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Does anyone ever come on here, use the forums, chat to people etc and come away actually feeling good about themselves for once?
It’s happened to me, I play forum games, women are matching me, flirting, I am messaging one or two hotties and receiving compliments. All things I am not used to in my day to day life. Then I leave the house, chest held high, almost swaggering I feel so good.
Then it fades away when women don’t make eye contact, no compliments on looks ever, no flirting at all, literally zero interest.
It’s an odd thing. Then come back on here and it’s all different again… (Not all the time however, some people can make you feel like crap if they want to)
Does this or something similar happen to you? Do you feel like a different person almost on here? |
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On Fab? Yes. I get messaged all the time on how great my photos are etc etc etc. it is a great confidence boost.
On the forum? Never. I am always overlooked. But I don’t fancy people from the forum anyway, so it isn’t a loss to me at all. My fishing pond has never and will never be the forum. Gives me the massive ick lol
In real life? Sometimes I get flirted at at work. I look everywhere because I find it hard to believe that anyone would flirt with me, or be gallant with me or would want to chat with me.  |
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On the forum? Never. I am always overlooked. But I don’t fancy people from the forum anyway, so it isn’t a loss to me at all. My fishing pond has never and will never be the forum. Gives me the massive ick lol
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Same....the cringy fake flirting gives me a giggle though 🤣 |
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Occasionally this place puts a smile on my face, doesn't make me unhappy the rest of the time because I keep things in perspective. In real life I'm generally quite confident and easy going, I certainly don't expect flirtatious behaviour. It's if I have extended periods on my own that gets to me, like when my kids are away on holiday with their mum. |
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On the forum? Never. I am always overlooked. But I don’t fancy people from the forum anyway, so it isn’t a loss to me at all. My fishing pond has never and will never be the forum. Gives me the massive ick lol
I am curious to the ‘massive ick’ you get from people in the forums?
Also I don’t think you do get over looked, I see your name as much as anyones in thread games when you are in |
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"Does anyone ever come on here, use the forums, chat to people etc and come away actually feeling good about themselves for once?
It’s happened to me, I play forum games, women are matching me, flirting, I am messaging one or two hotties and receiving compliments. All things I am not used to in my day to day life. Then I leave the house, chest held high, almost swaggering I feel so good.
Then it fades away when women don’t make eye contact, no compliments on looks ever, no flirting at all, literally zero interest.
It’s an odd thing. Then come back on here and it’s all different again… (Not all the time however, some people can make you feel like crap if they want to)
Does this or something similar happen to you? Do you feel like a different person almost on here? "
On Fab? Yeah - lots of lovely messages, meets are always positive and lead to more. Always a confidence booster!
On the forums? Nope - I’m not one of the dozen or so accounts who like to stroke each other's egos, so I’m almost exclusively overlooked. If I took it personally, I’d be crushed! I’m over them and the folks who spaff their pants because someone from hundreds of miles away graciously replied to them 🥱
Real-life Fab is great! Forum Fab..meh 🫤
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Actually,it's quite the opposite for me, I don't really get into the forums ,just the odd comment if something if the topic interests me. As for flirting on here I have no clue , I probably come off as nonchalant , but I guess that's down to my age, I no longer chase anyone for their attention. |
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On the forum? Never. I am always overlooked. But I don’t fancy people from the forum anyway, so it isn’t a loss to me at all. My fishing pond has never and will never be the forum. Gives me the massive ick lol
Same....the cringy fake flirting gives me a giggle though 🤣 "
This is true! I play a little game with myself, with one particular account - a little guessing game of who they’ll reply to and who they’ll blank..they never let me down 😂
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I get sod all on here, it's donkey work, out on the town I can pull well above my batting averages (my own estimations) I've always been given compliments especially when younger, I used to train every day and played rugby, sadly time waits for no man and it's nice to be nice xx |
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Honestly, no. I don't get loads of attention in my messages (good filters), on forums, or in real life, and I'm perfectly fine with that.
I'm not here for a confidence boost or validation from strangers. Fab passes the time, I've had some interesting conversations, and a giggle. That's enough for me. |
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On the forum? Never. I am always overlooked. But I don’t fancy people from the forum anyway, so it isn’t a loss to me at all. My fishing pond has never and will never be the forum. Gives me the massive ick lol
Same....the cringy fake flirting gives me a giggle though 🤣
This is true! I play a little game with myself, with one particular account - a little guessing game of who they’ll reply to and who they’ll blank..they never let me down 😂
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You can always tell 🤣🤣 |
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By *oldmilkMan 14 hours ago
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I never really rate a second look away from fab.
It’s nice playing games, interacting with a few people, getting a few compliments and making people laugh.
I’m under no illusions though that any attention and flirting I get here doesn’t mean anything it’s just talk. If I thought it actually did mean something, I’d probably go mad. |
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On the forum? Never. I am always overlooked. But I don’t fancy people from the forum anyway, so it isn’t a loss to me at all. My fishing pond has never and will never be the forum. Gives me the massive ick lol
Same....the cringy fake flirting gives me a giggle though 🤣
This is true! I play a little game with myself, with one particular account - a little guessing game of who they’ll reply to and who they’ll blank..they never let me down 😂
E
You can always tell 🤣🤣"
Bet there’s pure rage that there isn’t a notifications feature in the forums, and they have to scroll through the unworthy to find their “friends” 🙄 Or a little WhatsApp group to let each other know they’ve replied 🤦🏻♀️😂
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In the real world no one would give me a second glance and I certainly dont get complimented or flirted with. But Im confident in myself, who I am and quite independent so it doesnt bother me.
But yes fab can give me a confidence boost and put a little smile on my face, even though I know most of the flirting in the forums is just banter and fun. Still nice to feel seen and appreciated though 😃 |
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On the forum? Never. I am always overlooked. But I don’t fancy people from the forum anyway, so it isn’t a loss to me at all. My fishing pond has never and will never be the forum. Gives me the massive ick lol
Same....the cringy fake flirting gives me a giggle though 🤣
This is true! I play a little game with myself, with one particular account - a little guessing game of who they’ll reply to and who they’ll blank..they never let me down 😂
E"
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"In the real world no one would give me a second glance and I certainly dont get complimented or flirted with. But Im confident in myself, who I am and quite independent so it doesnt bother me.
