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By *ottonABC OP   Couple 3 weeks ago

Crewe

What is the etiquette in a gloryhole?

Scenario is me and my wife were one side and a cock is offered through the hole.

Can we both give him a blow job or not?

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By *akie32Man 3 weeks ago

winchester


"What is the etiquette in a gloryhole?

Scenario is me and my wife were one side and a cock is offered through the hole.

Can we both give him a blow job or not?"

who would know?

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By *ottonABC OP   Couple 3 weeks ago

Crewe

The guy when he felt a second mouth??

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By *isex funCouple 3 weeks ago

Southam

I guess it depends on if it's a bi night or not at the club. We alternate if we're in the gloryhole but when in a private room we tend to do it together.

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By *9alMan 3 weeks ago

Bridgend

Glory holes are designed to be anon you dont know who or what gender is on the other side & dont care as long as its enjoyable

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By *ottonABC OP   Couple 2 weeks ago

Crewe


"Glory holes are designed to be anon you dont know who or what gender is on the other side & dont care as long as its enjoyable "

So I’m your view if you put your cock in a gloryhole you’re open to the idea a guy might give you a blow job.

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By *he MuffinmanMan 2 weeks ago

gloucestershire


"What is the etiquette in a gloryhole?

Scenario is me and my wife were one side and a cock is offered through the hole.

Can we both give him a blow job or not?"

It wouldn’t bother me, to be fair….. as long as it was enjoyable

A BJ is a BJ lol

X

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By *he MuffinmanMan 2 weeks ago

gloucestershire


"Glory holes are designed to be anon you dont know who or what gender is on the other side & dont care as long as its enjoyable

So I’m your view if you put your cock in a gloryhole you’re open to the idea a guy might give you a blow job. "

I think if a couple is on the other side then it may be likely to happen …. In my experience

X

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By *iking67Man 2 weeks ago

BP Auckland


"Glory holes are designed to be anon you dont know who or what gender is on the other side & dont care as long as its enjoyable

So I’m your view if you put your cock in a gloryhole you’re open to the idea a guy might give you a blow job. "

Surely the anonymity of a ghost means it could be anyone. That's all part of the fun of it

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By *iking67Man 2 weeks ago

BP Auckland

Glory hole not ghost bloody autocorrect

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By *uicypeaches77Couple 2 weeks ago

Plymouth

Unless it’s bi night I personally think most guys in a club would be straight and not welcome a bj from a guy.

It’s generally ladies in there , if a guy wants to give a bloke a bj why doesn’t he just say it’s him in there..and let guys that want it go ahead …

Consensual , polite and reasonable as with all activities in a club.

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By *un Times 1Man 2 weeks ago

coventry

It may well be a couple in there. Maybe the woman likes to watch her man give another guy a blowjob. How would you know, who is giving it.

I am sure this scenario happened to me. It is the not knowing, I believe that is the whole point of Gloryholes. The anonymity!

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By *harismatic duoCouple 2 weeks ago

Derby


"Glory holes are designed to be anon you dont know who or what gender is on the other side & dont care as long as its enjoyable "

Correct!

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By *ornyguy12349Man 2 weeks ago

ripon

Anything goes

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By *ustfun1000Man 2 weeks ago

hanwell

If it’s supposed to be f one side and m other side then you might get a problem.

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By *ang BazzaMan 2 weeks ago

Cirencester

You could offer “Can you tell the difference?”

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By *ial5555Couple 2 weeks ago

Dover

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By *ial5555Couple 2 weeks ago

Dover


"Glory holes are designed to be anon you dont know who or what gender is on the other side & dont care as long as its enjoyable

Correct! "

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By *igcam25Man 2 weeks ago

sheffield

Of course, if the guy is happy not knowing or even if he does know, that might be his thing.

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By (user no longer on site) 2 weeks ago

Whole point is the anonymity, the thrill of a complete unknown person sucking you! M or F it doesn’t matter !

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By *parkys69Man 2 weeks ago

Shrewsbury/Telford West Midlands


"Whole point is the anonymity, the thrill of a complete unknown person sucking you! M or F it doesn’t matter !"
This ??

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By *NorthernBMan 2 weeks ago

Acklam


"Whole point is the anonymity, the thrill of a complete unknown person sucking you! M or F it doesn’t matter ! This ??"

Mine would be the opposite anonymity.

I like the thrill of watching the lady, and her not knowing who's cock it's going to be next ..so she can't see who, but we could?

I couldn't go with not knowing who would be attending mine ..I do have some limits!

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By *otnew16Man 2 weeks ago

Dartford

It wouldn’t bother me at all. The not knowing would add to the experience for me.

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By (user no longer on site) 2 weeks ago


"Whole point is the anonymity, the thrill of a complete unknown person sucking you! M or F it doesn’t matter ! This ??

Mine would be the opposite anonymity.

I like the thrill of watching the lady, and her not knowing who's cock it's going to be next ..so she can't see who, but we could?

I couldn't go with not knowing who would be attending mine ..I do have some limits! "

So a one way pane of glass or something?!

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By *kybluearmyMan 2 weeks ago

wednesbury

If you want to know who is noshing you off , glory holes ain’t for you , the whole point is both sides can’t see who is there

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By *ophieslutTV/TS 2 weeks ago

Central

Gloryhole etiquette means that a cock through a hole has no guarantee of any action, nor of the identity of the others, unless verbally agreed.

