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By *ocktower OP Man 20 weeks ago
North Wales and Bulgaria. |
"At what stage or how many sexual encounters with the same sex does it take to change from being curious to Bi ?
Maybe don't worry about labels
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incorrect it's a question not a label |
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I recently changed my status from bi-curious to bisexual as technically I’m no longer curious and have probably had enough meets with guys now to know that I like it. However I don’t feel bisexual, as I’m not attracted to men, I just like the sex, but it seemed disingenuous to say I was still curious about something I’ve tried more than a couple of times now. |
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"I recently changed my status from bi-curious to bisexual as technically I’m no longer curious and have probably had enough meets with guys now to know that I like it. However I don’t feel bisexual, as I’m not attracted to men, I just like the sex, but it seemed disingenuous to say I was still curious about something I’ve tried more than a couple of times now. "
Just the once, but like other people have said, don’t put a label on it
You may try it once to see what it’s like, then try again to make sure and it might not be for you
It doesn’t make you bi, it makes you nice and open minded and a nice person
Don’t think too much about it |
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By *igDMBMan 20 weeks ago
romford |
I think you will know in yourself if you’re bisexual or curious.
If you can have sex with either sex & not feel guilty or wrong about yourself then you are bisexual. It’s all about you & how you feel about yourself. If however you are in a relationship & your partner is of the opposite gender & you’re both bisexual then it’s great fun but, for me being bisexual it’s a curse. You’ve got a foot in either camp.
What makes me laugh on this site is when fellas list themselves as straight but, want to meet tv/ts & believe in their heads they are straight.
At the end of the you will know if you are bisexual or otherwise |
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By *4bimMan 20 weeks ago
Farnborough Hampshire |
"At what stage or how many sexual encounters with the same sex does it take to change from being curious to Bi ?
Maybe don't worry about labels
correct incorrect it's a question not a label "
i couldnt care less what you say to be honest. |
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"I recently changed my status from bi-curious to bisexual as technically I’m no longer curious and have probably had enough meets with guys now to know that I like it. However I don’t feel bisexual, as I’m not attracted to men, I just like the sex, but it seemed disingenuous to say I was still curious about something I’ve tried more than a couple of times now. "
I accepted I was bi, not curious, as I realised that I was attracted to men. Before, that it was a strange sexual urge and I didn't look at a guy like I looked at a woman. Took me a while to realise this.
However, it is 2026. No need to define yourself. I think sexuality is a spectrum and fluid. Just be open and be happy. |
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By *ocktower OP Man 19 weeks ago
North Wales and Bulgaria. |
"At what stage or how many sexual encounters with the same sex does it take to change from being curious to Bi ?
Maybe don't worry about labels
correct incorrect it's a question not a label
i couldnt care less what you say to be honest."
thanks for that but there's no need for you to have blocked me .
(Nothing has been said to him in pm just on here so people know) |
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By (user no longer on site) 19 weeks ago
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If I’m honest I think I’ve always been curious.
Finally went for it and met with a bloke for the first time. Had quite a few encounters since so I put my profile to bisexual.
Not attracted to men but attracted to the excitement.
Played with ex gf’ with blokes and on my own.
I don’t wear a ‘badge’. It’s for me to tell other.
This is a sex site so I’m happy to say I like cock and pussy. |
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"At what stage or how many sexual encounters with the same sex does it take to change from being curious to Bi ?
Maybe don't worry about labels "
I keep hearing this but continue to make the case that labels are very useful.
They are a shorthand for establishing expectations and setting boundaries. Saves a lot of time corresponding with strangers who might or might not be compatible.
Of course this relies on honest self appraisal. |
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By *ocktower OP Man 19 weeks ago
North Wales and Bulgaria. |
"Personally, it was when I actually played with another chaps cock and found I enjoyed it and repeated the experience. Definitely passed the just curious phase!"
how many have you had now ?
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"I recently changed my status from bi-curious to bisexual as technically I’m no longer curious and have probably had enough meets with guys now to know that I like it. However I don’t feel bisexual, as I’m not attracted to men, I just like the sex, but it seemed disingenuous to say I was still curious about something I’ve tried more than a couple of times now. "
That was me too |
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When you feel you've moved beyond curious and now seek and enjoy same sex play.
