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So I had a meet earlier today(making best use of term time) and the guy “accidentally” pushed it up my bum. I stopped him, telling him it was the wrong hole. He apologised and put it were it was designed to go. About 5 mins later we changed positions and he did the same thing again, but this time the whole head was in.
I told him if it happened again the meet was over. And strangely it didn’t happen again.
Is this something others have experienced? |
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"I think it's the taboo, but porn has made guys think that they can just push it in which is why it's only been young men that have tried that on my meets. Actual experienced men know better"
His guy was in his early 20’s |
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"I think it's the taboo, but porn has made guys think that they can just push it in which is why it's only been young men that have tried that on my meets. Actual experienced men know better
His guy was in his early 20’s"
Definitely been watching too much porn?!
Was it hot otherwise and would/could you trust him again?? |
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"I think it's the taboo, but porn has made guys think that they can just push it in which is why it's only been young men that have tried that on my meets. Actual experienced men know better
His guy was in his early 20’s"
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"So I had a meet earlier today(making best use of term time) and the guy “accidentally” pushed it up my bum. I stopped him, telling him it was the wrong hole. He apologised and put it were it was designed to go. About 5 mins later we changed positions and he did the same thing again, but this time the whole head was in.
I told him if it happened again the meet was over. And strangely it didn’t happen again.
Is this something others have experienced?"
Honestly that messed up a friend of my had a guy do that to her but it kept happening and she actually reported it as sexual assault because it happened on like 3 different meets multiple times.
The appeal is that it's forbidden fruit in the sense it's not an every time thing. It's tighter the reactions and different that when in a pussy. However forbidden fruit or not can't just put it in without consent and even if you do got to warm up to it |
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I am sorry you had this experience OP, the second time he had tried that on me I’d have ended the meet. I do not do anal or bum stuff (no not even rimming 🤢) at all with meets off here and if they go near my ass they get one warning then it’s game over.
Hope you’re ok. |
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Firstly, he shouldn't have tried it a second time, he sounds like a bad egg.
But, personally, I think the obsession side does stem from culture. Growing up, for me, it was something that wasn't really considered a sexual act, if that makes sense. It was a taboo topic, almost like a punishment. Then you have people on TV saying things like "you can stick it up your arse!" And then the taboo thoughts grow until it becomes something that you can't stop thinking about.
I don't know how the kids of today think and act, but probably porn has a lot to do with it, but I still think it's something naughty that a boy wants to try and get away with.
Just to clarify, I'm 100% behind consent and do not condone these actions, just my feelings on why people might have such an interest in doing it. |
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He sounds like a right knob!
I love anal, but I'll only ever attempt it when my partner asks for it (I'll rim her without asking as she loves it anytime, but fingers, buttplug or cock is always something I wait to be asked for) |
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By *oelMan 3 days ago
Midlands, London, Brussels |
"So I had a meet earlier today(making best use of term time) and the guy “accidentally” pushed it up my bum. I stopped him, telling him it was the wrong hole. He apologised and put it were it was designed to go. About 5 mins later we changed positions and he did the same thing again, but this time the whole head was in.
I told him if it happened again the meet was over. And strangely it didn’t happen again.
Is this something others have experienced?"
Getting off on breaking rules, taking risks, not cool |
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Most reasonable people would be ultra cautious and careful, after making that assumed mistake.
I think porn has influenced people to assume anal is part of regular sex. Even people who are open to it would want preparation and consent |
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Accidentally..!! I would have punched his cock off if that happened to me, I like anal fun but have to be in the mood and then only when ‘ warmed up’ there’s no fucking way it’s accidentally going in as mistake from my pussy.. that guy new what he was doing.. I’ve never heard of it accidentally happening |
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By second attempt this meet should have been over. 
I blame Brando and Last Tango in Paris. 80s and 90s porn is where i first seen a lot of fixation on this act. 
I've seen people sticking their fingers in without consent. Taking the cock out of pussy and shoving in ass without asking. Consent should go both ways.
Anal is not high on my agenda. I love licking and going deep on a wet pussy. But I do like DP and DVP so I'm rather flexible. But no way I'd stick it in without asking or at least discussing what's on the menu before the meet.
I would have sent this man home back to his mum and tell him to think about what he did. Leave an update on fabs with his username to warn others perhaps. Clearly he's only concerned with his satisfaction only. |
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As someone that's fond of a bit of anal (particularly in conjunction with an MFM DP) I simply can't envisage a scenario where someone just "pops it in" by mistake.