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By *mizhereMan 2 weeks ago

Stokenchurch

Being bono appreciate both blowing me

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By (user no longer on site) 2 weeks ago


"Gloryhole etiquette means that a cock through a hole has no guarantee of any action, nor of the identity of the others, unless verbally agreed. "

this!

next question is, how long do you wait before removing your cock in disappointment?

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By *ostinstokeMan 2 weeks ago

meir

More importantly, where is this gloryhole

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By *iverpoolgirl1234Woman 2 weeks ago

Liverpool

Put your dick through the hole at your own risk I’d say

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By *reasyontheeyesMan 2 weeks ago

Exeter


"What is the etiquette in a gloryhole?

Scenario is me and my wife were one side and a cock is offered through the hole.

Can we both give him a blow job or not?

who would know?"

I think the stubble may give it away. But then if she had shaved the toplip that night it could be hard to tell

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By *entlecaressMan 2 weeks ago

Wakefield


"What is the etiquette in a gloryhole?

Scenario is me and my wife were one side and a cock is offered through the hole.

Can we both give him a blow job or not?"

If they put it through a hole then they know the risks, as has been said not knowing is part of the fun. Enjoy.

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By *ompeysoldierMan 2 weeks ago

Portsmouth

I wouldn't have the balls to put my cock through one tbf.

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By *jonesMan 2 weeks ago

Truro


"What is the etiquette in a gloryhole?

Scenario is me and my wife were one side and a cock is offered through the hole.

Can we both give him a blow job or not?

If they put it through a hole then they know the risks, as has been said not knowing is part of the fun. Enjoy. "

This is bollocks ..

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By *NorthernBMan 2 weeks ago

Acklam


"Whole point is the anonymity, the thrill of a complete unknown person sucking you! M or F it doesn’t matter ! This ??

Mine would be the opposite anonymity.

I like the thrill of watching the lady, and her not knowing who's cock it's going to be next ..so she can't see who, but we could?

I couldn't go with not knowing who would be attending mine ..I do have some limits!

So a one way pane of glass or something?! "

Yes, two way mirror or just a viewing hatch from above would be great.

Horses for courses ..Glory holes for straight guys too please (ladies only the other side).

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By *entlecaressMan 2 weeks ago

Wakefield


"What is the etiquette in a gloryhole?

Scenario is me and my wife were one side and a cock is offered through the hole.

Can we both give him a blow job or not?

If they put it through a hole then they know the risks, as has been said not knowing is part of the fun. Enjoy.

This is bollocks .. "

Usually cant get them through just cock.

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By *ewBurtonMan 2 weeks ago

Derby


"What is the etiquette in a gloryhole?

Scenario is me and my wife were one side and a cock is offered through the hole.

Can we both give him a blow job or not?"

Yes please

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By *ohn boy 30Man 2 weeks ago

reading

I will be more than, please to receive that kind of treatment two mouth ??

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By *razytimesinloveCouple 2 weeks ago

SW Scotland


"What is the etiquette in a gloryhole?

Scenario is me and my wife were one side and a cock is offered through the hole.

Can we both give him a blow job or not?"

Think that’s the whole idea behind it

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By *_MariusMan 2 weeks ago

Currently Faraway


"What is the etiquette in a gloryhole?

Scenario is me and my wife were one side and a cock is offered through the hole.

Can we both give him a blow job or not?"

For me, the real question here is, would you be ballzy enough to grow a bit of facial hair around the lips so that the “dick” on the other side of the wall could feel it? If you do that, for devilment’s sake, I tip my hat off to you in respect.

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By *rinity666Man 2 weeks ago

Away for work abroad long term,

Its 2022 now..live a little.. suck it baby suck.. a Glory hole holds all the mystery in a club for us..

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By * AND R 777Couple 2 weeks ago

Teesside

If you stick your cock in a hole expecting a BJ and you don't know who is in there, I don't think you can complain as the hole point is its anonymous

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By *aron_TentakuruMan 2 weeks ago

Exeter

There's a club in Czech Republic where they have a photo of who is in the hole stuck outside...

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By * AND R 777Couple 2 weeks ago

Teesside


"There's a club in Czech Republic where they have a photo of who is in the hole stuck outside... "

That seems to defeat the hole point of it

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By *DW1983Man 2 weeks ago

Aberdeen & Sheffield

I think unless it were a bi night then I'd expect it to be a man on one side and a woman on the other, and I don't think that's an unfair expectation.

On the other hand, I'd be looking through the hole or through the door/opening before putting my cock through to make sure.

I think if it were a couple in there, most guys would be expecting the woman to be the one sucking, and it would be sensible to assume that any guy offering his cock were straight unless specifically told otherwise or given clear consent. As much as it's great to normalise being bi and open about it, please don't confuse that with it being normal to be bi... Most guys probably aren't and would likely object.

I certainly wouldn't appreciate a guy touching/sucking me and justifying it with "it feels the same." Playing devil's advocate, how many other non-consensual (or worse) acts could we try and justify with 'it's ok, it wasn't what (s)he wanted, but it feels the same so they shouldn't mind.'

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By *uicypeaches77Couple 2 weeks ago

Plymouth


"If you stick your cock in a hole expecting a BJ and you don't know who is in there, I don't think you can complain as the hole point is its anonymous "

There is a general expectation , on a non bi night, that blokes don't give other blokes a bj..unless agreed ..I think , even in a glory hole. It's anonymous... but I don't think that's reasonable ... If a bloke wants to give another guy a bj .. why doesn't he just say.. and let the guys decide...

