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"When was the last time...You sent the first message? "
A week ago
"Did you get a reply? "
No, but then it was only commenting on someone's status, so it was an open message.
"If you haven't for a while, what's stopping you? "
I am happy commenting in the Forum. No point inundating someone's inbox. If they are interested they will find me. |
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"When was the last time...You sent the first message?
A week ago
Did you get a reply?
No, but then it was only commenting on someone's status, so it was an open message.
If you haven't for a while, what's stopping you?
I am happy commenting in the Forum. No point inundating someone's inbox. If they are interested they will find me."
Who do you think they are, Liam Neeson? |
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I stoped sending messages now. Last I got a reply but they only wanted uncircumcised peen.
Everyone is too far away or jumps to conclusions . Would happily have a long chat with some like minded people but most woman just get ram raided by solos I don't feel like I should be competing or making myself look desperate as I get enough love away from the site that I'm not desperate. |
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By *Effy- OP Woman 7 days ago
Scotland |
"I wish I knew or more importantly … remembered! 😂😂
I wonder what causes that👀
I must have messaged you first. As would everyone! Effy… so hot, she makes Scotland scorching! 🔥🔥😘"
Stop trying to butter me up, Vamps! 😆 |
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"I wish I knew or more importantly … remembered! 😂😂
I wonder what causes that👀
I must have messaged you first. As would everyone! Effy… so hot, she makes Scotland scorching! 🔥🔥😘
Stop trying to butter me up, Vamps! 😆"
Change your name for only 7 days 😂😂🤣🤣 |
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"You sent the first message?
Did you get a reply?
If you haven't for a while, what's stopping you? "
Hadn't reached out with first message for several weeks, sent 2 this week 1 reply and one unread.
I read the reply from one, thought i will answer it next day when i can put in more effort, logged in to another reply saying i got blocked for not responding ha! |
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By *Effy- OP Woman 7 days ago
Scotland |
"I wish I knew or more importantly … remembered! 😂😂
I wonder what causes that👀
I must have messaged you first. As would everyone! Effy… so hot, she makes Scotland scorching! 🔥🔥😘
Stop trying to butter me up, Vamps! 😆
Change your name for only 7 days 😂😂🤣🤣"
Piss off 🤣 |
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"I wish I knew or more importantly … remembered! 😂😂
I wonder what causes that👀
I must have messaged you first. As would everyone! Effy… so hot, she makes Scotland scorching! 🔥🔥😘
Stop trying to butter me up, Vamps! 😆
Change your name for only 7 days 😂😂🤣🤣
Piss off 🤣"
That’s still not a hard no 🤣🤣 |
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It's hit an miss. The site used to be more social but, i'd say 70 / 30. Either they disappear or in all honesty i go offline so.. the momentum can be lost. Been a while since i met someone one on one only because i need them to be local. |
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"At some point over the last few days. It was off the back of a thread they replied and were very polite, but i'm pretty sure it was a no, ta!"
I messaged Bella once. She told me to do one so I created a thread and changed my name so she didn’t know it was me and I could message her again 🤣🤣 |
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By *Effy- OP Woman 6 days ago
Scotland |
"At some point over the last few days. It was off the back of a thread they replied and were very polite, but i'm pretty sure it was a no, ta!
I messaged Bella once. She told me to do one so I created a thread and changed my name so she didn’t know it was me and I could message her again 🤣🤣"
You need to be stopped 😭 |
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By *Effy- OP Woman 6 days ago
Scotland |
"From your experience, do you get much hate/abuse when you don't reply?
I see quite a few statuses saying they gwt abuse off men when they either say no or don't reply x"
It happens. Most of the time I don't let it bother me and either delete the message thread or block the person. Sometimes i get it. Not to excuse their behaviour at all, but if I was constantly getting knocked back it would start wearing thin. |
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"At some point over the last few days. It was off the back of a thread they replied and were very polite, but i'm pretty sure it was a no, ta!
I messaged Bella once. She told me to do one so I created a thread and changed my name so she didn’t know it was me and I could message her again 🤣🤣
You need to be stopped 😭"
😂😂😂 ok I’ll officially 🤐🤐🤐 |
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"You sent the first message?"
