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By (user no longer on site) OP 6 weeks ago
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Ok
Here goes. This is not a sympathy post by any chance....but
What more can a peraon do,joining in with forums,making my own etc
Result...ignored in forums
Please no nasty messages,just would be nice to know what i may be doing wrong,or what is wrong on my profile? |
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"Ah mate.. You can only be yourself at the end of the day 🤷♂️ hang on in there and your luck will change at some point! All the best"
This is good advice.
You seem like a decent bloke o.p I've seen you in the forums and you always seem respectful. Good luck 👍 |
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"Ok
Here goes. This is not a sympathy post by any chance....but
What more can a peraon do,joining in with forums,making my own etc
Result...ignored in forums
Please no nasty messages,just would be nice to know what i may be doing wrong,or what is wrong on my profile?"
OP, I get the desire to be noticed. The funny thing is people are noticing you, they’re just not necessarily responding to your comments in text. If we all replied to everyone on every thread they’d never go anywhere because it would all be replies.
Chill, comment without agenda and in your natural style, and you’ll build friendships. These things take time, it was at least six months before I felt like I belonged and had made good friends. Well, goodish…… |
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By *eliWoman 6 weeks ago
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Hey OP, sometimes it can feel like you're being skipped over on the forums. People have existing friendships, jokes, all of that.
Keep posting as you. Your threads aren't ignored - people reply . Are you ignoring people when you don't reply? No, I don't think so. That's an alternative way of looking at things that might help. 😊 |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 6 weeks ago
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"There's no fast lane to connection.
It's no different online than offline. People either will or won't be attracted.
Plus not everyone will message those with facepics public."
That's good to know thank you |
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Comment for yourself and don’t expect a reply and you’ll enjoy the forums a lot more.
I would suggest different types of pics and pad your bio out about what you can offer. People who put themselves down in their bio aren’t going to be enticing - so switch it around.
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By (user no longer on site) OP 6 weeks ago
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"You’re doing great OP and I’m enjoying your posts 😃
- Just keep doing it.
Sometimes the threads move at such a pace that multiple comments and posters can get sadly overlooked.
Hang in there 😃😃"
Thank you |
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"Ok
Here goes. This is not a sympathy post by any chance....but
What more can a peraon do,joining in with forums,making my own etc
Result...ignored in forums
Please no nasty messages,just would be nice to know what i may be doing wrong,or what is wrong on my profile?
OP, I get the desire to be noticed. The funny thing is people are noticing you, they’re just not necessarily responding to your comments in text. If we all replied to everyone on every thread they’d never go anywhere because it would all be replies.
Chill, comment without agenda and in your natural style, and you’ll build friendships. These things take time, it was at least six months before I felt like I belonged and had made good friends. Well, goodish……"
I agree with Felix. Most people get ignored on the forums most of the time. You do get noticed over time and it will come around but probably not in public and probably not from anyone who actively posts on the forum. There are a lot of people reading silently and they will know you are genuine if/when your paths cross. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 6 weeks ago
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"OP, just use the forum as a bit of fun rather than means of getting noticed/getting meet(s) through here. It does happen but mostly it's just banter.
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"I've been here 12 years. I'm still ignored 
Still ignored. Always ignored
Fine. I recognise your comment! I have no response though 🤣"
I've run out of witty responses worthy forum replies. You should have seen me in 2016. I was hilarious |
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OP, don't feel ignored or neglected but, equally so, don't necessarily look for (or expect) acknowledgement either. Carry on and just immerse yourself in the threads, get involved in the games and the forum challenges, carve your own path on here so that people recognise and appreciate you.
It's not an overnight thing. It takes time.
Enjoy the forums for what they are: participation. Don't think of them as some kind of end-game or objective. You don't need to be a 'tour de force'; just be yourself.
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Mate. I was same. And it takes time to realise a few things.
People don't automatically fancy you and want to remove your pants.
Not everyone or anyone in the forums will acknowledge you, reply etc. there's no rule to reply.
But what I can concur...
Be yourself.
Be friendly.
Fuck everyone else.
And enjoy your time on here.
....and you may find a friend or even a sexy partner.
Much love. Your friendly neighbourhood forum knob head
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"I've been here 12 years. I'm still ignored
Still ignored. Always ignored
Fine. I recognise your comment! I have no response though 🤣
I've run out of witty responses worthy forum replies. You should have seen me in 2016. I was hilarious"
.....who said that... Pah only her . |
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Op, I completely agree that it's really tough in the forums. I get ignored most of the time. I try not to take it personally, it is what it is. Keep trying, people will get used to your presence and will start acknowledging you but be patient |
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"Op, I completely agree that it's really tough in the forums. I get ignored most of the time. I try not to take it personally, it is what it is. Keep trying, people will get used to your presence and will start acknowledging you but be patient"
After 20 years you'll be in mate |
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"...Plus not everyone will message those with facepics public."
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I have to say that I agree with this. Rightly or wrongly, ludicrous or not, the forå thrives on anonymity, mystique, intrigue and a cloistered penmanship. |
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"...Plus not everyone will message those with facepics public.
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I have to say that I agree with this. Rightly or wrongly, ludicrous or not, the forå thrives on anonymity, mystique, intrigue and a cloistered penmanship."
That really isn't what the forum thrives on |
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By *eliWoman 6 weeks ago
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"...Plus not everyone will message those with facepics public.