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By *_MariusMan 2 weeks ago

Currently Faraway

Another question here is: On a "non-bi" night in a swingers' club, are there any transvestites or transsexuals/transgender who attend? If the answer is a categorical "yes" then with all due respect I think it's a bit silly to expect only women to be on the receiving end of the glory hole. If the answer is a "no", then I am happy to stand corrected.

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By * AND R 777Couple 2 weeks ago

Teesside

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By *i14Man 2 weeks ago

Rayleigh

I’d love to find a glory hole with a couple the other side not knowing who your get or both even more exciting!!

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By *p-007Man 2 weeks ago

Aldershot

I think the whole not knowing whether it's a guy or female does it.

Does it matter. You're getting what you want in terms of a blowjob.

An arse or pussy backing up on to you maybe slightly different however

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By *oDownEasyMan 2 weeks ago

Somewhere on the Clyde

Like walking a tightrope... don't look down!

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By *uicypeaches77Couple 2 weeks ago

Plymouth


"Another question here is: On a "non-bi" night in a swingers' club, are there any transvestites or transsexuals/transgender who attend? If the answer is a categorical "yes" then with all due respect I think it's a bit silly to expect only women to be on the receiving end of the glory hole. If the answer is a "no", then I am happy to stand corrected."

In chams on a Friday ...I don't recall ever seeing any trans folk, not that I would mind. There is a very popular bi night on Mondays which might be different ...

So I would say no in answer to your question ...on a Friday ..at chams

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By *lentyInTheTank2021Man 2 weeks ago

premier Inn

I agree ….. I’d always be worried about it getting bitten off!!!

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By *lentyInTheTank2021Man 2 weeks ago

premier Inn


"Put your dick through the hole at your own risk I’d say "

I agree….. I’d be worried about it getting bitten off!!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS 2 weeks ago

Central


"I think unless it were a bi night then I'd expect it to be a man on one side and a woman on the other, and I don't think that's an unfair expectation.

On the other hand, I'd be looking through the hole or through the door/opening before putting my cock through to make sure.

I think if it were a couple in there, most guys would be expecting the woman to be the one sucking, and it would be sensible to assume that any guy offering his cock were straight unless specifically told otherwise or given clear consent. As much as it's great to normalise being bi and open about it, please don't confuse that with it being normal to be bi... Most guys probably aren't and would likely object.

I certainly wouldn't appreciate a guy touching/sucking me and justifying it with "it feels the same." Playing devil's advocate, how many other non-consensual (or worse) acts could we try and justify with 'it's ok, it wasn't what (s)he wanted, but it feels the same so they shouldn't mind.'"

Clubs have bi action on nights that aren't exclusively aimed at them.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS 2 weeks ago

Central


"Another question here is: On a "non-bi" night in a swingers' club, are there any transvestites or transsexuals/transgender who attend? If the answer is a categorical "yes" then with all due respect I think it's a bit silly to expect only women to be on the receiving end of the glory hole. If the answer is a "no", then I am happy to stand corrected."

We go all the time. MF Couples only nights are the typically restricted nights for who can attend at some clubs.

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By *elkieWoman 2 weeks ago

Durham


"I think unless it were a bi night then I'd expect it to be a man on one side and a woman on the other, and I don't think that's an unfair expectation.

On the other hand, I'd be looking through the hole or through the door/opening before putting my cock through to make sure.

I think if it were a couple in there, most guys would be expecting the woman to be the one sucking, and it would be sensible to assume that any guy offering his cock were straight unless specifically told otherwise or given clear consent. As much as it's great to normalise being bi and open about it, please don't confuse that with it being normal to be bi... Most guys probably aren't and would likely object.

I certainly wouldn't appreciate a guy touching/sucking me and justifying it with "it feels the same." Playing devil's advocate, how many other non-consensual (or worse) acts could we try and justify with 'it's ok, it wasn't what (s)he wanted, but it feels the same so they shouldn't mind.'"

Bollocks. It is totally normal to be bi, and not just for women.

Gloryholes are for anonymous blowjobs. That’s it. Any assumptions you make about who is on the other side say everything about you, and nothing at all about reality. That’s the entire point. It’s the thrill of playing with someone who has absolutely no control over what happens other than withdrawing his cock, who has chosen to put himself totally in the hands of an anonymous stranger. You have no control or power at all in this situation, other than ending it. You are totally submissive to a strangers whims and desires.

Don’t like it? Don’t stick your cock in a gloryhole. Simple.

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS 2 weeks ago

Bristol.


"I think unless it were a bi night then I'd expect it to be a man on one side and a woman on the other, and I don't think that's an unfair expectation.

On the other hand, I'd be looking through the hole or through the door/opening before putting my cock through to make sure.

I think if it were a couple in there, most guys would be expecting the woman to be the one sucking, and it would be sensible to assume that any guy offering his cock were straight unless specifically told otherwise or given clear consent. As much as it's great to normalise being bi and open about it, please don't confuse that with it being normal to be bi... Most guys probably aren't and would likely object.

I certainly wouldn't appreciate a guy touching/sucking me and justifying it with "it feels the same." Playing devil's advocate, how many other non-consensual (or worse) acts could we try and justify with 'it's ok, it wasn't what (s)he wanted, but it feels the same so they shouldn't mind.'