11th May, and before that 5th March.
"Did you get a reply?"
Yes.
Yes.
"If you haven't for a while, what's stopping you?"
Women have been sending the first message, therefore I feel less compelled. |
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By *Effy- OP Woman 6 days ago
Scotland |
"You sent the first message?
11th May, and before that 5th March.
Did you get a reply?
Yes.
Yes.
If you haven't for a while, what's stopping you?
Women have been sending the first message, therefore I feel less compelled."
Oooh check you out Mr hot stuff😉 |
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"You sent the first message?
Did you get a reply?
If you haven't for a while, what's stopping you? "
I often message for the first time and yes I do get replies, not always though, but that because there are a billion other men messaging. I think I get replies as I ask questions or reply privately on forum chats if we click or are coming from a similar viewpoint |
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"You sent the first message?
11th May, and before that 5th March.
Did you get a reply?
Yes.
Yes.
If you haven't for a while, what's stopping you?
Women have been sending the first message, therefore I feel less compelled.
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Oooh check you out Mr hot stuff😉"
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Even you messaged. It doesn't get any more unsolicited than that. If you're looking for a bonk think again.
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...unless you're coming down to London. 😇 |
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"You sent the first message?
11th May, and before that 5th March.
Did you get a reply?
Yes.
Yes.
If you haven't for a while, what's stopping you?
Women have been sending the first message, therefore I feel less compelled.
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Oooh check you out Mr hot stuff😉
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Even you messaged. It doesn't get any more unsolicited than that. If you're looking for a bonk think again.
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...unless you're coming down to London. 😇"
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By *Effy- OP Woman 6 days ago
Scotland |
"You sent the first message?
11th May, and before that 5th March.
Did you get a reply?
Yes.
Yes.
If you haven't for a while, what's stopping you?
Women have been sending the first message, therefore I feel less compelled.
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Oooh check you out Mr hot stuff😉
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Even you messaged. It doesn't get any more unsolicited than that. If you're looking for a bonk think again.
...unless you're coming down to London. 😇"
I'll think about it. |
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"About ten times in the last hour don't know what im doing wrong"
It's not a regular hookup site woman receive a ton of messages. Get bored and can't reply to all of them or simply CBA. Some times it's timing, sometimes your not casting what they want. But the ratio is off. Unless you are a couple or appeal to someone's kinks you won't see much action. If you want a standard hookup try a different site. It's better for chatting and having a gander but solo dudes are far too many here, don't feel defeated it's just how it is. |
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"You sent the first message?
Did you get a reply?
If you haven't for a while, what's stopping you? "
over a year ago I think, was well thought out and personal to the profile (my messages always have been) was never replied to, so I tend to just float around and if people look at my profile and like what they see, i’d hope they message first, as a male profile the odds are stacked heavily against you when trying to be noticed, so I tend to look for the organised socials and try and get on the guest list. |
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Ages ago if I'm honest.
I reached out wr chatted etc, arranged a meet then he stopped replying.
I find that if I reach out first that tends to happen.
A coincidence maybe? Or I'm just a twat bag haha. |
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Apart from forum threads, about a week ago and no reply.
I did send about 4 messages 2 weeks ago and get a 1 reply.
I don’t send that many, due to most profiles really not having much to message about and good old rejection sensitive dysphoria. |
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I regularly send first messages to profiles that I like and I think would be a match. I am more likely than not to get a response. Last one was sent yesterday but it isn’t read yet as they haven’t been back on the site since I sent it. |
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I feel this isn’t a male problem. I send plenty of messages. Im fairly relaxed about chatting but I rarely get a response. I know what some of the thirsty creeps on here are like though so it’s no wonder those who aren’t are tarred with the same brush. |
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We sent one to a lady a couple of days ago and got a reply.
The last couples one was as we got a wink from them but only the lady has pics on the profile, so we complimented and asked for pics of the guy.
I don’t recall asking for a dick pic 😱
K |
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"You sent the first message?
Did you get a reply?
If you haven't for a while, what's stopping you?
