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I had arranged to meet someone in a club. He arrived quite late, saw me, said hi and then said he was going for a fag. I never saw him again. I messaged him to ask what happened and he said he had to leave, he felt overwhelmed. There was 0 pressure of doing anything. |
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By *ydaz70Man 1 day ago
Rotherham /newquay |
Few yrs ago when I was actively looking for a meet a couple came on asking if any guy fancied a social see how it goes only stipulation was must be local no more than 15 mins I was about 5 miles away sent a message reply came back read the post must be local then blocked I did chuckle. |
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"I had arranged to meet someone in a club. He arrived quite late, saw me, said hi and then said he was going for a fag. I never saw him again. I messaged him to ask what happened and he said he had to leave, he felt overwhelmed. There was 0 pressure of doing anything. "
That is where you went wrong, you should have handcuffed him to a chair straight away!  |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS 1 day ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
I've been told my boobs are too big on a few occasions.
Also, a guy who was coming on to me in a vanilla bar didn't realise I was Trans and apologised when he did and said he didn't go that way - I found it hard to believe that in decent enough light he hadn't twigged, either, but he was a gent about it  |
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There are no strange reasons, if somebody doesn’t wanna meet you they don’t need to tell you why but if they do and you don’t understand that that’s your issue. This is why it’s best just to say no. |
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"I had arranged to meet someone in a club. He arrived quite late, saw me, said hi and then said he was going for a fag. I never saw him again. I messaged him to ask what happened and he said he had to leave, he felt overwhelmed. There was 0 pressure of doing anything. "
To be fair you are stunning, he well could have been overwhelmed by your beauty 😉 |
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"i have just been turned down for a meeting for being too nice to someone.
what is the strangest reason that you have been given on here. or the one that didnt make any sense too you?"
I've had similar to that.
Apparently,I'm very polite
I thought that was a good trait! |
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By *for77Man 1 day ago
Adlington |
"I had arranged to meet someone in a club. He arrived quite late, saw me, said hi and then said he was going for a fag. I never saw him again. I messaged him to ask what happened and he said he had to leave, he felt overwhelmed. There was 0 pressure of doing anything. "
Absolutely don’t get that. Firstly, I don’t smoke so no excuse to go anywhere. Secondly, you’re stunning so why would I go anywhere! I think you would be the one doing a runner as I have a recently grown beard!!! Ha ha!! |
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By *for77Man 1 day ago
Adlington |
"We just usually make arrangements then get ghosted lol"
Had that for the first time last week. I was talking to a woman. Lots of flirty talk, face pics exchanged, naughty vids exchanged. All good to meet and on the day, ghosted. Nowt as queer as folk!!  |
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By *for77Man 1 day ago
Adlington |
"For being too fat when my photos are public, they messaged me and they said they like BBW 🤷🏼♀️"
I wouldn’t even look at you as big, let alone fat. Just beautifully curvy. Their loss, not yours. C |
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By *for77Man 1 day ago
Adlington |
It’s been a strange couple of weeks on here lately. My wife and I have been swinging for over 20 years. We’re the most relaxed people you will ever meet but the egos lately have been ridiculous. Even when we had a couples profile, couples seem to be the worst. Single guys have been the nicest closely followed by single ladies. Don’t get me wrong, not everyone is for everyone but it doesn’t hurt to be nice and manners cost nothing. Obviously, not every experience is the same for everyone. Everyone has the potential to be a cock but we try and treat other as we expect to be treated. I think we’ll stick to clubs now so at least you can see people’s personalities and attitudes. |
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i do understand the too nice message some men are so sickly over the top with creepy false flattery .. instant block for me
however a normal bice guy is what i look for as long as attraction is there then normal nice should be the norm...we know a lot who dont like too nice the creep type.. |
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"There are no strange reasons, if somebody doesn’t wanna meet you they don’t need to tell you why but if they do and you don’t understand that that’s your issue. This is why it’s best just to say no."
What's the point of fabswingers if there's insufficient communication & nobody meets each other |
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Turned up for a meet in our hotel, I was dressed to impress in a classy just above the knee dress, black patent stilettos and black stockings (obviously not on show that they were stockings) hubby was smartly dressed open neck shirt smart trousers shiny shoes - couple turned up he was wearing jeans and polo and she had on yellow m&s crop trousers and a white tshirt - we were meeting for a play date. They turned us down - apparently I was too tarty. |
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"There are no strange reasons, if somebody doesn’t wanna meet you they don’t need to tell you why but if they do and you don’t understand that that’s your issue. This is why it’s best just to say no.
What's the point of fabswingers if there's insufficient communication & nobody meets each other "
Experience from ladies and couples tells them that when they say ‘no’ men invariably ask ‘why’ and then change things to try and fit in or simply get abusive. It’s easier to say No then block. If men had more emotional intelligence and better social skills then they would stand a better chance of a ‘yes’ to begin with. |
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"I have just been turned down for a meeting for being too nice to someone."
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Ah, you didn't get the memo, dear fellow. Nice is just banal and insipid. What the women are really looking for on here is a cad, a bounder, a lothario, an unscrupulous swine, someone with a nefarious disposition. |
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"I have just been turned down for a meeting for being too nice to someone.
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Ah, you didn't get the memo, dear fellow. Nice is just banal and insipid. What the women are really looking for on here is a cad, a bounder, a lothario, an unscrupulous swine, someone with a nefarious disposition."
Terry Thomas would have had a ball on here |
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I was contacted by a couple who seemed keen & liked my pictures. Had a decent chat then suddenly a message saying "you are clearly anti-drugs so we think you'll be too boring for us to bother"
I can live without junkies in my life but reading the profile before messaging me would have saved everyone's time.