Bollocks. It is totally normal to be bi, and not just for women.

Gloryholes are for anonymous blowjobs. That’s it. Any assumptions you make about who is on the other side say everything about you, and nothing at all about reality. That’s the entire point. It’s the thrill of playing with someone who has absolutely no control over what happens other than withdrawing his cock, who has chosen to put himself totally in the hands of an anonymous stranger. You have no control or power at all in this situation, other than ending it. You are totally submissive to a strangers whims and desires.

Don’t like it? Don’t stick your cock in a gloryhole. Simple. "

I tend to agree with this..

It's worth looking at the history of glory holes and how they have evolved, it has predominantly been a male /male thing, but more recently, some heterosexual (esp males) want a piece of the action..

I think a different shape hole etc is required to satisfy both male and female..see Czech vids.It is slowly happening but some straight males need to be more creative in setting this up..

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By *amie2710Man 2 weeks ago

Welham Green


"Glory hole not ghost bloody autocorrect "

Ghost does sound good though

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By *dd_soxMan 2 weeks ago

Suffolk


"What is the etiquette in a gloryhole?

Scenario is me and my wife were one side and a cock is offered through the hole.

Can we both give him a blow job or not?"

Don't speak with your mouth full?

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By *isexmassageMan 2 weeks ago

andover

When a guy is getting his dick sucked I’m sure the last thing on his mind is

“It better be a woman “ lol

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By *uriousguy9999Man 2 weeks ago

Little Eaton,derby

I'd prefer both if I'm honest, but I'd be happy on either side too

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By *aresparkyMan 2 weeks ago

Birmingham

I'd be happy not knowing and just enjoy the bj, I just need to fund a glory hole near me! If anyone knows of one near Birmingham let me know!

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By *boveBeyondCouple 2 weeks ago

berkshire


"I guess it depends on if it's a bi night or not at the club. We alternate if we're in the gloryhole but when in a private room we tend to do it together."

That’s the chance you take putting your penis through a hole that you can’t see what’s on the other side. Put yourself in that situation you surely can’t expect your fairytale expectation surely!

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By *.BrooksMan 2 weeks ago

Blackwood

As a straight man I think you give your informed consent as soon as you stick your cock through a hole in a wall.

If you look through the hole/gap in the door I would expect you to be told to leave the hole regardless of whether they were single male/female or a couple. You have invaded their privacy and removed the anonymity. If you are not comfortable with the concept of a Glory hole you should not use them.

It doesn’t matter what your expectations are the act is meant to be anonymous for both parties. If you are not comfortable enough in your own sexuality that you think the possibility of an unknown persons lips touching your cock may turn you gay then I’d be worried. And if being touched by another man worries you more than the act of unprotected oral sex you are taking part in it says a lot about many men on this site.

You do have a choice your choice is to use them or not.


"I think unless it were a bi night then I'd expect it to be a man on one side and a woman on the other, and I don't think that's an unfair expectation.

On the other hand, I'd be looking through the hole or through the door/opening before putting my cock through to make sure.

I think if it were a couple in there, most guys would be expecting the woman to be the one sucking, and it would be sensible to assume that any guy offering his cock were straight unless specifically told otherwise or given clear consent. As much as it's great to normalise being bi and open about it, please don't confuse that with it being normal to be bi... Most guys probably aren't and would likely object.

I certainly wouldn't appreciate a guy touching/sucking me and justifying it with "it feels the same." Playing devil's advocate, how many other non-consensual (or worse) acts could we try and justify with 'it's ok, it wasn't what (s)he wanted, but it feels the same so they shouldn't mind.'"

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By *litterbabeWoman 2 weeks ago

hiding from cock pics.


"I think unless it were a bi night then I'd expect it to be a man on one side and a woman on the other, and I don't think that's an unfair expectation.

On the other hand, I'd be looking through the hole or through the door/opening before putting my cock through to make sure.

I think if it were a couple in there, most guys would be expecting the woman to be the one sucking, and it would be sensible to assume that any guy offering his cock were straight unless specifically told otherwise or given clear consent. As much as it's great to normalise being bi and open about it, please don't confuse that with it being normal to be bi... Most guys probably aren't and would likely object.

I certainly wouldn't appreciate a guy touching/sucking me and justifying it with "it feels the same." Playing devil's advocate, how many other non-consensual (or worse) acts could we try and justify with 'it's ok, it wasn't what (s)he wanted, but it feels the same so they shouldn't mind.'

Bollocks. It is totally normal to be bi, and not just for women.

Gloryholes are for anonymous blowjobs. That’s it. Any assumptions you make about who is on the other side say everything about you, and nothing at all about reality. That’s the entire point. It’s the thrill of playing with someone who has absolutely no control over what happens other than withdrawing his cock, who has chosen to put himself totally in the hands of an anonymous stranger. You have no control or power at all in this situation, other than ending it. You are totally submissive to a strangers whims and desires.

Don’t like it? Don’t stick your cock in a gloryhole. Simple. "

This makes sense to me.

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By *DW1983Man 2 weeks ago

Aberdeen & Sheffield


"I think unless it were a bi night then I'd expect it to be a man on one side and a woman on the other, and I don't think that's an unfair expectation.

On the other hand, I'd be looking through the hole or through the door/opening before putting my cock through to make sure.