But yes fab can give me a confidence boost and put a little smile on my face, even though I know most of the flirting in the forums is just banter and fun. Still nice to feel seen and appreciated though 😃"
must be slow down south xx |
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"In the real world no one would give me a second glance and I certainly dont get complimented or flirted with. But Im confident in myself, who I am and quite independent so it doesnt bother me.
But yes fab can give me a confidence boost and put a little smile on my face, even though I know most of the flirting in the forums is just banter and fun. Still nice to feel seen and appreciated though 😃"
You’re probably dressed a little more understated in the real world than you are on here though 🤣 |
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On the forum? Never. I am always overlooked. But I don’t fancy people from the forum anyway, so it isn’t a loss to me at all. My fishing pond has never and will never be the forum. Gives me the massive ick lol
Same....the cringy fake flirting gives me a giggle though 🤣
This is true! I play a little game with myself, with one particular account - a little guessing game of who they’ll reply to and who they’ll blank..they never let me down 😂
E
You can always tell 🤣🤣
Bet there’s pure rage that there isn’t a notifications feature in the forums, and they have to scroll through the unworthy to find their “friends” 🙄 Or a little WhatsApp group to let each other know they’ve replied 🤦🏻♀️😂
E"
You sound as bitter as me when I first started talking in the forums… |
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By *iver78Man 13 hours ago
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Can't say i do lol , I get confidence in the real world , fab is just something I use to pass the time and keep me of ebay and vinted when I board at work , I do chat to few nice ladies / couples on here but i cant say i use it to help me feel confident |
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I'm pretty much invisible both here and in real life 🙄
I've joined in some of the forum games, but that can often make me feel down if you don't feel part of it.
I find real life easier. The only problem is I don't get out much, so I turn to things online, which isn't ideal.
The main thing OP is to remain the good genuine person you are. Sooner or later, hopefully FAB life confidence will carry into real life 👍 |
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"I don’t really see most of the attention I get on fab as being genuine so it doesn’t really affect my confidence either way.
Getting attention in real life is a nice little boost though.
Kx"
I’d agree with this , although in real life I just get really awkward and make a tit of myself |
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By *avinaTVTV/TS 13 hours ago
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I *am* a different person on here. 🤣
I can just imagine my colleagues' faces if I turned up on the morning call as Davina. At least one of them is a mild transphobe, so he'd probably shit.
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I’m definitely more confident on here. I am a little flirty in real life but not as much as on here. I am a flatterer but in real life people probably want less flattery than on here if that makes sense? |
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"I'm pretty much invisible both here and in real life 🙄
I've joined in some of the forum games, but that can often make me feel down if you don't feel part of it.
I find real life easier. The only problem is I don't get out much, so I turn to things online, which isn't ideal.
The main thing OP is to remain the good genuine person you are. Sooner or later, hopefully FAB life confidence will carry into real life 👍"
Hey buddy, sorry you have felt left out of stuff. It took me a while to post threads, chat and start interacting with people. I got your back in future! |
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"In the real world no one would give me a second glance and I certainly dont get complimented or flirted with. But Im confident in myself, who I am and quite independent so it doesnt bother me.
But yes fab can give me a confidence boost and put a little smile on my face, even though I know most of the flirting in the forums is just banter and fun. Still nice to feel seen and appreciated though 😃
You’re probably dressed a little more understated in the real world than you are on here though 🤣"
Oh i dont know, i go out in my bed sheet to do the weekly shop often but people look away in disgust and the police frown on it a bit 🤣 |
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I'm more confident and get more attention in real life than fab, I don't actually flirt or really chat with many women on here currently anyway... as has been said, i take any compliments here with a pinch of salt. |
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Probably feel the same here and in real life. The people that get to know me understand me, those who don't, don't matter. After years in the site, I've only ventured into the forums recently but I get a lot of interaction, a few messages, etc. However, as with the main site and real life, it's all just an unconditional conversation without motive or obligation unless the lady tries to jump me |
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By *dstefiMan 13 hours ago
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It might sound fake but I really don't give a shit whether I'm in with the cool kids or not. Sure it's nice to feel seen and gives you a bit of a lift and endorphin buzz, but ultimately it doesn't mean much.
I do enjoy engaging with people more via PMs than in public forum, although a post that catches your eye is usually what starts it. And it doesn't always have to be with an ulterior motive; I've had some interesting chats with straight blokes who aren't interested in me that way at all and had some nice compliments from women who aren't about to drop their knickers for me either.
It's just about fellow feeling and humanity and all that jazz (or jizz, if things do unexpectedly heat up ) |
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It can be a bit of a confidence boost but I do take most compliments on fab with a pinch of salt. Some men would tell a blank profile they’re the most beautiful woman in the world if he thinks it’ll help him get his leg over 😆 |
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"I'm pretty much invisible both here and in real life 🙄
I've joined in some of the forum games, but that can often make me feel down if you don't feel part of it.
I find real life easier. The only problem is I don't get out much, so I turn to things online, which isn't ideal.
The main thing OP is to remain the good genuine person you are. Sooner or later, hopefully FAB life confidence will carry into real life 👍
Hey buddy, sorry you have felt left out of stuff. It took me a while to post threads, chat and start interacting with people. I got your back in future! "
Thanks mate. It's more my personality type than anything though. The forums can be a great outlet for a bit of fun, and most people are really nice 😊 |
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On the forum? Never. I am always overlooked. But I don’t fancy people from the forum anyway, so it isn’t a loss to me at all. My fishing pond has never and will never be the forum. Gives me the massive ick lol
Same....the cringy fake flirting gives me a giggle though 🤣
This is true! I play a little game with myself, with one particular account - a little guessing game of who they’ll reply to and who they’ll blank..they never let me down 😂
E
You can always tell 🤣🤣
Bet there’s pure rage that there isn’t a notifications feature in the forums, and they have to scroll through the unworthy to find their “friends” 🙄 Or a little WhatsApp group to let each other know they’ve replied 🤦🏻♀️😂
E
You sound as bitter as me when I first started talking in the forums… "
Not bitter, just observant 😊
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By *ose toyMan 13 hours ago
I just exist |
"Does anyone ever come on here, use the forums, chat to people etc and come away actually feeling good about themselves for once?
It’s happened to me, I play forum games, women are matching me, flirting, I am messaging one or two hotties and receiving compliments. All things I am not used to in my day to day life. Then I leave the house, chest held high, almost swaggering I feel so good.
Then it fades away when women don’t make eye contact, no compliments on looks ever, no flirting at all, literally zero interest.