I do think labels are important though, when used with respect, for clarity and to ensure people are aware of others boundaries. |
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By *astpoetTV/TS 19 weeks ago
London and Southampton |
"In my view I'll always be bi curious as I won't bottom, surely you'd have had to try both to be bisexual !?!
Well that's my take on it. "
I don’t top and am only bottom but count myself as bisexual, so I think it’s a personal thing |
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I think it really comes down to how you view yourself and agree with the challenges of labels.
For me for example, bi tends to imply too much of an equal appreciation, where’s that’s not how I feel. I’m very attracted to women of all (ok most) shapes and sizes etc, I want to be close to them sexually, but in real, non fab life I’d like to be cuddled up to them on a sofa, be intimate with beyond sex. I occasionally find a man’s body and cock hot but I’m not attracted in the same way and I don’t want to spoon all night or get cosy. So I’m curious about someone’s hot body and cock but I don’t really find them attractive in the same way I would a lovely lady. Therefore I think a bi label could give some people the wrong impression. |
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By *ppydayzzMan 19 weeks ago
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"I think it really comes down to how you view yourself and agree with the challenges of labels.
For me for example, bi tends to imply too much of an equal appreciation, where’s that’s not how I feel. I’m very attracted to women of all (ok most) shapes and sizes etc, I want to be close to them sexually, but in real, non fab life I’d like to be cuddled up to them on a sofa, be intimate with beyond sex. I occasionally find a man’s body and cock hot but I’m not attracted in the same way and I don’t want to spoon all night or get cosy. So I’m curious about someone’s hot body and cock but I don’t really find them attractive in the same way I would a lovely lady. Therefore I think a bi label could give some people the wrong impression. "
Well put! |
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By (user no longer on site) 19 weeks ago
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Totally agree labels really don’t matter
Just be honest with the people your chatting to and possibly meeting
We’ve had experiences before where the guy had said he’s bi curious and it’s very very obvious that there is no curiosity
We are new very weary |
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By *aveonMan 19 weeks ago
Dartford |
For me I’m bisexual as I enjoy naked sexual fun with people regardless of gender - perfect for me are bi Males and bi Females together
If I was being very specific I still do enjoy women slightly more than men - so I’m 51% straight and 49% gay !!! Therefore 100% bi 😉
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An interesting one. For me do I find guys attractive? Not really unless naked and hard… I like cock. Am I ever going to have a same sex relationship with cuddles and kisses… no. Do I like to play with guys and have sex etc… yes. I wouldn’t class myself as curious id class myself as bisexual in the correct circumstances or opportunity😂😂 guess i am sexual with both so Bi- sexual! |
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I call myself bi curious, I'm not into men and would never kiss one, but I do enjoy sucking guys cocks and having them cum into my mouth, and love guys sucking mine. I've only once been nearly fucked, as I was fucking his wife I felt him behind me (that was his cocks head) pressing against my ass hole, I would have just needed to press back. |
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By *arierWoman 19 weeks ago
birmingham |
"At what stage or how many sexual encounters with the same sex does it take to change from being curious to Bi ?"
Mine started with a d*unken kiss years ago which left me slightly confused as I never thought of women that way. After my first sexual encounter with a woman I just knew. It felt so natural and right. |
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By *alm_one4Man 19 weeks ago
Close To The Edge, Down Bi The River |
Interesting question, I’d say when you’ve made your mind up that that is what you like.
Back before I decided that was the way I wanted to go I changed from Bi -Curious to Straight as I wasn’t sure and hadn’t had a good time. At that point I had a veri from a TV, and the amount of comments I got on one particular thread was quite remarkable, ‘he can’t be straight, he’s been with a TV’. Curious is curious, not decided. I tried Brussels Sprouts once, not been back since! |
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By *ocktower OP Man 19 weeks ago
North Wales and Bulgaria. |
"Mines boring, middle name but Maria was taken so I became _arier.