I think if it were a couple in there, most guys would be expecting the woman to be the one sucking, and it would be sensible to assume that any guy offering his cock were straight unless specifically told otherwise or given clear consent. As much as it's great to normalise being bi and open about it, please don't confuse that with it being normal to be bi... Most guys probably aren't and would likely object.

I certainly wouldn't appreciate a guy touching/sucking me and justifying it with "it feels the same." Playing devil's advocate, how many other non-consensual (or worse) acts could we try and justify with 'it's ok, it wasn't what (s)he wanted, but it feels the same so they shouldn't mind.'

Bollocks. It is totally normal to be bi, and not just for women.

Gloryholes are for anonymous blowjobs. That’s it. Any assumptions you make about who is on the other side say everything about you, and nothing at all about reality. That’s the entire point. It’s the thrill of playing with someone who has absolutely no control over what happens other than withdrawing his cock, who has chosen to put himself totally in the hands of an anonymous stranger. You have no control or power at all in this situation, other than ending it. You are totally submissive to a strangers whims and desires.

Don’t like it? Don’t stick your cock in a gloryhole. Simple. "

I think you might be misunderstanding the nuance of what I said. It might be normal, in the sense of not abnormal, but I'd say its a safe bet that on an average night it's not "the norm" to be bi and most guys probably aren't. I may be wrong, it's late at night, I'm not goung to go out and do a survey. BUT regardless of what you or I think, I do believe that there would be a lot of guys who maybe don't follow forum discussions or who aren't on Fab whose idea of a gloryhole will be what they see from porn or what they assume/hope will be the case, which unless you are bi is generally woman sucking man. I think to assume that a guy is bi or won't care just because he's put his cock through is just as risky an assumption as assuming it will be a woman sucking, regardless of how you dress it up as "he does it at his own risk". There needs to be consent and understanding both ways.

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By *quarerootMan 2 weeks ago

Helston


"As a straight man I think you give your informed consent as soon as you stick your cock through a hole in a wall.

If you look through the hole/gap in the door I would expect you to be told to leave the hole regardless of whether they were single male/female or a couple. You have invaded their privacy and removed the anonymity. If you are not comfortable with the concept of a Glory hole you should not use them.

It doesn’t matter what your expectations are the act is meant to be anonymous for both parties. If you are not comfortable enough in your own sexuality that you think the possibility of an unknown persons lips touching your cock may turn you gay then I’d be worried. And if being touched by another man worries you more than the act of unprotected oral sex you are taking part in it says a lot about many men on this site.

You do have a choice your choice is to use them or not "

The most sensible response I have seen

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By *elkieWoman 2 weeks ago

Durham


"I think unless it were a bi night then I'd expect it to be a man on one side and a woman on the other, and I don't think that's an unfair expectation.

On the other hand, I'd be looking through the hole or through the door/opening before putting my cock through to make sure.

I think if it were a couple in there, most guys would be expecting the woman to be the one sucking, and it would be sensible to assume that any guy offering his cock were straight unless specifically told otherwise or given clear consent. As much as it's great to normalise being bi and open about it, please don't confuse that with it being normal to be bi... Most guys probably aren't and would likely object.

I certainly wouldn't appreciate a guy touching/sucking me and justifying it with "it feels the same." Playing devil's advocate, how many other non-consensual (or worse) acts could we try and justify with 'it's ok, it wasn't what (s)he wanted, but it feels the same so they shouldn't mind.'

Bollocks. It is totally normal to be bi, and not just for women.

Gloryholes are for anonymous blowjobs. That’s it. Any assumptions you make about who is on the other side say everything about you, and nothing at all about reality. That’s the entire point. It’s the thrill of playing with someone who has absolutely no control over what happens other than withdrawing his cock, who has chosen to put himself totally in the hands of an anonymous stranger. You have no control or power at all in this situation, other than ending it. You are totally submissive to a strangers whims and desires.

Don’t like it? Don’t stick your cock in a gloryhole. Simple.

I think you might be misunderstanding the nuance of what I said. It might be normal, in the sense of not abnormal, but I'd say its a safe bet that on an average night it's not "the norm" to be bi and most guys probably aren't. I may be wrong, it's late at night, I'm not goung to go out and do a survey. BUT regardless of what you or I think, I do believe that there would be a lot of guys who maybe don't follow forum discussions or who aren't on Fab whose idea of a gloryhole will be what they see from porn or what they assume/hope will be the case, which unless you are bi is generally woman sucking man. I think to assume that a guy is bi or won't care just because he's put his cock through is just as risky an assumption as assuming it will be a woman sucking, regardless of how you dress it up as "he does it at his own risk". There needs to be consent and understanding both ways."

Honestly? At the most conservative estimates, 3% of the population have sex with the same gender as them. That’s one person in a club on a quiet weeknight. 30% of generation Z have attraction to the same sex. For most club nights, I reckon 10-20% of people are bi, and not all of them women.

So yeah, I see the so-called nuance, and I want it to go away. That “nuance” limits other people’s ability to be their best selves. It creates shame and stigma and it’s harmful.

Another way of looking at it. How often do you see women muffdiving in clubs. It happens a lot, right? So what makes you think there’s not a comparable number of men who would like the same freedom to suck cock and fuck other men in public?

