I have cheated on him once. A stupid one night stand that I did to try hurting myself more than anything. Stupid stupid error totally on me and he didn't deserve it.
Thankfully we worked through it. |
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I was and so was the wife many years ago, for me the previous wife was at it for years and honestly its no way influenced my being on here now with the current wife, I’m sure however some people will be convinced it has.
it was utterly devastating to be honest especially as one of the many people she got involved with was my best mate, I invested over 15 years in a person that in her own words only did it because she got of on the deceptions, lies and deceit and the thrill of evading being caught and smarter than anyone else!, afterwards when it all came out I then found I had also been painted as the devil incarnate to anyone and everyone that knew her and called her out on it before me, to her friends and colleagues I was depicted as a mad controlling nightmare, she was a true narcissistic attention seeker.
my level of hatred and disgust at her even though this was a good number of years ago still cannot be understated to this day 😂 |
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"I have cheated on him once. A stupid one night stand that I did to try hurting myself more than anything. Stupid stupid error totally on me and he didn't deserve it.
Thankfully we worked through it."
It's good you saw the error of your ways and now maintain a monogamous relationship.... |
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By *mmaleiaWoman 36 weeks ago
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"I have cheated on him once. A stupid one night stand that I did to try hurting myself more than anything. Stupid stupid error totally on me and he didn't deserve it.
Thankfully we worked through it.
It's good you saw the error of your ways and now maintain a monogamous relationship...."
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I found out after over a year of weekends away and spending 2 or 3 nights a week together, never waiting more than an hour for a reply, when his wife and mother in law showed up screaming on my doorstep while that coward ran off to leave me being called a whore in front of the whole street 💜 |
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"I was and so was the wife many years ago, for me the previous wife was at it for years and honestly its no way influenced my being on here now with the current wife, I’m sure however some people will be convinced it has.
it was utterly devastating to be honest especially as one of the many people she got involved with was my best mate, I invested over 15 years in a person that in her own words only did it because she got of on the deceptions, lies and deceit and the thrill of evading being caught and smarter than anyone else!, afterwards when it all came out I then found I had also been painted as the devil incarnate to anyone and everyone that knew her and called her out on it before me, to her friends and colleagues I was depicted as a mad controlling nightmare, she was a true narcissistic attention seeker.
my level of hatred and disgust at her even though this was a good number of years ago still cannot be understated to this day 😂 "
That's absolutely shit mate, I hope you gave your "friend" a piece of your mind! |
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"I found out after over a year of weekends away and spending 2 or 3 nights a week together, never waiting more than an hour for a reply, when his wife and mother in law showed up screaming on my doorstep while that coward ran off to leave me being called a whore in front of the whole street 💜"
He sounds like a dick x |
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"I found out after over a year of weekends away and spending 2 or 3 nights a week together, never waiting more than an hour for a reply, when his wife and mother in law showed up screaming on my doorstep while that coward ran off to leave me being called a whore in front of the whole street 💜"
That's crap for you, being blamed and being treated as the one in the wrong. |
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"I found out after over a year of weekends away and spending 2 or 3 nights a week together, never waiting more than an hour for a reply, when his wife and mother in law showed up screaming on my doorstep while that coward ran off to leave me being called a whore in front of the whole street 💜
He sounds like a dick x "
It wasn't even particularly good dick.
He just did a really good job of acting like a really good guy.
Until his bullshit caught up with him. |
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"I found out after over a year of weekends away and spending 2 or 3 nights a week together, never waiting more than an hour for a reply, when his wife and mother in law showed up screaming on my doorstep while that coward ran off to leave me being called a whore in front of the whole street 💜
He sounds like a dick x
It wasn't even particularly good dick.
He just did a really good job of acting like a really good guy.
Until his bullshit caught up with him."
BS will alway get you in the end x |
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Happened to me twice with my first gfs..
First girlfreind at 16 did it. Second girlfreind / fiancee didt it a couple.of times and like an idiot i forgave her.
I choose bad women. I learnt the hard way. Walked away and never made the same mistake again. Met and married a good woman.
Had a lot of married women try to cheat with me over the years as well who gave zero shits I was married. Not a chance...
Unfortunetly some people are pretty awful.and don't deserve relationships.
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"I found out after over a year of weekends away and spending 2 or 3 nights a week together, never waiting more than an hour for a reply, when his wife and mother in law showed up screaming on my doorstep while that coward ran off to leave me being called a whore in front of the whole street 💜
He sounds like a dick x
It wasn't even particularly good dick.
He just did a really good job of acting like a really good guy.
Until his bullshit caught up with him.
