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What makes a GOOD private swingers party?
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Im considering hosting private parties at my house. I own a house with 4 bedrooms I rent out using airbnb, but it seems perfect for a swingers party.
So with that in mind, im thinking of designing a swingers party that has everything you'd want. But also, I'd be open to ideas of how you could make it different, and it enhance things.
So,
What makes a good private swingers party?
What ideas have you had that could make it better, and different? |
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By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago
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A relaxed vibe and people who actually turn up would be the critical factors!
If you have enough interest then it's good to try and choose compatible numbers of couples / singles etc too. |
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By *rpeggioCouple 13 weeks ago
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The guests and the hosts is what makes it good.
There's about 4 to 5 dynamics within guests and the way they like to play. Some of them are compatible, some are not. Choose compatible dynamics for each particular set of guests and invite profiles that would fit those dynamics.
For example, couples into gangbangs for the lady will not mix well with Bi couples looking to play with other couples or Bi group play.
You can have both types of party, but be aware of the 4 or 5 different dynamics and invite guests that will not feel out of place.
Some dynamics need single men invited, others will not like single men in the party.
Besides that. The rest is logistics. We have never had any problem with people attending, as in the past we over invited by 25% so 1 in 4 would not turn up on average ans so ended more it he's worth the right amount of people.
Feel free to DM us with specific questions. If you'd find it useful, let us know here in the Forum and We will DM you first since you can't, we block single men. |
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By *rpeggioCouple 13 weeks ago
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By the way, if anyone in the South East is in a similar position as the OP with a house or flat they would be willing to make available or rent for a swingers party, let us know. We can help with the rest.
(Single males profiles state your interest here and we'll DM you since we block single Ms). |
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Hosted before (when a couple)
We invited two couples we already knew and who we felt would get on with eachother
We also had a few couples we had chatted to /had a social with
Also one or two that we'd not met but had been maybe on our hotlist and they'd messaged us
We found that it allowed for people to meet someone new
People to catch up with old friends
And we got to interact with possible without any awkwardness if we didn't fancy them irl
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By *enelope2UWoman 13 weeks ago
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Actually having compatible people there that have similar interests personalities because the HOST knows or can vouch for those invited or present or deciding if it's just going to be a brothel.
In the states lifestyle organisation was essential and a requirement of any swingers party/events.. Firstly it wasn't just bed notchers/fakes/porn dreamers it's called lifestyle for a reason..
there's nothing remotely close to that here. |
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A social, no sex space, a private room and a public room.
Clean towels, at least one non playing person who can deal with any problems, strict no is no policy, very little alcohol, condoms, lube, snacks, waterand access to a shower |
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By *enelope2UWoman 13 weeks ago
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"A social, no sex space, a private room and a public room.
Clean towels, at least one non playing person who can deal with any problems, strict no is no policy, very little alcohol, condoms, lube, snacks, waterand access to a shower"
Crazy basics like that go forgotten |
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"A social, no sex space, a private room and a public room.
Clean towels, at least one non playing person who can deal with any problems, strict no is no policy, very little alcohol, condoms, lube, snacks, waterand access to a shower
Crazy basics like that go forgotten "
Yeah. It's also wise to put any valuables and private correspondance somewhere inaccesible. For your guests and hosts benefit. Nobody wants to be accused of pinching great aunt Ethels diamond ring only for it to be found a week later. |
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Loads of wonderful advice here, thanks. Im definitely thinking about it for April time. Im thinking 10-15 people max. I have already thought of which rooms would be used for what etc. I probably just need to vet some people now, ha.
Thankyou all for the advice, genuinely really helped! |
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"A social, no sex space, a private room and a public room.
Clean towels, at least one non playing person who can deal with any problems, strict no is no policy, very little alcohol, condoms, lube, snacks, waterand access to a shower"
Great advice...I also put hand gels, wipes and bins in every room designated for play...