Certainly, in my experience, Anal requires proper preparation (for it to be truly pleasurable), so just trying to do it without any consideration and to someone that wasn't in anyway 'ready', would be an absolute no no.
Just to pick up on the previous comment here, I'm also not gay or bi-sexual. |
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That is where someone that guy was trying to anally r*pe you because that’s what it is when there no consent given & there are consequences for this behaviour no one has to put up with this I’m sorry this happened to you op some guys have just got to push there luck |
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"So I had a meet earlier today(making best use of term time) and the guy “accidentally” pushed it up my bum. I stopped him, telling him it was the wrong hole. He apologised and put it were it was designed to go. About 5 mins later we changed positions and he did the same thing again, but this time the whole head was in.
I told him if it happened again the meet was over. And strangely it didn’t happen again.
Is this something others have experienced?
Honestly that messed up a friend of my had a guy do that to her but it kept happening and she actually reported it as sexual assault because it happened on like 3 different meets multiple times.
The appeal is that it's forbidden fruit in the sense it's not an every time thing. It's tighter the reactions and different that when in a pussy. However forbidden fruit or not can't just put it in without consent and even if you do got to warm up to it "
Surely she never gave the same man 3 separate opportunities? |
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By *ickD80Man 2 days ago
Wolverhampton |
"So I had a meet earlier today(making best use of term time) and the guy “accidentally” pushed it up my bum. I stopped him, telling him it was the wrong hole. He apologised and put it were it was designed to go. About 5 mins later we changed positions and he did the same thing again, but this time the whole head was in.
I told him if it happened again the meet was over. And strangely it didn’t happen again.
Is this something others have experienced?"
You have ‘Anal’ in your list of interests…. |
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By *_Doe2024Man 2 days ago
Middle of nowhere, the centre of everywhere |
"So I had a meet earlier today(making best use of term time) and the guy “accidentally” pushed it up my bum. I stopped him, telling him it was the wrong hole. He apologised and put it were it was designed to go. About 5 mins later we changed positions and he did the same thing again, but this time the whole head was in.
I told him if it happened again the meet was over. And strangely it didn’t happen again.
Is this something others have experienced?
You have ‘Anal’ in your list of interests…."
And?... What's your point??
The issue here is consent.
You've anal on your list of interests, I guess you're open to anyone slamming your back door in without consent or warning right??
If nothing, you've just highlighted a reason why you should be avoided. Bravo! 👌🏻👏🏻 |
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As anal is something i have only started doing more recently (it never appealed to my ex at all) i am very particular over who i let fuck my arse. And say so when guys ask, either in messages or during sex. I personally need a level of trust to let a guy upthere. One guy did start to tease my arse with the tip of his cock on our 1st meet and i said not this time and he was fine with it and carried on fucking my pussy instead. I would say he was asking with his cock not his mouth.
I would say the same thing as op if ut had happened more than once.
But i did remove anal from my list of intrests to stop the attitude some people have shown where if its listed it must be okay to just do without asking.
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"the guy “accidentally” "
This is not right and I would seek support as it has clearly impacted you. Consent is always needed.
"Is this something others have experienced?"
Sadly yes. I had a close female playmate who loved anal, as do I, but we never had anal.
We planned to have anal on our next meet but first some idiot did exactly the same thing to her before our next meet, actually forcing it in, hurting her which seriously then put her off anal.
So whilst we continued having sex, we never ever did anal. We are still friends now but just not sexually, so long term impact from one twat on her past enjoyment of anal, due to a bad meet. |
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The issue here is consent.
You've anal on your list of interests, I guess you're open to anyone slamming your back door in without consent or warning right??
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Exactly consent. The law is consent means consenting to the acts first, you cannot just slam your cock in someone's mouth or bum and assume consent because they have done that or are interested in trying that. Consent means getting consent.