BS will alway get you in the end x "
Hopefully enough of it has caught up with him now that the majority of the local community know to avoid that train wreck 💜 |
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D’s ex husband cheated on her and it took a very long time for her to fully trust me because of it…we have been together 20 years and still can’t buy her flowers as she’s sees it as a sign of guilt from her past experiences…. |
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Came home early from work.
Walked in sitting room to find my wife being fucked from behind over the settee of my best mate.
Had a feeling she was cheating on me.
Was told of a few people but just did not want to except it.
Was gutted.
Later found out she had been having a affair behind my back for over a year.
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"D’s ex husband cheated on her and it took a very long time for her to fully trust me because of it…we have been together 20 years and still can’t buy her flowers as she’s sees it as a sign of guilt from her past experiences…. "
The flowers part hurt my heart 💔 |
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"I found out after over a year of weekends away and spending 2 or 3 nights a week together, never waiting more than an hour for a reply, when his wife and mother in law showed up screaming on my doorstep while that coward ran off to leave me being called a whore in front of the whole street 💜
He sounds like a dick x
It wasn't even particularly good dick.
He just did a really good job of acting like a really good guy.
Until his bullshit caught up with him.
BS will alway get you in the end x "
Except for me and I will never get my comeuppance...Never!!!!! |
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"Who in here has been cheated on, how did you find out and how did you feel about it"
I've been cheated on by every man I've ever actually dated except my current partner.
I found out in most cases as i saw or heard things that made me suspect.. so then I looked into it and found i was right...
Twice the other woman actually approached me to tell me ...
I had my sneaking suspicions before they did.
It had actually made me think it was my own fault ( they would blame my slutty side for making them crave a woman less slutty)
In actual fact I know now that they were just dicks.
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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago
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Cheated on numerous times by previous partners (both of us). Horrific feeling. That’s why we both are happy to have found this lifestyle together as it’s so liberating because we can each have outlets liberally, and with freedoms without having to be deceitful to one another. It’s weird saying that because we were both the parties “cheated on” but it still makes a difference. Because the scars it leaves to the betrayed can carry over into future relationships. Yet in this dynamic we can understand wants and desires inter relationally speaking so there becomes no need to want to cheat. And so suspicion and past hurts subside and dont carry power. As non monogomy can then be explored together within safe parameters and with a lot more understanding of one another needs in the confines of a loving and healthy relationship |
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"Came home early from work.
Walked in sitting room to find my wife being fucked from behind over the settee of my best mate.
Had a feeling she was cheating on me.
Was told of a few people but just did not want to except it.
Was gutted.
Later found out she had been having a affair behind my back for over a year.
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I hope that you gave him a slap |
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I've been cheated on by almost every guy I've been in a relationship with.
I felt not good enough, hurt, angry, my self confidence took a huge bash as did my mental health.
The person who's supposed to love you shouldn't be the one to hurt you.
It's soul destroying.
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By *RWoodyCouple 36 weeks ago
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Yes, and it's a horrible thing to go through!
It started with 'working late', it finished some time later with me checking if he really was.
How did it make me feel? Absolutely sick to my core. A man whom I'd given my life to was leading a double life and I was stupid enough to think we were great. The other woman involved had no idea he was married, and she also took it badly.
Not exactly a great life experience 😕
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"Cheated on numerous times by previous partners (both of us). Horrific feeling. That’s why we both are happy to have found this lifestyle together as it’s so liberating because we can each have outlets liberally, and with freedoms without having to be deceitful to one another. It’s weird saying that because we were both the parties “cheated on” but it still makes a difference. Because the scars it leaves to the betrayed can carry over into future relationships. Yet in this dynamic we can understand wants and desires inter relationally speaking so there becomes no need to want to cheat. And so suspicion and past hurts subside and dont carry power. As non monogomy can then be explored together within safe parameters and with a lot more understanding of one another needs in the confines of a loving and healthy relationship "
Definitely right there! If you're both on the same page and know what's going on, it's not cheating. |
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This is why we won't meet cheaters
And get judged for it.
Really don't understand why anyone would want to hurt someone that they are supposed to love.
There is not a fibre I my body that would want to hurt kim either unintentionally or on purpose.
We have been together over 30 years and to put that at risk for a quick fumble,just wouldn't add up.
What we do on here is fully consensual with years of trust and communication.
Finished now so everyone can put their sick bags away.  |
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As with anyone who gets to my time in life it's not whether but how often we've been cheated on. For me it's a handful I know about and a handful I suspected. Personally, I never have, although there has been the occasional overlap.
The first time for me was my first real gf. We were only together a few months but long enough for her to sleep with my brother on his birthday, and my Dad when he confronted her about it. In my Dad's defence, he made sure she gave me a birthday to remember before he told me why I needed to dump her.
