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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree?" Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!  | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree?" but if you don't put yourself out there, what are you expecting to happen? We all have to do that to find what we want. What other approach do you think will work? | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree? Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe! "What happens if you are more of a private person ? | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree? Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!
What happens if you are more of a private person ?"You're screwed, and not in the good way. At some point if you're ever going to meet you have to take a leap of faith and be more open. If you're introvert and don't want to share pics or details people will be unlikely to believe you're legit. | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree?" I fully agree this site is very clicky. Especially the forums. I've been on sites enough times to know it's not who you are but who you friends with | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree? Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!
What happens if you are more of a private person ?"It is possible to meet by just interacting on line. You will need to put a fair amount of effort in and be resilient to knock backs. I agree that not everyone is happy to go to clubs in the evenings (I find its not my thing) or to organised socials. Would you feel able to get involved in the forums or chat rooms? I can't stress enough though that you would need to project a positive attitude. | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree? Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!
What happens if you are more of a private person ?
It is possible to meet by just interacting on line. You will need to put a fair amount of effort in and be resilient to knock backs.
I agree that not everyone is happy to go to clubs in the evenings (I find its not my thing) or to organised socials.
Would you feel able to get involved in the forums or chat rooms? I can't stress enough though that you would need to project a positive attitude."Thank you thats exactly what i am doing but all people say is get yourself along to the social to get noticed. But look who says it anf they have all either verified each other or both have met the same person | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree?" I agree. We don't meet that often so when we do we want someone who's had mmf before. It doesn't mean a newbie will be nervous but if they have been in the situation before it's less likely to happen x | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree? I agree. We don't meet that often so when we do we want someone who's had mmf before. It doesn't mean a newbie will be nervous but if they have been in the situation before it's less likely to happen x" Have had loads of practice in threesomes and a few moresomes but not on this site ?? | |||
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"I don't agree as a newbie you've got as much chance as the next person " not reading his profile str8 but has a veri from a guy .confused dot com  | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree?" "Putting yourself out there" is an ambiguous term. But every interpretation I can think of, no if you aren;t willing to do that you probably don't stand a chance and are certainly going to struggle. You need to make an effort, be that online or in person. | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree?" Can you explain your first question..genuine single guys don't stand a chance? ..I'd say ..the fakes have a lot less chance. 
You say you had some meets from another site, whatever you did on the other site is transferable to fab. .. no?  | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree? Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!
What happens if you are more of a private person ?
It is possible to meet by just interacting on line. You will need to put a fair amount of effort in and be resilient to knock backs.
I agree that not everyone is happy to go to clubs in the evenings (I find its not my thing) or to organised socials.
Would you feel able to get involved in the forums or chat rooms? I can't stress enough though that you would need to project a positive attitude.
Thank you thats exactly what i am doing but all people say is get yourself along to the social to get noticed. But look who says it anf they have all either verified each other or both have met the same person "Maybe because they socialise? How can you expect to succeed in a social environment without making some effort to get yourself out there? | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree?" Imeet newbies if they have been respectful I fancy them and im looking | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree? Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!
What happens if you are more of a private person ?
It is possible to meet by just interacting on line. You will need to put a fair amount of effort in and be resilient to knock backs.
I agree that not everyone is happy to go to clubs in the evenings (I find its not my thing) or to organised socials.
Would you feel able to get involved in the forums or chat rooms? I can't stress enough though that you would need to project a positive attitude.
Thank you thats exactly what i am doing but all people say is get yourself along to the social to get noticed. But look who says it anf they have all either verified each other or both have met the same person
Maybe because they socialise?
How can you expect to succeed in a social environment without making some effort to get yourself out there?"Well, it doesn't help when some socials don't want to be contacted by single blokes and block you just for trying to break the ice. | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree?" Everyone stands a chance if they treat others with respect. Don't get me wrong if you are clunge hanging from all the branches id the Wickkydikky tree you are going to be sadly disappointed but if you communicate respectfully you will get to meet people. | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree? Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!
What happens if you are more of a private person ?"It's not really charityshag.com, this place is a reflection on real life, the demands, insecurities and egos are just the same. | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree? Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!
What happens if you are more of a private person ?
It is possible to meet by just interacting on line. You will need to put a fair amount of effort in and be resilient to knock backs.
I agree that not everyone is happy to go to clubs in the evenings (I find its not my thing) or to organised socials.
Would you feel able to get involved in the forums or chat rooms? I can't stress enough though that you would need to project a positive attitude.
Thank you thats exactly what i am doing but all people say is get yourself along to the social to get noticed. But look who says it anf they have all either verified each other or both have met the same person
Maybe because they socialise?
How can you expect to succeed in a social environment without making some effort to get yourself out there?
Well, it doesn't help when some socials don't want to be contacted by single blokes and block you just for trying to break the ice."That's not something i've experienced. There are plenty of others that are very welcoming. | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree? Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!
What happens if you are more of a private person ?
It is possible to meet by just interacting on line. You will need to put a fair amount of effort in and be resilient to knock backs.
I agree that not everyone is happy to go to clubs in the evenings (I find its not my thing) or to organised socials.
Would you feel able to get involved in the forums or chat rooms? I can't stress enough though that you would need to project a positive attitude.
Thank you thats exactly what i am doing but all people say is get yourself along to the social to get noticed. But look who says it anf they have all either verified each other or both have met the same person
Maybe because they socialise?
How can you expect to succeed in a social environment without making some effort to get yourself out there?
Well, it doesn't help when some socials don't want to be contacted by single blokes and block you just for trying to break the ice.
That's not something i've experienced. There are plenty of others that are very welcoming. "Many of the socials I've been too have been full of people who just want to have a chat with their friends, and get angry when newbies dare to say they didn't enjoy being shut out. | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree? Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!
What happens if you are more of a private person ?
It is possible to meet by just interacting on line. You will need to put a fair amount of effort in and be resilient to knock backs.
I agree that not everyone is happy to go to clubs in the evenings (I find its not my thing) or to organised socials.
Would you feel able to get involved in the forums or chat rooms? I can't stress enough though that you would need to project a positive attitude.
Thank you thats exactly what i am doing but all people say is get yourself along to the social to get noticed. But look who says it anf they have all either verified each other or both have met the same person
Maybe because they socialise?
How can you expect to succeed in a social environment without making some effort to get yourself out there?
Well, it doesn't help when some socials don't want to be contacted by single blokes and block you just for trying to break the ice.
That's not something i've experienced. There are plenty of others that are very welcoming.