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I have to say that I agree with this. Rightly or wrongly, ludicrous or not, the forå thrives on anonymity, mystique, intrigue and a cloistered penmanship.
That really isn't what the forum thrives on "
It sounds nice though. |
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"...Plus not everyone will message those with facepics public.
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I have to say that I agree with this. Rightly or wrongly, ludicrous or not, the forå thrives on anonymity, mystique, intrigue and a cloistered penmanship."
Easier to pretend everyone fancies everyone 😏 |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 6 weeks ago
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"Mate. I was same. And it takes time to realise a few things.
People don't automatically fancy you and want to remove your pants.
Not everyone or anyone in the forums will acknowledge you, reply etc. there's no rule to reply.
Much appreciated
But what I can concur...
Be yourself.
Be friendly.
Fuck everyone else.
And enjoy your time on here.
....and you may find a friend or even a sexy partner.
Much love. Your friendly neighbourhood forum knob head
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"Ok
Here goes. This is not a sympathy post by any chance....but
What more can a peraon do,joining in with forums,making my own etc
Result...ignored in forums
Please no nasty messages,just would be nice to know what i may be doing wrong,or what is wrong on my profile?"
Try not to let it bother you... I'm often ignored on the forums... Especially the " I fancy you" threads 🤣... I try not to overthink things.. sending hugs x |
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Some posts will get a reply, some won't
Doesn't necessarily mean you're being ignored, and you're definitely seen.
Just keep commenting when you have something you want to say - most chats tend to grow organically from all kinds of nonsense. |
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"Green arrow shows that apart from one thread you started that only got a couple of replies, the rest have got pretty respectable reply numbers, into the hundreds. You are doing fine  "
I posted on the one with 2 replies. It was pretty hilarious but passed over. Happens to the best of us |
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It is VERY clique-y - in-jokes, ego-stroking. I tend to just contribute if I’ve got something I want to contribute, not to get a reply. Not desperate to be seen, just leave the clique to themselves!
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My approach was to create threads that got people participating, daft ones like “ what is your favourite type of penguin “ or a quiz always gets good participation.
On other threads just keep being true to yourself |
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By *WB85Man 6 weeks ago
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Swinging can have a really negative impact on your mindset, its easy to feel invisible and undesirable.
My best advice is to take time out, don't let the wonderful world of fab be the most important thing.
I often take time out where I focus on myself and return when it feels right.
I hope you figure it out OP. |
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Hi op,
Many of us feel skipped ignored /skipped over in the forums at times.It doesn't mean you haven't been seen.
Sometimes I take a little break when I need to. I just join in the threads I like and stay out of others. |
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"Op, I completely agree that it's really tough in the forums. I get ignored most of the time. I try not to take it personally, it is what it is. Keep trying, people will get used to your presence and will start acknowledging you but be patient
After 20 years you'll be in mate"
thanks for the encouragement, will happily continue to do my own little thing, ignored or not |
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"It is VERY clique-y - in-jokes, ego-stroking. I tend to just contribute if I’ve got something I want to contribute, not to get a reply. Not desperate to be seen, just leave the clique to themselves!
E"
100% this |
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"There's no fast lane to connection.
It's no different online than offline. People either will or won't be attracted.
Plus not everyone will message those with facepics public."
That may be true, I have personally found the opposite to be true when i make mine pubic. |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS 6 weeks ago
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You look fine, so give it time.
Constructively, you could change 2 of your pics to add variety as you've got 3 pics that are essentially the same.
Also, your blurb isn't terrible, but neither is it that strong.
There's always room for improvement in us all  |
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Well, you are not being ignored on this thread are you?
But generally, as a guy you want to be ignored in the forums as much as possible, no one wants to bang the popular guys, they just get teased. |
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Most people in the forum reading your posts won't view your profile.
Everyone's posts will mean something different to each of us, its relevance will be personal. As will the other people posting, who will have different motivation and results.
Post because you want to say and share something. Think of it as giving, without expecting anything in return |
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"It is VERY clique-y - in-jokes, ego-stroking. I tend to just contribute if I’ve got something I want to contribute, not to get a reply. Not desperate to be seen, just leave the clique to themselves!
E"
This⬆️is my approach to the Forums also.
I do enjoy the banter & humour of some on here & there are some interesting threads.
Just keep at it & don't worry about not being one of "the clique" or "in" on the "in jokes" etc....in the grand scheme of things, that element isn't that important.
Just enjoy reading or participating in whatever interests you on here & lessen any pressure on yourself to feel "included".
There are plenty of contributors on here that have no desire to be part of the "clique" anyway & we just merrily go about our business on here without giving a fuck about all that BS!😇 |
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By *vaRoseWoman 6 weeks ago
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"Ok
Here goes. This is not a sympathy post by any chance....but
What more can a peraon do,joining in with forums,making my own etc
Result...ignored in forums
Please no nasty messages,just would be nice to know what i may be doing wrong,or what is wrong on my profile?
OP, I get the desire to be noticed. The funny thing is people are noticing you, they’re just not necessarily responding to your comments in text. If we all replied to everyone on every thread they’d never go anywhere because it would all be replies.
Chill, comment without agenda and in your natural style, and you’ll build friendships. These things take time, it was at least six months before I felt like I belonged and had made good friends. Well, goodish……"
Pretty much this
Just keep being you and the right connections will happen |
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