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Guys throwing it out there to those who travel.
How far would you travel 10/20/30/40 miles
Maybe more, who knows??
I sometimes get the impression that people are hoping their ideal match are next door.
So for us we’d travel 1 1/2 hours I’d say maybe 2 hours.
Just interested in what others would do x |
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I have and will travel a few hundred miles for particular people. More than that is unrealistic and it does mean visits are fleeting and sporadic. I wouldn’t travel that far on spec, though, I’d tie it in with something else I was doing otherwise the pressure is too much.
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I don't think distance is a huge issue if you like someone enough you will do it.
I think the only time it is an issue is in the getting to know eachother stage as until then you don't know if it's really worth your while.
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3-4 hours. Depending on traffic if I drive or the train route if I take public transport, that could be quite far. If we really like each other we can make it work. I think we'd all prefer some form of proximity. Close, but not too close. |
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I wouldn't travel more than a hour. The reason for this is back when maybe 2007. I travelled maybe 3 Hours and when I got there she said she felt too shy.
I get it I really do but I don't think there should be any limits until your first burn. I've even considered over seas. |
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No problem travelling any distance especially in the summertime,even been known to jump on a ferry though to be fair I'd plan the meet around my trip rather than the other way round 🚢 , worst that can happen is you can spend a weekend sightseeing 😂 |
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Socially for a Fab friend I travel to Cornwall (though that combines holiday or picking a child up from Uni).
Relationshipwise, the furthest have been Ipswich, Norwich and Bournemouth - but none of those were one-offs. |
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I wouldn't travel more than 90mins, maybe 2 hours for a meet specifically.
If I'm tying the meet in with something else in that trip then distance is almost a non-issue. I'm pretty regularly down south so that can work well on occasion for infrequent meets.
I've done 4-5 hours long distance relationship and never again. |
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When we was alot more active on our old profile we'd do a weekend away somewhere and sometimes arrange a meet, if the meet fell through then we'd still have a great trip exploring the local area.. South Wales to Glasgow was the furthest in the UK. |
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I think more in time than distance. 10 miles in 1 direction could take 20 minutes, but in another could take over an hour at certain times of the day
Personally, I'm looking for something handy so 30 minutes or so away at most |
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Never usually drive more than 30 mins, seems to work.
However since making friends in the forums and one or two women who I would like to meet, I would now potentially travel hours for the right one. It’s also made me consider even going to a club social hours away to meet people from forum, but the feeling would have to be mutual! |
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"Never usually drive more than 30 mins, seems to work.
However since making friends in the forums and one or two women who I would like to meet, I would now potentially travel hours for the right one. It’s also made me consider even going to a club social hours away to meet people from forum, but the feeling would have to be mutual! "
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When I was meeting I made the decision that I wouldn't travel more than an hour and if someone lived further than that we could meet halfway as long as it didn't involve either of us travelling more than an hour.
I've seen people on fab say that their experience is that when someone travels a distance there is an expectation of more than just a coffee.
My experience is the flip side of this.
I travelled 3½ hours once and the woman I met decided that if I'd done it once there was nothing stopping me from doing it every couple of weeks.
After that I decided that anyone wanting to meet me would have to make the same level of effort as I was and that included travel time/distance. |
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I'll buck the trend and say when I'm actively meeting, it's local people only.
My shifts mean I don't have the time or the energy to go too far. Especially if it's a new meet. In the past, when single I did travel much further, but for people i already knew and had met before.
I'd be more likely inclined to travel further when looking to meet couples with my partner, as we could make a weekend of it. It's challenging getting that 4 way attraction with another couple,so if we really hit it off we'd be more willing to go for it. |
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Same for us. An hour and half to two hours
So if there’s any females out there wishing 2 hours of Preston, wanting to play with a sexy naughty couple this Friday, please get in touch. We will happily pay for a hotel. |
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Sometimes it’s best when you’re travelling and you meet someone else travelling.
Ships that pass.
Layovers.
Business Trips.
There can be something fun about a spontaneous and opportunistic connection made, even if the likelihood of any future follow up is almost impossible. |
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Distance isn’t really an issue, pretty used to travelling and regardless of far how you travel your day or daysss will be taken up anyways. Comfortably 2/3 hrs.. but of course the closer the better |
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I have done 150+ miles before now, but that was weeks after first contact, lots of onsite messages followed by off site getting to know someone first, ifnwe didn't click there first it wasn't going to happen |
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Really interesting thread, thanks for starting it!
I used to travel about 90 minutes for a regular meet, but I've been severely agoraphobic for 14 years, can't go more than a few streets away from home without panic attacks, so this topic really interests me |
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I have travelled a long way to meet someone that I knew was worth it. Through chatting on here and building up a connection, I was sure that it would end up with a chemistry! This happened very recently, a couple of flights, took most of the day and would do it again. A good decision. I don't expect people to travel for me, but I don't mind once I think it is worth it! |
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"Really interesting thread, thanks for starting it!
I used to travel about 90 minutes for a regular meet, but I've been severely agoraphobic for 14 years, can't go more than a few streets away from home without panic attacks, so this topic really interests me"
I'm the same. The thought of travelling a long distance seems to trigger anxiety in me. I think I could manage a 30 minute drive, but that's about it. |
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"When I was meeting I made the decision that I wouldn't travel more than an hour and if someone lived further than that we could meet halfway as long as it didn't involve either of us travelling more than an hour.
I've seen people on Fab say that their experience is that when someone travels a distance there is an expectation of more than just a coffee.
My experience is the flip side of this.
I travelled 3½ hours once and the woman I met decided that if I'd done it once nothing was stopping me from doing it every couple of weeks.
After that, I decided that anyone wanting to meet me would have to make the same level of effort as I was and that included travel time/distance."
Yes, this.
I don't care to travel to meet somebody I feel attracted to. I love the trip as much as the destination. But if I feel that person doesn’t value the effort (trains are expensive too) making me feel like Uber Eats, ready to eat at home and discharge, I won't. |
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"Guys throwing it out there to those who travel.
How far would you travel 10/20/30/40 miles
Maybe more, who knows??
I sometimes get the impression that people are hoping their ideal match are next door.
So for us we’d travel 1 1/2 hours I’d say maybe 2 hours.
Just interested in what others would do x"
Most of my meets from here are when I am travelling for work so shorter distance most of the time. I will travel long distance but only if I know people. Too much risk otherwise you are wasting time otherwise as too many time wasters on here |
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I dont specifically travel. I do travel a lot and organise meets whilst i am there but i dont specifically go just for a meet.
I dont arrange for people ar away to come here either. Its unrealistic and expensive for just a fuck. |
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Most of my overnight dates are far away from London. I've travelled 200 miles - to Manchester a few times; Birmingham, Sheffield on many occasions and the West Country.
The women I met were either based from the aforementioned places or had travelled to meet equidistant (e.g. from Scotland). |
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I've restricted it to 20 miles. I've had 3 ghost me as soon I got to the location. And that's after chatting for a bit. So I'm not going to waste my time or petrol traveling unless I am 100% positive that they are going to actually show up. |
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About 10 years ago I travelled for 230 miles-ish, over 4 hours (train then car) for a first meet with someone I met via the forums. That was a regular trip for 18 months. Would I do it now? I'd have to think it had the potential to be much more than a bunk up. |
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Would prefer someone to be fairly local just because I'd want to have a pint to relax so I wouldn't be driving. Also probably wouldn't go hours or of my way just for a social meet and I don't do arranged sex so I'd say like 10 miles |
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