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Advice needed
After a few days of txting,some pics back and forth i face timed a guy for some sexy fun
But I realised I wasn’t attracted to him straight away even though he was my type on paper
Before the face time we had agreed to meet for a coffee next week but now I know I’d be wasting both our time
How on earth do u tell someone ur not attracted to them after all and not sound like a bitch that has just called them ugly lol
I don’t wanna hurt his feelings
Lovely guy but just not for me
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"Be honest. How would you like someone to say it to you? If the shoe was on the other foot."
I’ve had “sorry ur not my type”before which is fine but still stung lol but I can’t say that with this situation ,I liked the pics and chats we had but live video and chat didn’t translate for me for some reason
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"Be honest. How would you like someone to say it to you? If the shoe was on the other foot.
I’ve had “sorry ur not my type”before which is fine but still stung lol but I can’t say that with this situation ,I liked the pics and chats we had but live video and chat didn’t translate for me for some reason
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Tell him this ☝🏾 |
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"Advice needed
After a few days of txting,some pics back and forth i face timed a guy for some sexy fun
But I realised I wasn’t attracted to him straight away even though he was my type on paper
Before the face time we had agreed to meet for a coffee next week but now I know I’d be wasting both our time
How on earth do u tell someone ur not attracted to them after all and not sound like a bitch that has just called them ugly lol
I don’t wanna hurt his feelings
Lovely guy but just not for me
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Be honest with the guy.
Send him a message saying you had a change of mind, won't be meeting and cut off all contact.
If he pushes for a reason, again be honest.
Tell him he seemed fine on paper but when you chatted you realised he wasn't for you.
In future maybe do what we do.
Tell people at the start you don't do post mortems, meaning if its a no, you don't give reasons.
Would recommend not using FAB as a friends zone either or there maybe misunderstandings down the line.
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Just say YOU are not attracted to him. Which is accurate and makes it about you, not him.
Sounds like you dug yourself in to something you're struggling to dig yourself out of. I'm not sure why. Probably best in future to keep your cock in your pants until you are sure.  |
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"I'd simply be honest and say sorry but you didn't feel a connection. You are a lovely guy but its not going to work out. "
If you say sorry then you're saying you did something wrong, you don't need to apologise for not finding somebody attractive |
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Obviously you shouldn't feel bad for changing your mind. I think the best approach is to send something like this:
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""After much deliberation and careful consideration I would like to take this opportunity to humbly inform you I will not be pursuing our acquaintanceship any further. Whilst it was delightful chatting you, I feel there was some compatibilities we didn't align on. I truly wish you all the best on Fab"". |
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"Obviously you shouldn't feel bad for changing your mind. I think the best approach is to send something like this:
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""After much deliberation and careful consideration I would like to take this opportunity to humbly inform you I will not be pursuing our acquaintanceship any further. Whilst it was delightful chatting you, I feel there was some compatibilities we didn't align on. I truly wish you all the best on Fab""."
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"Just tell them.
Highly likely your vibe came over as negative and you will be saving him having a crap time"
Highly likely my vibe was negative……that’s a big assumption
When i said I liked the guy we got on well but after face timing I didn’t
That’s not negative just factual |
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"Thanks everyone
I txt him with a mix of all the replies I got and it was direct,respectful and honest so feel much better now that’s done xx"
You're going to have to keep repeating this during the day as the suggestions keep rolling in...
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"Thanks everyone
I txt him with a mix of all the replies I got and it was direct,respectful and honest so feel much better now that’s done xx
You're going to have to keep repeating this during the day as the suggestions keep rolling in...
🤣"
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By *Effy-Woman 4 weeks ago
Scotland |
Be honest. Tell him exactly what you just told us. Sure, it'll sting a bit but that's part and parcel of fab life. I'm sure he will get over it.
Or alternatively, you can hope he comes across this thread and saves you the bother 😃 |
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"Obviously you shouldn't feel bad for changing your mind. I think the best approach is to send something like this:
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""After much deliberation and careful consideration I would like to take this opportunity to humbly inform you I will not be pursuing our acquaintanceship any further. Whilst it was delightful chatting you, I feel there was some compatibilities we didn't align on. I truly wish you all the best on Fab""."
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Or you could say.
Nice chatting to you last night but won't be taking this any further.
Feel free to block me.
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I'm sure it will hurt but it's the best way. Better then waiting and it being worse. Honesty is always the best policy. Unless it's the question ...does my bum look big.... Then lying is the safest option |
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By *eliWoman 4 weeks ago
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"Thanks everyone
I txt him with a mix of all the replies I got and it was direct,respectful and honest so feel much better now that’s done xx
You're going to have to keep repeating this during the day as the suggestions keep rolling in...
🤣 "
I thought I'd repeat it for you, help save some time. It's been a few hours. |
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By *ee04Man 4 weeks ago
Essex |
I have no issue with someone telling me I’m not for them I thank them for their time and move on. This site is meant to be for sex, it’s not a dating site where you’re looking for a life partner. Sometimes that may happen but not often.
I’ve had sex with people I found I wasn’t attracted to physically some very good sex but that’s me and if you can’t you have to be honest. Some will get the hump but hey you have to be honest. |
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"Thanks everyone
I txt him with a mix of all the replies I got and it was direct,respectful and honest so feel much better now that’s done xx
You're going to have to keep repeating this during the day as the suggestions keep rolling in...
🤣
I thought I'd repeat it for you, help save some time. It's been a few hours."