Many of the socials I've been too have been full of people who just want to have a chat with their friends, and get angry when newbies dare to say they didn't enjoy being shut out."That’s totally different to my experience of socials. I’m sorry to read that you’ve had that experience. Organisers in this neck of the woods would go out of their way to ensure a new face felt welcomed. | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree?" Do you think it is any different for anybody else regardless of how long they have been on the site. Yes we might have a little or large circle of friends but every time we look to meet somebody new we have to put ourselves out there. | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree? Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!
What happens if you are more of a private person ?
It is possible to meet by just interacting on line. You will need to put a fair amount of effort in and be resilient to knock backs.
I agree that not everyone is happy to go to clubs in the evenings (I find its not my thing) or to organised socials.
Would you feel able to get involved in the forums or chat rooms? I can't stress enough though that you would need to project a positive attitude.
Thank you thats exactly what i am doing but all people say is get yourself along to the social to get noticed. But look who says it anf they have all either verified each other or both have met the same person
Maybe because they socialise?
How can you expect to succeed in a social environment without making some effort to get yourself out there?
Well, it doesn't help when some socials don't want to be contacted by single blokes and block you just for trying to break the ice.
That's not something i've experienced. There are plenty of others that are very welcoming.
Many of the socials I've been too have been full of people who just want to have a chat with their friends, and get angry when newbies dare to say they didn't enjoy being shut out.
That’s totally different to my experience of socials. I’m sorry to read that you’ve had that experience. Organisers in this neck of the woods would go out of their way to ensure a new face felt welcomed."You're a woman. Single women are scarce, so people make an effort. Single men are disposable. | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree? Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!
What happens if you are more of a private person ?
It is possible to meet by just interacting on line. You will need to put a fair amount of effort in and be resilient to knock backs.
I agree that not everyone is happy to go to clubs in the evenings (I find its not my thing) or to organised socials.
Would you feel able to get involved in the forums or chat rooms? I can't stress enough though that you would need to project a positive attitude.
Thank you thats exactly what i am doing but all people say is get yourself along to the social to get noticed. But look who says it anf they have all either verified each other or both have met the same person
Maybe because they socialise?
How can you expect to succeed in a social environment without making some effort to get yourself out there?
Well, it doesn't help when some socials don't want to be contacted by single blokes and block you just for trying to break the ice.
That's not something i've experienced. There are plenty of others that are very welcoming.
Many of the socials I've been too have been full of people who just want to have a chat with their friends, and get angry when newbies dare to say they didn't enjoy being shut out.
That’s totally different to my experience of socials. I’m sorry to read that you’ve had that experience. Organisers in this neck of the woods would go out of their way to ensure a new face felt welcomed.
You're a woman. Single women are scarce, so people make an effort. Single men are disposable."Perhaps it depends on the social. The one I've been to is great with any social newbie. Regardless of gender | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree? Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!
What happens if you are more of a private person ?
It is possible to meet by just interacting on line. You will need to put a fair amount of effort in and be resilient to knock backs.
I agree that not everyone is happy to go to clubs in the evenings (I find its not my thing) or to organised socials.
Would you feel able to get involved in the forums or chat rooms? I can't stress enough though that you would need to project a positive attitude.
Thank you thats exactly what i am doing but all people say is get yourself along to the social to get noticed. But look who says it anf they have all either verified each other or both have met the same person
Maybe because they socialise?
How can you expect to succeed in a social environment without making some effort to get yourself out there?
Well, it doesn't help when some socials don't want to be contacted by single blokes and block you just for trying to break the ice.
That's not something i've experienced. There are plenty of others that are very welcoming.
Many of the socials I've been too have been full of people who just want to have a chat with their friends, and get angry when newbies dare to say they didn't enjoy being shut out.
That’s totally different to my experience of socials. I’m sorry to read that you’ve had that experience. Organisers in this neck of the woods would go out of their way to ensure a new face felt welcomed.
You're a woman. Single women are scarce, so people make an effort. Single men are disposable."I think having that mindset may be linked to the response you've encountered. Plenty of single men thrive at socials | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree? Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!
What happens if you are more of a private person ?
It is possible to meet by just interacting on line. You will need to put a fair amount of effort in and be resilient to knock backs.
I agree that not everyone is happy to go to clubs in the evenings (I find its not my thing) or to organised socials.
Would you feel able to get involved in the forums or chat rooms? I can't stress enough though that you would need to project a positive attitude.
Thank you thats exactly what i am doing but all people say is get yourself along to the social to get noticed. But look who says it anf they have all either verified each other or both have met the same person
Maybe because they socialise?
How can you expect to succeed in a social environment without making some effort to get yourself out there?
Well, it doesn't help when some socials don't want to be contacted by single blokes and block you just for trying to break the ice.
That's not something i've experienced. There are plenty of others that are very welcoming. "I'm in Peterborough, so I'd like to have somewhere to go to that wasn't 30 miles away. | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree? Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!
What happens if you are more of a private person ?
It is possible to meet by just interacting on line. You will need to put a fair amount of effort in and be resilient to knock backs.
I agree that not everyone is happy to go to clubs in the evenings (I find its not my thing) or to organised socials.
Would you feel able to get involved in the forums or chat rooms? I can't stress enough though that you would need to project a positive attitude.
Thank you thats exactly what i am doing but all people say is get yourself along to the social to get noticed. But look who says it anf they have all either verified each other or both have met the same person
Maybe because they socialise?
How can you expect to succeed in a social environment without making some effort to get yourself out there?
Well, it doesn't help when some socials don't want to be contacted by single blokes and block you just for trying to break the ice.
That's not something i've experienced. There are plenty of others that are very welcoming.
Many of the socials I've been too have been full of people who just want to have a chat with their friends, and get angry when newbies dare to say they didn't enjoy being shut out.
That’s totally different to my experience of socials. I’m sorry to read that you’ve had that experience. Organisers in this neck of the woods would go out of their way to ensure a new face felt welcomed.
You're a woman. Single women are scarce, so people make an effort. Single men are disposable.
I think having that mindset may be linked to the response you've encountered.
Plenty of single men thrive at socials"The mindset came after the socials, not before. | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree?" No one stands a chance with that attitude and who says those who have been verified aren't genuine??
You have to put yourself out there to stand out, that's the point.
Laws of attraction are in favour of those who are attractive physically or have a well written profile.
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree? Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!
What happens if you are more of a private person ?
You're screwed, and not in the good way. At some point if you're ever going to meet you have to take a leap of faith and be more open. If you're introvert and don't want to share pics or details people will be unlikely to believe you're legit. "Very true x | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree?" If you're vwe or BBC as newbie, you'll get 10+ messages in 5min | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree? No one stands a chance with that attitude and who says those who have been verified aren't genuine??
