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Why is it so difficult to find a female FWB to explore new things and fantasies together?
Is something missing from my profile? Is it my approach? Or us it simplt the fact females are outnumbered by men on here, which gives them greater variety? |
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"Why is it so difficult to find a female FWB to explore new things and fantasies together?
Is something missing from my profile? Is it my approach? Or us it simplt the fact females are outnumbered by men on here, which gives them greater variety?"
I think the point your missing is once you meet someone you have to be sure there’s a spark then build a friendship then be a FWB so many guys just want to skip to the FWB part without the other it just isn’t going to happen IMO |
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All I can see is a dick who cannot accommodate, OP. At the very least, get more creative with your photos, show us how the rest of you looks like. Some teasing pics would be good, leaving your "goods" for friends only. |
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"All I can see is a dick who cannot accommodate, OP. At the very least, get more creative with your photos, show us how the rest of you looks like. Some teasing pics would be good, leaving your "goods" for friends only. "
You can only have a fwb if you can accommodate lmao what type of logic is that. Also your profile pic is a foot you ain’t exactly revealing much yourself |
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"All I can see is a dick who cannot accommodate, OP. At the very least, get more creative with your photos, show us how the rest of you looks like. Some teasing pics would be good, leaving your "goods" for friends only.
You can only have a fwb if you can accommodate lmao what type of logic is that. Also your profile pic is a foot you ain’t exactly revealing much yourself "
I think you read a bit too much into my post. I never said anything about not being able to accommodate equals not being able to find a FWB. Also, if you bothered to read my profile, you'd found out I am currently not looking for anything or anyone. Therefore, I do not feel the need to have any photos on my profile that reveal more how I look like. Last but not least, it's not me who's looking for a FWB but the OP, so let's go back to the original post, please. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 1 week ago
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"All I can see is a dick who cannot accommodate, OP. At the very least, get more creative with your photos, show us how the rest of you looks like. Some teasing pics would be good, leaving your "goods" for friends only.
You can only have a fwb if you can accommodate lmao what type of logic is that. Also your profile pic is a foot you ain’t exactly revealing much yourself "
Nobody is saying that.
But being able to accomodate opens up so many doors. Its logistically much easier and if you do actually want a friend (the F in FWB) as well as just someone to have sex with, then personally I feel accommodating is something that many women looking for the same will expect. 🤷♂️
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"All I can see is a dick who cannot accommodate, OP. At the very least, get more creative with your photos, show us how the rest of you looks like. Some teasing pics would be good, leaving your "goods" for friends only.
You can only have a fwb if you can accommodate lmao what type of logic is that. Also your profile pic is a foot you ain’t exactly revealing much yourself
Nobody is saying that.
But being able to accomodate opens up so many doors. Its logistically much easier and if you do actually want a friend (the F in FWB) as well as just someone to have sex with, then personally I feel accommodating is something that many women looking for the same will expect. 🤷♂️
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you can’t be telling people to get more creative with pics when your profile pic is a foot 😂 |
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By *bi HaiveMan 1 week ago
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"All I can see is a dick who cannot accommodate, OP. At the very least, get more creative with your photos, show us how the rest of you looks like. Some teasing pics would be good, leaving your "goods" for friends only.
You can only have a fwb if you can accommodate lmao what type of logic is that. Also your profile pic is a foot you ain’t exactly revealing much yourself
Nobody is saying that.
But being able to accomodate opens up so many doors. Its logistically much easier and if you do actually want a friend (the F in FWB) as well as just someone to have sex with, then personally I feel accommodating is something that many women looking for the same will expect. 🤷♂️
you can’t be telling people to get more creative with pics when your profile pic is a foot 😂 "
You can if doing so would likely help them achieve their goal.
As the poster in question stated, they're not looking to meet, so it wouldn't matter if their profile photo was a foot, a hand or a blank silhouette. 🤷♂️
If you're looking to meet people then good, clear and creative images will go a long way to helping you meet your goals. If you want to stand out and generate interest then be different. If you're not looking to meet it really makes no difference what you choose for a profile photo.