Also, according to porn, women don’t enjoy cunnilingus, don’t need foreplay, happily swap penetration from anal to vaginal without any thought of the potential infection risk, and very rarely orgasm. Oh. And we’re all waxed to within an inch of our lives and have bleached our assholes and had surgery to give us small and perfect labia. None of that nonsense has anything to do with my sex life, or any of the play I see at clubs.

Lastly, you’re missing my point about consent, so reread. I used small words to explain it the first time. If you’re someone who cares who is sucking your cock, then you need to sacrifice the anonymity. Swingers clubs do not revolve around straight mens pleasure.

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By *absam123Man 2 weeks ago

oldbury


"What is the etiquette in a gloryhole?

Scenario is me and my wife were one side and a cock is offered through the hole.

Can we both give him a blow job or not?"

Would make the whole situation a lot better for me I’m bi and would love the thought of 2 people sharing me

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By *utsiderWoman 2 weeks ago

fingers in many pies


"I think unless it were a bi night then I'd expect it to be a man on one side and a woman on the other, and I don't think that's an unfair expectation.

On the other hand, I'd be looking through the hole or through the door/opening before putting my cock through to make sure.

I think if it were a couple in there, most guys would be expecting the woman to be the one sucking, and it would be sensible to assume that any guy offering his cock were straight unless specifically told otherwise or given clear consent. As much as it's great to normalise being bi and open about it, please don't confuse that with it being normal to be bi... Most guys probably aren't and would likely object.

I certainly wouldn't appreciate a guy touching/sucking me and justifying it with "it feels the same." Playing devil's advocate, how many other non-consensual (or worse) acts could we try and justify with 'it's ok, it wasn't what (s)he wanted, but it feels the same so they shouldn't mind.'

Bollocks. It is totally normal to be bi, and not just for women.

Gloryholes are for anonymous blowjobs. That’s it. Any assumptions you make about who is on the other side say everything about you, and nothing at all about reality. That’s the entire point. It’s the thrill of playing with someone who has absolutely no control over what happens other than withdrawing his cock, who has chosen to put himself totally in the hands of an anonymous stranger. You have no control or power at all in this situation, other than ending it. You are totally submissive to a strangers whims and desires.

Don’t like it? Don’t stick your cock in a gloryhole. Simple. "

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By *taffybiMan 2 weeks ago

stoke on trent

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest, it's the anonymity that makes it.

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By *obtillsMan 2 weeks ago

Belfast

Hell yes

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By (user no longer on site) 2 weeks ago

Good question! Also: is it ok to cum in the mouth when given a bj in a glory hole?

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By *ittlechick77Couple 2 weeks ago

Staines


"I think unless it were a bi night then I'd expect it to be a man on one side and a woman on the other, and I don't think that's an unfair expectation.

On the other hand, I'd be looking through the hole or through the door/opening before putting my cock through to make sure.

I think if it were a couple in there, most guys would be expecting the woman to be the one sucking, and it would be sensible to assume that any guy offering his cock were straight unless specifically told otherwise or given clear consent. As much as it's great to normalise being bi and open about it, please don't confuse that with it being normal to be bi... Most guys probably aren't and would likely object.

I certainly wouldn't appreciate a guy touching/sucking me and justifying it with "it feels the same." Playing devil's advocate, how many other non-consensual (or worse) acts could we try and justify with 'it's ok, it wasn't what (s)he wanted, but it feels the same so they shouldn't mind.'

Bollocks. It is totally normal to be bi, and not just for women.

Gloryholes are for anonymous blowjobs. That’s it. Any assumptions you make about who is on the other side say everything about you, and nothing at all about reality. That’s the entire point. It’s the thrill of playing with someone who has absolutely no control over what happens other than withdrawing his cock, who has chosen to put himself totally in the hands of an anonymous stranger. You have no control or power at all in this situation, other than ending it. You are totally submissive to a strangers whims and desires.

Don’t like it? Don’t stick your cock in a gloryhole. Simple.

I tend to agree with this..

It's worth looking at the history of glory holes and how they have evolved, it has predominantly been a male /male thing, but more recently, some heterosexual (esp males) want a piece of the action..

I think a different shape hole etc is required to satisfy both male and female..see Czech vids.It is slowly happening but some straight males need to be more creative in setting this up..

"

how is it non consensual if you put your dick in the whole no one made you do it your choice your consent

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By *hrees companyMan 2 weeks ago

Yorks/Lancs Border & sometimes West Midlands


"What is the etiquette in a gloryhole?

Scenario is me and my wife were one side and a cock is offered through the hole.

Can we both give him a blow job or not?"

If its Bi night at Chamelons everyones happy

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By *JCouple 2 weeks ago

Teeside


"Good question! Also: is it ok to cum in the mouth when given a bj in a glory hole?"

That's a good question tbh

Interested in hearing different people's views.

KJ

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By *_MariusMan 2 weeks ago

Currently Faraway


"Another question here is: On a "non-bi" night in a swingers' club, are there any transvestites or transsexuals/transgender who attend? If the answer is a categorical "yes" then with all due respect I think it's a bit silly to expect only women to be on the receiving end of the glory hole. If the answer is a "no", then I am happy to stand corrected.

We go all the time. MF Couples only nights are the typically restricted nights for who can attend at some clubs. "

Therein lies the answer then. Unless it's a couples + single women only night, on any other "non-bi" but still mixed night when you see TVs/TSs in the crowd, you should expect literally ANY mouth to be wrapped around your dick. Literally, the purpose of a gloryhole is the 'anonymous fuck-and-go' encounter. You just want to face-fuck a mouth.

