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By *eliWoman 3 weeks ago
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Like as in like enough to have sex? No, not really. Maybe if they're really incredible.
Like like as in want to date/spend a fair amount of time with? Yes.
But things don't last and it's best to enjoy the glow - I've spent time overthinking before and it doesn't serve me. |
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On occasion, I do. Like if they're really stunning I wonder what they see in me that they may not in other guys and it can be a bit of a head fuck wondering how to not mess it up.
But I'm trying to be better at just enjoying things as they come and not question it too much and see the more positive traits that are desirable to women. |
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No, I don't wonder why they like me.
Well, perhaps for a picosecond after our first date and I'm still glowing, pondering why this person chose to spend time with me.
I don't "bask in the wantedness". I don't want people to confuse me for a paddling pool; I'm not that shallow. |
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By (user no longer on site) 3 weeks ago
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"Do you ever wonder why someone likes you?
Or do you not question it and just bask in the wantedness of it all
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Nope,I know they like me because I'm 🔥 🥵 😆 🤣 |
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I spent a whole lifetime overthinking why people liked me. To the extent it ruined my relationships.
I've learned from that, and from having spent so much time on my own that people who actively seek to spend time with you are few and far between, and I realised that those are people to celebrate and enjoy being with - for however long it lasts. Until such time they give you a reason to question why they want to be in your company, I now go with the flow and enjoy every moment.
Living in the moment, and not overthinking things, is absolutely the way to go |
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By *vaRoseWoman 3 weeks ago
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On fab? Nah it’s because I have a vagina and they can see I’m online, or they’ve decided I fit their niche kinks and are wanting me for that rather than myself.
Elsewhere, I’m an overthinker by nature and I actively have to work hard not to do that shit. Live for the moments. |
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By *viatrixWoman 3 weeks ago
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"Always, to the point that my constant need for reassurance annoys the hell out us both 🤦♀️"
Same. I’ve actually pushed people away because of this.
So this time I make a real, conscious effort to just chill and enjoy things and not overthink- but it is damn hard. 🙁 |
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"Always, to the point that my constant need for reassurance annoys the hell out us both 🤦♀️
Same. I’ve actually pushed people away because of this.
So this time I make a real, conscious effort to just chill and enjoy things and not overthink- but it is damn hard. 🙁"
I hear you. I’m working on doing the same 😊 |
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Oh I absolutely question it 😂
Half the time I’m there like ‘surely they’ve confused me with someone taller, richer or emotionally stable’ 😅
Then eventually I just accept it and bask in the attention like a sunbathing lizard |
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"Do you ever wonder why someone likes you?
Or do you not question it and just bask in the wantedness of it all
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Never? It’s usually obvious why I click with someone, so there’s nothing to question 😎 |
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"Oh I absolutely question it 😂
Half the time I’m there like ‘surely they’ve confused me with someone taller, richer or emotionally stable’ 😅
Then eventually I just accept it and bask in the attention like a sunbathing lizard"
Accept it, because you are very attractive  |
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By (user no longer on site) 3 weeks ago
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"Do you ever wonder why someone likes you?
Or do you not question it and just bask in the wantedness of it all
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Mr here.
All the time. I don’t understand it at all. I feel incredibly lucky with the people I’ve met at the club and even with my partner I feel lucky.
I’m learning to embrace it more and just go with the “they can always say no” attitude. But I do still wonder a lot of the time. Why? |
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"Oh I absolutely question it 😂
Half the time I’m there like ‘surely they’ve confused me with someone taller, richer or emotionally stable’ 😅
Then eventually I just accept it and bask in the attention like a sunbathing lizard
Accept it, because you are very attractive "
Go on then I will accept it  |
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Yes and no, my self esteem is all wrapped up in my perception of being desirable. If I'm being desired I can feel incredible/sexy/body doubts melt away, on the other hand if I'm going through a period of not noticing being desired then all of the doubts and overthinking rear there ugly heads. It's one of the problems I suffered with when your partner goes off sex/physical intimacy with you (actually it's the physical intimacy that has the most effect, occasional touches/cuddles/proper kisses - not the goodnight peck/gentle caresses)
I feel I may have over shared  |
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I am often astounded by some of the ladies that find me attractive. It is proof that the whole "out of my league" thing is all in my head.
I'm no oil painting, I see myself every morning looking like crap in the mirror, I dont kid myself but whether it is a physical attraction, a mental attraction or they just like my dark morbid, daft sense of humour or a combination or all, who knows.
Whatever it is, i dont bask in it. I grab onto it with both hands for dear life and ride that wave of positivity and aim to meet them in person before they come to their senses 🤣🤣 |
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"Do you ever wonder why someone likes you?
Or do you not question it and just bask in the wantedness of it all
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See this is an example of women overestimating us blokes.
You expect us to be able to ask why? 🤷🏽♂️ |
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By *ookie46Woman 3 weeks ago
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No not when it comes to someone liking me as it could just be in a friend way and I know I’m pretty easy to get on with etc
But when it’s come to someone wanting me I’ve definitely questioned it |
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"No not when it comes to someone liking me as it could just be in a friend way and I know I’m pretty easy to get on with etc
But when it’s come to someone wanting me I’ve definitely questioned it "
Everyone wants cookie, you have such a endearing accent, so friendly and warm. |
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As soon as someone does me the slightest bit of interest, I always think "what the fuck do you want" I'm so insecure that I don't believe any body could ever possibly want and try to spend even a second with me |
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