There's no hypocrisy there at all. |
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"All I can see is a dick who cannot accommodate, OP. At the very least, get more creative with your photos, show us how the rest of you looks like. Some teasing pics would be good, leaving your "goods" for friends only.
You can only have a fwb if you can accommodate lmao what type of logic is that. Also your profile pic is a foot you ain’t exactly revealing much yourself
Nobody is saying that.
But being able to accomodate opens up so many doors. Its logistically much easier and if you do actually want a friend (the F in FWB) as well as just someone to have sex with, then personally I feel accommodating is something that many women looking for the same will expect. 🤷♂️
you can’t be telling people to get more creative with pics when your profile pic is a foot 😂
You can if doing so would likely help them achieve their goal.
As the poster in question stated, they're not looking to meet, so it wouldn't matter if their profile photo was a foot, a hand or a blank silhouette. 🤷♂️
If you're looking to meet people then good, clear and creative images will go a long way to helping you meet your goals. If you want to stand out and generate interest then be different. If you're not looking to meet it really makes no difference what you choose for a profile photo.
There's no hypocrisy there at all. "
It’s the same as taking lifting advice from someone incapable of benching two plates.
They can’t do it but wanna tell you how to do it |
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As a women with photos, so I may be allowed an opinion, I’m going to echo exactly what lovely Miss Devil said: fewer dick picks, some interesting teasing pics of the rest of you, and some more information about what you want and can offer. Maybe even what you like doing outside of the bedroom. With the goal being FWB, this bit is even more important than it usually is. |
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"Personally I struggle to find a male fwb. It's so hard to find someone who is consistent and doesn't mess you about. "
I concur to this.
Slowly giving up on this site as so many on here lately are just messing people around too much.
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"All I can see is a dick who cannot accommodate, OP. At the very least, get more creative with your photos, show us how the rest of you looks like. Some teasing pics would be good, leaving your "goods" for friends only.
You can only have a fwb if you can accommodate lmao what type of logic is that. Also your profile pic is a foot you ain’t exactly revealing much yourself
Nobody is saying that.
But being able to accomodate opens up so many doors. Its logistically much easier and if you do actually want a friend (the F in FWB) as well as just someone to have sex with, then personally I feel accommodating is something that many women looking for the same will expect. 🤷♂️
you can’t be telling people to get more creative with pics when your profile pic is a foot 😂
You can if doing so would likely help them achieve their goal.
As the poster in question stated, they're not looking to meet, so it wouldn't matter if their profile photo was a foot, a hand or a blank silhouette. 🤷♂️
If you're looking to meet people then good, clear and creative images will go a long way to helping you meet your goals. If you want to stand out and generate interest then be different. If you're not looking to meet it really makes no difference what you choose for a profile photo.
There's no hypocrisy there at all.
It’s the same as taking lifting advice from someone incapable of benching two plates.
They can’t do it but wanna tell you how to do it "
Not currently lifting doesn't mean incapable of lifting.
I am not currently seeking FWBs. You know why? Because I have more than enough. Not seeking does not translate as incapable of finding any 💜 |
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By *bi HaiveMan 1 week ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"All I can see is a dick who cannot accommodate, OP. At the very least, get more creative with your photos, show us how the rest of you looks like. Some teasing pics would be good, leaving your "goods" for friends only.
You can only have a fwb if you can accommodate lmao what type of logic is that. Also your profile pic is a foot you ain’t exactly revealing much yourself
Nobody is saying that.
But being able to accomodate opens up so many doors. Its logistically much easier and if you do actually want a friend (the F in FWB) as well as just someone to have sex with, then personally I feel accommodating is something that many women looking for the same will expect. 🤷♂️
you can’t be telling people to get more creative with pics when your profile pic is a foot 😂
You can if doing so would likely help them achieve their goal.
As the poster in question stated, they're not looking to meet, so it wouldn't matter if their profile photo was a foot, a hand or a blank silhouette. 🤷♂️
If you're looking to meet people then good, clear and creative images will go a long way to helping you meet your goals. If you want to stand out and generate interest then be different. If you're not looking to meet it really makes no difference what you choose for a profile photo.
There's no hypocrisy there at all.
It’s the same as taking lifting advice from someone incapable of benching two plates.