You have to put yourself out there to stand out, that's the point.
Laws of attraction are in favour of those who are attractive physically or have a well written profile.
And those that read profile before messaging"Do you think my profile is well written? | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree? Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!
What happens if you are more of a private person ?
It is possible to meet by just interacting on line. You will need to put a fair amount of effort in and be resilient to knock backs.
I agree that not everyone is happy to go to clubs in the evenings (I find its not my thing) or to organised socials.
Would you feel able to get involved in the forums or chat rooms? I can't stress enough though that you would need to project a positive attitude.
Thank you thats exactly what i am doing but all people say is get yourself along to the social to get noticed. But look who says it anf they have all either verified each other or both have met the same person "Isn't that the point of attending one?!  | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree?" U gotta get out there and go parties bro! Definitely go to parties to socialise! I've left parties at the same time as women (not on purpose) and end up in bed from a little bit of banter and convo fuck being a keyboard warrior!  | |||
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"Remember my first meet omg l was shy & nervy still am lol so newbies come on over have fun " Would have if you were 25 years younger... Lol or know some that are between 25 and 40... | |||
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"Remember my first meet omg l was shy & nervy still am lol so newbies come on over have fun Would have if you were 25 years younger... Lol or know some that are between 25 and 40..." Oh how sweet  | |||
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"Remember my first meet omg l was shy & nervy still am lol so newbies come on over have fun Would have if you were 25 years younger... Lol or know some that are between 25 and 40... Oh how sweet "A charmer for sure! | |||
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"Remember my first meet omg l was shy & nervy still am lol so newbies come on over have fun Would have if you were 25 years younger... Lol or know some that are between 25 and 40... Oh how sweet "Lol, how's that sweet?  | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree?" Nope! I do quite well on here, maybe because I’m an outgoing person, not a boring guy that just types on a computer keyboard. | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree? Nope! I do quite well on here, maybe because I’m an outgoing person, not a boring guy that just types on a computer keyboard. " Mind looking at my profile and give advice besides mentioning pictures | |||
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"Remember my first meet omg l was shy & nervy still am lol so newbies come on over have fun Would have if you were 25 years younger... Lol or know some that are between 25 and 40... Oh how sweet
A charmer for sure!"Just gutted I'm a year out of age range  | |||
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"Remember my first meet omg l was shy & nervy still am lol so newbies come on over have fun Would have if you were 25 years younger... Lol or know some that are between 25 and 40... Oh how sweet
Lol, how's that sweet? "I may have been a tad sarcastic, in my comment | |||
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"Remember my first meet omg l was shy & nervy still am lol so newbies come on over have fun Would have if you were 25 years younger... Lol or know some that are between 25 and 40... Oh how sweet
A charmer for sure!
Just gutted I'm a year out of age range "What a bummer that you only message with site supporters.  | |||
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"Remember my first meet omg l was shy & nervy still am lol so newbies come on over have fun Would have if you were 25 years younger... Lol or know some that are between 25 and 40... Oh how sweet
Lol, how's that sweet?
I may have been a tad sarcastic, in my comment "I noticed. | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree? Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!
What happens if you are more of a private person ?
It is possible to meet by just interacting on line. You will need to put a fair amount of effort in and be resilient to knock backs.
I agree that not everyone is happy to go to clubs in the evenings (I find its not my thing) or to organised socials.
Would you feel able to get involved in the forums or chat rooms? I can't stress enough though that you would need to project a positive attitude.
Thank you thats exactly what i am doing but all people say is get yourself along to the social to get noticed. But look who says it anf they have all either verified each other or both have met the same person "You do realise the reason they've met and verified each other is often they've all attended the same group social. My advice for what it's worth, stop finding excuses not to do things and start finding reasons to do them. Yes it's tough for some new members, for others it's a walk in the park. Those who find it simple are the ones with good profiles, good picture's, a good attitude and a go get 'em PoV. Good luck. | |||
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"Remember my first meet omg l was shy & nervy still am lol so newbies come on over have fun Would have if you were 25 years younger... Lol or know some that are between 25 and 40... Oh how sweet
A charmer for sure!
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree? Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!
What happens if you are more of a private person ?
It is possible to meet by just interacting on line. You will need to put a fair amount of effort in and be resilient to knock backs.
I agree that not everyone is happy to go to clubs in the evenings (I find its not my thing) or to organised socials.
Would you feel able to get involved in the forums or chat rooms? I can't stress enough though that you would need to project a positive attitude.
Thank you thats exactly what i am doing but all people say is get yourself along to the social to get noticed. But look who says it anf they have all either verified each other or both have met the same person
Maybe because they socialise?
How can you expect to succeed in a social environment without making some effort to get yourself out there?
Well, it doesn't help when some socials don't want to be contacted by single blokes and block you just for trying to break the ice."As a newbie I went to loads of group socials when I first joined. Maybe my forum persona helped, I don't whinge and whine or argue at the drop of a hat. I'm easy going and have (I think) a sense of humour. I've considered starting social just for newbies, still mulling it over. I'd suggest if people don't get invited there's a reason. If in doubt, start your own. People will come..... | |||
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"Remember my first meet omg l was shy & nervy still am lol so newbies come on over have fun Would have if you were 25 years younger... Lol or know some that are between 25 and 40... Oh how sweet
A charmer for sure!
Just gutted I'm a year out of age range
What a bummer that you only message with site supporters. "No its called a preference. A good word for you to learn to respect. | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree? I fully agree this site is very clicky. Especially the forums. I've been on sites enough times to know it's not who you are but who you friends with " Definitely true to a large degree. I've been lucky enough to meet some fabulous people, but VERY few from messaging on here. Pretty much everything I post of the forums seems like 'tumble', but also true to say that attending socials and getting known socially appears to be far more successful in my personal experience - with the result that I'm starting to feel like I'm part of a social circle (and becoming more so each month). I suspect a lot of it makes perfect sense as people get to be able to judge you in a more 'real' way. Can't say I feel part of a clique as yet, but I could imagine it appearing that way in a few more months time if things continue as they are. In point of fact I was introduced to the group by one of the few women who'd taken a chance on me and met me based on my messages to her and our 1-1 meets. | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree?" Nearby genuine single guys who accom and live alone are all I'm looking for. So I feel you're wrong there OP. Good job I don't have sex just for the sake of having it. What I mean is, finding a gen single guy who fits what I seek is similar to mission impossible. I constantly have my time wasted by single guys who ignore my profile wishes. That aside, keep looking OP. There's plenty of women who will match what you seek. Fingers crossed! | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree? Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!