Thank u hahahahaha |
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"Obviously you shouldn't feel bad for changing your mind. I think the best approach is to send something like this:
ㅤㅤ
""After much deliberation and careful consideration I would like to take this opportunity to humbly inform you I will not be pursuing our acquaintanceship any further. Whilst it was delightful chatting you, I feel there was some compatibilities we didn't align on. I truly wish you all the best on Fab"".
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I remain, your obedient servant, [name]"
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Funny you should say this, YOLO, but I'm looking for a new valet. |
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"Obviously you shouldn't feel bad for changing your mind. I think the best approach is to send something like this:
ㅤㅤ
""After much deliberation and careful consideration I would like to take this opportunity to humbly inform you I will not be pursuing our acquaintanceship any further. Whilst it was delightful chatting you, I feel there was some compatibilities we didn't align on. I truly wish you all the best on Fab"".
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I remain, your obedient servant, [name]
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Funny you should say this, YOLO, but I'm looking for a new valet."
I'll get on to the headhunters right away!
Just didn't want your standards to slip in your valediction...
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"Just ghost him. That seems to be standard practice.
He was so nice and I enjoyed chatting to him the last few days so I wouldn’t just ghost him like that
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I’ve never had a “sorry you’re not my type” but I’ve been ghosted several times. You get used to it. Well done for at least considering his feelings, I suppose. |
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"Advice needed
After a few days of txting,some pics back and forth i face timed a guy for some sexy fun
But I realised I wasn’t attracted to him straight away even though he was my type on paper
Before the face time we had agreed to meet for a coffee next week but now I know I’d be wasting both our time
How on earth do u tell someone ur not attracted to them after all and not sound like a bitch that has just called them ugly lol
I don’t wanna hurt his feelings
Lovely guy but just not for me
"
Honesty is the best policy here. |
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Why mention his attractiveness or lack of it at all?
Just say after your chat you don’t think your vibes align and you would prefer to cancel.
Done. And dusted.
And he’s not left feeling he has a face only a Mother could love. |
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By *ino200Man 4 weeks ago
Bournemouth,london and Sienna |
"Advice needed
After a few days of txting,some pics back and forth i face timed a guy for some sexy fun
But I realised I wasn’t attracted to him straight away even though he was my type on paper
Before the face time we had agreed to meet for a coffee next week but now I know I’d be wasting both our time
How on earth do u tell someone ur not attracted to them after all and not sound like a bitch that has just called them ugly lol
I don’t wanna hurt his feelings
Lovely guy but just not for me
"
Just block him its the only way  |
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"Advice needed
After a few days of txting,some pics back and forth i face timed a guy for some sexy fun
But I realised I wasn’t attracted to him straight away even though he was my type on paper
Before the face time we had agreed to meet for a coffee next week but now I know I’d be wasting both our time
How on earth do u tell someone ur not attracted to them after all and not sound like a bitch that has just called them ugly lol
I don’t wanna hurt his feelings
Lovely guy but just not for me
"
I think you’ve just told him |
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"Be honest. How would you like someone to say it to you? If the shoe was on the other foot.
I’ve had “sorry ur not my type”before which is fine but still stung lol but I can’t say that with this situation ,I liked the pics and chats we had but live video and chat didn’t translate for me for some reason
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say exactly this. Online conversations are one thing, without actually seeing each other. Video call/meeting in person is a different kettle of fish. |
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Just be honest, simple as that. At the end of the day, the spark isn’t there and whilst in person might change that, it’s a gamble. It’s up to you whether that gamble is worth taking. But you can’t force it and he should understand. |
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"Just ghost him. That seems to be standard practice.
He was so nice and I enjoyed chatting to him the last few days so I wouldn’t just ghost him like that
I’ve never had a “sorry you’re not my type” but I’ve been ghosted several times. You get used to it. Well done for at least considering his feelings, I suppose."
That’s the thing he was so lovely that I wouldn’t have just ghosted him
He deserved a tiny explanation as to why I wouldn’t be meeting him
Any way I sent a txt and he had read it so all done and hopefully I haven’t hurt his feelings |
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"Advice needed
After a few days of txting,some pics back and forth i face timed a guy for some sexy fun
But I realised I wasn’t attracted to him straight away even though he was my type on paper
Before the face time we had agreed to meet for a coffee next week but now I know I’d be wasting both our time
How on earth do u tell someone ur not attracted to them after all and not sound like a bitch that has just called them ugly lol
I don’t wanna hurt his feelings
Lovely guy but just not for me
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It's a coffee, that's all..I mean I'd still meet. My last long term partner was a blind date. There had been messages and so on, he was really attractive in those. I didn't find him so physically whatsoever when i first met him...a couple of dates later it was totally different story! |
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Just like that really.
Screens Vs a face to face are a completely different vibe.
It allows you to fantasize a little but when it's face to face you get what the person is really about and it just seems like face to face you just don't like his vibe. It's happened to me a few times. Either from pics expanding the truth or from just getting a feel for the person and not having the chemistry we had over text.
Attraction is a funny thing to be fair.
Best way is to be up front about it and if he gives you any issues just block and report him |
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By *111Woman 4 weeks ago
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"Advice needed
After a few days of txting,some pics back and forth i face timed a guy for some sexy fun
But I realised I wasn’t attracted to him straight away even though he was my type on paper
Before the face time we had agreed to meet for a coffee next week but now I know I’d be wasting both our time
How on earth do u tell someone ur not attracted to them after all and not sound like a bitch that has just called them ugly lol
I don’t wanna hurt his feelings
Lovely guy but just not for me
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Just be honest and say that, there is no point in wasting either of yours time. Life is too short. I just say it as it is. |
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