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When do you know its time for a break?
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By (user no longer on site) OP 4 weeks ago
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When do you know its time for you to have a break from the site?
Is it when your no longer enjoying any aspect?
Not feeling your getting what you need from it?
Or do you just get bored?
This isnt an oh im going post by the way, i'm not.
Im just genuinely interested in the people who take breaks from here and what makes them think its time.
I know some people dont take breaks this is aimed at the people who do  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 4 weeks ago
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"I come on and off regularly, there just comes a time for me when it all starts to go a bit stale , and I realize there's ebay , vinted Amazon to waist my time on haha "
🤣🤣 good old amazon |
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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago
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It’s good to break away for a time you don’t have to cancel just hide gather your thoughts gain inspiration to add and when you’re ready you can start again |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 4 weeks ago
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"Had one recently due to becoming bored with the repetition of the forum, and a private chat with someone that turned weird and controlling. Stayed away for a few weeks and felt better for it."
Oh no thats not good phil. Hope everythings ok now |
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By *iver78Man 4 weeks ago
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"I come on and off regularly, there just comes a time for me when it all starts to go a bit stale , and I realize there's ebay , vinted Amazon to waist my time on haha
🤣🤣 good old amazon "
Iv discoverd vinted do more than clothes !! Game changer lol |
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My breaks haven't ever been planned. I tend to, and only be able to hyper focus on one thing at a time. Something new n shiny comes along and grabs my attention and I'm gone.
Recent break motorcycles, time before financial markets |
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My last profile, one year ago, when I got 2 thousand messages one day following a very forward pic. Madness. I couldn't handle it well and I felt I was exposing myself too much for no reason, just a silly need for self-affirmation because I wasn't meeting. I took a healthy six-month break. |
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"When do you know its time for you to have a break from the site?
Is it when your no longer enjoying any aspect?
Not feeling your getting what you need from it?
Or do you just get bored?
This isnt an oh im going post by the way, i'm not.
Im just genuinely interested in the people who take breaks from here and what makes them think its time.
I know some people don't take breaks this is aimed at the people who do"
Why did you take a break OP? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 4 weeks ago
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"When do you know its time for you to have a break from the site?
Is it when your no longer enjoying any aspect?
Not feeling your getting what you need from it?
Or do you just get bored?
This isnt an oh im going post by the way, i'm not.
Im just genuinely interested in the people who take breaks from here and what makes them think its time.
I know some people don't take breaks this is aimed at the people who do
Why did you take a break OP? "
Everything was beginning to annoy me. And tbh i go through phases were i just want to monogamously meet someone and enjoy my time with them and them not be having sex with multiple people at the same time. Sometimes i need that 1 on 1 friendship/relationship i guess. |
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It tends to be one thread that makes me think I'm bringing in more negativity to my life than fab brings.
Most of the ppl I chat with have my deets so my connection to the site is based on enjoying random threads. And then one tests my faith on people. |
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By *wcoMan 4 weeks ago
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"When I'm on here more than the op. 
For you to notice you must be 🤣
Somebody's gotta be in charge round here.
And who better than you sir! 🫡"
Well the pay's low and the conditions are terrible but I guess I just care too much. |
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"When do you know its time for you to have a break from the site?
Is it when your no longer enjoying any aspect?
Not feeling your getting what you need from it?
Or do you just get bored?
This isnt an oh im going post by the way, i'm not.
Im just genuinely interested in the people who take breaks from here and what makes them think its time.
I know some people dont take breaks this is aimed at the people who do "
When the constant ghosting, rejection, non-replies and clique gets too much. In fact, it’s before then. It’s before all that starts to affect you negatively. |
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I've been here so long I tend to have little flurries of forum activity.. then it becomes groundhog day so I drop off.
Occasionally I see something on here that makes me want to scrub my eyes and mind with a wire scourer.
There have been a couple of occasions where certain people get on my tits so much I will drop off for months at a time. I have learned to block and ignore more rigorously. |
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I go through phases. Just through boredom really.
