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So I had a nice meet yesterday...we got on well and she had 2 pretty intense orgasms and seemed to enjoy herself in general. I sent a msg after asking if she was back ok (lived 5 mins walk from hotel) and found i was blocked. I'm guessing she was just thinking that was it and it wouldnt be a repeat adventure but i hadnt ever suggested it would be! Given it seemed to go ok (not mind blowing but ok!) I feel a bit perplexed and mildly worried I've done something wrong!
Not sure what im asking about really. Has anyone else had this happen to them? |
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"Maybe some post meet guilt, obviously we dont know the ins and outs but perhaps if she was attached or something she could of felt a bit guilty after.
Just a thought"
Hopefully the guilt, if she is married |
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By *aandLoCouple 1 week ago
Southampton |
It does seem some people are unable to communicate. I don't think it's malicious just a bit of cowardice.
She may have felt it wasn't mind blowing either, and was worried about having to turn down a request to meet again.
We've met people and the social seemed to go well, lots of chat about playing together but then they won't commit to a follow-up meet. We usually end up just moving on.
Don't take it personally, you obviously weren't the right match that's all. |
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Try not to overthink it. We have sometimes given a verification which they don't show. Or they will meet you but because you're over their age range meet they choose not to show you've met. You need thick skin on here. Meet, have fun, move on. Keep moving forward not back x |
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"It does seem some people are unable to communicate. I don't think it's malicious just a bit of cowardice.
She may have felt it wasn't mind blowing either, and was worried about having to turn down a request to meet again.
We've met people and the social seemed to go well, lots of chat about playing together but then they won't commit to a follow-up meet. We usually end up just moving on.
Don't take it personally, you obviously weren't the right match that's all."
Ye it's just the way of it i guess. Fab etiquette is a bit strange but hey ho that's life! |
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"It went ok but not mind blowing. In your opinion. But Maybe she faked both the orgasms to not hurt your feelings because it was less ok for her and she could'nt wait to get away "
She faked two orgasms - why? |
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A man we met from another site came to our home and even stayed the night. He deleted his profile shortly after. Either we were so awful we scared him off, he had a partner unbeknownst to us and he didn't want her or him to find out of some other reason we will never know. |
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"It went ok but not mind blowing. In your opinion. But Maybe she faked both the orgasms to not hurt your feelings because it was less ok for her and she could'nt wait to get away
She faked two orgasms - why? "
Some women may do it to call a halt to proceedings or to please the man. Only the woman in question can say if she had a good time and why she blocked him. |
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By *S74Man 7 days ago
Bury |
"And welcome to Fab 
Lol LITERALLY "
And same from me, honestly you can tie yourself in knots figuring out other peoples’ behaviour on here.
I’ve had a situation where on a civi dating site I was upfront with a woman about only being casual- we had a social coffee, chat and then she wanted to come over to mine a different night.
After we’d played she admitted it was too soon after her break up and thought a ONS would be a good idea - but was a bit overwhelming.
So could be something like that too. |
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The same happened to me with a nice young single man who asked me to visit him in his hotel late at night.
I had to ask at reception where the room was even though I had the number but didn’t know his surname so the hall porter must have known what I was and we had a couple of hours together which he clearly enjoyed, and he asked me to stay longer but I explained that I couldn’t.
He actually apologised to me for not having pleased me as much as I pleased him sexually which wasn’t really true and didn’t matter to me at all.
Half an hour after leaving I was blocked by him.
As all the answers above say, who knows why and there’s nothing we can do about it and there’s no point worrying about it, but I agree that it’s baffling. |
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Some folk compartmentalise in different ways when swinging. Some refer to keep comms to purely play meets, some prefer just a one off, some don't do kissing, the list goes on.
Don't worry, and if at the back of your mind you are even slightly worried she might make a false statement to police (she's still a stranger to be faor) keep in mind she booked a hotel and invited you. If your tism really kicks in screenshot any messages. |
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Don't worry, and if at the back of your mind you are even slightly worried she might make a false statement to police (she's still a stranger to be faor) keep in mind she booked a hotel and invited you. If your tism really kicks in screenshot any messages."
This is some leap! |
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"Some folk compartmentalise in different ways when swinging. Some refer to keep comms to purely play meets, some prefer just a one off, some don't do kissing, the list goes on.
Don't worry, and if at the back of your mind you are even slightly worried she might make a false statement to police (she's still a stranger to be faor) keep in mind she booked a hotel and invited you. If your tism really kicks in screenshot any messages."
Woah! That escalated quickly! |
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Good lord! A woman blocked a guy after they'd had sex (men do this all the time after they've got what they want btw) and suddenly she's faked two orgasms and the possibility she might make a false report to the police has been suggested.
If a woman had said a guy had blocked her after they'd had sex none if this would have happened. |
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"Good lord! A woman blocked a guy after they'd had sex (men do this all the time after they've got what they want btw) and suddenly she's faked two orgasms and the possibility she might make a false report to the police has been suggested.
