Just ask? I am not a mind reader, and I'm terrible at reading signs. Also I need a little bit of chemistry, or connection, to be able to have sex with someone. It can't be achieved if the guy is just staring at me, or God forbid tries his "moves", so I'd open my legs for him! Just talk to ladies in a club like normal human beings. |
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👆 this.
Whats the worst that can happen.
They say no.
I'm awful at reading signs too. Misread them so many times but I still persevere. Sometimes I'll get a message after a club from someone I was chatting too saying it was a shame I didnt fancy them, when i blooming did ! |
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I think maybe more people than you realise are like this. That's why sometimes at clubs you get a bunch of people just standing there. Makes for a terrible ambience, but you just got to suck it up & ask. If you get a no, it's just part of life, it's not going to affect anything.
I'm also terrible talking to strangers. But the times I've tried, I've had a fantastic time.
Making/going with friends also helps |
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Yes totally get this. I think it's the same for a lot of people and why sometimes clubs can feel like an awkward school disco with everyone waiting for someone else to kick it off.
What helps me is experience (as a single guy and part of a couple). First generally nothing happens if you don't make a move. Second if you think the vibe is there 8-9 times out of 10 it's a welcomed movie. Third that feeling of regret of not asking or missing out is often worse than a polite no thanks. So it really is a case just making that move.
Generally when I fancy someone and I think it's going somewhere I will simply ask would you like to kiss. 8-9 times out of 10 it's a yes. That kiss is very important to me. Not only does it act as an in-between step towards the play room it also allows me a great opportunity to gauge the sexual chemistry going forward. For me it's all in the kiss.
The only thing I'd add is the more you do the more you grow in confidence.
But it is hard, I get that, I still find it hard and sometimes I still feel I've missed opportunities.
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It's great to hear how women and couples like to be approached. Helps us single guys a lot! I don't get to go to clubs very often, so I'm not a regular face. Should be visiting one at the end of June, so I'm watching this post with a lot of interest! |
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