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Hey there,
Been around here for quite a while.
Still didn't get to meet anyone from here unfortunately.
I find it quite difficult to arrange that first meet - possibly cause I'm not verified, which then feels like a chicken and egg kind of situation.
Would appreciate your advice and feedback.
Cheers
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By *rad670Man 6 days ago
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My first veri came from a general chat on cam, second was luckily from meeting a very experiencef couple and that did me the world of good however it was ages waiting for the first chats and meet. Its a matter of patience, there is someone out there who will be a perfect match. Usually at the other end of the country but you never know, people travel. Have short breaks and could be in your area in the future if you do make distant contacts. |
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By *rad670Man 6 days ago
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"My first veri came from a general chat on cam, second was luckily from meeting a very experiencef couple and that did me the world of good however it was ages waiting for the first chats and meet. Its a matter of patience, there is someone out there who will be a perfect match. Usually at the other end of the country but you never know, people travel. Have short breaks and could be in your area in the future if you do make distant contacts."
and sone more better thought out pics will help, tidy them cables up🤣
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"Hey there,
Been around here for quite a while.
Still didn't get to meet anyone from here unfortunately.
I find it quite difficult to arrange that first meet - possibly cause I'm not verified, which then feels like a chicken and egg kind of situation.
Would appreciate your advice and feedback.
Cheers
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Hi there
Firstly work on your profile. The torso pic is great well done  Personally I'd keep the dick pic more privately. Get some other pics that aren't dick pics or have you having sex with someone else.
Secondly have a profile narrative that says something about you. Remember you're competing for attention with a lot of other guys. You need to stand out. Look at other guys profiles and get an idea of what others who are getting meets are doing.
Once you are happy with your profile start messaging people you'd like to meet. I'm not talking about blanket mass messaging. Most of the women on fab are brilliant. They will put something in their profile that gives you an opportunity to start a conversion that isn't about sex. An example of this is if you send a message saying "Great tits!" You may be the 500th guy to say that on that day. Remember you're trying to stand out. Here's where you have an advantage because the whilst the other guys have been opening with great conversion starters like "Hi", you have taken the time to read her profile (not just looked at her pics) and now come up with something not too long and not too short that sparks her interest.
Be prepared for rejection and be gracious when it happens, and be mindful to be respectful and well mannered if you hit it off.
With regards to the chicken and the egg problem of verifications. Try suggesting to someone close to you that you meet for a social, nothing more. Most people don't need a verification that says what a stud you are. Just that you're real.
Good luck with your fab journey. You never stop learning.
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"lol didn't ever think someone would be bothered by that but fair"
Men aren't bothered by it.
Women are. The female gaze is more who you are as a person than what size your cock is.
Buy a GQ or Men's Health magazine and pick poses from that to show your personality.
I'm a straight tomboy but I realise that I'm attractive to men and women due to my photos/outfits showing my personality.
sadly with women on Fab you are going to have to work harder to stand out.
Your profile bio statement reads the same as about 1000 other men. There are so many big dicks around; women are spoilt for choice on here.
Big penis isn't a stand-out thing. |
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"Get yourself to clubs or socials, it takes time and perseverance so don't expect to 'score' on your first visit to a club. Treat it like a bar or nightclub and just talk to folks make contacts etc"
This is really good advice |
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Take onboard the good advice given to you by the others on this thread (which would mimic similar from me).
However, in YOUR case I would say in the first instance it's NOT about patience, endeavouring, clubs, socials or the chat rooms.
Your profile is a total car crash. Start again.
Get rid of the cock photos, get rid of the amateurish photos overall (messy background, electrical cables, etc), inject some class.
Kik, Telllygram (sic) — get rid of that nonsense.
"6” and very girthy, Great stamina, And a good lover." — what are you a champion lover or something? Tell us about yourself, your interests, your desires, what you offer and inject some personality.
Polish up that profile and good luck to you, OP. 🌈🌈 |
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Single guys we have met.
More pics than just cocks
Non pushy and non weird
Does not bombard is with messages
Understand this is a couple not a woman’s profile
Can chat beyond ‘what you into’
But sometimes you got to accept not everyone is attracted to you. That’s goes for everyone not just single guys. |
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Get off your butt go to socials or normal club events.
Being visible is a major help in my experience.
Wish you well but you have to keep chipping away ratio of men to women is massive.
We all had to start and some like myself was fortunate. |
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Most people are not mutually compatible with most other people. So most messages won't get a physical reply, or when started, will reach a dead end.
It's a site built out of swinging, so if you visit swinging clubs, you'll get to know people and can get verified.
Read a few of the posts from single men who struggle and take on board the advice given to them, that fits. The onus for single men is what you can give to others, so we can assess the likely fit to us |
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"Take onboard the good advice given to you by the others on this thread (which would mimic similar from me).
However, in YOUR case I would say in the first instance it's NOT about patience, endeavouring, clubs, socials or the chat rooms.
Your profile is a total car crash. Start again.
Get rid of the cock photos, get rid of the amateurish photos overall (messy background, electrical cables, etc), inject some class.
