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Meeting at your place :-p

By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago

We've done this years ago, mant times, ie younger and foolish I guess

More recently, we did this last year - it went well but we worry re guy comeing back univited or sharing our addres etc

We look for feedback and check feedback as some can be fake and the feedback is often hidden

We dont chat for ore than a day or two

We do ask probing questions and clowns often get angry quiet quickly, thankfully re questions so they are ruked out 100%

We dont do married or spoke for men

Anything else you do/recommended

We've made it clear the first meet may just be a chat for obvious reasons - we mentioned it as some are pretty thick and think its a done deal ie massage/sex/etc

Cheers

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By *isterC83Man 34 weeks ago

Kent

I think you're right to be cautious, there's very little you can do either if the things you mention

I guess you're relying on the person having a conscience and remaining inconspicuous

Personally, I've never returned to somebody's place or shared their whereabouts, but I'm of the mindset that what goes on behind closed doors remains there

I'm not confident the majority of people who joined since COVID are true swingers, they do exist though

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By *WB85Man 34 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Weve made some great connections over the years, but they will never get our address.

Our house is our family safe place.

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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago

Many thanks to both. I'm actually a bit dubious now - the meets at our place years ago, we were young and stupid i guess. the more recent one, i guess we got lucky - may invited the same guy back - not sure

I've been looking through the messages we got today - several dozen re meet tomorrow - i've offered a possible meet at their place as their profile states that - but you've guessed, they can't - this is another way i test guys if they have posted a genuine profile.

Thanks again

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By *GoodGirlGemxCouple 34 weeks ago

Scotland

We would only ever do a hotel meet for private meets. We would be uncomfortable inviting a stranger into our home where our children live even if they weren’t home. Similarly we wouldn’t feel comfortable going to a strangers home either

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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago

Thanks

I'm actually thinking very hard re tomorrows meet - just shorlisted one guy atm - he has several feedbacks all from established users etc - but I shall see how it goes

anyone/couple here who has kids and family living in a house for years where people know you on the street have meets at your place? If so, all ok and what do you do when deciding if to invited the man

we dont do socials as busy and I am lazy and not looking for long term friendship etc

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple 34 weeks ago

bedford

Married are more descrete than singles , but always try and meet for social before welcoming them to your home , Not easy as too many fakes on site .we only have one guy who we trust to come to ours , And I have only been to two private houses , it also depends if you have nosey neighbours

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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago

"Married are more descrete than singles , but always try and meet for social before welcoming them to your home , Not easy as too many fakes on site .we only have one guy who we trust to come to ours , And I have only been to two private houses , it also depends if you have nosey neighbours "

Thanks

Interesting re going to otehr people homes.

It too can be a risk but I always ensure they have real feedbacks ie more than several and those doing the feedbacks are not hiding their profiles

I'm actually thinking if we will be inviting someone here - unless many feedbacks and possibly travelling form miles away. My trick is to read their profile and then ask where they live and can they accommodate - if profile says yes and they say "hotel" - that is, chat finnished.

Thanks

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By *olbornsubguyMan 34 weeks ago

london

I tend to always accom at mine. I’m central London so convenient for many, I know there will be no hidden cameras or unexpected housemates and feel generally more in control of the set up. I’ve done open door when I was young and foolish (too many thieves about for that) and have had to call the police twice - once when a guy wouldn’t leave and another who demanded money. But generally not had a problem over literally thousands of meets

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By *issmorganWoman 34 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I always have a public social meet first. In the past, when single, I did accom once I knew someone a bit.

I don't now, as it's just for me and my other half.

Plus in this day and age, I wouldn't want people to know where I am, just in case. Some people seem OK, then turn out not to be.

Also be careful what info you share with others, as there's lots of armchair detectives on fab lol.

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By *onyHoveMan 34 weeks ago

North East

You have to be careful who you invite into your home. Being invited is a privilege that should be honoured. No uninvited visits or texts or anything.

Respect always.

Still a risk though.

Best wishes all

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By *aul_j80Man 34 weeks ago

Bloxwich

I have recently accommodated at mine meeting couples, touch wood had no problems, obviously you need to be careful giving your home address to what might be a fake profile.

And on the other side some couples have invited me over without previous meets or vetting, and others I've met in hotels or clubs a few times before they have invited me over to their home, which obviously showed that we had built a good level of trust.

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By *anus7Man 34 weeks ago

Chester

"Thanks

I'm actually thinking very hard re tomorrows meet - just shorlisted one guy atm - he has several feedbacks all from established users etc - but I shall see how it goes

we dont do socials as busy and I am lazy and not looking for long term friendship etc"

That's the reason why I'm wary about accommodation

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By *heelerMan 34 weeks ago

Northants

I've been invited to a few females houses over the years but would never return uninvited

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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago

Update

Reading these posts, made me think again and decided not to invite anyone over.

Thanks

However, we are considering the one we invited last year - he was away and as he has been before, we shall see.

Best not to invite to your family home - older and wiser with your help. Thanks again

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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago

"I always have a public social meet first. In the past, when single, I did accom once I knew someone a bit.

I don't now, as it's just for me and my other half.

Plus in this day and age, I wouldn't want people to know where I am, just in case. Some people seem OK, then turn out not to be.

Also be careful what info you share with others, as there's lots of armchair detectives on fab lol. "

Never done a social meet - it used to be at our place and at the very least always a massage for the mrs and pussy touching or everythign - when we went over it was almost laways at least me ending up fucking my wife and the other guy had did all over maaage and or all the way - we never had or have time for socials as it is awkard imo

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By *andybitches1Couple 34 weeks ago

Aberdeenshire

Haven't been doing this long and from the beginning said we wouldn't accommodate and thank god we haven't.

Early on we most def rushed a couple of meets and the post meet needs from them were absolutely atrocious.Messages via here were constant and gave them a fair warning to slow down before hubby blocked them.

Both had asked for Whattsapp and we said not yet and again thank god.

That made us realise not accommodating or giving out numbers is a must.

On the better side have had a few meets since and the folk have been brilliant so we take a share of the blame to start for being a bit impatient to start this journey.

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By (user no longer on site) OP 33 weeks ago

thank you

you may want to add but looking at your main pic on post, you are easy about it - ie

posting face pic

we make it clear in our profile, NO face pics from us, 100%

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