I don't delete my account (partly as the thought of creating a new profile feels like a huge effort!), just log in/post less until I'm feeling it again. |
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I haven't taken a break from here in about 7 years but the last time I did it was to get away from someone else's drama that they dragged me into.
Even though I haven't been meeting in a very long time and do get bored with the same old same old on the forums every so often I will just log out for a few days rather than leave completely. |
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I pop on and off, there's no particular reasons just most of the time there's more to life than some sex site and more important things take my time.
I'm not looking to meet anyone other than socially, I keep up-to-date with the ladies socials and occasionally browse the forums.
Mrs |
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I take regular breaks from this place, I instinctively know when to swerve it for a while. The interactions might have slowed down, or not really motivating, or life away from fab is fulfilling enough that I dont need it. There are a few factors I use, but there are no thresholds, I just know when the time is right. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 4 weeks ago
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"All we seem to get out of it is let down and ghosted all by single guys it’s seems "
Ah it is frustrating when you feel like your times being wasted. Hope it changes for you soon |
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Last time I took a break was because the guy I was with wasn't into the life style and wasn't comfortable with me sleeping with other guys..but I'm single again now... Wasn't the right person for me |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 4 weeks ago
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"Usually when people start to annoy me or I start to annoy myself.
Last time I completely deleted my profile. If it happens again I’ll try to avoid doing that as it was a ballache to set up again 🤣"
Yeah that was me. I think ill just hide it this time 🤣 |
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By *avexxMan 4 weeks ago
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good question op.. i use the forums for a bit of fun,, i look at my age and think what you doing on here you daft bugger... but i try keep the fun part in my head and some really nice people on here.. |
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"good question op.. i use the forums for a bit of fun,, i look at my age and think what you doing on here you daft bugger... but i try keep the fun part in my head and some really nice people on here.. "
You and the op keep me here Dave... two lovely people |
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By *avexxMan 4 weeks ago
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"good question op.. i use the forums for a bit of fun,, i look at my age and think what you doing on here you daft bugger... but i try keep the fun part in my head and some really nice people on here..
You and the op keep me here Dave... two lovely people "
... speedy i could stand at a bar and have a pint with you any day of the week top man with a great smile |
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I don't want to sound like another single guy complaining about not getting any meets but it can be heart wrenching by time to be truthful but at the end of the day we're all looking at screens and talking to complete strangers online but once you get to meet them in real life it is exciting and fun.
And to you OP you and people like you make this a lot more fun and bearable because of the craic on the forums so thank you for that ❤️ |
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When I'm not feeling sexy or my confidence is a bit low. I might take a break from meeting but I'll generally potter around the forums. I did leave the site once when something went a bit sideways but found myself back here before too long |
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For me there are a couple of aspects. My mental health is a bit up and down at the moment. I enjoy different parts of fab at different times and im far happier at the minute messaging friends and going on forums. The chat aspevt im not really feeling at the mo |
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"Usually when people start to annoy me or I start to annoy myself.
Last time I completely deleted my profile. If it happens again I’ll try to avoid doing that as it was a ballache to set up again 🤣"
Yep, all the verifications and good photos lost 😅 |
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"When do you know its time for you to have a break from the site?
Is it when your no longer enjoying any aspect?
Not feeling your getting what you need from it?
Or do you just get bored?
This isnt an oh im going post by the way, i'm not.
Im just genuinely interested in the people who take breaks from here and what makes them think its time.
I know some people dont take breaks this is aimed at the people who do "
When you're craving a KitKat. That's normally my cue to take a break from most things. |
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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago
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A week long break would do most of us the world of good.
Reasons I've taken a break Include:
- When I notice I'm using the site too much (signs include absent mindedly logging in in the queue in Tesco.)
- When I get frustrated or rejected and it is obvious I'm trying too hard.
- When I'm taking time to focus on my relationship.