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Not so much nice but we arranged a meet with a couple sent pics booked tickets we hadn’t seen them they were a cuck couple but you could tell from the pics they were attractive.
Club night comes she saw us downed a drink and went upstairs messaged us (no phones in the club policy comes in here) then didn’t understand why we didn’t go to their room?
Is it the thrill of the chase for some or do they just genuinely believe they are in the LS until it comes to the crunch.
Even with that meet nothing was guaranteed as we may not of clicked but why do people do it |
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I used to get the ‘too nice/mr nice guy’ thing in my teens and early 20’s and I used to complain about it a lot. Always wondering why women would say is “all I want is a nice honest guy” but then turn me down for those exact reasons.
The reality is most of the time, there was no attraction to me, didn’t like my personality, not confident enough… there were a dozen real reasons.
The too nice is often just an excuse, it’s easier to say than you are not attractive at all.
Once you have conversations with women and realise the truth behind it you can kind of move on, you just aren’t their type, it happens. Then you stop feeling bitter about it and you can let it go.
P.S If someone turns you down politely, don’t ever go on a rant saying but why, why though, what’s wrong with me?! Everyone hates it when someone does that |
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"Ive been told my hair is too black. Like morticia and he was scared of morticia
Quite reasonable to be scared of Morticia! I wonder what such a phobia is called?
Scaryhairyphobia"
Brilliant, thank you. Now I shall wait for Nero to inform us that is is melanophobia trichophobia  |
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"Ive been told my hair is too black. Like morticia and he was scared of morticia
Quite reasonable to be scared of Morticia! I wonder what such a phobia is called?
Scaryhairyphobia
Brilliant, thank you. Now I shall wait for Nero to inform us that is is melanophobia trichophobia "
I know it looks as if I made that word up but it is in the Oxford dictionary of phobias directly under madeupwordaphobia 😝 and followed by gulliblaphobia |
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Iv come to a stage I have no idea on what you’re supposed to say or do?
I read a profile, if I see some similarities I send a Personel message - not chatGPT of copy paste! I’m not arrogant to think I’m undesirable, but out of 100’s over the past year or so, Iv not had one meeting!
But if I go to a club, and I connect with either a female or couple then we play.
Again I’m not suggesting everyone at clubs play, I don’t go with the pretext of playing - if it happens then great, if not then no problem. But trying to connect with a female or couple on fab is simply 1m-1 chance!
Amazes me when you see couples complain of no meets, no shows I find it bizarre that if they had spoken to a male, that they would be let down? Because it’s so difficult…maybe the males photos and profile is irresistible?
Back to the grind….;)
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"I've been told that I look too innocent when I shared a face pic. Like I wouldn't be filthy enough which seemed an odd one to me because it made me wonder what type of face that would fit 🤔"
Innocent? You?! |
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I think folk are over thinking it and taking their responses literally. What they were (politely) trying to say but without saying it, is that you were not for them.
How can I let this person down gently? I know, I’ll say they are too…..kind/polite/attractive/look like my dad/uncle/sister/brother.
It’s a gentle let down. Not a personality analysis. |
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"I've been told that I look too innocent when I shared a face pic. Like I wouldn't be filthy enough which seemed an odd one to me because it made me wonder what type of face that would fit 🤔
Innocent? You?! "
I know right? I've had sex before, and it was great! |
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"I've been told that I look too innocent when I shared a face pic. Like I wouldn't be filthy enough which seemed an odd one to me because it made me wonder what type of face that would fit 🤔
Innocent? You?!
I know right? I've had sex before, and it was great!"
That's weird. Some of the most innocent looking people I've met (work/social events, not just meets) have been the filthiest. Men and women. They missed out on the JB experience. |
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"I've been told that I look too innocent when I shared a face pic. Like I wouldn't be filthy enough which seemed an odd one to me because it made me wonder what type of face that would fit 🤔
Innocent? You?!
I know right? I've had sex before, and it was great!
That's weird. Some of the most innocent looking people I've met (work/social events, not just meets) have been the filthiest. Men and women. They missed out on the JB experience."
Yeah, I mean, I do get to an extent but I never thought of how someone looks would be a reflection of how they are in the bedroom |
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"I've been told that I look too innocent when I shared a face pic. Like I wouldn't be filthy enough which seemed an odd one to me because it made me wonder what type of face that would fit 🤔
Innocent? You?!
I know right? I've had sex before, and it was great!
That's weird. Some of the most innocent looking people I've met (work/social events, not just meets) have been the filthiest. Men and women. They missed out on the JB experience.
Yeah, I mean, I do get to an extent but I never thought of how someone looks would be a reflection of how they are in the bedroom"
Loads of people assume a lot about how I will be in the bedroom from how I look and to an extent how I dress |
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"I had a message earlier saying hi handsome.
I messaged back
Then they messaged back saying I'm not there type, that made me laugh "
Haha was it a couple's profile either that or split personality perhaps? |
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"I had a message earlier saying hi handsome.
I messaged back
Then they messaged back saying I'm not there type, that made me laugh
Haha was it a couple's profile either that or split personality perhaps?"
😂 Singles profile, maybe they did have a split personality, or maybe they just didn't like my message (though as always it was polite and inquisitive) but no worries either way |
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i even think that it is hilarious the way the thread has split with the comments.
i get not the type, people have a type.
but seriously the comments about "shock you were turned down" kind of says more about the people saying that than anything else. |
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