What happens if you are more of a private person ?
It is possible to meet by just interacting on line. You will need to put a fair amount of effort in and be resilient to knock backs.
I agree that not everyone is happy to go to clubs in the evenings (I find its not my thing) or to organised socials.
Would you feel able to get involved in the forums or chat rooms? I can't stress enough though that you would need to project a positive attitude.
Thank you thats exactly what i am doing but all people say is get yourself along to the social to get noticed. But look who says it anf they have all either verified each other or both have met the same person
Maybe because they socialise?
How can you expect to succeed in a social environment without making some effort to get yourself out there?
Well, it doesn't help when some socials don't want to be contacted by single blokes and block you just for trying to break the ice.
That's not something i've experienced. There are plenty of others that are very welcoming.
Many of the socials I've been too have been full of people who just want to have a chat with their friends, and get angry when newbies dare to say they didn't enjoy being shut out.
That’s totally different to my experience of socials. I’m sorry to read that you’ve had that experience. Organisers in this neck of the woods would go out of their way to ensure a new face felt welcomed.
You're a woman. Single women are scarce, so people make an effort. Single men are disposable."The organisers I know would make an effort for ANY newbie, unless they had a really odd attitude. | |||
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"I've got no experience with women. I come to fab, and unsurprisingly most women are looking for experienced men. It's like looking for a job, they want experience and since you don't have any, you can't get any. " I a think the issue with this, is that some are looking for fun. Teaching can sometimes feel more like a job than fun. I'm sure there are some who would happily show you the ropes though. You just have to find them, which I know can be difficult | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree? Nearby genuine single guys who accom and live alone are all I'm looking for. So I feel you're wrong there OP. Good job I don't have sex just for the sake of having it. What I mean is, finding a gen single guy who fits what I seek is similar to mission impossible. I constantly have my time wasted by single guys who ignore my profile wishes. That aside, keep looking OP. There's plenty of women who will match what you seek. Fingers crossed!" Too bad, out of age range. Or id have not wasted my time on that blubsious ass | |||
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"Remember my first meet omg l was shy & nervy still am lol so newbies come on over have fun Would have if you were 25 years younger... Lol or know some that are between 25 and 40... Oh how sweet
A charmer for sure!
Just gutted I'm a year out of age range
What a bummer that you only message with site supporters.
No its called a preference. A good word for you to learn to respect. "Lol, I give no wood of what you say or think. And yes, my personality is who I am and my attitude depends on who you are. And in this case, non existent to me. | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree? Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!
What happens if you are more of a private person ?
It is possible to meet by just interacting on line. You will need to put a fair amount of effort in and be resilient to knock backs.
I agree that not everyone is happy to go to clubs in the evenings (I find its not my thing) or to organised socials.
Would you feel able to get involved in the forums or chat rooms? I can't stress enough though that you would need to project a positive attitude.
Thank you thats exactly what i am doing but all people say is get yourself along to the social to get noticed. But look who says it anf they have all either verified each other or both have met the same person
Maybe because they socialise?
How can you expect to succeed in a social environment without making some effort to get yourself out there?
Well, it doesn't help when some socials don't want to be contacted by single blokes and block you just for trying to break the ice.
That's not something i've experienced. There are plenty of others that are very welcoming.
Many of the socials I've been too have been full of people who just want to have a chat with their friends, and get angry when newbies dare to say they didn't enjoy being shut out.
That’s totally different to my experience of socials. I’m sorry to read that you’ve had that experience. Organisers in this neck of the woods would go out of their way to ensure a new face felt welcomed.
You're a woman. Single women are scarce, so people make an effort. Single men are disposable.
The organisers I know would make an effort for ANY newbie, unless they had a really odd attitude."Certainly true in the case of the Gloucester Social. They've made me feel very welcome over the last few months. | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree?" We were all newbies once upon a time!! | |||
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"It's not just single guys!honest! As a single woman im not short of offers but very short of the offers that 'fit the bill ' for.examp site supporter "Having filters for site supports decreases the amount of men who join with no interest in meeting, are too stingy to pay the £5 and are just here for a wank. Although, some who are here for just a wank, sometimes do pay the £5. But it helps | |||
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"It's not just single guys!honest! As a single woman im not short of offers but very short of the offers that 'fit the bill ' for.examp site supporter
Having filters for site supports decreases the amount of men who join with no interest in meeting, are too stingy to pay the £5 and are just here for a wank. Although, some who are here for just a wank, sometimes do pay the £5. But it helps "Best £5 I ever spent | |||
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"It's not just single guys!honest! As a single woman im not short of offers but very short of the offers that 'fit the bill ' for.examp site supporter
Having filters for site supports decreases the amount of men who join with no interest in meeting, are too stingy to pay the £5 and are just here for a wank. Although, some who are here for just a wank, sometimes do pay the £5. But it helps
Best £5 I ever spent "Proud of you! | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree? Nearby genuine single guys who accom and live alone are all I'm looking for. So I feel you're wrong there OP. Good job I don't have sex just for the sake of having it. What I mean is, finding a gen single guy who fits what I seek is similar to mission impossible. I constantly have my time wasted by single guys who ignore my profile wishes. That aside, keep looking OP. There's plenty of women who will match what you seek. Fingers crossed! Too bad, out of age range. Or id have not wasted my time on that blubsious ass "Another time waster who ignores women's profiles! You think it's just about age when in fact it's not! | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree? Nearby genuine single guys who accom and live alone are all I'm looking for. So I feel you're wrong there OP. Good job I don't have sex just for the sake of having it. What I mean is, finding a gen single guy who fits what I seek is similar to mission impossible. I constantly have my time wasted by single guys who ignore my profile wishes. That aside, keep looking OP. There's plenty of women who will match what you seek. Fingers crossed! Too bad, out of age range. Or id have not wasted my time on that blubsious ass
Another time waster who ignores women's profiles! You think it's just about age when in fact it's not! "I did read your profile.... :/, S have messaged you but out of age range. Doesn't let me message. Smh. You're just too fast to judge. | |||
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"It's not just single guys!honest! As a single woman im not short of offers but very short of the offers that 'fit the bill ' for.examp site supporter
Having filters for site supports decreases the amount of men who join with no interest in meeting, are too stingy to pay the £5 and are just here for a wank. Although, some who are here for just a wank, sometimes do pay the £5. But it helps
Best £5 I ever spent "Me too. Great wank material here. Well worth the fiver | |||
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"It's not just single guys!honest! As a single woman im not short of offers but very short of the offers that 'fit the bill ' for.examp site supporter
Having filters for site supports decreases the amount of men who join with no interest in meeting, are too stingy to pay the £5 and are just here for a wank. Although, some who are here for just a wank, sometimes do pay the £5. But it helps
Best £5 I ever spent
Me too. Great wank material here. Well worth the fiver "5 pounds is wasted when there aren't many people that really want to meet.. plus the site supporter status isn't going to allow you to message those that have age filters. | |||
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"It's not just single guys!honest! As a single woman im not short of offers but very short of the offers that 'fit the bill ' for.examp site supporter
Having filters for site supports decreases the amount of men who join with no interest in meeting, are too stingy to pay the £5 and are just here for a wank. Although, some who are here for just a wank, sometimes do pay the £5. But it helps
Best £5 I ever spent
Me too. Great wank material here. Well worth the fiver
5 pounds is wasted when there aren't many people that really want to meet.. plus the site supporter status isn't going to allow you to message those that have age filters. "Yet a lot have veris as proof they do meet. Strange that is, isn't It?  | |||
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"It's not just single guys!honest! As a single woman im not short of offers but very short of the offers that 'fit the bill ' for.examp site supporter
Having filters for site supports decreases the amount of men who join with no interest in meeting, are too stingy to pay the £5 and are just here for a wank. Although, some who are here for just a wank, sometimes do pay the £5. But it helps
Best £5 I ever spent
Me too. Great wank material here. Well worth the fiver
5 pounds is wasted when there aren't many people that really want to meet.. plus the site supporter status isn't going to allow you to message those that have age filters.