It’s an odd thing. Then come back on here and it’s all different again… (Not all the time however, some people can make you feel like crap if they want to)
Does this or something similar happen to you? Do you feel like a different person almost on here? "
Yep, described it perfectly |
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I think here most of the compliments can be taken with a pinch of salt,I prefer comments about my personality to my looks as they seem a bit more genuine.
I'm guilty of being a flirty bitch it's all good fun.
Also don't give a shite if I'm noticed or not I still post my shite  |
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"I'm pretty much invisible both here and in real life 🙄
I've joined in some of the forum games, but that can often make me feel down if you don't feel part of it.
I find real life easier. The only problem is I don't get out much, so I turn to things online, which isn't ideal.
The main thing OP is to remain the good genuine person you are. Sooner or later, hopefully FAB life confidence will carry into real life 👍
Hey buddy, sorry you have felt left out of stuff. It took me a while to post threads, chat and start interacting with people. I got your back in future!
Thanks mate. It's more my personality type than anything though. The forums can be a great outlet for a bit of fun, and most people are really nice 😊"
Trust me, most people absolutely don’t get my humour at all. I overwrite things (such as my opening post) I have been described as ‘word vomit’ and I say the wrong things sometimes and really mess things up with people. Just keep being you though, the people who connect with your personality end up revealing themselves! |
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It used to give me a little boost when I first started. Now, I just think a lot od people will pay the same compliment to any other vagina owner (and some penis owners too) on here.
A compliment about my personality means more to me, but I'm a bit of a cunt so they're few and far between
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"It used to give me a little boost when I first started. Now, I just think a lot od people will pay the same compliment to any other vagina owner (and some penis owners too) on here.
A compliment about my personality means more to me, but I'm a bit of a cunt so they're few and far between
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Its like we are twins |
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"It used to give me a little boost when I first started. Now, I just think a lot od people will pay the same compliment to any other vagina owner (and some penis owners too) on here.
A compliment about my personality means more to me, but I'm a bit of a cunt so they're few and far between
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A loveable one though 😁 |
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"It used to give me a little boost when I first started. Now, I just think a lot od people will pay the same compliment to any other vagina owner (and some penis owners too) on here.
A compliment about my personality means more to me, but I'm a bit of a cunt so they're few and far between
Its like we are twins "
Best way to be! |
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"It used to give me a little boost when I first started. Now, I just think a lot od people will pay the same compliment to any other vagina owner (and some penis owners too) on here.
A compliment about my personality means more to me, but I'm a bit of a cunt so they're few and far between
A loveable one though 😁"
I'll take that |
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"I don't get half as much attention in real life compared to fab. Sure, from the right people it's a nice confidence boost, but like others have said, take most with a pinch of salt."
Ill boost your confidence any day 😘 x |
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By *eliWoman 13 hours ago
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On here, a lot of people are logging on in positive moods (not including the Groaning Gerties), to escape the mundane, various other things. They're more open to flirting, interacting on the forums.
In real life people are getting on with their lives.
I leave the forums generally feeling as I did when I first logged on. They don't have a bind over me, if I weren't enjoying them I'd take a break - my time is valuable to waste it on things that are making me unhappy.
You should be feeling yourself when away from the forums, OP. Not based on if women flirt with you in real life or not.  |
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"I don't get half as much attention in real life compared to fab. Sure, from the right people it's a nice confidence boost, but like others have said, take most with a pinch of salt.
Ill boost your confidence any day 😘 x"
Do i take that with a pinch or salt or what? 🤣🤣 X |
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"I’m overlooked in all areas.. might actually be invisible
We should form a secret group.
The Invisibles 👀
Yes!! I love this idea!! We could be like superheroes!!
E"
First rule of The Invisibles 👀
Don't tell anyone you're in The Invisibles 👍 |
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By *dstefiMan 13 hours ago
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In real life I'm a far more brazen flirt and more edgy conversationalist than I am here. I'm no stranger to the "what the fuck Steve?" dropping in the middle of a conversation. Not that I'm unfiltered; I do genuinely enjoy getting just that micrometre outside of people's comfort zones and chitchat. |
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"On here, a lot of people are logging on in positive moods (not including the Groaning Gerties), to escape the mundane, various other things. They're more open to flirting, interacting on the forums.
In real life people are getting on with their lives.
I leave the forums generally feeling as I did when I first logged on. They don't have a bind over me, if I weren't enjoying them I'd take a break - my time is valuable to waste it on things that are making me unhappy.
You should be feeling yourself when away from the forums, OP. Not based on if women flirt with you in real life or not. "
Happiness and contentment from within. Only you decide how you feel. Always |
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"I’m overlooked in all areas.. might actually be invisible
We should form a secret group.
The Invisibles 👀
Yes!! I love this idea!! We could be like superheroes!!
E
First rule of The Invisibles 👀
Don't tell anyone you're in The Invisibles 👍"
🥷🤫🤐
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"I don't get half as much attention in real life compared to fab. Sure, from the right people it's a nice confidence boost, but like others have said, take most with a pinch of salt.
Ill boost your confidence any day 😘 x
Do i take that with a pinch or salt or what? 🤣🤣 X"
Ill let you decide that 😜 x |
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"I’m overlooked in all areas.. might actually be invisible
We should form a secret group.
The Invisibles 👀
Yes!! I love this idea!! We could be like superheroes!!
E
First rule of The Invisibles 👀
Don't tell anyone you're in The Invisibles 👍"
I can see you  |
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"I don't get half as much attention in real life compared to fab. Sure, from the right people it's a nice confidence boost, but like others have said, take most with a pinch of salt.
Ill boost your confidence any day 😘 x
Do i take that with a pinch or salt or what? 🤣🤣 X"
3 tablespoons of salt from Essex lad |
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"I’m overlooked in all areas.. might actually be invisible
We should form a secret group.
The Invisibles 👀
Yes!! I love this idea!! We could be like superheroes!!
E
First rule of The Invisibles 👀
Don't tell anyone you're in The Invisibles 👍
I can see you "
Nope..you can’t..we’re THE INVISIBLES!!
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"I don't get half as much attention in real life compared to fab. Sure, from the right people it's a nice confidence boost, but like others have said, take most with a pinch of salt.
Ill boost your confidence any day 😘 x
Do i take that with a pinch or salt or what? 🤣🤣 X
3 tablespoons of salt from Essex lad "
Not even teaspoons 🤣 |
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"I don't get half as much attention in real life compared to fab. Sure, from the right people it's a nice confidence boost, but like others have said, take most with a pinch of salt.
