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By *arny OP Man 33 weeks ago
coventry |
Every time I message someone I’m very polite I do a lengthy post giving plenty of info,I’m never over intrusive or rude Ii always send a couple of face pics never send cock pick as it’s on my profile,I’m always articulate and try to have some humour in my message and I’m never pushy,I think I’m doing everything right yet never ever get anywhere Iv been on here years and never met anyone it’s so frustrating but I really enjoy the site even just to be nosey but would be nice to link up with someone….it’s bloody hard 😂😂😂 literally…… |
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By *vaRoseWoman 33 weeks ago
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You’ve not asked for profile advice so I’m going to try and word this carefully.
Women & couples get a lot of messages. Sending war & peace as an opener might be too much, especially if that information you’re filling it with could be better served by being on your profile bio. Oh and no reply is a reply… they’re not interested.
Most ladies and many couples view profiles in ninja mode, I’ll look at a profile before deciding to reply. If it doesn’t reach my standards I won’t bother.
This applies only to me and it’s just my opinion but If I view a profile and…
* it’s just a list of demands but doesn’t tell me anything about them I’ll delete.
* If it’s blank I’ll delete.
* if it’s just what they want and not what they bring to the table I’ll delete
* If it’s a poorly taken public gallery of identical photos from the same angle I’ll delete
* If it’s all cock shots I’ll delete
* If the bio is a single sentence and they’ve still made spelling mistakes I’ll delete
* If it gives me the ick I’ll delete
Effort matters, and low effort profiles don’t and won’t hold my interest. This is all BEFORE I’ve opened the message.
Once I open the message I’ve already mostly made my mind up, if it’s then crude, rude, overly sexual, impersonal or a copy paste - you guessed it, I’ll delete.
Basically a well thought out profile with a short sweet message about something they’ve seen/read on mine will get a reply. Anything else goes in the junk mail folder.
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"You’ve not asked for profile advice
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It doesn't matter according to the rules, it just has to be relevant.
The ops profile is cock pic heavy, he can't accommodate and his write up is shorter that the op and all in caps.
Anyone who looks at that probably won't reply no matter how well worded the opening message is.
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It's tough for genuinely single men here op, but it's even harder for those who are on here behind a partners back.
Plus you have too many pics of your cock on your profile. Maybe put some of those in your friends only gallery or private.
What are you offering meets? What are you into etc.Tell people a bit about you, as this is your shop window so to speak.
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When they leave it unread you keep thinking "did they read it?" I've messaged someone a while back before, then a few weeks later I got a message from them without acknowledging my attempt to interact.
Obviously you don't want to send another message if your first doesn't get a response so just miss opportunities without knowing if they were interested or not. |
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The answer is the same for everyone who wants a different result: if something isn’t working, change it. If that doesn’t work, change it. Repeat until something does work.
It almost doesn’t matter what you change it to, just make sure that you are not doing what didn’t work in the past. |
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You essentially have two types of pics - cock pics and the pic of your body taken from your head view and down the body. You’ve just repeated this type of pic several times, so just have one of each and lose the rest.
You are married, you smoke, you have a ranty status about someone else - all these will lose you people.
These are all things that people consider before they’ve looked at your profile. You aren’t creating a sexy environment for someone to be intrigued.
As someone else has said - change the way you do things if it doesn’t work. Doing the same thing just produces the same results.
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"Every time I message someone I’m very polite I do a lengthy post giving plenty of info,I’m never over intrusive or rude Ii always send a couple of face pics never send cock pick as it’s on my profile,I’m always articulate and try to have some humour in my message and I’m never pushy,I think I’m doing everything right yet never ever get anywhere Iv been on here years and never met anyone it’s so frustrating but I really enjoy the site even just to be nosey but would be nice to link up with someone….it’s bloody hard 😂😂😂 literally……"
Your profile and email are all you they have to go on.
It obviously isn't working so make a change. Don't keep doing the same thing and expect a different outcome.
If you want to make a change. Make a change. What are you going to change?
Good luck with it op. |
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If your wife is comfortable with it, you could visit socials and clubs.
Ultimately, it's only going to be a very tiny minority of people who are mutually compatible. Add in being married and it will shrink that number. It's already very hard for single men here and you could read the posts from many of them, alongside feedback and tips. |
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