I do prejudge people by their usernames too 🙈
Bloody hell just realised I replied to the wrong thread 🤣🤣🤣 I need sleep "
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"At what stage or how many sexual encounters with the same sex does it take to change from being curious to Bi ?"
In my experience I have been bi curious all my life , after my 1st couple of encounters It was obvious I’m definitely bi (If your not too arsed about doing it again or didn’t REALLY love it , your curious ) |
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"At what stage or how many sexual encounters with the same sex does it take to change from being curious to Bi ?"
just enjoy yourself regardless of labels, but I generally considered myself bi as soon as I played with a guy during a 3some
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By *rNightMan 19 weeks ago
Coventry |
I think I’m still curious, been sucked by a few guys, given head to a couple of guys and fucked one of them spontaneously. 99.9% of guys don’t appeal to me but sometimes I see a guy and my imagination wanders. There’s a lot that i don’t want to do with a guy though, kissing, rimming.
I guess different people would label me different ways but I don’t have confidence with guys at all |
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By (user no longer on site) 19 weeks ago
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Really want to fuck a man right now. Never fucked a man but feel I need to and hard. No older than 45, no taller than 5'5, don't care about cock size it ain't going in me. I will be fucking you in every hole you have until I blow my load on you or in you. If you want that treatment off me then get in touch |
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Interesting points from all, so I’m a gay man but certainly been more and more curious to try sex with a woman but would have to be couple. So curious isn’t just a same sex thing, we all have our urges when ever they come in life |
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You can be bi without being curious. You can know full well your into both m and f. Curious I'd say is when you think you would enjoy things with guys but aren't sure and need to try to confirm. If you have a few experiences and keep going back I think it's safe to say there is no more curiosity there. |
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By (user no longer on site) 18 weeks ago
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Snap
Sometimes yes sometimes no
Sometime urgh
Sometime mmmmm
"That's where I am now. Don't know if I will like it or not but part of me likes the idea of at least trying "
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"I recently changed my status from bi-curious to bisexual as technically I’m no longer curious and have probably had enough meets with guys now to know that I like it. However I don’t feel bisexual, as I’m not attracted to men, I just like the sex, but it seemed disingenuous to say I was still curious about something I’ve tried more than a couple of times now.
I accepted I was bi, not curious, as I realised that I was attracted to men. Before, that it was a strange sexual urge and I didn't look at a guy like I looked at a woman. Took me a while to realise this.
However, it is 2026. No need to define yourself. I think sexuality is a spectrum and fluid. Just be open and be happy."
Not a man but I am bisexual and I had to reply just to completely agree with this.
Whatever makes you happy.
Personally I knew I was Bi from about 13, back then I didn't realize what bi curious was.. I just knew I liked girls too and that was that. 
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"I recently changed my status from bi-curious to bisexual as technically I’m no longer curious and have probably had enough meets with guys now to know that I like it. However I don’t feel bisexual, as I’m not attracted to men, I just like the sex, but it seemed disingenuous to say I was still curious about something I’ve tried more than a couple of times now.
I accepted I was bi, not curious, as I realised that I was attracted to men. Before, that it was a strange sexual urge and I didn't look at a guy like I looked at a woman. Took me a while to realise this.
However, it is 2026. No need to define yourself. I think sexuality is a spectrum and fluid. Just be open and be happy.
Not a man but I am bisexual and I had to reply just to completely agree with this.
Whatever makes you happy.
Personally I knew I was Bi from about 13, back then I didn't realize what bi curious was.. I just knew I liked girls too and that was that.
(Mrs)"
Couldn’t agree more with both of these posters. Enlightened, mature and empathetic! Good job!! |
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I changed from bi-curious to bisexual when I'd satisfied my curiosity.
It's just a label, an unimportant one, as has been stated a few times in this thread.
If you're curious and try same sex (I know gay people can be curious too) fun and don't get off on it, you're straight, if however you try it and you enjoy it, you're bisexual.