If a woman had said a guy had blocked her after they'd had sex none if this would have happened. "
It does surprise me that it's so common. They had 20+ veris but all were hidden...wonder if they always block and then dont have veris to show. It's not really cricket imo! |
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"So I had a nice meet yesterday...we got on well and she had 2 pretty intense orgasms and seemed to enjoy herself in general. I sent a msg after asking if she was back ok (lived 5 mins walk from hotel) and found i was blocked. I'm guessing she was just thinking that was it and it wouldnt be a repeat adventure but i hadnt ever suggested it would be! Given it seemed to go ok (not mind blowing but ok!) I feel a bit perplexed and mildly worried I've done something wrong!
Not sure what im asking about really. Has anyone else had this happen to them?"
It happens OP. I'm sure you did nothing wrong, maybe she just didn't have as good a time as you thought, she didn't think she would enjoy it again, or she just enjoys the first time experience with strangers. Unfortunately we should not be in this game for companionship, it happens I real dating too. Get over it and move on is the best way. |
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"Good lord! A woman blocked a guy after they'd had sex (men do this all the time after they've got what they want btw) and suddenly she's faked two orgasms and the possibility she might make a false report to the police has been suggested.
If a woman had said a guy had blocked her after they'd had sex none if this would have happened.
It does surprise me that it's so common. They had 20+ veris but all were hidden...wonder if they always block and then dont have veris to show. It's not really cricket imo!"
It doesn't surprise me, what does surprise me is that people are unaware that women do this
When I was younger and my social group were having very short lived relationships or one night stands it was very common for a guy to ghost a woman after they'd had sex, the internet wasn't available to us obviously, so they just didn't turn up for an arranged date and got their mum/mate to answer the landline and say they were out. Women did it too but not quite as much because recreational sex amongst women carried more risk of reputational damage back then.
The possibility is that she has taken what she wanted from the experience and doesn't want contact again. That doesn't mean you were awful or she didn't like you, she just wanted genuine no strings attached sex. It's a risk or benefit depending on how you look at it of swinging. |
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By *eliWoman 7 days ago
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"Good lord! A woman blocked a guy after they'd had sex (men do this all the time after they've got what they want btw) and suddenly she's faked two orgasms and the possibility she might make a false report to the police has been suggested.
If a woman had said a guy had blocked her after they'd had sex none if this would have happened. "
Yep. It's kind of taken as something that could happen, the man will have got his dick wet and that's that.
She got her vagina filled. Op, you don't exactly sound enthused about it. For whatever reason she's decided she doesn't want a repeat. It's crappy behaviour but don't dwell on it. |
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"With the biggest respect OP I don’t think she shares your positive assessment of the evening. I would doubt how real those orgasms were."
Lol. They were real. The actual penetration bit was a bit perfunctory probably on both our parts tbf (i wont bore you wjth details) but the preceding 40 mins were ok. I mean...it's not thst i want to get forensic about it. Like i say...it was ok...i didnt think id offended though lol. Blocking just seems a bit odd to me unless something was really wrong. Made me paranoid. |
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"With the biggest respect OP I don’t think she shares your positive assessment of the evening. I would doubt how real those orgasms were.
Lol. They were real. The actual penetration bit was a bit perfunctory probably on both our parts tbf (i wont bore you wjth details) but the preceding 40 mins were ok. I mean...it's not thst i want to get forensic about it. Like i say...it was ok...i didnt think id offended though lol. Blocking just seems a bit odd to me unless something was really wrong. Made me paranoid."
Right!
Did you do anything wrong, anything disrespectful or unkind? If you can look in the mirror and say you didn't then you're going to have to assume she wanted no further contact with you for reasons of her own. Anything people are saying on here is speculation and nothing more, for your own peace of mind it's best to put this behind you and move on. |
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It is quite possible that you (OP) fell in that "one and done" category where you are just about acceptable to go through the evening but not good enough to meet again. Keep in mind getting out , ready etc. takes effort and if she was already in the mood for some action, she may have just thought, ok just this once as it is better than nothing.
Or she is just one of those who only meets people once.
It is ok to be curious but seriously dude, don't overthink it, you are just proving her right. |
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"She was probably married OP. This is the most likely conjecture because if the roles were reversed that would be the prevailing remark from the women (mostly). 🩶"
She was definitely married and he was there.on facetime😅 |
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"She was probably married OP. This is the most likely conjecture because if the roles were reversed that would be the prevailing remark from the women (mostly). 🩶
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She was definitely married and he was there.on facetime😅"
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There you go, dear fellow, she arrived home, glowing, and declared to her husband "that was the best bonk ever", leading with him going thermonuclear in rage and jealousy. Ah, the trials and tribulations of Fab. What a tangled web some of these women weave.  |
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It might just be that she only meets once and doesnt want to have to explain it cos some guys might have tried pursuading her or insert other negative answer here...
I sometimes block after a meet if i feel they might want a repeat. I only meet once. It is what my husband and i agreed so there is no chance of feelings developing etc. |
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