Yet a lot have veris as proof they do meet. Strange that is, isn't It? "I don't find it strange but true | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree? Nearby genuine single guys who accom and live alone are all I'm looking for. So I feel you're wrong there OP. Good job I don't have sex just for the sake of having it. What I mean is, finding a gen single guy who fits what I seek is similar to mission impossible. I constantly have my time wasted by single guys who ignore my profile wishes. That aside, keep looking OP. There's plenty of women who will match what you seek. Fingers crossed! Too bad, out of age range. Or id have not wasted my time on that blubsious ass
Another time waster who ignores women's profiles! You think it's just about age when in fact it's not!
I did read your profile.... :/, S have messaged you but out of age range. Doesn't let me message. Smh. You're just too fast to judge."Wrong! You haven't at all. If you messages me I'd delete and block without reply! Why? It's clear you haven't read my profile or you have but chosen to ignore it. To me that makes you arrogant. As in my profile wishes can't possibly apply to you! It's clear I'm looking for a SINGLE guy who LIVES Nearby or no further then 30 mins drive from me, He must ACCOMMODATE and LIVE ALONE. I travel and never accom. I also will not go into a home with other guys there. Safety aspect as well as privacy. You're also too young. You don't fit what I'm looking for for many reasons but you chose to just see one reason! If you time waste a woman and push side her wishes for her body then you do not deserve a reply. Just like other guys who do the same! Learn some respect for what women truely seek and you'll reep the rewards! | |||
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"Remember my first meet omg l was shy & nervy still am lol so newbies come on over have fun Would have if you were 25 years younger... Lol or know some that are between 25 and 40... Oh how sweet
A charmer for sure!
Just gutted I'm a year out of age range
What a bummer that you only message with site supporters.
No its called a preference. A good word for you to learn to respect.
Lol, I give no wood of what you say or think. And yes, my personality is who I am and my attitude depends on who you are. And in this case, non existent to me. "How not to make friends and influence people | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree? Nearby genuine single guys who accom and live alone are all I'm looking for. So I feel you're wrong there OP. Good job I don't have sex just for the sake of having it. What I mean is, finding a gen single guy who fits what I seek is similar to mission impossible. I constantly have my time wasted by single guys who ignore my profile wishes. That aside, keep looking OP. There's plenty of women who will match what you seek. Fingers crossed! Too bad, out of age range. Or id have not wasted my time on that blubsious ass
Another time waster who ignores women's profiles! You think it's just about age when in fact it's not!
I did read your profile.... :/, S have messaged you but out of age range. Doesn't let me message. Smh. You're just too fast to judge."Fast and very accurate judge of character by the look of things. | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree? Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!
What happens if you are more of a private person ?
It is possible to meet by just interacting on line. You will need to put a fair amount of effort in and be resilient to knock backs.
I agree that not everyone is happy to go to clubs in the evenings (I find its not my thing) or to organised socials.
Would you feel able to get involved in the forums or chat rooms? I can't stress enough though that you would need to project a positive attitude.
Thank you thats exactly what i am doing but all people say is get yourself along to the social to get noticed. But look who says it anf they have all either verified each other or both have met the same person
Maybe because they socialise?
How can you expect to succeed in a social environment without making some effort to get yourself out there?
Well, it doesn't help when some socials don't want to be contacted by single blokes and block you just for trying to break the ice.
That's not something i've experienced. There are plenty of others that are very welcoming.
Many of the socials I've been too have been full of people who just want to have a chat with their friends, and get angry when newbies dare to say they didn't enjoy being shut out.
That’s totally different to my experience of socials. I’m sorry to read that you’ve had that experience. Organisers in this neck of the woods would go out of their way to ensure a new face felt welcomed.
You're a woman. Single women are scarce, so people make an effort. Single men are disposable.
The organisers I know would make an effort for ANY newbie, unless they had a really odd attitude."My experience has been that it's unusual for an organiser to make any such effort. A couple have, most just dump you in the deep end to sink or swim. They give the impression that they're only organising the social so they're the centre of attention; no interest in doing the actual work of hosting. | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree? Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!
What happens if you are more of a private person ?
It is possible to meet by just interacting on line. You will need to put a fair amount of effort in and be resilient to knock backs.
I agree that not everyone is happy to go to clubs in the evenings (I find its not my thing) or to organised socials.
Would you feel able to get involved in the forums or chat rooms? I can't stress enough though that you would need to project a positive attitude.
Thank you thats exactly what i am doing but all people say is get yourself along to the social to get noticed. But look who says it anf they have all either verified each other or both have met the same person
Maybe because they socialise?
How can you expect to succeed in a social environment without making some effort to get yourself out there?
Well, it doesn't help when some socials don't want to be contacted by single blokes and block you just for trying to break the ice.
That's not something i've experienced. There are plenty of others that are very welcoming.