Kik, Telllygram (sic) — get rid of that nonsense.
"6” and very girthy, Great stamina, And a good lover." — what are you a champion lover or something? Tell us about yourself, your interests, your desires, what you offer and inject some personality.
Polish up that profile and good luck to you, OP. 🌈🌈"
100% agree with this |
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Get to a club! Most do social days, GGs in Runcorn has one on a Sunday if my memory serves, have a look at town house on the Wirral too, pretty sure they have them, they are well worth it not just for verifications but to meet like minded people |
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"You want a verification, send me your face pic and ill meet you for a coffee this afternoon. Im feeling generous 😇 "
Hey that’s really kind of you
Are you on kik or another messaging app?
I don’t have a face pic uploaded here but could send you there? Could you dm me your username if you do |
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"You want a verification, send me your face pic and ill meet you for a coffee this afternoon. Im feeling generous 😇
Hey that’s really kind of you
Are you on kik or another messaging app?
I don’t have a face pic uploaded here but could send you there? Could you dm me your username if you do"
No hun, and I think we found your problem to getting meets. |
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"You want a verification, send me your face pic and ill meet you for a coffee this afternoon. Im feeling generous 😇
Hey that’s really kind of you
Are you on kik or another messaging app?
I don’t have a face pic uploaded here but could send you there? Could you dm me your username if you do
No hun, and I think we found your problem to getting meets. "
Pleasee 🙏
I’ll get us a brunch 🤣 |
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Agree with above
People want to find out more about a person and that comes from having an interesting profile, it's not always about the sex.
A sense of humour and good pictures taken with a timer are always a good start
Wanting to immediately take the chat to another platform is a red flag.
It's also obvious to the experienced eye that replying to certain posts and not reading the actual advice is someone not really wanting advice
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"You want a verification, send me your face pic and ill meet you for a coffee this afternoon. Im feeling generous 😇
Hey that’s really kind of you
Are you on kik or another messaging app?
I don’t have a face pic uploaded here but could send you there? Could you dm me your username if you do
No hun, and I think we found your problem to getting meets.
Pleasee 🙏
I’ll get us a brunch 🤣"
You are a site supporter, you have the ability to send direct images.
You just dont want to. I couldn't have made it easier for you to get verified but you made it complicated |
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"You want a verification, send me your face pic and ill meet you for a coffee this afternoon. Im feeling generous 😇
Hey that’s really kind of you
Are you on kik or another messaging app?
I don’t have a face pic uploaded here but could send you there? Could you dm me your username if you do
No hun, and I think we found your problem to getting meets.
Pleasee 🙏
I’ll get us a brunch 🤣"
That's on you lad, don't expect people to go off app |
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By *WB85Man 6 days ago
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A slight negative that I would suggest is having your chat usernames shared publicly.
Almost feels like you'd talk to anyone and aren't very discreet. It can go against you.
Thats just my opinion though.
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"You want a verification, send me your face pic and ill meet you for a coffee this afternoon. Im feeling generous 😇
Hey that’s really kind of you
Are you on kik or another messaging app?
I don’t have a face pic uploaded here but could send you there? Could you dm me your username if you do
No hun, and I think we found your problem to getting meets.
Pleasee 🙏
I’ll get us a brunch 🤣
That's on you lad, don't expect people to go off app "
Listen to the great advice on how to revamp your profile and photos, be willing to share face pic and don't try and take people off site for chat.
Good luck |
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"Hey there,
Been around here for quite a while.
Still didn't get to meet anyone from here unfortunately.
I find it quite difficult to arrange that first meet - possibly cause I'm not verified, which then feels like a chicken and egg kind of situation.
Would appreciate your advice and feedback.
Cheers
"
Go to socials and clubs like a swinger, get involved in the scene, speak to actual people and get real life verifications. |
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"My first veri came from a general chat on cam, second was luckily from meeting a very experiencef couple and that did me the world of good however it was ages waiting for the first chats and meet. Its a matter of patience, there is someone out there who will be a perfect match. Usually at the other end of the country but you never know, people travel. Have short breaks and could be in your area in the future if you do make distant contacts. and sone more better thought out pics will help, tidy them cables up🤣"
I’m glad someone else said it, that cable mess made me feel uneasy lol |
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"Take onboard the good advice given to you by the others on this thread (which would mimic similar from me).
However, in YOUR case I would say in the first instance it's NOT about patience, endeavouring, clubs, socials or the chat rooms.
Your profile is a total car crash. Start again.
Get rid of the cock photos, get rid of the amateurish photos overall (messy background, electrical cables, etc), inject some class.
Kik, Telllygram (sic) — get rid of that nonsense.
"6” and very girthy, Great stamina, And a good lover." — what are you a champion lover or something? Tell us about yourself, your interests, your desires, what you offer and inject some personality.
Polish up that profile and good luck to you, OP. 🌈🌈"
Cackle. You always crack me up Lord Nero. 
Now this is stuck in my head.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h4yKcP3-xV0
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