They can’t do it but wanna tell you how to do it
Not currently lifting doesn't mean incapable of lifting.
I am not currently seeking FWBs. You know why? Because I have more than enough. Not seeking does not translate as incapable of finding any 💜"
Or not wanting to lift. 🤷♂️
I could give a ton of advice on all manner of subjects I'm very experienced in, but no longer participate in.
It doesn't make that advice any less valid. |
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"Why is it so difficult to find a female FWB to explore new things and fantasies together?
Is something missing from my profile? Is it my approach? Or us it simplt the fact females are outnumbered by men on here, which gives them greater variety?"
Have you opened yourself up to the possibility of replying to all those blank profiles that might want to hear from you? |
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"Is something missing from my profile? Is it my approach? Or us it simplt the fact females are outnumbered by men on here, which gives them greater variety?"
Yes, yes, and yes. Can't do much about the latter so tweak the former two for best chances. First off you don't even mention you're looking for a FWB. Phrases like "not looking to do the whole site" and even "quality over quantity" are giving "hos get away from me" rather than "I want to explore with one special person".
Your dick picks are to a higher standard but when looking for a female FWB I guarantee your penis won't be top criteria, sure include but do not centre your profile around it. As mentioned quite a few times already, compatibilities need to be established: so yes body pics, interests in and out of the bedroom, availability patterns/how often you aim to be meeting, level of involvement (are you actually looking for a sexual friendship or a fucking partner? Be honest 🤭)
Re. blank/shady profiles, you have every right to want to see pictures but keep an open mind as the site is very intimidating/unusable for single women and a good few (probs especially the type you may be after) choose to keep a very low profile. |
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"Why is it so difficult to find a female FWB to explore new things and fantasies together?
Is something missing from my profile? Is it my approach? Or us it simplt the fact females are outnumbered by men on here, which gives them greater variety?"
You don't have verifications from other people in the lifestyle community.
My preference is to swing at clubs/events as I keep my home as an unmasking space for my neurodivergent brain.
In nearly every club space men outnumber women but there are events where the organisers request even numbers but you have to be proactive as a single man to sign up early to those as there's always as waiting list. |
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"All I can see is a dick who cannot accommodate, OP. At the very least, get more creative with your photos, show us how the rest of you looks like. Some teasing pics would be good, leaving your "goods" for friends only.
You can only have a fwb if you can accommodate lmao what type of logic is that. Also your profile pic is a foot you ain’t exactly revealing much yourself
Nobody is saying that.
But being able to accomodate opens up so many doors. Its logistically much easier and if you do actually want a friend (the F in FWB) as well as just someone to have sex with, then personally I feel accommodating is something that many women looking for the same will expect. 🤷♂️
you can’t be telling people to get more creative with pics when your profile pic is a foot 😂
You can if doing so would likely help them achieve their goal.
As the poster in question stated, they're not looking to meet, so it wouldn't matter if their profile photo was a foot, a hand or a blank silhouette. 🤷♂️
If you're looking to meet people then good, clear and creative images will go a long way to helping you meet your goals. If you want to stand out and generate interest then be different. If you're not looking to meet it really makes no difference what you choose for a profile photo.
There's no hypocrisy there at all.
It’s the same as taking lifting advice from someone incapable of benching two plates.
They can’t do it but wanna tell you how to do it
Not currently lifting doesn't mean incapable of lifting.
I am not currently seeking FWBs. You know why? Because I have more than enough. Not seeking does not translate as incapable of finding any 💜"
You managed to secure a FWB in the past as a female on a site that 90% men big whoop 😂 hardly a accomplishment. The OP should be getting his advice from a dude with FWB.
To top it off we only have your word for it 😆 |
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Ive got 2 at the mo I see regular..
Staying in daily contact and be a friend to them not just treat them like a shag piece.. Even hang out somewhere together, guarantee it will turn naughty later on anyway haha... |
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It's your profile like so many men on here it's just dicks pics.
I wouldn't even reply to you if you messaged me with a profile like that.
You need a face and a personality to get a Fwb. Every man has a dick. |
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"It's your profile like so many men on here it's just dicks pics.
