Am I petty blocking, I have a pet hate of being called “mate” , I present fairly well as a female and find it a blokey thing to do by calling someone mate but I wouldn’t say mate to a female or someone presenting female |
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By *WB85Man 1 day ago
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A preference is never petty.
Would adding a section to your bio about words you dont like be helpful?
Another great way of knowing if someone actually read your profile properly.
Good luck with it OP. |
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Each to their own. Some women call each other mate.
If it's something offensive to you, you could place it on your profile if you haven't already. There's a bit of pettiness in everyone in my opinion. |
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Everyone has their own reasons to block and yours are as legitimate as the next person’s
I get called “mate” by guys messaging me too. I also find it strange.
It certainly guarantees their message will be deleted with no reply!  |
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"Am I petty blocking, I have a pet hate of being called “mate” , I present fairly well as a female and find it a blokey thing to do by calling someone mate but I wouldn’t say mate to a female or someone presenting female "
Yes. Petulant and petty.
Your post explains why you don't like to be called mate but those are your feelings and interpretations.
Those messaging you don't know what you think or feel so to block someone for using a word is just hitting out for something you are feeling.
Who says they think you are blokey looking - you did. It's your fear , just own it.
I don't like being addressed as 'hun' 'luv' 'darlin' 'sweetheart' or any other patronising words that men use for women.
A man in a group of our friends calls me mate ( he calls all women mate ) and I really appreciate it. It's very levelling. |
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By *eandRaCouple 1 day ago
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Not petty at all. If you don't like how someone comes across in their words, it's fine to not want to chat. We'd all be boring if we had the same preferences or same vocabulary. Petty requires far more wish to insult. |
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You're not petty at all OP, I block for so many reasons but the underlying reason is that I'm not interested in meeting them or sometimes, they aren't interested in meeting me, either way, I don't want them popping up in my searches |
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Not sure about blocking but if it is what you want, go for it. Who cares if anyone else calls you petty. Though of course in here, you asked the question so you are bound to. I actually don't like being called that when I go to pay for something and get a 20yo something calling me mate. I think is odd but I am sure is not to them and so leave it to that. |
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"Am I petty blocking, I have a pet hate of being called “mate” , I present fairly well as a female and find it a blokey thing to do by calling someone mate but I wouldn’t say mate to a female or someone presenting female "
I think it is very petty. All you have to do is tell him not to call you mate as you don't like it. Maybe explain why, and he won't make the same mistake with others in the future.
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Block them if you want to.
Is it petty ? Yes but who cares.
Its an online thing, you owe nobody an explaination. It has clearly struck a nerve with you so block them.
In a day or twos time you will have possibly forgotten why you blocked them anyway. |
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"I am petty. Very. If someone uses a term I dislike I retaliate by calling them poppet, sweetiepie, sugar nips, etc. that shows em. 💪
You're so rufty tufty Glow  "
I know Granny. I strut down the street clicking my fingers and they just know don’t mess with the mess. |
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A message out of the blue and calls me mate I wouldn’t block immediately. If I liked their profile and generally liked the look of them I would probably just message back asking them not to call me ‘mate’ but then reply to whatever they sent.
If I didn’t particularly like them I’d probably delete the message (hoping they’d get the message) and ignore them and only block if they continued to message me.
I think I can tell when it’s a genuine message that has used a word over another or when they use that word to try and antagonise me.
However block as you will, we all have our own red flags.
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"Am I petty blocking, I have a pet hate of being called “mate” , I present fairly well as a female and find it a blokey thing to do by calling someone mate but I wouldn’t say mate to a female or someone presenting female "
For that we would say block away |
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I call my female colleagues and friends mate all the time, I think you may be overthinking it. In a world where its hard to know whether to call someone they, them, he other she or something else insane, why make things more difficult. Mate is just a word, nothing more nothing less.
Mrs x |
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By *inkShyWoman 1 day ago
near Windsor |
Never petty for blocking someone for your own reasons.
Me and my friend's say mate all the time. Sometimes it's mate, babe, lovely, shitface, mush, chica. Doesn't really mean much in our circle x |
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By *ino200Man 1 day ago
Bournemouth,london and Sienna |
Yes i too block for words used wrongly and although accept that i will occassionslly be called mate can see how that might irritate you ,i have mentioned a word that irritates me in my write up but as with everything in life once people realise you dont like something they will use it all the more  |
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