Many of the socials I've been too have been full of people who just want to have a chat with their friends, and get angry when newbies dare to say they didn't enjoy being shut out.
That’s totally different to my experience of socials. I’m sorry to read that you’ve had that experience. Organisers in this neck of the woods would go out of their way to ensure a new face felt welcomed.
You're a woman. Single women are scarce, so people make an effort. Single men are disposable.
The organisers I know would make an effort for ANY newbie, unless they had a really odd attitude.
My experience has been that it's unusual for an organiser to make any such effort. A couple have, most just dump you in the deep end to sink or swim. They give the impression that they're only organising the social so they're the centre of attention; no interest in doing the actual work of hosting."My experience of group socials is the exact opposite of yours. There must be a reason.... Why not organise one yourself? | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree? Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!
What happens if you are more of a private person ?
It is possible to meet by just interacting on line. You will need to put a fair amount of effort in and be resilient to knock backs.
I agree that not everyone is happy to go to clubs in the evenings (I find its not my thing) or to organised socials.
Would you feel able to get involved in the forums or chat rooms? I can't stress enough though that you would need to project a positive attitude.
Thank you thats exactly what i am doing but all people say is get yourself along to the social to get noticed. But look who says it anf they have all either verified each other or both have met the same person
Maybe because they socialise?
How can you expect to succeed in a social environment without making some effort to get yourself out there?
Well, it doesn't help when some socials don't want to be contacted by single blokes and block you just for trying to break the ice.
That's not something i've experienced. There are plenty of others that are very welcoming.
Many of the socials I've been too have been full of people who just want to have a chat with their friends, and get angry when newbies dare to say they didn't enjoy being shut out.
That’s totally different to my experience of socials. I’m sorry to read that you’ve had that experience. Organisers in this neck of the woods would go out of their way to ensure a new face felt welcomed.
You're a woman. Single women are scarce, so people make an effort. Single men are disposable.
The organisers I know would make an effort for ANY newbie, unless they had a really odd attitude.
My experience has been that it's unusual for an organiser to make any such effort. A couple have, most just dump you in the deep end to sink or swim. They give the impression that they're only organising the social so they're the centre of attention; no interest in doing the actual work of hosting.
My experience of group socials is the exact opposite of yours.
There must be a reason....
Why not organise one yourself?"Because I know my limitations. I couldn't do the job justice, and I won't ask people let me waste their time that way. | |||
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"My experience has been that it's unusual for an organiser to make any such effort. A couple have, most just dump you in the deep end to sink or swim. They give the impression that they're only organising the social so they're the centre of attention; no interest in doing the actual work of hosting." To be honest, the work that can go into organising some events is surely enough - they've taken the time and trouble to find a venue, potentially arrange food, maybe entertainment and certainly done all of the admin of sorting names and numbers. I certainly don't expect anything of them on the night other than a welcome and at most a quick introduction to a couple of others but ultimately I'm an adult and expect to make my own way. Is it easy to introduce yourself to strangers? No, of course not. But if you want the benefit, you make the effort. | |||
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"Everything in life is about effort if you put some attempt into getting to know what's required of any given situation then with effort you can achieve it, this life requires personality in the meet situation if you're shy or stand offish you will struggle a little and their are many judgemental people here who judge you by your written word, see beyond that make the best of yourself and your potential meets, socials can be clicky yes and the hosts / organisers will naturally levitate to people they know and people that demand their attention but let your personality get that attention it's the most successful weapon you have that and your looks. Nobody has a better chance than anyone else we are all equal at the get go "But having a BBC does help | |||
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"I don't agree as a newbie you've got as much chance as the next person not reading his profile str8 but has a veri from a guy .confused dot com "You are bi yourself, surely you have male friends who are straight??? Small minded people on fab being judgemental and bitchy make it difficult for people to meet. | |||
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"Everything in life is about effort if you put some attempt into getting to know what's required of any given situation then with effort you can achieve it, this life requires personality in the meet situation if you're shy or stand offish you will struggle a little and their are many judgemental people here who judge you by your written word, see beyond that make the best of yourself and your potential meets, socials can be clicky yes and the hosts / organisers will naturally levitate to people they know and people that demand their attention but let your personality get that attention it's the most successful weapon you have that and your looks. Nobody has a better chance than anyone else we are all equal at the get go
But having a BBC does help "true many things give you an advantage and at the minute with some that's in vogue | |||
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"It's not just single guys!honest! As a single woman im not short of offers but very short of the offers that 'fit the bill ' for.examp site supporter
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Me too. Great wank material here. Well worth the fiver "Where else you'd get a daily inbox of cock pics | |||
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"I don't agree as a newbie you've got as much chance as the next person "
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"I don't agree as a newbie you've got as much chance as the next person not reading his profile str8 but has a veri from a guy .confused dot com
You are bi yourself, surely you have male friends who are straight??? Small minded people on fab being judgemental and bitchy make it difficult for people to meet. "Fab hypocrisy strikes again lol | |||
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"Everything in life is about effort if you put some attempt into getting to know what's required of any given situation then with effort you can achieve it, this life requires personality in the meet situation if you're shy or stand offish you will struggle a little and their are many judgemental people here who judge you by your written word, see beyond that make the best of yourself and your potential meets, socials can be clicky yes and the hosts / organisers will naturally levitate to people they know and people that demand their attention but let your personality get that attention it's the most successful weapon you have that and your looks. Nobody has a better chance than anyone else we are all equal at the get go " | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree?" Perhaps consider going to a club one night. Have a chat with some couples and get some verifications, anything else that may happen on the night will be a bonus xx | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree?if someone fancies you they will meet you...If not..they won't. Its that simple "Indeed | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree? Nearby genuine single guys who accom and live alone are all I'm looking for. So I feel you're wrong there OP. Good job I don't have sex just for the sake of having it. What I mean is, finding a gen single guy who fits what I seek is similar to mission impossible. I constantly have my time wasted by single guys who ignore my profile wishes. That aside, keep looking OP. There's plenty of women who will match what you seek. Fingers crossed! Too bad, out of age range. Or id have not wasted my time on that blubsious ass
Another time waster who ignores women's profiles! You think it's just about age when in fact it's not!
I did read your profile.... :/, S have messaged you but out of age range. Doesn't let me message. Smh. You're just too fast to judge.
Wrong! You haven't at all. If you messages me I'd delete and block without reply! Why? It's clear you haven't read my profile or you have but chosen to ignore it. To me that makes you arrogant. As in my profile wishes can't possibly apply to you!
