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Bad Hygiene....
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"Had a shocker of a meet last week. On message it was naughty, and we really clicked. Sorted a hotel meet and she turned up. I asked if she wanted to freshen up but I got pounced on (was happy with that...). Started getting in to it and...I could smell actual shit. I was literally saved by the bell, my mobile went off and I made out like there was a big emergency and had to run. She messaged me the following day and I won't lie, I bottled telling her. I just said we didn't click. Not sure if I did the right thing sparing her feelings or if I've now inflicted her on the next guy.... bottom line (no pun intended), like the looky looky man says...FRESHEN UP " Is she on here? If so she might read this and be mortified anyway. On another note though I don’t understand people turning up for meets unclean. I sometimes meet at clubs and I’m paranoid about my hygiene especially as they’re often so warm!! In my bag I’ve always got wet wipes, deodorant, perfume, breath mints 🤣 | |||
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"Hell no I'm not going down on someone with bad hygiene, not once I'd caught that smell. And no it wasn't her, she was great, I'd see her again in a heartbeat "You don’t- it’s just a strategy to get her in the shower 😄 | |||
"She is but she's blocked, I really didn't want her reaching out again. I'm mad for personal hygiene, I don't think there's anywhere a tongue shouldn't be allowed to go, so if I've got my head buried somewhere it's gotta taste and smell good! Also, big difference between good, sex generated sweat smell and not washed yer bits since yesterday smell "Blocked people will still see your forum posts | |||
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"Op anyone can see your posts on the forum blocked or not !!!!!" Ah, it is what it is. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but.... | |||
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"Hell, we shower before travelling to a club and then again in the hotel before going to the club. Plus we always have wetwipes etc on us. Hygiene is paramount to us, there's no excuse for not being clean. As for the woman maybe reading this thread well hopefully it'll shock her into action and she'll literally clean up her act. " I’m the same I get paranoid at clubs because it’s so warm and I feel like I’m sweating so bad 🫣so I’ve got wipes, deodorant, perfume mints etc in my bag at all times | |||
"Had a shocker of a meet last week. On message it was naughty, and we really clicked. Sorted a hotel meet and she turned up. I asked if she wanted to freshen up but I got pounced on (was happy with that...). Started getting in to it and...I could smell actual shit. I was literally saved by the bell, my mobile went off and I made out like there was a big emergency and had to run. She messaged me the following day and I won't lie, I bottled telling her. I just said we didn't click. Not sure if I did the right thing sparing her feelings or if I've now inflicted her on the next guy.... bottom line (no pun intended), like the looky looky man says...FRESHEN UP " Oh dear. OP, please tell us in your most polite and respectful and empathetic way. Many men want anal sex these days and...accidents do happen. Also if you have a medical condition....sometimes you get a bit carried away with the excitement and forget things...slipping out when you least expect it!!( pee, puke, Poo, periods, fanny farts, fart farts). Sibling has digestive issues and didn't even want to be around their partner due to embarrassment, so intimacy was postponed for 5 months. I sometimes cycle to one of my playmates and I just don't want my sweat and London exhaust fumes, cycling bugs, rain, cycle grease, mud, etc rubbed into our bodies. Autistic  and not sexy at all.
I once went for a meet, unexpecting, unsuspecting, unprepared and he wanted anal with no prep...luckily, the lack of prep meant my butt hole was too tight and I was too inexperienced to know what was happening. Luckily. If he had got it in there unplanned, shit might have been everywhere. Lol! 
Another of my playmates like to go to the gym before meeting me so he has a shower before and I don't have a problem with that no matter how horny I am.
Him and another playmate shower before going back to their wives, which I think is good of them because their wives ( and children- school run after day time meets!) don't need to smell another woman on them.
Personally, I prefer to know my partners so I know I can say to them I think we should shower, go in the Jacuzzi, pool, Relax, cuddle, massage, play with toys, etc when..well my body, their body fails us without feeling like the ground should swallow us up.
Real-life sex isn't like sanitised fantasy porn.
Speaking of sanitiser, I spanked a male sub I met randomly in Torture Garden on Saturday with my bare hands. Well God only knows what my hands touched in the club ( 5 different stair rails) so I was glad that they had hand sanitiser, wipes and condoms in the couples' room. I just let the sub know that I was cleaning my hands so that he felt safe.