I wouldn't even reply to you if you messaged me with a profile like that.
You need a face and a personality to get a Fwb. Every man has a dick. "
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By *bi HaiveMan 7 days ago
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"All I can see is a dick who cannot accommodate, OP. At the very least, get more creative with your photos, show us how the rest of you looks like. Some teasing pics would be good, leaving your "goods" for friends only.
You can only have a fwb if you can accommodate lmao what type of logic is that. Also your profile pic is a foot you ain’t exactly revealing much yourself
Nobody is saying that.
But being able to accomodate opens up so many doors. Its logistically much easier and if you do actually want a friend (the F in FWB) as well as just someone to have sex with, then personally I feel accommodating is something that many women looking for the same will expect. 🤷♂️
you can’t be telling people to get more creative with pics when your profile pic is a foot 😂
You can if doing so would likely help them achieve their goal.
As the poster in question stated, they're not looking to meet, so it wouldn't matter if their profile photo was a foot, a hand or a blank silhouette. 🤷♂️
If you're looking to meet people then good, clear and creative images will go a long way to helping you meet your goals. If you want to stand out and generate interest then be different. If you're not looking to meet it really makes no difference what you choose for a profile photo.
There's no hypocrisy there at all.
It’s the same as taking lifting advice from someone incapable of benching two plates.
They can’t do it but wanna tell you how to do it
Not currently lifting doesn't mean incapable of lifting.
I am not currently seeking FWBs. You know why? Because I have more than enough. Not seeking does not translate as incapable of finding any 💜
You managed to secure a FWB in the past as a female on a site that 90% men big whoop 😂 hardly a accomplishment. The OP should be getting his advice from a dude with FWB.
To top it off we only have your word for it 😆 "
People (usually men) often seem to quote the percentages. They're meaningless.
If 90% of the men are people you'll never have any interest/attraction to then how does a greater number help women?
If they offer little to go on in their profiles bar a couple of lines about 'seeking fun' accompanied by images that are dick centric, or awash with previous conquests then what motivation is there for someone to contemplate starting a conversation? If it appears that they're only looking for no strings hook ups then why would anyone actively looking for a FWB engage with them over someone else?
The numbers mean nothing. Its not about the 10% (or whatever percentage) being in some way the 'cream of the crop'. Its about how they portray themselves, communicate with others and the unhurried approaches they make to people on the site, focusing not on someone as a means to get laid but as a human being worth getting to know as a person.
There's reasons some guys have no problems finding FWB's and equally plenty of reasons many struggle, and it has little to do with physical characteristics, aesthics and the size of their dick. 🤷♂️ |
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"People (usually men) often seem to quote the percentages. They're meaningless.
Did you know that 87.3% of the statistics quoted on here are completely made up?"
Surely not. Lol. Just like I am 100% successful in getting meets. |
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"Wow after having read this thread we may have found the reason you are struggling to find a fwb."
The OP isn’t the one nit picking at someone else’s profile and shifting the goal posts around the field depending on the points made mind. |
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Its not just hard to find a female FWB, we've tried multiple times to find a consistent guy for me. We set ground rules, can only meet with hubby there, needs to be spoken about in advance as we need time to arrange a meet, I want the friend part of a FWB not just the sex etc.
It always ends up with the guy feeling possessive of me, trying to get me to cheat or one guy following me into town to get a "private" conversation.
We dont treat this like a dating site anymore, it's purely for conversation and then if we meet people at clubs that we like then we'll add them here to let them know next time we go.
I think too many people treat this place like a naked Tinder 😅
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"Why is it so difficult to find a female FWB to explore new things and fantasies together?
Is something missing from my profile? Is it my approach? Or us it simplt the fact females are outnumbered by men on here, which gives them greater variety? I think the point your missing is once you meet someone you have to be sure there’s a spark then build a friendship then be a FWB so many guys just want to skip to the FWB part without the other it just isn’t going to happen IMO "
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"Why is it so difficult to find a female FWB to explore new things and fantasies together?
Is something missing from my profile? Is it my approach? Or us it simplt the fact females are outnumbered by men on here, which gives them greater variety?"
For me reading your profile it just comes over that you have something to hide |
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