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By *ingh89Man 2 weeks ago
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"You fancy them.
And then they say that right now they're only looking for sex and a very casual definition of friendship.
Would you be happy with that?"
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You also need to factor your intentions also no? |
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By *eli OP Woman 2 weeks ago
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"At the moment no i wouldnt _eli. I want something more meaningful, i know what this site is for but i am happy doing without than changing what i am looking for ❤️"
Fuck what the site is for. I hope one day you find what you want and never post again. ❤️ |
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By (user no longer on site) 2 weeks ago
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I also think going out with the mindset of wanting more before you've even had sex is just gonna put pressure on it or push them away. Ive never met anyone with the intention of it developing into a regular thing, but it happens. |
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It’ll suck, but you also get to sleep with someone you fancy. The world’s a weird place. 2 birds one stone or whatever the saying is
Why would it suck? Sex is fantastic.
Because your intentions of fancying someone could mean a different thing to someone else - of course sex is amazing |
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Who knows where it might lead if you do?
It could start casual and then flourish.
Alternatively it could go absolutely nowhere.
Ultimately, that's all I'm looking for in the short/medium term, so yes I would be. |
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By *eli OP Woman 2 weeks ago
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"You fancy them.
And then they say that right now they're only looking for sex and a very casual definition of friendship.
Would you be happy with that?
Hi 👋🏾
You also need to factor your intentions also no?"
Of course. Which is why I asked if you would be happy with that.  |
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At the moment, I'm more focused on dating and looking for something more than just very casual sex. So I'd be disappointed if that's all they can offer (not even a decent friendship?).
But it depends how much chemistry I felt we had, sometimes you can't help the pull someone has over you and if I thought the sex was going to be great and I was very attracted to them as a person, I'd possibly be tempted. |
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By *eli OP Woman 2 weeks ago
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"Yes because i already have a fantastic relationship but due to medical conditions that's what im looking for "
Yay to the fantastic relationship  Have you found it relatively easy to find what you're looking for? |
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"At the moment, I'm more focused on dating and looking for something more than just very casual sex. So I'd be disappointed if that's all they can offer (not even a decent friendship?).
But it depends how much chemistry I felt we had, sometimes you can't help the pull someone has over you and if I thought the sex was going to be great and I was very attracted to them as a person, I'd possibly be tempted."
that's a very good way of putting it |
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By *eli OP Woman 2 weeks ago
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"Because your intentions of fancying someone could mean a different thing to someone else - of course sex is amazing"
Oh that's true. I think of fancying as being without romantic feelings but to someone else it could mean there's a potential for more. I guess if it was mismatched it would be a bit crap. |
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For someone who has not had sex for two years, I’d probably go for the sex, but at the same time I am looking for friendship with benefits - so as much as a one off meet would be very tempting, I do want a little more with someone. |
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By *eli OP Woman 2 weeks ago
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"I also think going out with the mindset of wanting more before you've even had sex is just gonna put pressure on it or push them away. Ive never met anyone with the intention of it developing into a regular thing, but it happens. "
This thread is talking about the opposite; going out with zero intentions. Firmly not wanting more for whatever reason.
But yes, I agree. People can put too much pressure on things or read more in to sex than is there and that can spoil things. Enjoy it for what it is. |
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"For someone who has not had sex for two years, I’d probably go for the sex, but at the same time I am looking for friendship with benefits - so as much as a one off meet would be very tempting, I do want a little more with someone. "
ditto lol not having it for a while youd be tempted but if you really like them deep down then its a given youd want more especially if everything feels right
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"Yes because i already have a fantastic relationship but due to medical conditions that's what im looking for
Yay to the fantastic relationship Have you found it relatively easy to find what you're looking for?"
We used to go to are local club together before she became ill so now im allowed to go once a month and play on my own, which im extremely lucky to be able to do. |
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By *eli OP Woman 2 weeks ago
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"Oh no, they only want to have sex with me with low commitment on either side? It's quite the quandary, Meli!"
 Yeah, okay, when you put it like that it sounds a daft thing to even think about.