Ill boost your confidence any day 😘 x
Do i take that with a pinch or salt or what? 🤣🤣 X
3 tablespoons of salt from Essex lad
Not even teaspoons 🤣"
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By *issEmmWoman 13 hours ago
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"I’m overlooked in all areas.. might actually be invisible
We should form a secret group.
The Invisibles 👀
Yes!! I love this idea!! We could be like superheroes!!
E
First rule of The Invisibles 👀
Don't tell anyone you're in The Invisibles 👍"
Imagine the chaos we could cause  |
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I think fab, for me, is different to real life. On here its more about looks. In real life, people like me for my personality. I join in with some forum games. Sometimes I get overlooked, sometimes I don't. If I get mentioned in any, I try to do some sort of a reply. Sometimes I have nice chats that make me smile. Sometimes I hide my profile x |
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"I’m overlooked in all areas.. might actually be invisible
We should form a secret group.
The Invisibles 👀
Yes!! I love this idea!! We could be like superheroes!!
E
First rule of The Invisibles 👀
Don't tell anyone you're in The Invisibles 👍
Imagine the chaos we could cause "
Swoop in and not reply to anyone 👀😅😂
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By *issEmmWoman 13 hours ago
Bournemouth |
"I’m overlooked in all areas.. might actually be invisible
We should form a secret group.
The Invisibles 👀
Yes!! I love this idea!! We could be like superheroes!!
E
First rule of The Invisibles 👀
Don't tell anyone you're in The Invisibles 👍
Imagine the chaos we could cause
Swoop in and not reply to anyone 👀😅😂
E"
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 |
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"I’m overlooked in all areas.. might actually be invisible
We should form a secret group.
The Invisibles 👀
Yes!! I love this idea!! We could be like superheroes!!
E
First rule of The Invisibles 👀
Don't tell anyone you're in The Invisibles 👍
Imagine the chaos we could cause
Swoop in and not reply to anyone 👀😅😂
E
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣"
Maybe we should start a thread 🤔💭
Say you’re in, and then don’t reply to anyone or fab their pics 👀
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"Does anyone ever come on here, use the forums, chat to people etc and come away actually feeling good about themselves for once?
It’s happened to me, I play forum games, women are matching me, flirting, I am messaging one or two hotties and receiving compliments. All things I am not used to in my day to day life. Then I leave the house, chest held high, almost swaggering I feel so good.
Then it fades away when women don’t make eye contact, no compliments on looks ever, no flirting at all, literally zero interest.
It’s an odd thing. Then come back on here and it’s all different again… (Not all the time however, some people can make you feel like crap if they want to)
Does this or something similar happen to you? Do you feel like a different person almost on here? "
Not really |
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By *ustBoWoman 13 hours ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
I get about the same level of attention on here as in real life. Which isn't a lot of I'm honest. Fab has never boosted my confidence really. Most compliments on here are disingenuous and can turn on a 6 pence if you say no thanks. You go from gorgeous to a fat pig in micro seconds so I tend to pay no heed.
In life outside of here I tend to not get a second glance. But then I don't go out much and am more than happy at home with my animals. The only compliments I pay attention to are from close friends and close family members to me they are the ones that matter because they are genuine . |
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The difference in answers is great. I like that not many people feel the way I do. We all have our quirks and ways of thinking/feeling.
To those in here who feel invisible… if I have had any part in that, please accept my apology. I genuinely don’t want people to feel left out or an outsider to a tight knit group. I have been there, it didn’t feel good.
Message me if you ever feel invisible or want to chat, you never know we could have a laugh about something completely random or just say a few fleeting words. |
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We get attention equally in real life as on fab. Mrs is the social one in real life, Mr online.
Takes a lot to listen to compliments and gain confidence. Most is taken in real life and particularly in clubs. The brain is hard to turn round from what you think. Fake it till make it. I’m at the stage now where I just take their word for it and do what makes me happy x |
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"The difference in answers is great. I like that not many people feel the way I do. We all have our quirks and ways of thinking/feeling.
To those in here who feel invisible… if I have had any part in that, please accept my apology. I genuinely don’t want people to feel left out or an outsider to a tight knit group. I have been there, it didn’t feel good.
Message me if you ever feel invisible or want to chat, you never know we could have a laugh about something completely random or just say a few fleeting words."
It’s all good, don’t worry about us 😊 there have been umpteen threads recently about this very thing. And the same accounts will keep messaging the same accounts, and ignoring everyone else. If being in that exclusive bubble makes them feel better about themselves, then more power to them. What irks is when they claim to be inclusive, then blatantly aren’t - at least be honest about it! Not you, OP - you seem to be including everyone here. Others? Meh…
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By *issEmmWoman 12 hours ago
Bournemouth |
"The difference in answers is great. I like that not many people feel the way I do. We all have our quirks and ways of thinking/feeling.
To those in here who feel invisible… if I have had any part in that, please accept my apology. I genuinely don’t want people to feel left out or an outsider to a tight knit group. I have been there, it didn’t feel good.
Message me if you ever feel invisible or want to chat, you never know we could have a laugh about something completely random or just say a few fleeting words."
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Do I have men approaching me a couple of times a week saying I look beautiful in real life? No of course not.
Do they do it on fab. Yes they do but we all know what they're after and it's not the top of the milk on their cornflakes.
Fab and real life are different for a lot of us |
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By *tormQueenWoman 12 hours ago
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"Does anyone ever come on here, use the forums, chat to people etc and come away actually feeling good about themselves for once?
It’s happened to me, I play forum games, women are matching me, flirting, I am messaging one or two hotties and receiving compliments. All things I am not used to in my day to day life. Then I leave the house, chest held high, almost swaggering I feel so good.
Then it fades away when women don’t make eye contact, no compliments on looks ever, no flirting at all, literally zero interest.
It’s an odd thing. Then come back on here and it’s all different again… (Not all the time however, some people can make you feel like crap if they want to)
Does this or something similar happen to you? Do you feel like a different person almost on here? "
I chitter chatter on here, i chitter chatter in real like so its pretty much all the same to me
Im relatively allergic to compliments on here, i tend to take them as pretty meaningless, i get some attention in the real world which is nice
On the forums i take it as it comes, i know what some posters are talking about with the selective responsers though, the patterns are obvious when you see them 🤣🤣 |
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It never ceases to amaze me when most (not all) women lament about being ignored, disregarded or overlooked and yet will happily participate in certain 'compliment threads' or 'appreciation' threads — threads where they give a perfunctory "Count me in!" and then sit back and wait for the shower of plaudits and adulations being thrown at them like confetti from a cohort of sycophantic and naïve menfolk.