The second was arguably not really cheating but I was in an open relationship/swinging and we had a rule that there were to be no lies and never see the same person 1-2-1 more than once. Well she saw a bloke a few times and lied about where she was going. Caught her out when the (girl)friend she said she'd gone for drinks with popped round to see her. I told her where I assumed she was and she confessed she knew we were having an open thing (which we'd also decided to keep secret). I chanced my luck with her expecting a no but she was up for it. It all came out when my gf got home and we decided to call it a day.
The latest time was my now ex. Long story short, we'd been having issues due to her time of life and she was regularly accusing me of cheating. When she was very quick to ensure I was busy one night I thought something was up so made her think I was. Then followed her and caught her nipping behind the pub with a guy and watched her fuck him. That was a strange one with very mixed emotions but one was incredibly arousing to watch her give herself completely in a cheating way. I knew there and then we were over but fuck was I horny and when she came home and woke me getting in bed I had to fuck her even though I knew someone else had already been there. As I came in her and stayed inside her for a few seconds I asked if I was a better fuck or if he was. Wow, that was an interesting night! |
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By *weetRollMan 36 weeks ago
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"Happened to me twice with my first gfs..
First girlfreind at 16 did it. Second girlfreind / fiancee didt it a couple.of times and like an idiot i forgave her.
I choose bad women. I learnt the hard way. Walked away and never made the same mistake again. Met and married a good woman.
Had a lot of married women try to cheat with me over the years as well who gave zero shits I was married. Not a chance...
Unfortunetly some people are pretty awful.and don't deserve relationships.
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Care to tell a young timer what you mean by you chose bad women and learned?
Do you mean you ignored some red flags? or were they just so good at masking that you thought they were totally genuine until you found out? |
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I think every woman I've been with.
My 1st gf. Confessed after an still scare.. turns out it was nothing. Her dad was a cuck. And she had a romantic notion that I should forgive her to show true love.
My finance. Get this. We used to swing. I watched her get fucked. And she still snuck out and arranged meets without telling me. She then had an affair during covid and when we split up she pretended he was a new bf.
There were also a number of girls I used to meet regularly that I've seen met up with and more than one told me they had met other guys. Some directly before meeting me.
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"Happened to me twice with my first gfs..
First girlfreind at 16 did it. Second girlfreind / fiancee didt it a couple.of times and like an idiot i forgave her.
I choose bad women. I learnt the hard way. Walked away and never made the same mistake again. Met and married a good woman.
Had a lot of married women try to cheat with me over the years as well who gave zero shits I was married. Not a chance...
Unfortunetly some people are pretty awful.and don't deserve relationships.
Care to tell a young timer what you mean by you chose bad women and learned?
Do you mean you ignored some red flags? or were they just so good at masking that you thought they were totally genuine until you found out?"
Exactly.what I said. They where bad women.
No loyalty. All drama. Lots of decite.
I didn't know any better back then. The only people I had to ask.about women where my parents who had a rather traditional view.
Got my heart broken. It healed and
I learnt to listen better, watch how people behave and neverjust blindy trust in people.
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By *weetRollMan 36 weeks ago
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"Happened to me twice with my first gfs..
First girlfreind at 16 did it. Second girlfreind / fiancee didt it a couple.of times and like an idiot i forgave her.
I choose bad women. I learnt the hard way. Walked away and never made the same mistake again. Met and married a good woman.
Had a lot of married women try to cheat with me over the years as well who gave zero shits I was married. Not a chance...
Unfortunetly some people are pretty awful.and don't deserve relationships.
Care to tell a young timer what you mean by you chose bad women and learned?
Do you mean you ignored some red flags? or were they just so good at masking that you thought they were totally genuine until you found out?
Exactly.what I said. They where bad women.
No loyalty. All drama. Lots of decite.
I didn't know any better back then. The only people I had to ask.about women where my parents who had a rather traditional view.
Got my heart broken. It healed and
I learnt to listen better, watch how people behave and neverjust blindy trust in people.
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My gf kept a diary. Had no issue with me reading it. Then suddenly didn't want me to. Wasn't really reading it at that point. So knew it would have things she didn't want me to read.
And that's how I ended up finding out about things she did with her male best friend on nights out. Kissing, him fingering her in some dark corner.
Then on a trip with friends abroad she told me she needed to be sick. Too much to drink. I didn't think anything of it until the next day and this guy suddenly being all over her super friendly the next day. And a few other things where she wanted to hang out with these guys even if I was tired.
Got home read it in her diary. I felt sick on the betrayal, but I was rock hard too. She was in the bath. I confronted her. She denied it. Told her I read her diary and next thing she was crying, apologising, kissing me, sucking me and I was so turned on knowing she had left another guys dick inside her I would just come, stay hard and carrying on fucking and coming in her about six times that night. |
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