So it doesn't come across as dickish or anything? You wouldn't overthink or worry about them not liking you as a person? Humour me JoeJoe. |
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By (user no longer on site) 2 weeks ago
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"I also think going out with the mindset of wanting more before you've even had sex is just gonna put pressure on it or push them away. Ive never met anyone with the intention of it developing into a regular thing, but it happens.
This thread is talking about the opposite; going out with zero intentions. Firmly not wanting more for whatever reason.
But yes, I agree. People can put too much pressure on things or read more in to sex than is there and that can spoil things. Enjoy it for what it is."
I meant more from someome turning just sex down as they are looking for more.
You don't know what you could be missing out on! |
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"I also think going out with the mindset of wanting more before you've even had sex is just gonna put pressure on it or push them away. Ive never met anyone with the intention of it developing into a regular thing, but it happens.
This thread is talking about the opposite; going out with zero intentions. Firmly not wanting more for whatever reason.
But yes, I agree. People can put too much pressure on things or read more in to sex than is there and that can spoil things. Enjoy it for what it is.
I meant more from someome turning just sex down as they are looking for more.
You don't know what you could be missing out on! "
Yeah I do agree with that and that's usually my outlook. But if someone is specifically telling me they absolutely don't want anything beyond casual I wouldn't have any expectation that it would ever be anything more. And I already have some FWBs that scratch that itch and I am actually good friends with, so I don't really need more of those in my life.
Ask me at another time when I'm in a different headspace and you'd probably get a different answer. |
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"I also think going out with the mindset of wanting more before you've even had sex is just gonna put pressure on it or push them away. Ive never met anyone with the intention of it developing into a regular thing, but it happens.
This thread is talking about the opposite; going out with zero intentions. Firmly not wanting more for whatever reason.
But yes, I agree. People can put too much pressure on things or read more in to sex than is there and that can spoil things. Enjoy it for what it is.
I meant more from someome turning just sex down as they are looking for more.
You don't know what you could be missing out on!
Yeah I do agree with that and that's usually my outlook. But if someone is specifically telling me they absolutely don't want anything beyond casual I wouldn't have any expectation that it would ever be anything more. And I already have some FWBs that scratch that itch and I am actually good friends with, so I don't really need more of those in my life.
Ask me at another time when I'm in a different headspace and you'd probably get a different answer. "
Yeah i agree with this. I dont go into anything with expectations and things can end up being a one time thing for lots of reasons. But if someones definitively laying out from the beginning its sex and nothing more it would be a no from me. I already have people i could just have sex with if i wanted to. |
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By *eli OP Woman 2 weeks ago
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"At the moment, I'm more focused on dating and looking for something more than just very casual sex. So I'd be disappointed if that's all they can offer (not even a decent friendship?).
But it depends how much chemistry I felt we had, sometimes you can't help the pull someone has over you and if I thought the sex was going to be great and I was very attracted to them as a person, I'd possibly be tempted."
If you're looking more for dating it's understandable why you might turn it down - it's unlikely they'll be bringing anything you want at that moment in time.
Normally you can tell/it's obvious when people are looking to date - I'd hope people would be able to tell the lack of compatibility and not message. |
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"Oh no, they only want to have sex with me with low commitment on either side? It's quite the quandary, Meli!
Yeah, okay, when you put it like that it sounds a daft thing to even think about.
So it doesn't come across as dickish or anything? You wouldn't overthink or worry about them not liking you as a person? Humour me JoeJoe."
I don't think it would as they're setting their stall out early in what they want and it sets the expectations accordingly. If they start using language that could be interpreted as wanting more while being non-committal that's when I'd take an issue with it. |
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By *oxy-RedWoman 2 weeks ago
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"You fancy them.
And then they say that right now they're only looking for sex and a very casual definition of friendship.
Would you be happy with that?"
Nope ,I want a little more at this stage in my life |
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I'd really love to find a good fwb as I never really have, but I feel like most men have wanted the benefits part a lot more than the friendship side.
I'm really bad at keeping up with chats as I'm easily overwhelmed but I also get bored of people easily as they're often very one track minded and struggle to have non sexual conversations of substance.
Or someone can seem right for me but the physical attraction isn't there.