I noticed recently a few threads where men were sending the majority, if not all, of the 'oofts', 'aahs' and compliments. The women did absolutely nothing to instigate a compliment other than reply to those who had mentioned them by name. I won't deny that perhaps the messages sent by the men were probably hollow and clichéd. Faux flattery is better than nothing when it's just a game, for fun.
It's not practical to acknowledge every woman on those types of threads but at least the men are trying. If some women took a leap of faith then perhaps they might not get overlooked.
If anyone is being disingenuous it certainly isn't the men. |
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I link nothing that happens in fab to the value that I have in really life. Maybe I’m one of the few that could walk away from fab tomorrow and it would have zero impact in my life.
Maybe that sounds a little harsh. Yes it’s nice to be included in threads but when I’m often overlooked then that thread isn’t for me. The value that I have doesn’t change.
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"The difference in answers is great. I like that not many people feel the way I do. We all have our quirks and ways of thinking/feeling.
To those in here who feel invisible… if I have had any part in that, please accept my apology. I genuinely don’t want people to feel left out or an outsider to a tight knit group. I have been there, it didn’t feel good.
Message me if you ever feel invisible or want to chat, you never know we could have a laugh about something completely random or just say a few fleeting words."
No need to apologise 😊
It's just the way the world works. Some people stand out more than others and some get lost in the background 🙄
It's totally understandable 👍
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By *eliWoman 12 hours ago
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"It never ceases to amaze me when most (not all) women lament about being ignored, disregarded or overlooked and yet will happily participate in certain 'compliment threads' or 'appreciation' threads — threads where they give a perfunctory "Count me in!" and then sit back and wait for the shower of plaudits and adulations being thrown at them like confetti from a cohort of sycophantic and naïve menfolk."
Yep. There's a thread Nora did. Maybe still does? I don't know, it's been years since I joined. When I did I'd happily send in possibly slightly too many messages for people. And women would complain about not getting anything.
Actually, people who complain about being ignored, overlooked and all that whilst doing very little?  And no, I don't say I'm inclusive but I do talk to a range of people. Make an effort. |
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"The difference in answers is great. I like that not many people feel the way I do. We all have our quirks and ways of thinking/feeling.
To those in here who feel invisible… if I have had any part in that, please accept my apology. I genuinely don’t want people to feel left out or an outsider to a tight knit group. I have been there, it didn’t feel good.
Message me if you ever feel invisible or want to chat, you never know we could have a laugh about something completely random or just say a few fleeting words.
It’s all good, don’t worry about us 😊 there have been umpteen threads recently about this very thing. And the same accounts will keep messaging the same accounts, and ignoring everyone else. If being in that exclusive bubble makes them feel better about themselves, then more power to them. What irks is when they claim to be inclusive, then blatantly aren’t - at least be honest about it! Not you, OP - you seem to be including everyone here. Others? Meh…
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I’m not so innocent, I have made ‘friends’ on here and some people I have either met or planning to meet. So I probably do chat to them more on threads, I know their personalities better and can relate them to situations or games. People I have never spoken to, I know nothing about their humour, the way they talk, how friendly they are etc same way if you walked into a house party and there were 30 people in front of you, you would walk towards the 4 people you know first.
I definitely have tried to be inclusive of all genders and people, especially new people, I even have a secret buddy or two that I help in some forum games when they feel left out! But I have a long way to go. Sorry if my ‘bitter’ comment earlier sounded hostile, there was truth behind the fact that is literally how I felt when nobody included me in anything |
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"The difference in answers is great. I like that not many people feel the way I do. We all have our quirks and ways of thinking/feeling.
To those in here who feel invisible… if I have had any part in that, please accept my apology. I genuinely don’t want people to feel left out or an outsider to a tight knit group. I have been there, it didn’t feel good.
Message me if you ever feel invisible or want to chat, you never know we could have a laugh about something completely random or just say a few fleeting words.
It’s all good, don’t worry about us 😊 there have been umpteen threads recently about this very thing. And the same accounts will keep messaging the same accounts, and ignoring everyone else. If being in that exclusive bubble makes them feel better about themselves, then more power to them. What irks is when they claim to be inclusive, then blatantly aren’t - at least be honest about it! Not you, OP - you seem to be including everyone here. Others? Meh…
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I’m not so innocent, I have made ‘friends’ on here and some people I have either met or planning to meet. So I probably do chat to them more on threads, I know their personalities better and can relate them to situations or games. People I have never spoken to, I know nothing about their humour, the way they talk, how friendly they are etc same way if you walked into a house party and there were 30 people in front of you, you would walk towards the 4 people you know first.
I definitely have tried to be inclusive of all genders and people, especially new people, I even have a secret buddy or two that I help in some forum games when they feel left out! But I have a long way to go. Sorry if my ‘bitter’ comment earlier sounded hostile, there was truth behind the fact that is literally how I felt when nobody included me in anything"
No need to apologise, didn’t take it that way at all 😊 I’m far too long in the tooth be too troubled by strangers off the internet not replying to me 😅 I tend not to participate in those kinds of threads any more - I don’t really fancy the people in there, so there’s no point 😂 I tend to contribute to the discussion posts, when I’ve got something to contribute - advice, experience, or an opinion. And not to be noticed - just to offer my thoughts. I find that’s the best way to be 😊
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"It can be a bit of a confidence boost but I do take most compliments on fab with a pinch of salt. Some men would tell a blank profile they’re the most beautiful woman in the world if he thinks it’ll help him get his leg over 😆"
Totally agree with this.
I'm the same person on here as in a real life situations.. I'm friendly towards anyone and will engage in conversation with anyone. The hardest part is knowing if in real life are they single or not... and if it's worth continuing the flirting.. |
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By *ustBoWoman 12 hours ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
"It never ceases to amaze me when most (not all) women lament about being ignored, disregarded or overlooked and yet will happily participate in certain 'compliment threads' or 'appreciation' threads — threads where they give a perfunctory "Count me in!" and then sit back and wait for the shower of plaudits and adulations being thrown at them like confetti from a cohort of sycophantic and naïve menfolk.