It's clear I'm looking for a SINGLE guy who LIVES Nearby or no further then 30 mins drive from me, He must ACCOMMODATE and LIVE ALONE. I travel and never accom. I also will not go into a home with other guys there. Safety aspect as well as privacy.
You're also too young. You don't fit what I'm looking for for many reasons but you chose to just see one reason! If you time waste a woman and push side her wishes for her body then you do not deserve a reply. Just like other guys who do the same!
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree? Isn't swinging all about putting yourself out there? hehe!
What happens if you are more of a private person ?
It is possible to meet by just interacting on line. You will need to put a fair amount of effort in and be resilient to knock backs.
I agree that not everyone is happy to go to clubs in the evenings (I find its not my thing) or to organised socials.
Would you feel able to get involved in the forums or chat rooms? I can't stress enough though that you would need to project a positive attitude.
Thank you thats exactly what i am doing but all people say is get yourself along to the social to get noticed. But look who says it anf they have all either verified each other or both have met the same person
Maybe because they socialise?
How can you expect to succeed in a social environment without making some effort to get yourself out there?
Well, it doesn't help when some socials don't want to be contacted by single blokes and block you just for trying to break the ice.
That's not something i've experienced. There are plenty of others that are very welcoming.
Many of the socials I've been too have been full of people who just want to have a chat with their friends, and get angry when newbies dare to say they didn't enjoy being shut out.
That’s totally different to my experience of socials. I’m sorry to read that you’ve had that experience. Organisers in this neck of the woods would go out of their way to ensure a new face felt welcomed.
You're a woman. Single women are scarce, so people make an effort. Single men are disposable.
The organisers I know would make an effort for ANY newbie, unless they had a really odd attitude.
My experience has been that it's unusual for an organiser to make any such effort. A couple have, most just dump you in the deep end to sink or swim. They give the impression that they're only organising the social so they're the centre of attention; no interest in doing the actual work of hosting.
My experience of group socials is the exact opposite of yours.
There must be a reason....
Why not organise one yourself?
Because I know my limitations. I couldn't do the job justice, and I won't ask people let me waste their time that way."You're not a million miles from me, if I organised a social near me, would you attend? | |||
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"I totally disagree with the OP. For example, Ive followed the adventures of two new guys whiz I’ve been chatting to since they joined a few weeks ago. Both are getting very good meets with very hot people. One has been to a social and networked from that. He, apparently, now has good word of mouth working for him. The other has used the forums. Both give excellent chat and have very good pics. No secret handshakes, no insinuating themselves into cliques, just good communicators who are fun to talk to. People who can spell 'clique' properly make me go all warm and fuzzy." And discreet x | |||
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"I totally disagree with the OP. For example, Ive followed the adventures of two new guys whiz I’ve been chatting to since they joined a few weeks ago. Both are getting very good meets with very hot people. One has been to a social and networked from that. He, apparently, now has good word of mouth working for him. The other has used the forums. Both give excellent chat and have very good pics. No secret handshakes, no insinuating themselves into cliques, just good communicators who are fun to talk to. People who can spell 'clique' properly make me go all warm and fuzzy." I'm more impressed when people pronounce it correctly. | |||
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"I totally disagree with the OP. For example, Ive followed the adventures of two new guys whiz I’ve been chatting to since they joined a few weeks ago. Both are getting very good meets with very hot people. One has been to a social and networked from that. He, apparently, now has good word of mouth working for him. The other has used the forums. Both give excellent chat and have very good pics. No secret handshakes, no insinuating themselves into cliques, just good communicators who are fun to talk to. People who can spell 'clique' properly make me go all warm and fuzzy. I'm more impressed when people pronounce it correctly." Same with picturesque | |||
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"I totally disagree with the OP. For example, Ive followed the adventures of two new guys whiz I’ve been chatting to since they joined a few weeks ago. Both are getting very good meets with very hot people. One has been to a social and networked from that. He, apparently, now has good word of mouth working for him. The other has used the forums. Both give excellent chat and have very good pics. No secret handshakes, no insinuating themselves into cliques, just good communicators who are fun to talk to. People who can spell 'clique' properly make me go all warm and fuzzy. Stick with me, I can spell all sorts of words proper, even with a cock up my arse.. "You are a woman of rare and wondrous abilities and I bow down before your eminence.....hello sweetly xxx | |||
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"I totally disagree with the OP. For example, Ive followed the adventures of two new guys whiz I’ve been chatting to since they joined a few weeks ago. Both are getting very good meets with very hot people. One has been to a social and networked from that. He, apparently, now has good word of mouth working for him. The other has used the forums. Both give excellent chat and have very good pics. No secret handshakes, no insinuating themselves into cliques, just good communicators who are fun to talk to. People who can spell 'clique' properly make me go all warm and fuzzy. Stick with me, I can spell all sorts of words proper, even with a cock up my arse..