When I finish playing with one couple or man in a club, I shower and/or use wipes in case anyone else wants to play with me. I've met couples who don't...Not cool. Yes you as a couple are used to each other's smell but other people are not. As ladies we also know the fish smell of dang near every couple's room I've been in. Boots sells tests for BV, yeast and UTIs. I'd get them when I was married and monogamous, probably down to stress and biological washing powder.
Practice saying that you are uncomfortable and what can WE do to make you more comfortable. OP..because shit happens... pun intended and unintended.
Happy Fabbing. | |||
"Had a few turn up stinking I always offer them a shower one didn't so I said well you may aswell go then cause I can't play with tou smelling like that " God this is why I love the Scots. Some people are into jobby...Others not so much. Lol!
The Bajan tomboy in me won't let them be smelly. I had one guy who wanted to play at a club but he smelt like he had just come from work.
So I asked him...did you just come from a work shift..he said no...I said Well you smell like it...Then he said he went in and only did 4 hours... I told him take a shower, bring body wipes, do a strip wash in the bathroom at the venue, deorderant, toothpaste, mouthwash and/or breath mint/spray before playing.
He actually thanked me for letting him know.
I get sweaty ( hot flashes) but bad sweat smells usually comes from what you eat, stale sweat and/or a health condition. Fresh sweat is usually ok....otherwise can you imagine the spas would be stinking to high heaven! | |||
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"I've massively underestimated, naively, how horrible people can be... " Yet it's fine for you to post that you had a shocker of a meet last week as she smelled like shit ? | |||
"I've massively underestimated, naively, how horrible people can be... The person in my veri has been getting abusive messages on the back of this post (even though I said it WAS NOT her - think about it, would an experience like that get a mutual verification?). Lesson learned.... " Some people only read the OP and it doesn’t specify that it’s not her in that post . People willing to send abusive messages would also likely not have the brain capacity to think about mutual verification 😏 | |||
"Had a shocker of a meet last week. On message it was naughty, and we really clicked. Sorted a hotel meet and she turned up. I asked if she wanted to freshen up but I got pounced on (was happy with that...). Started getting in to it and...I could smell actual shit. I was literally saved by the bell, my mobile went off and I made out like there was a big emergency and had to run. She messaged me the following day and I won't lie, I bottled telling her. I just said we didn't click. Not sure if I did the right thing sparing her feelings or if I've now inflicted her on the next guy.... bottom line (no pun intended), like the looky looky man says...FRESHEN UP " I’ve had this a couple of times. It’s uncomfortable but you just have to be direct and say you’re not willing to go through with it. I’m like you though, I mostly avoid telling someone that’s it’s because of their hygiene. The one time I did, they sent me huge long message saying I was making it up and that they’re perfectly clean and how dare I be so disrespectful etc. So I’ve learned its easier to just say a different excuse. | |||
"Had a few turn up stinking I always offer them a shower one didn't so I said well you may aswell go then cause I can't play with tou smelling like that " If they smell when they arrive I won’t even offer a shower, it’s just 100% no. I see that lack of consideration as an indication of poor hygiene and sexual health practices overall. So I’m not willing to risk any sexual contact with someone like that. Showered or not. | |||
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"I've massively underestimated, naively, how horrible people can be... The person in my veri has been getting abusive messages on the back of this post (even though I said it WAS NOT her - think about it, would an experience like that get a mutual verification?). Lesson learned.... " Hopefully, another lesson to learn is thinking twice about making such an explicit and individually targetted post in the first place! | |||
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"I've massively underestimated, naively, how horrible people can be... The person in my veri has been getting abusive messages on the back of this post (even though I said it WAS NOT her - think about it, would an experience like that get a mutual verification?). Lesson learned.... " EEEk I got nothing. Unfortunately, most of us women get abuse on these platforms just for existing. Sorry that you inadvertently put her in the firing line. | |||
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"We got a ban for 3 or 5 days last year for a similar post so hope you don't fall foul of the rules!! No names mentioned yet we were still in the wrong." You can get a ban for discussing a ban ! | |||
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"We got a ban for 3 or 5 days last year for a similar post so hope you don't fall foul of the rules!! No names mentioned yet we were still in the wrong. You can get a ban for discussing a ban !" You can get a for discussing a ban about discussing a ban about a ban. | |||
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"Bad hygiene is pure laziness, it’s disgusting and disrespectful turning up dirty to a meet" Totally agree,,,the meet would Quickly be terminated,,, | |||
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