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What's your boundaries on a meet?
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I set firm boundaries when I meet someone for the first time. Where those boundaries are is different person to person. But imagine the kind of sex that's difficult to get wrong. Not "oh I kind of fantasise about X or Y". The dependable stuff.
Although you can vet through messages, socials, etc, sometimes people still surprise you when you're alone. In good and bad ways.
I let them show me they're trustworthy with the easy stuff, before I get to the hard stuff. The hard stuff is for repeat meets. |
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"What's your boundaries on a meet?
I would eventually want to do a meet."
Boundaries as in how far you would go? Things you wouldn’t do? I wouldn’t want to make a list of dos and don’t. Although I’m not that big a fan of the term ‘meet’. Always sounds very clinical. A date? Is that old fashioned? 🤷♂️ |
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"What's your boundaries on a meet?
I would eventually want to do a meet."
OP, I will try and give a proper answer, but given you are a woman, take advice from other women to feel more secure/safe.
I tend to have been chatting to someone for a while before I meet them (that could be in the Forum or it may be DMs).
I exchange face pics ahead of any meet (some people go for video chat).
I meet in a public place for my first meet (coffee house, pub, park, where ever) - that way there are others around and you can be sure the person is who they say they are (and you can leave if you are uncomfortable).
Most times I have met someone for the first time it has remained social, but some you will have hit it off with and you may then want to progress that same day.
For me as a bloke it has not been a problem in terms of going with them to a hotel (that tends not to be spur of the moment) or back to my place (that is spur of the moment) - you will want to think about safety and whether you want someone to know where you live.
Then in terms of what you get up to and boundaries, again it's a safety issue and some of the women can better advise you. One of my former friends would meet blokes and be content of the first meet to allow them to restrain her - that to me was very unsafe - even with her letting her best friend know where she had gone.
I think that the women of Fab can give you better advice. |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS 1 week ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
That I turn up in full glam mode. None of this go there in drab mode and get changed in a bathroom.
I don't want anyone seeing me in drab mode.
Hence some meets haven't happened, as I tend to attract attention walking up someone's path  |
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"What's your boundaries on a meet?
I would eventually want to do a meet.
OP, I will try and give a proper answer, but given you are a woman, take advice from other women to feel more secure/safe.
I tend to have been chatting to someone for a while before I meet them (that could be in the Forum or it may be DMs).
I exchange face pics ahead of any meet (some people go for video chat).
I meet in a public place for my first meet (coffee house, pub, park, where ever) - that way there are others around and you can be sure the person is who they say they are (and you can leave if you are uncomfortable).
Most times I have met someone for the first time it has remained social, but some you will have hit it off with and you may then want to progress that same day.
For me as a bloke it has not been a problem in terms of going with them to a hotel (that tends not to be spur of the moment) or back to my place (that is spur of the moment) - you will want to think about safety and whether you want someone to know where you live.
Then in terms of what you get up to and boundaries, again it's a safety issue and some of the women can better advise you. One of my former friends would meet blokes and be content of the first meet to allow them to restrain her - that to me was very unsafe - even with her letting her best friend know where she had gone.
I think that the women of Fab can give you better advice."
This is good advice. |
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"Leave the bellybutton alone. No anal. No fisting. No poop, pee, piss or vomit. No tickling.
At least one liquid refreshment break. Background music.
Boring I know 🤷🏻♀️"
Would say thats boring its pretty much the same as we insist on |
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"I'm not meeting at anyone's house
No one is tying me up
Don't cuddle me afterwards
No anal
Just off the top of my head. "
I had anal and tying up in mind for stuff that isn't dependable - someone I don't trust could really hurt me, even if I might like it under the right circumstances. |
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By *Effy-Woman 1 week ago
Scotland |
"I'm not meeting at anyone's house
No one is tying me up
Don't cuddle me afterwards
No anal
Just off the top of my head.
I had anal and tying up in mind for stuff that isn't dependable - someone I don't trust could really hurt me, even if I might like it under the right circumstances."
Yeah, I'm not doing those things with just anyone so it's off limits. |
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You can have the boundaries however you want them and I agree with the suggestions that they change with your mood, person and situation. The key is to finding someone who will respect them without any pushback. |
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Chat on here, figure out whether either is wasting the others time, and that there is a physical spark.