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree?" I have been having the same experience, so many profiles read "no veri no chat" How do you put yourself out there if no one engages with you? I was also disappointed to see how many of my messages just go unread, I haven't even had many views. Newbies aren't trusted, true there are a lot of idiots and time wasters, but how do we gain that trust if we're not given the chance, though I am starting to think now that I can't be what people are looking for. | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree? I have been having the same experience, so many profiles read "no veri no chat" How do you put yourself out there if no one engages with you? I was also disappointed to see how many of my messages just go unread, I haven't even had many views. Newbies aren't trusted, true there are a lot of idiots and time wasters, but how do we gain that trust if we're not given the chance, though I am starting to think now that I can't be what people are looking for. " Go to a club Mrs | |||
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"I thought everyone stood a chance just some less than others depending on how attracted someone is not their age of their profile. " Well apparently age matters too.... | |||
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"It's really simple. If you're a single guy, you're up against it from the beginning because of the odds. If you have no verifications, people will probably prefer a verified guy to you. Hence go to clubs and socials and chat to couples and women in a normal sociable way.. Lo and behold they'll verify you saying what a friendly guy you are. Other couples and people will see that and may think you're a good person to meet... " Factcheck: No, they won't most of the time. | |||
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"It's really simple. If you're a single guy, you're up against it from the beginning because of the odds. If you have no verifications, people will probably prefer a verified guy to you. Hence go to clubs and socials and chat to couples and women in a normal sociable way.. Lo and behold they'll verify you saying what a friendly guy you are. Other couples and people will see that and may think you're a good person to meet... Factcheck: No, they won't most of the time. " I'm curious, how many socials have you been too? | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree? I fully agree this site is very clicky. Especially the forums. I've been on sites enough times to know it's not who you are but who you friends with " Same as life really. | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree? I fully agree this site is very clicky. Especially the forums. I've been on sites enough times to know it's not who you are but who you friends with Same as life really. " My forum experience seems totally at odds with a lot of people. I was invited to my first group social within a few weeks of joining. Had a great time, people who attended the same social go to others, mentioned me and I got invites to others. Now if I see a social I fancy going to I PM the host, have a chat and get an invite. I've been to socials in London, Reading, Brighton, Manchester and got a warm welcome every time. | |||
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"It's really simple. If you're a single guy, you're up against it from the beginning because of the odds. If you have no verifications, people will probably prefer a verified guy to you. Hence go to clubs and socials and chat to couples and women in a normal sociable way.. Lo and behold they'll verify you saying what a friendly guy you are. Other couples and people will see that and may think you're a good person to meet... Factcheck: No, they won't most of the time. I'm curious, how many socials have you been too?" Over 20. | |||
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"It's really simple. If you're a single guy, you're up against it from the beginning because of the odds. If you have no verifications, people will probably prefer a verified guy to you. Hence go to clubs and socials and chat to couples and women in a normal sociable way.. Lo and behold they'll verify you saying what a friendly guy you are. Other couples and people will see that and may think you're a good person to meet... Factcheck: No, they won't most of the time. I'm curious, how many socials have you been too? Over 20." Group socials or 1 to 1 socials? | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here?" If anyone does agree they're likely to be one of those who think that joining up guarantees a wall of naked women flowing their way. This place doesn't work like that | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree? U gotta get out there and go parties bro! Definitely go to parties to socialise! I've left parties at the same time as women (not on purpose) and end up in bed from a little bit of banter and convo fuck being a keyboard warrior! " | |||
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"It's really simple. If you're a single guy, you're up against it from the beginning because of the odds. If you have no verifications, people will probably prefer a verified guy to you. Hence go to clubs and socials and chat to couples and women in a normal sociable way.. Lo and behold they'll verify you saying what a friendly guy you are. Other couples and people will see that and may think you're a good person to meet... Factcheck: No, they won't most of the time. I'm curious, how many socials have you been too? Over 20." As other people don't seem to share your experiences, you may want to look at the common denominator... | |||
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"As a single guy the odds aren't great, but IF you: A) Take the time and trouble to have a decent profile. B) Hear and act on the negatives you hear about what men get wrong with their profiles - and sort it. C) Do attend good socials - and be relaxed in your demeanour. D) Leave your ego behind when you set your profile up. (If you get hurt by the rejections or being ignored you're most definitely in the wrong place - it's a numbers game and the single women in particular can be as choosy as they like) . E) Accept that if you keep doing the right things and remain positive you will on rare occasions get a positive response - but accept these will be few and far between. (Approximately 2% will message based on my experience - mostly to say no). F) Accept no response or a negative one with good grace. G) Accept that as a male on here you generally have very little chance by messaging alone. You may well do OK. I do. So do others, believe me. Have faith and let people see you in person and they may just get to know you a little. If all goes well opportunities will follow. Finally........ .......be classy - even if you're just an ordinary bloke. " True words spoke | |||
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"It's really simple. If you're a single guy, you're up against it from the beginning because of the odds. If you have no verifications, people will probably prefer a verified guy to you. Hence go to clubs and socials and chat to couples and women in a normal sociable way.. Lo and behold they'll verify you saying what a friendly guy you are. Other couples and people will see that and may think you're a good person to meet... Factcheck: No, they won't most of the time. I'm curious, how many socials have you been too? Over 20. Group socials or 1 to 1 socials? " Group | |||
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"It's really simple. If you're a single guy, you're up against it from the beginning because of the odds. If you have no verifications, people will probably prefer a verified guy to you. Hence go to clubs and socials and chat to couples and women in a normal sociable way.. Lo and behold they'll verify you saying what a friendly guy you are. Other couples and people will see that and may think you're a good person to meet... Factcheck: No, they won't most of the time. I'm curious, how many socials have you been too? Over 20. Group socials or 1 to 1 socials? Group You've been to more than me fella. "Well, apparently it's the best way to get to know people. Allegedly. | |||
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"It's really simple. If you're a single guy, you're up against it from the beginning because of the odds. If you have no verifications, people will probably prefer a verified guy to you. Hence go to clubs and socials and chat to couples and women in a normal sociable way.. Lo and behold they'll verify you saying what a friendly guy you are. Other couples and people will see that and may think you're a good person to meet... Factcheck: No, they won't most of the time. I'm curious, how many socials have you been too? Over 20. Group socials or 1 to 1 socials? Group You've been to more than me fella.
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" If anyone does agree they're likely to be one of those who think that joining up guarantees a wall of naked women flowing their way. This place doesn't work like that "True, there are undoubtedly some people like that, but it's a bit presumptuous to assume you know someone's thoughts without knowing them. We all have our own inbuilt filters, but some seem to have 1 for newbies or popularity. There are some good points made in the replies, but the 2 most common are put some time in and goto socials. The same could be said about those that instantly dismiss newbies. I read the whole profile, take the time to write an informative message, never a 1 liner and rate their pics, and would take more time getting to know people if they took the time to read my message, but I can see that most haven't been read. Group Socials are a good place to to put a face to a name and get to know some1 better, daunting if you don't know anyone at all. How many on here would walk into a pub alone and hope to strike up conversation with people that are already in a group of friends? If you've already had online chat and are expected at an event, it's easier to engage while there. I do alright in the real world and I'm not referring to sex, but there's always an ice breaker, mums at school, neighbour, woman in the etc, but it seems the ice breaker on here is not applied by a lot of those that already have their circle of friends. I joined this site because there is a small but important part of my life missing, not to line them up and work my way through the available women or couples, but to strike up friendships and see where they lead. At 45 I'm not ready to give up on the thought of sex, or being attractive to some1 that I'm attracted to. I don't think the original comment was complaining or defeatist, just asking for others observations, I'm not giving up, I'm still here after 3 months of trying to get people's attention lol | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree?" No you'll do fine if you're courteous and have a personality and you look OK | |||
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"Who else thinks that genuine single guys dont stand a chance on here? Seems that you need to be in certain circles and put yourself out there but not everyone is like that Anyone else agree? No you'll do fine if you're courteous and have a personality and you look OK " I've got 2 out of 3. What's me chances? | |||
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" The forums aren't the best place to ask for advise as a big percentage of the people on here have probably never had meets themselves Oh how true this is...to be judged by people that do not even swing "No wonder Trump became President , I think our veri's show we do swing & you proved our point as you give judgement but don't meet. | |||
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