There's a guy I've really clicked with via chats and we've had long conversations about anything and everything and based on our personalities it's like looking into a mirror sometimes. We're hoping to meet next week for drinks and more, if we feel the chemistry and attraction is there in person.
I so hope it is as we seem to be compatible sexually, too. Finding a true fwb is tough and I've been on here about 6 years in the past.
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"I'd really love to find a good fwb as I never really have, but I feel like most men have wanted the benefits part a lot more than the friendship side.
I'm really bad at keeping up with chats as I'm easily overwhelmed but I also get bored of people easily as they're often very one track minded and struggle to have non sexual conversations of substance.
Or someone can seem right for me but the physical attraction isn't there.
There's a guy I've really clicked with via chats and we've had long conversations about anything and everything and based on our personalities it's like looking into a mirror sometimes. We're hoping to meet next week for drinks and more, if we feel the chemistry and attraction is there in person.
I so hope it is as we seem to be compatible sexually, too. Finding a true fwb is tough and I've been on here about 6 years in the past.
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I feel the same but because of other guys I feel sometimes I get judges a bit because of them, being im already a bit of an introvert trying to not be that I never know what to say or where to put myself and so it goes no where. Doesn't help im bad at reading the signs sometimes aswell as being pretty green to it all,but yeah I know the feeling. Been here a while before this account and just couldn't find the right one. Still hoping though. |
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"It depends on the orgasm they're offering. If the climax is far superior to the quality of friendship that they're offering then, reluctantly, yes.
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A yes is a yes, however it looks."
"You fancy them.
And then they say that right now they're only looking for sex and a very casual definition of friendship.
Would you be happy with that?"
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Seriously though, although I look for connections that transcend way beyond the sex, I would be fine with that. The reason being is that some of us are malleable to some degree, and things can develop and blossom into something more than just the sex-only-and-nothing-else arrangement. It's a great baseline to start with but not the end of the world if it doesn't develop further, keeping our boundaries intact. |
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"For someone who has not had sex for two years, I’d probably go for the sex, but at the same time I am looking for friendship with benefits - so as much as a one off meet would be very tempting, I do want a little more with someone. "
Can agree one off is fun but doesn't beat the fun of regular no drama fwb situation |
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By *eli OP Woman 2 weeks ago
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"Yeah. Just don’t love bomb me and send mixed signals! "
Oh big boo to love bombing. Yeah, that's not on. I think if it's communicated clearly and things are kept clear it's maybe a very good idea? Maybe. |
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"You fancy them.
And then they say that right now they're only looking for sex and a very casual definition of friendship.
Would you be happy with that?"
Meli: I think that you are describing the AI doll created by the Chinese manufacturer WMdoll. Does your offer include shipping?  |
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By *eli OP Woman 2 weeks ago
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"You fancy them.
And then they say that right now they're only looking for sex and a very casual definition of friendship.
Would you be happy with that?
Meli: I think that you are describing the AI doll created by the Chinese manufacturer WMdoll. Does your offer include shipping? "
Oh phew, was really hoping the fucktoy energy would translate, clearly it worked. Of course it does.  |
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By *91kMan 2 weeks ago
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"You fancy them.
And then they say that right now they're only looking for sex and a very casual definition of friendship.
Would you be happy with that?"
Yeah, why not.. Any setup that is mutually desired by both parties is a win to me 😇 the fucker is when you have feelings and they don't 🥲 |
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By *viatrixWoman 2 weeks ago
Back in Surrey, Dahlings! |
I was at the beginning. It was extremely casual for years. 2 hours twice a year.
Then he amped it up. Let’s spend a bit more time together he said.
Was it a good idea? Dunno.
Pissed to my marrowbone now so might not make much sense 🤣🤣🤣 🫧 🥂 |
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I have found that most women who say they are happy with just sex, and a little good company, really aren’t. They want a relationship if they aren’t already in one, and that’s fine it’s human nature. It just means most fabbers are like everyone else. |
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"You fancy them.
And then they say that right now they're only looking for sex and a very casual definition of friendship.
Would you be happy with that?"
Our society has vilified sex and created this myth around monogamy (it's not natural). Sex is amazing |
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