I noticed recently a few threads where men were sending the majority, if not all, of the 'oofts', 'aahs' and compliments. The women did absolutely nothing to instigate a compliment other than reply to those who had mentioned them by name. I won't deny that perhaps the messages sent by the men were probably hollow and clichéd. Faux flattery is better than nothing when it's just a game, for fun.
It's not practical to acknowledge every woman on those types of threads but at least the men are trying. If some women took a leap of faith then perhaps they might not get overlooked.
If anyone is being disingenuous it certainly isn't the men."
To be fair I haven't taken part in any thread like that for years. And when I did I actually participated as well in them. So I agreed partly with what you said in that regard. It always seems to be the way you describe for the most part.
I don't think my post was about being ignored on here it was more I get about the same attention on her as I do outside. Well to be fair outside of here I don't I tend to hang about in just my lingerie so I probably get less attention and that suits me if I'm honest. I'm quite introverted and prefer a quiet life. Even on here I prefer to take control of my inbox with filters tighter than a ducks ass so I'm not inundated with messages.
I'm too old and grumpy to be dealing with false platitudes and compliments and taking fab too seriously. It's just a way to pass a bit of time it's not a lifestyle to me .
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"It can be a bit of a confidence boost but I do take most compliments on fab with a pinch of salt. Some men would tell a blank profile they’re the most beautiful woman in the world if he thinks it’ll help him get his leg over 😆
Totally agree with this.
I'm the same person on here as in a real life situations.. I'm friendly towards anyone and will engage in conversation with anyone. The hardest part is knowing if in real life are they single or not... and if it's worth continuing the flirting.. "
Isn’t it just as hard on here to tell if people are single or not…? I hear it very often that people are on here sneakily behind their partners back.
I guess in real life a wedding ring or suspicious ring shaped tan on their wedding finger is usually a giveaway |
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By *erdyHollyTV/TS 12 hours ago
In a galaxy far far away |
It's nice to get compliments, but as well as the good, there's also the bad.
At the end of the day it's just words on the internet from random people all over the UK (unless you have met them)
Real life experiences are where it matters. |
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By *aked beachMan 12 hours ago
Just A Stranger In A Strange Land. |
It’s the opposite way around for me OP, but then it couldn’t be any worse in real life than it is on here! I get some eye contact in the real world, nothing comes of it and I certainly don’t try to develop anything. On here, nothing. I had a purple patch 4-6 weeks ago, got a couple of (short lived) conversations going from forum games but those ended fairly abruptly. I’ve decided to step away from that now, just going to lurk and follow the threads mostly.
My confidence isn’t affected by Fab, one way or another. |
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I kind of get what you're saying, OP - I definitely have higher currency on Fab than in real life.
But this place exists for that kind of flirting and chat so natural to have more of the 'good' on here? I don't leave the house expecting women to pay me compliments or flirt with me on the tube to work? 🤷🏽 |
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"I kind of get what you're saying, OP - I definitely have higher currency on Fab than in real life.
But this place exists for that kind of flirting and chat so natural to have more of the 'good' on here? I don't leave the house expecting women to pay me compliments or flirt with me on the tube to work? 🤷🏽"
That's about it isn't it. |
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By *agic.MMan 12 hours ago
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Ha...funny enough there was a girl at the gym today that said to me "you're looking popular " - I choose to believe she said that in annoyance rather than admiration. But yeah definitely get more "compliments " on fab (which I thoroughly enjoy) than real life - which could also be because I'm so intimidatingly good looking and scare women away 💁♂️ |
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"Does anyone ever come on here, use the forums, chat to people etc and come away actually feeling good about themselves for once?
It’s happened to me, I play forum games, women are matching me, flirting, I am messaging one or two hotties and receiving compliments. All things I am not used to in my day to day life. Then I leave the house, chest held high, almost swaggering I feel so good.
Then it fades away when women don’t make eye contact, no compliments on looks ever, no flirting at all, literally zero interest.
It’s an odd thing. Then come back on here and it’s all different again… (Not all the time however, some people can make you feel like crap if they want to)
Does this or something similar happen to you? Do you feel like a different person almost on here? "
Total opposite for me, zero interaction at all on here
IRL I'll usually get a smile, eye contact or a 'Hiya' if I'm out and about |
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Get fuck all on here ha
Do get looked at and the odd compliment in real life (mostly for my tan though ha) only in summer when physique on show as face and hair look like been shot out of a civil war cannon into an erupting volcano, well maybe that a slight exaggeration but you get the point haha |
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By *oldmilkMan 11 hours ago
Trouble, apparently… |
"I'm invisible in real life. Just another shadow in the crowd. You'd walk past me and not notice me. But on Fab...I am the designated driver of the banter bus."
You drive so we may drink.
I salute you, sir. |
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"I'm invisible in real life. Just another shadow in the crowd. You'd walk past me and not notice me. But on Fab...I am the designated driver of the banter bus.
You drive so we may drink.
I salute you, sir. "
Cheers mate 👍🏾😊
Enjoy your evening. |
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I struggle with social stuff a lot, IRL, on social media and on fab. I just sometimes feel quite anxious in a lot of social situations, and I fear it makes me seem standoffish or rude. I get on my own nerves a bit with it and it really gets to me sometimes. But I try and god love a tryer right? |
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By *oldmilkMan 11 hours ago
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Those compliments mean sweet fuck all most of the time. "
Well…. When I compliment someone here, I mean it. The compliment itself is very real in that respect. That being said, if you accept the compliment and pass one back, I won’t be driving up to Scotland and knocking on your door.
Well, I am driving to Scotland at the end of the week, but for a holiday. Wave if you see me. |
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"I'm invisible in real life. Just another shadow in the crowd. You'd walk past me and not notice me. But on Fab...I am the designated driver of the banter bus."
We are all shadows in the crowd, but you don't go unnoticed. I was there to see it 🌷 |
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"I'm invisible in real life. Just another shadow in the crowd. You'd walk past me and not notice me. But on Fab...I am the designated driver of the banter bus.
You drive so we may drink.
I salute you, sir.
Cheers mate 👍🏾😊
Enjoy your evening."
Lies! Anyone who has the pleasure of getting to know you would never agree you’re invisible. You’re an amazingly fun and great guy. Your personality brings people together and you have the art of making people feel comfortable and themselves. It’s something that not many people have. |
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By *avexxMan 11 hours ago
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"I'm invisible in real life. Just another shadow in the crowd. You'd walk past me and not notice me. But on Fab...I am the designated driver of the banter bus.
You drive so we may drink.
I salute you, sir.
Cheers mate 👍🏾😊
Enjoy your evening.