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By *exOnLegsPlymCouple 2 weeks ago

Plymouth

We share

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By *issRMrHCouple 2 weeks ago

Stourbridge

We always go in the glory holes together and share…. Surely if a guy is putting his cock through the hole he’s aware it could be M/F/both the other side, that’s the whole point isn’t it?!

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By *ntcovMan 1 week ago

Church Gresley / Swadlincote

I'd much rather a guy be on the other side sucking me, most times a guy gives a much better bj in my opinion.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman 1 week ago

North West

I’d expect anyone to be on the other side and in My opinion that’s the idea of it.

(Unless your at an organised event where bands are given out for preference).

I’d expect a guy to possibly want to stay until he cum so again, I’d expect it.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS 1 week ago

Central


"Good question! Also: is it ok to cum in the mouth when given a bj in a glory hole?"

Many cock suckers, I know I do, will welcome a creamy reward after giving great blowjobs. Often the suckers will get a feel for a guy being about to cum, so will take their preferred course of action. Depending on the environment, you can potentially say something, to let them know, or indicate some other way.

I've never seen it but using some basic tech, each side could communicate with the other, such as the recipient pressing a button that could illuminate on the other side, when he's very close to shooting his load.

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By *ollbiMan 1 week ago

gateshead


"What is the etiquette in a gloryhole?

Scenario is me and my wife were one side and a cock is offered through the hole.

Can we both give him a blow job or not?

Don't speak with your mouth full?"

just suck it and see.

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By *R LAWMan 1 week ago

Warwick

Finding the bloke looking inside the hole & realising he was your In-laws boyfriend as teenagers before getting Nicked for 'Boy-time' ?

&The Remaining Guys at least 15 years older smiling

It's courtesy to laugh 'on your own' driving home &

Not telling him your Sister & His Buds

With - how's u sausage jockey +

Yes interesting decorating you've got there

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple 1 week ago

Coventry & Leicester

I'm generally of the mind that you stick your cock in and you get what you get. I think everyone should take responsibility for where they stick their cock. So unless there was a promise it would be girls only you don't have a leg to stand on if you find out it was a man and you didn't want a man. Experience on the scene tells me a huge proportion of men on the scene are somewhere on the sexually bi scale and not too bothered even though they may identify as straight.

Personally I just avoid glory holes. First because I can't garentee (or should expect) a woman on the other side. Secondly I just not really that turned on by it as a prospect, not really my thing. Although I had fun when we took over the glory holes with some other couples. Guys one side women the other. I liked it because I knew what women it would be and that I fancied them all but didn't know who was behind each wall. Then the guys would keep swapping over until we'd all tried each others women. That was fun. Although I knew the hole My Girl was working before I got there myself from the noises the guys were making

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By *idnight_Express69Man 1 week ago

Rochdale


"What is the etiquette in a gloryhole?

Scenario is me and my wife were one side and a cock is offered through the hole.

Can we both give him a blow job or not?"

The whole point of a gloryhole is not knowing who is throating your cock. If a guy has an issue, guess he shouldn’t use a gloryhole

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By *uicypeaches77Couple 1 week ago

Plymouth


"Another question here is: On a "non-bi" night in a swingers' club, are there any transvestites or transsexuals/transgender who attend? If the answer is a categorical "yes" then with all due respect I think it's a bit silly to expect only women to be on the receiving end of the glory hole. If the answer is a "no", then I am happy to stand corrected.

We go all the time. MF Couples only nights are the typically restricted nights for who can attend at some clubs.

Therein lies the answer then. Unless it's a couples + single women only night, on any other "non-bi" but still mixed night when you see TVs/TSs in the crowd, you should expect literally ANY mouth to be wrapped around your dick. Literally, the purpose of a gloryhole is the 'anonymous fuck-and-go' encounter. You just want to face-fuck a mouth."

Therein doesn't lie any answers I don't see any logic in it being a couples and a single woman's nights and that being different if single guys are there ...there are a hell of a lot of bi guys part of a couple.

And to answer the original question I don't think I have ever seen a TV /TS at chameleons on a Friday evening ..and I would say that the vast majority of the single guys are not bi. I suspect most of the bi males are in fact in couples hoping for a treat in the glory holes.

So the answer is really clear, on a non bi night (Mondays are bi night) if a bi male wants to give a guy a bj why not ask..and not hide in a glory hole. And the straight guys (and ladies) can enjoy the glory holes...

Simples

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By *litterbabeWoman 1 week ago

hiding from cock pics.

Add into the mix, even if it is a lady on the receiving side, she may have assorted men's juices on her hands or in her mouth.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS 1 week ago

Central


"Another question here is: On a "non-bi" night in a swingers' club, are there any transvestites or transsexuals/transgender who attend? If the answer is a categorical "yes" then with all due respect I think it's a bit silly to expect only women to be on the receiving end of the glory hole. If the answer is a "no", then I am happy to stand corrected.

We go all the time. MF Couples only nights are the typically restricted nights for who can attend at some clubs.

Therein lies the answer then. Unless it's a couples + single women only night, on any other "non-bi" but still mixed night when you see TVs/TSs in the crowd, you should expect literally ANY mouth to be wrapped around your dick. Literally, the purpose of a gloryhole is the 'anonymous fuck-and-go' encounter. You just want to face-fuck a mouth.