Pretty much always very rarely do we get a reply"
I would reply to you. Im near selby but unfortunately you're not looking for single guys 😁 |
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"At some point over the last few days. It was off the back of a thread they replied and were very polite, but i'm pretty sure it was a no, ta!
I messaged Bella once. She told me to do one so I created a thread and changed my name so she didn’t know it was me and I could message her again 🤣🤣"
I knew your pics looked familiar!!   |
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"You sent the first message?
Did you get a reply?
If you haven't for a while, what's stopping you? "
Answers..
1..a while ago
2...some did reply,met them ...& more than some didn't reply but its ok ,l get that , type, interest tweaked etc etc, not everyone is for everyone here in this jungle .
3.l do sometimes send a 1st message so l suppose nothing is stopping me but if l see it's been read & no reply l simply dont bother them again,..never chase, it's called having repect for them & you. |
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So the moral of the story is when women send a message, 95% of the time they get a reply.
For men it’s about 5%
From what I can see in this thread that is.
Although some very attractive women saying the guy stops messaging after a bit! |
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"You sent the first message?
Did you get a reply?
If you haven't for a while, what's stopping you? "
Opened with my best line.
She read it in minutes, hit ‘mark as unread’, and has been giving it the silent treatment for 14 days straight.
That’s not a soft rejection, that’s Olympic-level ghosting.
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If I spy a profile that interests me I will happily send the first message.
The last time I did was several months ago now, and we've been in touch ever since.
I won't send more for now as I don't seek out new chats whilst chatting with someone. |
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We are always the first to message, being that we are only here for single bi women its rare that we even get a response let alone it gets read. The message filters and settings on this website are messed up, messages get deleted without the receiver even knowing if they get too many. There should be blocks in place or something, maybe set a block on being able to send them a message if thier inbox is full instead of letting it go through only for it to be deleted. I can't imagine how many messages must have been overlooked without the receiver knowing. I wouldn't mind but I take time composing a thoughtful message only for it to be overlooked or deleted. It would be easy to set up, a simple message could pop up when you go to write a message saying the receivers in box is full, problem solved. Also there should be 2 inboxes a general inbox and a friends inbox without limitations.
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"We are always the first to message, being that we are only here for single bi women its rare that we even get a response let alone it gets read. The message filters and settings on this website are messed up, messages get deleted without the receiver even knowing if they get too many. There should be blocks in place or something, maybe set a block on being able to send them a message if thier inbox is full instead of letting it go through only for it to be deleted. I can't imagine how many messages must have been overlooked without the receiver knowing. I wouldn't mind but I take time composing a thoughtful message only for it to be overlooked or deleted. It would be easy to set up, a simple message could pop up when you go to write a message saying the receivers in box is full, problem solved. Also there should be 2 inboxes a general inbox and a friends inbox without limitations.
Mrs x"
Haha, welcome to the typical single guy experience 😂 |
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By *91kMan 6 days ago
Maidstone |
Fab has kinda morphed into a browsing facility these days, I don't really send messages much any more. Maybe on the odd chance if someone catches my eye. Other than that it's mostly about the forums and perving 😇 |
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"We are always the first to message, being that we are only here for single bi women its rare that we even get a response let alone it gets read. The message filters and settings on this website are messed up, messages get deleted without the receiver even knowing if they get too many. There should be blocks in place or something, maybe set a block on being able to send them a message if thier inbox is full instead of letting it go through only for it to be deleted. I can't imagine how many messages must have been overlooked without the receiver knowing. I wouldn't mind but I take time composing a thoughtful message only for it to be overlooked or deleted. It would be easy to set up, a simple message could pop up when you go to write a message saying the receivers in box is full, problem solved. Also there should be 2 inboxes a general inbox and a friends inbox without limitations.
Mrs x
Haha, welcome to the typical single guy experience 😂"
Its always been this way for us, it would be a lot easier for everyone if there were better settings for inboxes x I'm not having a winge just trying to make some suggestions to improve really. We get plenty of meets so not complaining x
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Three weeks ago, no reply. It's the same reason I don't have the confidence to just go up and say hi to people at a club, at this point I've been ignored or insulted enough times I don't believe I'll ever get a positive response 😅
I still try it just takes a while. |
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