Lies! Anyone who has the pleasure of getting to know you would never agree you’re invisible. You’re an amazingly fun and great guy. Your personality brings people together and you have the art of making people feel comfortable and themselves. It’s something that not many people have. "
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"I'm invisible in real life. Just another shadow in the crowd. You'd walk past me and not notice me. But on Fab...I am the designated driver of the banter bus.
You drive so we may drink.
I salute you, sir.
Cheers mate 👍🏾😊
Enjoy your evening.
Lies! Anyone who has the pleasure of getting to know you would never agree you’re invisible. You’re an amazingly fun and great guy. Your personality brings people together and you have the art of making people feel comfortable and themselves. It’s something that not many people have. .. well said i agree with you young man "
💚💙❤️🫂 You guys 🙌🏾😁 |
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"I'm invisible in real life. Just another shadow in the crowd. You'd walk past me and not notice me. But on Fab...I am the designated driver of the banter bus.
We are all shadows in the crowd, but you don't go unnoticed. I was there to see it 🌷"
That's definitely not normal for me. Thank you ❤️👍🏾 |
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In everyday life I generally dont get a lot of attention or even see anyone looking at me to be fair so I have no idea whether its even something that people do in public anymore. Im not sure that people really approach other people in public anymore. Im convinced that its a lost skill and most people swipe left or right nowadays so have no real idea how to start a conversation in real life. The only time I notice people looking or paying attention to me is at clubs or swinging events, and I genuinely believe thats because its an environment where it is accepted and even expected. Everyone is too scared or worried about offending someone that they rarely approach people in general public anymore. When I was younger it was common for men to come up to me and start a conversation or just come in for a snog right away. It was common for men to press themselves against you, grope you and grind on you too which was not acceptable to me at all. Progress was needed but now its gone too far the other way in my opinion. I genuinely wouldnt mind receiving compliments or being asked to switch numbers even if I wasnt looking to meet people. Its nice to feel attractive isnt it x
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By *Effy-Woman 11 hours ago
Scotland |
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Those compliments mean sweet fuck all most of the time.
Well…. When I compliment someone here, I mean it. The compliment itself is very real in that respect. That being said, if you accept the compliment and pass one back, I won’t be driving up to Scotland and knocking on your door.
Well, I am driving to Scotland at the end of the week, but for a holiday. Wave if you see me. "
I don't doubt that you mean it, but you (general you) wouldn't be dishing out those compliments if I was fully dressed walking down the street.
A high percentage of compliments I and many other women receive on here daily has an agenda behind it.
It doesn't boost my confidence any.
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A high percentage of compliments I and many other women receive on here daily has an agenda behind it.
It doesn't boost my confidence any.
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The first day I joined fab on my first account. I got hundreds of messages calling me beautiful and sexy .... when I hadn't even uploaded a picture.
So I don't take compliments kn here very seriously
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"I'm invisible in real life. Just another shadow in the crowd. You'd walk past me and not notice me. But on Fab...I am the designated driver of the banter bus.
You drive so we may drink.
I salute you, sir.
Cheers mate 👍🏾😊
Enjoy your evening.
Lies! Anyone who has the pleasure of getting to know you would never agree you’re invisible. You’re an amazingly fun and great guy. Your personality brings people together and you have the art of making people feel comfortable and themselves. It’s something that not many people have. .. well said i agree with you young man "
I just have good skin. I’m actually really old 😂😂 |
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Im not the confident person my photos may suggest and never get compliments in the big bad world. I do understand what this site is, put the best photos I can on and tell everyone who compliments them its all about angles and lighting. So I try not to take things too seriously but obviously its still nice to recieve a little boost now n then |
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By *Effy-Woman 11 hours ago
Scotland |
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A high percentage of compliments I and many other women receive on here daily has an agenda behind it.
It doesn't boost my confidence any.
The first day I joined fab on my first account. I got hundreds of messages calling me beautiful and sexy .... when I hadn't even uploaded a picture.
So I don't take compliments kn here very seriously "
Who cares what you actually look like, I'm still going to tell you you're the best looking woman on Fab incase you want to shag me. |
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A high percentage of compliments I and many other women receive on here daily has an agenda behind it.
It doesn't boost my confidence any.
The first day I joined fab on my first account. I got hundreds of messages calling me beautiful and sexy .... when I hadn't even uploaded a picture.
So I don't take compliments kn here very seriously
Who cares what you actually look like, I'm still going to tell you you're the best looking woman on Fab incase you want to shag me."
I tell her she’s hot just to annoy her 😂😂 |
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By *mf123Man 10 hours ago
with one foot out the door |
Im confident in real life i used to be more so much more seductive comedic now im more in a dont give a fuck kind of way like it or dont i simply dont care
But then i lack a hunger i used to |
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By *Effy-Woman 10 hours ago
Scotland |
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A high percentage of compliments I and many other women receive on here daily has an agenda behind it.
It doesn't boost my confidence any.
The first day I joined fab on my first account. I got hundreds of messages calling me beautiful and sexy .... when I hadn't even uploaded a picture.
So I don't take compliments kn here very seriously
Who cares what you actually look like, I'm still going to tell you you're the best looking woman on Fab incase you want to shag me.
I tell her she’s hot just to annoy her 😂😂"
You've been lying to me the entire time?! I'm shocked. |
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By *sWyldWoman 10 hours ago
Edinburgh |
Fab confirms my belief that I'm fuckable but not datable. In general I'm not someone that gets flirted with in the real world. Sure its lovely to receive compliments etc here , but it doesn't really boost my confidence as I know most of what gets said has little meaning behind it.
I'm not hugely confident in real life and even on here at times. The site doesn't really change that for me. |
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"Actually, people who complain about being ignored, overlooked and all that whilst doing very little? And no, I don't say I'm inclusive but I do talk to a range of people. Make an effort."
Spot on. Yes, if you're new and haven't put much effort into interacting, just stating "I'm lots of fun" on the profile isn't going to get you knee deep in clunge (or cock) overnight. You get out what you put in and it takes time, but people will notice you eventually if you make posts and comments that show your brain inhabits a space somewhere north of your crotch. |
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I'm the same person on Fab as I am in the "real" world away from Fab.
I take any compliments on here with a pinch of salt...it's nice to be complimented, don't get me wrong & it is appreciated, but I wouldn't say I feel any different about myself away from here. I know I'm not everyone's cup of tea & I don't actively seek attention or overtly flirt in my day to day life.