Therein doesn't lie any answers I don't see any logic in it being a couples and a single woman's nights and that being different if single guys are there ...there are a hell of a lot of bi guys part of a couple.

And to answer the original question I don't think I have ever seen a TV /TS at chameleons on a Friday evening ..and I would say that the vast majority of the single guys are not bi. I suspect most of the bi males are in fact in couples hoping for a treat in the glory holes.

So the answer is really clear, on a non bi night (Mondays are bi night) if a bi male wants to give a guy a bj why not ask..and not hide in a glory hole. And the straight guys (and ladies) can enjoy the glory holes...

Simples "

As has been covered earlier, all nights are bi nights, just not exclusively promoted as 'bi' nights. All sexualities are present, whether in couples or singles, just as will be the case when you go to the supermarket.

Also. People are not 'hiding' in gloryholes, that's how gloryholes operate - there's an element of anonymity as standard.

Bi and gay sex is as acceptable on any night, we've long left the era when people weren't welcome somewhere, because of some characteristics.

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By *elkieWoman 1 week ago

Durham


"Another question here is: On a "non-bi" night in a swingers' club, are there any transvestites or transsexuals/transgender who attend? If the answer is a categorical "yes" then with all due respect I think it's a bit silly to expect only women to be on the receiving end of the glory hole. If the answer is a "no", then I am happy to stand corrected.

We go all the time. MF Couples only nights are the typically restricted nights for who can attend at some clubs.

Therein lies the answer then. Unless it's a couples + single women only night, on any other "non-bi" but still mixed night when you see TVs/TSs in the crowd, you should expect literally ANY mouth to be wrapped around your dick. Literally, the purpose of a gloryhole is the 'anonymous fuck-and-go' encounter. You just want to face-fuck a mouth.

Therein doesn't lie any answers I don't see any logic in it being a couples and a single woman's nights and that being different if single guys are there ...there are a hell of a lot of bi guys part of a couple.

And to answer the original question I don't think I have ever seen a TV /TS at chameleons on a Friday evening ..and I would say that the vast majority of the single guys are not bi. I suspect most of the bi males are in fact in couples hoping for a treat in the glory holes.

So the answer is really clear, on a non bi night (Mondays are bi night) if a bi male wants to give a guy a bj why not ask..and not hide in a glory hole. And the straight guys (and ladies) can enjoy the glory holes...

Simples "

Better idea. Given that gloryholes are an important part of gay and bi culture, women stop using them and honour their origins. Men who want the treat of a blowjob from a woman use their big boy words and ask for them.

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By *jonesMan 7 days ago

Truro


"Another question here is: On a "non-bi" night in a swingers' club, are there any transvestites or transsexuals/transgender who attend? If the answer is a categorical "yes" then with all due respect I think it's a bit silly to expect only women to be on the receiving end of the glory hole. If the answer is a "no", then I am happy to stand corrected.

We go all the time. MF Couples only nights are the typically restricted nights for who can attend at some clubs.

Therein lies the answer then. Unless it's a couples + single women only night, on any other "non-bi" but still mixed night when you see TVs/TSs in the crowd, you should expect literally ANY mouth to be wrapped around your dick. Literally, the purpose of a gloryhole is the 'anonymous fuck-and-go' encounter. You just want to face-fuck a mouth.

Therein doesn't lie any answers I don't see any logic in it being a couples and a single woman's nights and that being different if single guys are there ...there are a hell of a lot of bi guys part of a couple.

And to answer the original question I don't think I have ever seen a TV /TS at chameleons on a Friday evening ..and I would say that the vast majority of the single guys are not bi. I suspect most of the bi males are in fact in couples hoping for a treat in the glory holes.

So the answer is really clear, on a non bi night (Mondays are bi night) if a bi male wants to give a guy a bj why not ask..and not hide in a glory hole. And the straight guys (and ladies) can enjoy the glory holes...

Simples

As has been covered earlier, all nights are bi nights, just not exclusively promoted as 'bi' nights. All sexualities are present, whether in couples or singles, just as will be the case when you go to the supermarket.

Also. People are not 'hiding' in gloryholes, that's how gloryholes operate - there's an element of anonymity as standard.

Bi and gay sex is as acceptable on any night, we've long left the era when people weren't welcome somewhere, because of some characteristics. "

Like many different themed nights in clubs ..there are preferences ...bmfc , BBW etc ...of course every one is Welcome , but on some nights you have more of one subset of the community than on other nights .. This is why they have a bi night ... Focusing on bi folk.. And indeed on those nights non bi single guys are ... Not really Welcome... From my conversations with Fellow club members..

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By *auty NickMan 7 days ago

Witney

How delicious to have two mouths xx

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By *iscreet1090Man 7 days ago

tc

Can’t really complain can you can ? Love a gloryhole

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By *bgloryhole_partyCplCouple 6 days ago

Abingdon

Ours is a Czech Gloryhole so you can see exactly where your cock is going.

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By *arl17Man 6 days ago

South Central Portugal


"What is the etiquette in a gloryhole?

Scenario is me and my wife were one side and a cock is offered through the hole.

Can we both give him a blow job or not?

The whole point of a gloryhole is not knowing who is throating your cock. If a guy has an issue, guess he shouldn’t use a gloryhole "

Simples

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By *ihimbiherCouple 6 days ago

lightwater

If you put your cock into a whole in the wall, you don’t get a say on who is sucking. Isn’t that the point?

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