We curate our guest list extremely carefully...usually only people we know and have met before and who we know are respectful of our space and our other guests... |
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"Vetting guests. Quality over quantity. "
Absolutely this. We now host parties and only invite people we have physically met and think they would fit the dynamics of the evening. We had a bad experience once when we had an open invite event and we found a couple stealing bottles of spirits from our drinks cupboard....we asked them to leave after we made them put it back. Invite randoms and you get to spin the roulette wheel.... |
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By *ouple49Couple 12 weeks ago
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"Only invite people with good veris "
That’s the best advice and the most important. There’s a lot of people who attend parties just to be seen and don’t have any intentions of properly joining in etc. There’s also the element that get invited and don’t bother to turn up or even send apologies etc.
The best scenario is to only invite people you have actually met and know to be reliable and compatible; but few have enough friends to only do this and usually a few extras are needed. |
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Some of the parties we have attended a social meet in a pub a fews weeks before the party date for those who have shown interest.
Its a great way to sort the wheat from the chaff.
Expect a massive percentage of dreamers, timewasters and strange people but fab people too.
It's your house, you decide who is a good fit.
Once you have decided who to invite set some ground rules and stick to them saves any misunderstandings.
Good luck.
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By *ouple49Couple 12 weeks ago
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"Actually having compatible people there that have similar interests personalities because the HOST knows or can vouch for those invited or present or deciding if it's just going to be a brothel.
In the states lifestyle organisation was essential and a requirement of any swingers party/events.. Firstly it wasn't just bed notchers/fakes/porn dreamers it's called lifestyle for a reason..
there's nothing remotely close to that here."
Totally agree, the scene here has very much gone downhill over the years and is a poor shadow of what it once was. |
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Excellent veris are important if you don’t know them personally
Definitely a social area
Matching dynamics
For instance we’d want a decent amount of respectful single straight men, but others only want couples and some prefer bi women or bi men.
Each to their own but for a good party you need similar people with similar preferences |
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It terms of private parties the hosts choice of guests is key to a brilliant night. Picking the right mix and characters makes all the difference. I think it really helps if you know the people you're inviting or inviting people off trusted word of mouth. When you bring the right people together it's going to be an awesome night. |
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I went to one last night. My third invite over the last year or so.
Fabulous house. Four couples and two single guys. Some people already knew each other so connections were already there.
Drinks and social first. After 45 mins or so and instead of guests wondering what would happen next, the female host announced she was going upstairs to slip into her outfit and guests were welcome to join her in five minutes.
Lovely social time after and yummy buffet. Just a great night. |
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"The guests and the hosts is what makes it good.
There's about 4 to 5 dynamics within guests and the way they like to play. Some of them are compatible, some are not. Choose compatible dynamics for each particular set of guests and invite profiles that would fit those dynamics.
For example, couples into gangbangs for the lady will not mix well with Bi couples looking to play with other couples or Bi group play.
You can have both types of party, but be aware of the 4 or 5 different dynamics and invite guests that will not feel out of place.
Some dynamics need single men invited, others will not like single men in the party.
Besides that. The rest is logistics. We have never had any problem with people attending, as in the past we over invited by 25% so 1 in 4 would not turn up on average ans so ended more it he's worth the right amount of people.
Feel free to DM us with specific questions. If you'd find it useful, let us know here in the Forum and We will DM you first since you can't, we block single men."
Basically this ......
I'm part of a group arranging one in Blackpool soon.
It will be the 7th weekend event we've had and all have been epic!
Kat
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"The guests and the hosts is what makes it good.
There's about 4 to 5 dynamics within guests and the way they like to play. Some of them are compatible, some are not. Choose compatible dynamics for each particular set of guests and invite profiles that would fit those dynamics.
For example, couples into gangbangs for the lady will not mix well with Bi couples looking to play with other couples or Bi group play.
You can have both types of party, but be aware of the 4 or 5 different dynamics and invite guests that will not feel out of place.
Some dynamics need single men invited, others will not like single men in the party.
Besides that. The rest is logistics. We have never had any problem with people attending, as in the past we over invited by 25% so 1 in 4 would not turn up on average ans so ended more it he's worth the right amount of people.
Feel free to DM us with specific questions. If you'd find it useful, let us know here in the Forum and We will DM you first since you can't, we block single men.
Basically this ......
I'm part of a group arranging one in Blackpool soon.
It will be the 7th weekend event we've had and all have been epic!
Kat
X"
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