With regards to receiving attention from the forums, I couldn't give a flying fuck tbh🤷🏽♀️....I don't need validation from a bunch of online strangers that I'm never going to meet in the real world.
I enjoy the forums for the content, be it informative, witty banter or just plain fun. It's all just a time filler for me on here.....& to perve the smuggled budgies😇
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"I'm the same person on Fab as I am in the "real" world away from Fab.
I take any compliments on here with a pinch of salt...it's nice to be complimented, don't get me wrong & it is appreciated, but I wouldn't say I feel any different about myself away from here. I know I'm not everyone's cup of tea & I don't actively seek attention or overtly flirt in my day to day life.
With regards to receiving attention from the forums, I couldn't give a flying fuck tbh🤷🏽♀️....I don't need validation from a bunch of online strangers that I'm never going to meet in the real world.
I enjoy the forums for the content, be it informative, witty banter or just plain fun. It's all just a time filler for me on here.....& to perve the smuggled budgies😇
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A high percentage of compliments I and many other women receive on here daily has an agenda behind it.
It doesn't boost my confidence any.
The first day I joined fab on my first account. I got hundreds of messages calling me beautiful and sexy .... when I hadn't even uploaded a picture.
So I don't take compliments kn here very seriously
Who cares what you actually look like, I'm still going to tell you you're the best looking woman on Fab incase you want to shag me."
What if people said that and actually meant it?
For the situation of people saying someone looks beautiful and sexy without even seeing a picture is just ridiculous, I guess they were copy paste messages sent by idiot male accounts no doubt? Unless they really have a thing for that black generic silhouette look |
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"Honestly, fab is very much enhancing boosting my confidence up so much!
Without you guys, I'd still be hiding underneath a pineapple! 😂"
Glad to see that it has helped you mate. Although like me, try to find the balance between here and real life.
Sometimes that confidence wears off within 5 minutes of leaving the house, hopefully you get more out of it though! |
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I will be honest Fab has been good for the confidence. In real life I have always been looked at but that’s purely down to my height and never anything flirty.
That said, I have recently realised that if I wear my glasses then I do get a different kind of look from ladies and even the occasional smile. |
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Not really, because compliments on here are ten a penny and mostly said to get in your knickers.
In person if a fella tells me I have nice tits then I believe him as he has real life experience of their gravitational pull.
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By *oodo69Man 2 hours ago
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Its feels quite the opposite for me. I do find it a lot easier to find connection, attraction and get flirty with people in person than on here.
Maybe its just the sheer fact that there are so many men here compared to women, and that will surely affect people when u can just pick and choose. In that position its a lot easier to be short, rude or even arrogant, than in the real world, face to face.
Experiencing that doesnt boost confidence for anyone surely.
But there are exceptions of course, thank god.
Happy fabbing all xx |
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No difference for me in positive / flirts etc. the only difference is I get more hate messages abuse on here than I have ever got in real life in the real world.
It doesn’t affect me though as I don’t take fab seriously remotely |
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I have more positive interactions off fab than I do on it.
Personality shows better off here for me clearly. Or maybe my profile is shit. Who knows. But I definitely do better, off here than on.
But here you know you get someone more aligned with your thinking straight off without beating around the bush so to speak. |
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"Not really, because compliments on here are ten a penny and mostly said to get in your knickers.
In person if a fella tells me I have nice tits then I believe him as he has real life experience of their gravitational pull.
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Gravitational pull, ha I like that.
Put it this way though, it’s a swingers site, a sex site if you will. So 9 times out of 10 when a guy messages you on here he is looking to have it lead on to sex. Same as x amount of women messaging guys, it’s not to say hi how’s your day going, bye.
But… I can only speak for myself here, if I say a compliment then I mean it. If someone is kind, attractive, funny etc and I tell them that, it isn’t for the sake of it. I’m not trying to hit on every woman here.
Of course some guys may say whatever they think you want to hear to try and get in your pants.
I am under no illusions saying a compliment will get me anything. I don’t feel that level of entitlement that some guys seems to have on here. |
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I've never relied on fab for my confidence or self esteem.
I genuinely felt invisible for the first 50 years of my life and dealt with that in various ways through each decade.
I didn't join fab until I was 52 and by that stage a couple of things had happened that were life changing and life affirming so fab had little or no effect one way or the other.
I'm proud of how I look for my age which is why I have so many pics and I like to be appreciated but I get less than a handful of fabs on any pic I put up so thankfully my ego or self esteem doesn't rely on fabs.
I'm more than happy to be looked at on here but I still won't take my shirt off in public and don't even walk around my own home shirtless or naked. |
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No, i never come onto Fab for a confidence boost, ever!! I dont really use Fab for meeting, or making friends, but just as a distraction really. Any messages i get, based on a few pics of my cleavage, i take with a generous pinch of salt!!
I get what i want away from here, friends, boyfriends, lovers etc and pretty much all the attention i need/want. |
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By *andl2004Couple 45 minutes ago
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I always get complimented on my dress style and sense of humour which I'm told laughs the ladies into bed. I as a male never have much luck on fab so cut chats short as prefer a face to face social. On that note I never have a club visit where I dont end up playing so sometimes real life is better.
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I'm more confident in my everyday life, probably a bit too confident. I'm made to feel wanted every day, i'm lusted after even looking like i've been dragged through a bush while wearing Disney pjs, and I'm valued as a person not just for my tits.
On Fab, I do get a fleeting ego boost from the fabs, messages etc. and very occasionally someone can catch my attention enough to want to have sex with them,but that happens a lot less than it did 12/13 years ago. The attention isn't as important to me anymore, but it still helps when finding those to have sex with.
The forums are the only place where I lack confidence, because of my own personal experiences.
I don't mind joining in the games and commenting on a few posts, and when joining in, I have no issue with being ignored because I know i'm not going to be everyone's cup of tea. My issue is not being ignored privately. When you see these people mentioning the names of the regular users while hopping in my inbox to tell me i'd be picked, it does slightly knock the ego 🤣. And that happens every time, including with couples and men i've met personally. One person has even used my real name, so they don't have to publicly announce my username 🤣. I think that's why I love lurking. I can still find out about people's views and get a glimpse at different personalities ,but without the insult of being privately adored on a public forum. |
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No definitely not. I’m too cynical for that unfortunately. I take compliments on here with a ton of salt. I’m quite a confident person anyway though really. I just see fab as a bit of fun and every now and then I meet someone nice |
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