce with crispy noodles and a salt and chilli chicken and salt and chilli beef please see you soon ha |
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"Think its pretty situational....sometimes the need to build a stronger foundation is there...if there's distance for example."
Agreed. All depends on circumstances. Like shift patterns not aligning due to jobs. Or having kids and not being able to be free, at the snap of fingers etc. If there's chemistry, then I think people will be able to be patient and go with the flow. |
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"Depends if they plan to stop off at the Chinese on their way ower
What do you fancy?
Beef in black bean sauce with crispy noodles and a salt and chilli chicken and salt and chilli beef please see you soon ha "
Romance blossoming here over a Chinese. |
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"Depends if they plan to stop off at the Chinese on their way ower
What do you fancy?
Beef in black bean sauce with crispy noodles and a salt and chilli chicken and salt and chilli beef please see you soon ha
Romance blossoming here over a Chinese. "
Ha ha he would be in a food coma after all that food,I'd want dessert |
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"For chatting and then arranging a social or straight to sex? Like you'd like to meet someone from here in a certain y or x amount of time from beginning of communication?
Or do you just go with the flow. If there's chemistry via messages, voicenotes, video calls and/or phone calls. Then arrange something.
Personally. I go with the flow. I don't put a limit on arranging to meet up. I'm happy to keep chatting with someone for months before arranging something.
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I lose interest when i havent met someone, so I try and alwyas get a social in as soon as possible 🤷♀️ |
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"For chatting and then arranging a social or straight to sex? Like you'd like to meet someone from here in a certain y or x amount of time from beginning of communication?
Or do you just go with the flow. If there's chemistry via messages, voicenotes, video calls and/or phone calls. Then arrange something.
Personally. I go with the flow. I don't put a limit on arranging to meet up. I'm happy to keep chatting with someone for months before arranging something.
I lose interest when i havent met someone, so I try and alwyas get a social in as soon as possible 🤷♀️"
Same here. If there's no end in sight and it's just endless chatting with the tease of something happening dome day, then I'll get a bit bored. |
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I think it depends. There are people who I talk to who are far away and I'd like to meet them at some point but I also just enjoy talking to them. I'm happy to go with the flow with them.
People more local to me? I can't stand it when people talk and talk and talk and it never gets to the meeting stage. If it's possible and there's no action to make it happen I feel like I'm just fodder for their wank bank and move on. |
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"For chatting and then arranging a social or straight to sex? Like you'd like to meet someone from here in a certain y or x amount of time from beginning of communication?
Or do you just go with the flow. If there's chemistry via messages, voicenotes, video calls and/or phone calls. Then arrange something.
Personally. I go with the flow. I don't put a limit on arranging to meet up. I'm happy to keep chatting with someone for months before arranging something.
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Ahem ... 😂😘 |
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"For chatting and then arranging a social or straight to sex? Like you'd like to meet someone from here in a certain y or x amount of time from beginning of communication?
Or do you just go with the flow. If there's chemistry via messages, voicenotes, video calls and/or phone calls. Then arrange something.
Personally. I go with the flow. I don't put a limit on arranging to meet up. I'm happy to keep chatting with someone for months before arranging something.
I lose interest when i havent met someone, so I try and alwyas get a social in as soon as possible 🤷♀️
Same here. If there's no end in sight and it's just endless chatting with the tease of something happening dome day, then I'll get a bit bored."
I get that. Sometimes conversations do fizzle out. Especially if there's a huge distance etc |
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"Depends if they plan to stop off at the Chinese on their way ower
What do you fancy?
Beef in black bean sauce with crispy noodles and a salt and chilli chicken and salt and chilli beef please see you soon ha
Romance blossoming here over a Chinese.
Ha ha he would be in a food coma after all that food,I'd want dessert"
Haha I can quite easy polish that off and still have plenty room for desert |
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My perspective is that if they try to meet me before they know more of me beyond the pics, then their aim is the orgasm and who it's with isn't of much importance to them. Could be anyone.
So if they rush I will politely excuse myself.
The pot needs to brew and I need to know them well enough to desire them and trust them.
No set timeframe. Getting there is often the best part. |
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