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Never promised this to anyone but recently ended up falling out with a guy on here when he told me I'd hurt his feelings by seeing someone else. Strangest thing was he's married and I'm single. We don't speak anymore. |
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By *arl17Man 23 weeks ago
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"Never promised this to anyone but recently ended up falling out with a guy on here when he told me I'd hurt his feelings by seeing someone else. Strangest thing was he's married and I'm single. We don't speak anymore. "
People are difficult to figure out sometimes i guess  |
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By *arl17Man 23 weeks ago
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"Never promised this to anyone but recently ended up falling out with a guy on here when he told me I'd hurt his feelings by seeing someone else. Strangest thing was he's married and I'm single. We don't speak anymore. "
And on a swingers site., ? .. Who knew ? |
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"Never promised this to anyone but recently ended up falling out with a guy on here when he told me I'd hurt his feelings by seeing someone else. Strangest thing was he's married and I'm single. We don't speak anymore.
And on a swingers site., ? .. Who knew ?"
I know, some weird stuff happens on here. |
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"Never promised this to anyone but recently ended up falling out with a guy on here when he told me I'd hurt his feelings by seeing someone else. Strangest thing was he's married and I'm single. We don't speak anymore. "
I hear of this happening frequently. It's one reason I smile wryly when people say if you meet married men or women there will be less drama. |
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I was chatting to 2 separate guys who were on fab (so looking for casual encounters you'd expect) and both flaked because I had a serious partner. I got the impression they wanted a woman for them while they were free to pursue anyone they wanted. Gender norms continue to exist in swinging sadly |
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"Never promised this to anyone but recently ended up falling out with a guy on here when he told me I'd hurt his feelings by seeing someone else. Strangest thing was he's married and I'm single. We don't speak anymore. "
It’s called having your cake and eating it. You dogged a bullet there. |
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"Never promised this to anyone but recently ended up falling out with a guy on here when he told me I'd hurt his feelings by seeing someone else. Strangest thing was he's married and I'm single. We don't speak anymore. "
I find this hard to understand. |
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"Never promised this to anyone but recently ended up falling out with a guy on here when he told me I'd hurt his feelings by seeing someone else. Strangest thing was he's married and I'm single. We don't speak anymore.
I find this hard to understand."
So did I |
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Exclusive for my wife, always check if go out with a platonic girl (space) friend for a holiday, walk, or day out that is is okay.
If I have an evening with FWB, on a break due to health reasons, then I also check with my wife.
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By *an1978Woman 23 weeks ago
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It can be very rewarding being in an exclusive circle.
But I wouldn't expect excluisivity from someone I've just met.
I have had men ive only talked to be jealous that I've met someone for coffee when they have a wife themselves??!?! |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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"Yeah or nah...
Met 2 people I chose to be exclusive with down to respect etc
I find men usually expect it. .
How are your experiences "
Men often expect exclusivity because they're worried their one chance at pussy might find someone better and leave them.. |
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"Yeah or nah...
Met 2 people I chose to be exclusive with down to respect etc
I find men usually expect it. .
How are your experiences
Men often expect exclusivity because they're worried their one chance at pussy might find someone better and leave them.."
True facts  |
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We have had single guys get all possessive with us in the past and obviously we fuck them straight off but we do wonder if SOME single guys are on here because they have trouble forming relationships owing to jealousy and insecurity issues.
My wife and I are faithful and honest with each other.
If we invite you in we will be honest with you but that’s all we owe you. |
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"Yeah or nah...
Met 2 people I chose to be exclusive with down to respect etc
I find men usually expect it. .
How are your experiences
Men often expect exclusivity because they're worried their one chance at pussy might find someone better and leave them.."
Ain't that the truth. Do what you want not what random men want |
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Married people whose partner is unaware want exclusivity because it lessens the risk of them giving their partner a sti. Which lets face it would be tricky to explain, nobody believes the 'i caught it from a toilet seat' any more |
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I've met people then met others and all of a sudden their tone has changed.
I move along after that, I'm not here for jealously or exclusivity. It hasn't happened often but it has happened here and there over the years. I've always been very upfront with who I am and what I'm here for. |
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I met a woman a few times on a previous profile and she insisted I be exclusive to her.
I told her I wasn't interested in that arrangement for a number of reasons one of which was that she had a number of fbs and declared that regardless of our arrangement she would continue to meet them and anyone else who took her fancy at socials and parties.
I walked away and became a bad guy in her eyes. |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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"I met a woman a few times on a previous profile and she insisted I be exclusive to her.
I told her I wasn't interested in that arrangement for a number of reasons one of which was that she had a number of fbs and declared that regardless of our arrangement she would continue to meet them and anyone else who took her fancy at socials and parties.
I walked away and became a bad guy in her eyes. "
Not sure how anyone makes such an ask given her stance on the matter. I guess anyone can make the ask and it's left to the other party to accept or decline. |
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I can be, and I am “exclusive” with my girlfriend in the emotional/romantic sense and always will be
Sexual exclusivity on the other hand, is not something I’m looking for now that I’ve discovered swinging. The likelihood of me going back to that is slim to none |
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I reckon that if you meet someone on a swingers website or in a swingers club then the question is being exclusive is a bit daft. It would have to be a mutual decision to both leave the lifestyle and no longer be swingers as the pure nature of swinging is sex with others  |
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Only really come across anything once.
A couple we were arranging a social with were unhappy that we were still active on Fab when we'd agreed to meet them. Unsurprisingly, we decided they weren't for us...
It is rather strange given its a swinging site.
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Back in the early days when I was a single guy I didn't expect or observe it. However there was a couple of women who did not demand it or vocalise it (adhering to the same lifestyle logic) but I definitely picked up a vibe they weren't 100% happy with the terms. I've experienced occasions when in conversation my recent activity with other women came up (normally a conversation instigated by them) or a new verification appeared on my profile. Their words would technically suggest they were cool with it and supportive but there would be an undercurrent, a vibe that would suggest otherwise. In my experience a lot women if they could have their optimal outcome it would be exclusively despite saying they're cool with NSA (probably many men too). Which I guess is just human. Not everyone deep down likes to share their toys. But at that time it was something I was unwilling to give because I was enjoying the freedom and variety on offer. That's why I entered this world to enjoybthe freedom and variety. To be fair one of these women didn't stick around on here too long after. I think ultimately Swinging wasn't for her.
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