On that note, perhaps I should take a break... Well... Maybe from Monday... I do enjoy waffling in the Forums |
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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago
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"Usually when people start to annoy me or I start to annoy myself.
Last time I completely deleted my profile. If it happens again I’ll try to avoid doing that as it was a ballache to set up again 🤣"
Ah yes, I feel you...
I've not long recompleted my newbie year.
I feel daft re-requesting friendship when I've stormed out like a toddler  |
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When I feel a bit uninterested in checking in, seeing if I’ve got messages or speaking to anyone I know I need a couple of days away. I’m usually back to normal after maybe 2 or 3 days and I log back in full of hope |
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"When do you know its time for you to have a break from the site?
Is it when your no longer enjoying any aspect?
Not feeling your getting what you need from it?
Or do you just get bored?
This isnt an oh im going post by the way, i'm not.
Im just genuinely interested in the people who take breaks from here and what makes them think its time.
I know some people dont take breaks this is aimed at the people who do "
When I’m already feeling a bit mentally flat, and not resilient enough to deal with the ups and downs of fab life.
I recently went threw a period of feeling invisible and pointless in life in general and found that stupid things like not getting a pick in the “ who you choosing “threads or any secret admirer messages in those threads bothered me much more than they should. Silly I know but when you’re already down the brain doesn’t always work logically. |
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"good question op.. i use the forums for a bit of fun,, i look at my age and think what you doing on here you daft bugger... but i try keep the fun part in my head and some really nice people on here.. "
Dude! You’re fecking awesome, sod the age thing and keep on being you. |
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"When do you know its time for you to have a break from the site?
Is it when your no longer enjoying any aspect?
Not feeling your getting what you need from it?
Or do you just get bored?
This isnt an oh im going post by the way, i'm not.
Im just genuinely interested in the people who take breaks from here and what makes them think its time.
I know some people dont take breaks this is aimed at the people who do
When I’m already feeling a bit mentally flat, and not resilient enough to deal with the ups and downs of fab life.
I recently went threw a period of feeling invisible and pointless in life in general and found that stupid things like not getting a pick in the “ who you choosing “threads or any secret admirer messages in those threads bothered me much more than they should. Silly I know but when you’re already down the brain doesn’t always work logically."
Sorry if this counts as over sharing and has brought the thread vibe down ☹️ |
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"When do you know its time for you to have a break from the site?
Is it when your no longer enjoying any aspect?
Not feeling your getting what you need from it?
Or do you just get bored?
This isnt an oh im going post by the way, i'm not.
Im just genuinely interested in the people who take breaks from here and what makes them think its time.
I know some people dont take breaks this is aimed at the people who do
When I’m already feeling a bit mentally flat, and not resilient enough to deal with the ups and downs of fab life.
I recently went threw a period of feeling invisible and pointless in life in general and found that stupid things like not getting a pick in the “ who you choosing “threads or any secret admirer messages in those threads bothered me much more than they should. Silly I know but when you’re already down the brain doesn’t always work logically."
Mate so much of that is very similar here... the thing that is the same for me is feeling like that in everyday life, not just fab. That is when i know I need to focus on something else/ more important stuff  |
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"When do you know its time for you to have a break from the site?
Is it when your no longer enjoying any aspect?
Not feeling your getting what you need from it?
Or do you just get bored?
This isnt an oh im going post by the way, i'm not.
Im just genuinely interested in the people who take breaks from here and what makes them think its time.
I know some people dont take breaks this is aimed at the people who do
When I’m already feeling a bit mentally flat, and not resilient enough to deal with the ups and downs of fab life.
I recently went threw a period of feeling invisible and pointless in life in general and found that stupid things like not getting a pick in the “ who you choosing “threads or any secret admirer messages in those threads bothered me much more than they should. Silly I know but when you’re already down the brain doesn’t always work logically.