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If nothing, you've just highlighted a reason why you should be avoided. Bravo! 👌🏻👏🏻"
I think you have just done that for yourself, as you clearly don’t understand what consent is. |
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As most of the posters have already said. Young kid trying it on, dick move, non consensual, sexual assault, no respect for your boundaries, and totally there for his own selfish enjoyment. You would have to be very careless for it to happen 'accidentally ' and even then you would (as a guy) know the difference. To do it a second time is just showing a total lack of respect for you. It wouldn't surprise me if he's tried this with other people too |
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I love anal but I always talk it over before a meet as some women have different ideas about it. They may be curious to try some play first etc but I’d only go as far as they are comfortable with. I had a meet where we were playing, she wanted me to fuck her arse, was well lubed but partly in she said it was stinging so I withdrew and we just continued playing without anal fun and enjoyed the rest of the session.
There has to be clear boundaries and consent. If I haven't discussed any anal before a meet, I’m not going to try to fuck her arse, I might ask if she’d like to try some anal play and go from there. If is a no then that’s it, I wood or pursue or try to persuade. If a guy carries on or ‘accidentally’ puts it in the wrong hole then that is sexual assault. Men like that need to be called out and be warned about. |
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Was the meet ok other than those instances ?
It’s can be easy to get exited on a meet and well slippery when wet.
If his character seemed good outside of those instances and otherwise seemed like he was actively trying to play his part in a positive encounter then it deffo could have just been an accident.
I would judge the experience as a whole including interactions outside the bedroom. If you have doubts then don’t see him again. |
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"So I had a meet earlier today(making best use of term time) and the guy “accidentally” pushed it up my bum. I stopped him, telling him it was the wrong hole. He apologised and put it were it was designed to go. About 5 mins later we changed positions and he did the same thing again, but this time the whole head was in.
I told him if it happened again the meet was over. And strangely it didn’t happen again.
Is this something others have experienced?
You have ‘Anal’ in your list of interests…."
So do you so are you happy for someone to shove a dildo up there with no warning or warm up? |
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"So I had a meet earlier today(making best use of term time) and the guy “accidentally” pushed it up my bum. I stopped him, telling him it was the wrong hole. He apologised and put it were it was designed to go. About 5 mins later we changed positions and he did the same thing again, but this time the whole head was in.
I told him if it happened again the meet was over. And strangely it didn’t happen again.
Is this something others have experienced?
You have ‘Anal’ in your list of interests…."
Wow…really??!!
So because it’s in the ladies list of interests that means a man can try to shove his cock up her arse without consent?! |
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By *lowhands7Man 2 days ago
South Leicestershire and Staffordshire |
"So I had a meet earlier today(making best use of term time) and the guy “accidentally” pushed it up my bum. I stopped him, telling him it was the wrong hole. He apologised and put it were it was designed to go. About 5 mins later we changed positions and he did the same thing again, but this time the whole head was in.
I told him if it happened again the meet was over. And strangely it didn’t happen again.
Is this something others have experienced?"
100% poor form and totally disrespectful. |
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I think the worse is, they expect anal.
Giving anal is a whole lot different and it can take a much bigger cock, with patience.
Better to stretch that hole a bit and give it up, because anal is the way to a mans and woman's heart! |
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By *emma200Woman 2 days ago
Warwickshire |
ugh.. i hate this!
I think regardless if you set the boundaries before this should not happen.
Some men think they are entitled, however I've been lucky enough to not have this issue.
hope you are okay OP x |
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"So I had a meet earlier today(making best use of term time) and the guy “accidentally” pushed it up my bum. I stopped him, telling him it was the wrong hole. He apologised and put it were it was designed to go. About 5 mins later we changed positions and he did the same thing again, but this time the whole head was in.
I told him if it happened again the meet was over. And strangely it didn’t happen again.
Is this something others have experienced?"
Did you accidentally punch him on the nose in return |
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"I think the worse is, they expect anal.
Giving anal is a whole lot different and it can take a much bigger cock, with patience.
Better to stretch that hole a bit and give it up, because anal is the way to a mans and woman's heart! "
Crikey, thank goodness I don’t feel the need to ‘give it up’ for any man! |
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i once fabbed with a woman on here who liked it but it required preparation and a decent amount of lube. she would orgasm within about 30 seconds of me sliding myself in. the feeling of the muscles tightening and pulsing around my penis was great, very different to a vagina |
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Yes it's happened to me on a couple of occasions, it was incredibly painful you cannot just go in there out of the blue.
I stopped immediately it's just out of order.
Once could possibly be an accident if your feeling generous twice is no accident. |
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I've abruptly ended a meet because of this. If you discuss boundaries before hand and they try to test them in the slightest, just cut it dead. People know what they are doing and adults are responsible for their actions. |
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