Suggest coffee in a public place. Chat, suss the vibe out.
...from there, maybe leave it, maybe agree to meet again somewhere more flirty, or if the vibe is really goid one alcoholic drink - maybe onto more very quickly.
The latter us always rare though.
And usually it's coffee, followed by - 'you're nice, but that chemistry isn't there' from a woman. Not moaning, I want someone to want me, and if my first impression isn't it, then that's fine.  |
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If you stick your tongue in my ear… it’s gonna end badly 🥊
otherwise be sober, not a smoker, and no three P’s…
Well okay… “a little pain never hurt anybody… if you know what I mean“
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OP, I should have looked at your profile before providing my comments. Clearly you've met people, been to clubs and are more adventurous then me, so you probably know more than me and may well have been asking about activities in the bedroom and boundaries there. |
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We have few boundaries but generally we dont do the 3 ps. We like to make sure we dont break others boundaries too. Mostly as we only meet with bi women we always want them to feel safe and secure so we make it clear that they can change thier mind at anytime no questions asked. Thats it really
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"we had a no kissing rule, didnt last long though."
Us too, soon passed it, but I think it was a three way snog that shot us right past that boundary.
So kissing is on the cards, meeting together satisfies the safety rule a bit.
Anal, meh! Another boundary passed.
Same room, oops! Different countries did for that.
Aren't we such bad people, setting boundaries and then giggling later that we passed them?
Not doing poo though, and not deliberate peeing, surprise peeing, aka squirting is OK and in fact welcome.
A bit of pain is lush, pin wheels rock her world. See the pics on our profile.
No blood,absolutely no blood.
Although I like the idea of a bit of vampirism. 
Big love ❤️ |
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By *Effy-Woman 1 week ago
Scotland |
"I'm not meeting at anyone's house
No one is tying me up
Don't cuddle me afterwards
No anal
Just off the top of my head.
Don't cuddle you after? That's an interesting one!"
It's a loose boundary. I'm happy to do it if someone else needs that closeness afterwards, but I'd enjoy chatting from a safe distance more. |
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"I'm not meeting at anyone's house
No one is tying me up
Don't cuddle me afterwards
No anal
Just off the top of my head.
Don't cuddle you after? That's an interesting one!
It's a loose boundary. I'm happy to do it if someone else needs that closeness afterwards, but I'd enjoy chatting from a safe distance more. "
I get that. So orgasm, a great wall made of pillows and a duvet and talking to each other from either side 😂 |
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I bet a lot of guys would be the same as me whether they would admit it on here or not.
Basically no boundaries beyond pleasure aka no purposely hurting or anything like that
Too long winded to explain the rest |
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By *Effy-Woman 1 week ago
Scotland |
"I'm not meeting at anyone's house
No one is tying me up
Don't cuddle me afterwards
No anal
Just off the top of my head.
Don't cuddle you after? That's an interesting one!
It's a loose boundary. I'm happy to do it if someone else needs that closeness afterwards, but I'd enjoy chatting from a safe distance more.
I get that. So orgasm, a great wall made of pillows and a duvet and talking to each other from either side 😂"
Exactly! Stick your tongue down my throat but cuddle me and I'm breaking your fingers 🤣 |
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"What's your boundaries on a meet?
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That will be discussed in detail with whoever we're meeting, once we've got past the social stage and decided we actually want to get naked with them.
It may vary from person to person. 🤷♂️ |
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"What's your boundaries on a meet?
I would eventually want to do a meet.
Boundaries as in how far you would go? Things you wouldn’t do? I wouldn’t want to make a list of dos and don’t. Although I’m not that big a fan of the term ‘meet’. Always sounds very clinical. A date? Is that old fashioned? 🤷♂️"
I have issues wit the term meet too!
Guys ask to meet me , and yes, Shen I am out I am happy to meet guys … but what they mean is they want to spend an evening having sex with me !
These things need to be cleared up !
I am afraid often guys are disappointed… or dodged a bullet  some might say ! |
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By *ision21Man 1 week ago
Newcastle Under Lyme |
Clear communication is paramount. You deviate from that then red flag.
I'm yet to have a meet but I'm honest and expect that in return.
So my boundaries are quite simple.
Don't mess me about. Just be honest. |
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