Sorry if this counts as over sharing and has brought the thread vibe down ☹️"
I’m sure you’re not alone Stanners, Fab can be rough when your head isn’t in the right place 🫶 |
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"When do you know its time for you to have a break from the site?
Is it when your no longer enjoying any aspect?
Not feeling your getting what you need from it?
Or do you just get bored?
This isnt an oh im going post by the way, i'm not.
Im just genuinely interested in the people who take breaks from here and what makes them think its time.
I know some people dont take breaks this is aimed at the people who do
When I’m already feeling a bit mentally flat, and not resilient enough to deal with the ups and downs of fab life.
I recently went threw a period of feeling invisible and pointless in life in general and found that stupid things like not getting a pick in the “ who you choosing “threads or any secret admirer messages in those threads bothered me much more than they should. Silly I know but when you’re already down the brain doesn’t always work logically.
Mate so much of that is very similar here... the thing that is the same for me is feeling like that in everyday life, not just fab. That is when i know I need to focus on something else/ more important stuff "
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"When do you know its time for you to have a break from the site?
Is it when your no longer enjoying any aspect?
Not feeling your getting what you need from it?
Or do you just get bored?
This isnt an oh im going post by the way, i'm not.
Im just genuinely interested in the people who take breaks from here and what makes them think its time.
I know some people dont take breaks this is aimed at the people who do
When I’m already feeling a bit mentally flat, and not resilient enough to deal with the ups and downs of fab life.
I recently went threw a period of feeling invisible and pointless in life in general and found that stupid things like not getting a pick in the “ who you choosing “threads or any secret admirer messages in those threads bothered me much more than they should. Silly I know but when you’re already down the brain doesn’t always work logically.
Sorry if this counts as over sharing and has brought the thread vibe down ☹️
I’m sure you’re not alone Stanners, Fab can be rough when your head isn’t in the right place 🫶"
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By *ookie46Woman 4 weeks ago
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I’m recently back from a 3 month break and can’t say I missed it much
The break for me was needed as something had ended with someone I care for a lot and it was all about self preservation and protecting myself
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"I’m recently back from a 3 month break and can’t say I missed it much
The break for me was needed as something had ended with someone I care for a lot and it was all about self preservation and protecting myself
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Last time I took a break I was gone for about 3 years.
Things were happening in life and I only came back when things were right mentally for me.
There were also fab related reasons I left which I don’t want to go in.
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"I’m recently back from a 3 month break and can’t say I missed it much
The break for me was needed as something had ended with someone I care for a lot and it was all about self preservation and protecting myself
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Oh I hear you on this! 🫂 |
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"I’m recently back from a 3 month break and can’t say I missed it much
The break for me was needed as something had ended with someone I care for a lot and it was all about self preservation and protecting myself
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"When I need to take breaks I will do so arbitrarily to create an illusion of scarcity.
 Have you been sneaking a look at my playbook?"
Darling I am the playbook.
Well a coloring in book but still a book. |
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"I’m recently back from a 3 month break and can’t say I missed it much
The break for me was needed as something had ended with someone I care for a lot and it was all about self preservation and protecting myself
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It's lovely to see you back though ♥️ |
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"When do you know its time for you to have a break from the site?
Is it when your no longer enjoying any aspect?
Not feeling your getting what you need from it?
Or do you just get bored?
This isnt an oh im going post by the way, i'm not.
Im just genuinely interested in the people who take breaks from here and what makes them think its time.
I know some people dont take breaks this is aimed at the people who do
When I’m already feeling a bit mentally flat, and not resilient enough to deal with the ups and downs of fab life.
I recently went threw a period of feeling invisible and pointless in life in general and found that stupid things like not getting a pick in the “ who you choosing “threads or any secret admirer messages in those threads bothered me much more than they should. Silly I know but when you’re already down the brain doesn’t always work logically."
It’s not silly, I think a few folk feel like that about those kinds of threads and the site in general sometimes. |
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"For me there are a couple of aspects. My mental health is a bit up and down at the moment. I enjoy different parts of fab at different times and im far happier at the minute messaging friends and going on forums. The chat aspevt im not really feeling at the mo"
It’s always nice to see you posting 🫶 |
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When we're not getting response from genuine people or a lot of people not reading the profile wanting things that are not within our limits
Or even if we know we're not able to meet others for a little while we'll take a break from fab.
Of were talking to a woman / couple we'll let them know and check in before we're back |
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"For me there are a couple of aspects. My mental health is a bit up and down at the moment. I enjoy different parts of fab at different times and im far happier at the minute messaging friends and going on forums. The chat aspevt im not really feeling at the mo
It’s always nice to see you posting 🫶"
Thank you very much Luna i appreciate that comment a lot x i do find it can be tough on here and although I try to be positive, I am half battling myself at the moment and readjusting to be a better me (dropping a day at work and trying to be kinder to myself as well as my health and worries). Have written a bit of poetry about it and my colleagues reckon i should write more. |
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By *wcoMan 3 weeks ago
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"When do you know its time for you to have a break from the site?
Is it when your no longer enjoying any aspect?
Not feeling your getting what you need from it?
Or do you just get bored?
This isnt an oh im going post by the way, i'm not.
Im just genuinely interested in the people who take breaks from here and what makes them think its time.
I know some people dont take breaks this is aimed at the people who do
When I’m already feeling a bit mentally flat, and not resilient enough to deal with the ups and downs of fab life.
I recently went threw a period of feeling invisible and pointless in life in general and found that stupid things like not getting a pick in the “ who you choosing “threads or any secret admirer messages in those threads bothered me much more than they should. Silly I know but when you’re already down the brain doesn’t always work logically.
Sorry if this counts as over sharing and has brought the thread vibe down ☹️"
It doesn't, I admire your honesty. It's not easy getting noticed on this forum, even more difficult if you don't own a pair of boobs.
Easy said I know, but you should try not to let it reflect on you.
I'm not sure if you saw it but there was a recently a "who's the funniest poster?" thread recently. It was basically the regular posters praising each other. That's nothing unusual, it happens on all forums. The thread descended into backbiting and bitterness though, again nothing unusual but sometimes you're better off being outside of the circle. |
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I take natural breaks, sometimes due to being busy and sometimes due to boredom. I come on here to connect in some way shape or form (sexually generally being the least way I want to)
It's just a natural thing for me to do, I just come and go as I please. |
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"When do you know its time for you to have a break from the site?
Is it when your no longer enjoying any aspect?
Not feeling your getting what you need from it?
Or do you just get bored?
This isnt an oh im going post by the way, i'm not.
Im just genuinely interested in the people who take breaks from here and what makes them think its time.
I know some people dont take breaks this is aimed at the people who do "
I got bored seeing the same old and was just logging in for no reason. I took a couple months off deleted all my content and just restart recently |
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"When do you know its time for you to have a break from the site?
Is it when your no longer enjoying any aspect?
Not feeling your getting what you need from it?
Or do you just get bored?
This isnt an oh im going post by the way, i'm not.
Im just genuinely interested in the people who take breaks from here and what makes them think its time.
I know some people dont take breaks this is aimed at the people who do "
The site users change more than the weather at this point and I take a break when I realise the quality of the conversations, expectations of meets etc are just not really worth while |
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By *viatrixWoman 3 weeks ago
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I basically log on to message my fwb- this is our preferred way to communicate.
If we didn’t message on here I’d probably have left a long time ago….
I’m not really looking for anything/anyone and haven’t for a long time. Fab is a part of my scroll routine. As an exhibitionist, I do like posting videos/photos and getting feedback on them. but I’ve never really felt that I need a break from here. |
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When I’m hooked up with someone, so I have no desire for any others…
Or;
When that crushing reminder of how few single ladies there are in here, compared to how many single guys, and your inbox becomes an echoing, desolate wasteland, so you jump ship to other sites to get actual meets…..😎👍 |
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