I tried it and I enjoyed it. |
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I wanked over it for a number of years then, one d*unken night out, I met a TV girl. Still
Remember being back at hers and lying face down on the bed as she massaged me. I could feel her cock pressing against me and that was the very first time. I remember thinking ‘oh fuck there it is’. I was so nervous but turned on. I turned over and she straddled my chest. She had sexy panties on and I took her cock out, feeling it for the very first time. It was hard and warm. I kissed the tip then opened my mouth and crossed the line from curious to bisexual. |
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To me bi curious needs a female as well. For example a male - female couple playing with another male and the guys both pleasing her not be fussed about coming into contact with each other . Some aspect of it can even be exciting like DVP, where both of their cocks come into contact in her vagina |
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By *as4121Man 15 weeks ago
dartford |
An interesting question, for me curious is either before you have tried or maybe only a few encounters and are not sure if you really like it. Once you admit to yourself you like it there is no curiosity.
The labels are useful in that they give people a broad idea of what someone is open too, however we are all different and as such there are things that some straight people will do that others won't.
When it comes to same sex it gets even more complicated, obviously I can only speak from a guys point of view but gay or bi you will have some that are top/bottom or vers, or maybe oral only.
We do get hung up on labels and i agree that we should be more relaxed about it, however we should also be honest with ourselves and also be clear with others what we like or are open too.
For my part im comfortable seeing myself as bi but that won't tell you everything about me, it's just a starting point. |
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By (user no longer on site) 15 weeks ago
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"I recently changed my status from bi-curious to bisexual as technically I’m no longer curious and have probably had enough meets with guys now to know that I like it. However I don’t feel bisexual, as I’m not attracted to men, I just like the sex, but it seemed disingenuous to say I was still curious about something I’ve tried more than a couple of times now. "
I've been bi all my life. First kissing games as a teen was with boys and girls and that never really changed but I realised that sexually I like all bodies but romantically I tend to form more relationships with women than men.
You can be curious about developing your tastes for some time and don't forget they do change. In my 20s I was a twink playing with other twinks. Now I fucking love a dad bod like my own.
Labels communicate something. If I see bi-curious I ask "what are you curious about" it's a conversation starter. |
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Two sets of beliefs when it comes to being straight or not, on this site.
Engage in any sort of same sex sexual activity, you’re bisexual.
It’s all labels, just enjoy what you enjoy.
I tend to go with whatever you believe you are, you’re probably that.  |
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Absolutely agree with the person above. Respect your partners boundaries and define yourself any way you like.
Get that people need a compatability guide on sites like this
...some people find other peoples gender choices ick....but after that who cares? |
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This is an interesting thread,
I guess everyone is different and labels can have different meanings.
For me I'd say I'm Bi Curious as I'm dipping my toe in and exploring.
But others might say if you've had your cock sucked once by a guy during an MMF you're bisexual.
Horses for courses, labels are a tricking subject |
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By *eyeYCouple 13 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
"Absolutely agree with the person above. Respect your partners boundaries and define yourself any way you like.
Get that people need a compatability guide on sites like this
...some people find other peoples gender choices ick....but after that who cares?"
Only issue is the compatibility guide here is way too restrictive in our opinion 😘 |
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By *cgmcgMan 13 weeks ago
kingston |
Is a bit of a spectrum really. I still don't know how to describe myself... Love sucking cock, love getting fucked, happy reciprocating, but deffo not into kissing, cuddling, massaging, fretting not even wanking really. I give myself a bisexual lite tag or a hete exible plus tag.
Thoughts? |
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Both generally mean bisexual, bi curious is generally used by guys who when needed to... play it down for whatever reason and will say... its just a thought... even though they have had bisexual encounters...
The more laughable situation is... there is way more bisexual guys listing as straight than there are bi guys listing as bi or curious!
Then funnier still.. those women and couples that will not meet bi guys and meet a so called "straight" guy... I've come across a lot of them in over 20 years swinging!
People have their reasons to list straight... but a great many are not!
At least those listing as bi or curious are being a lot more honest and I for one credit that and one or the other does not really matter! |
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My ex wife introduced me to the art of cock sucking I'm fascinated by big cock love em yet to go the whole way but soon I still love pussy but now I want both and can say I'm bisexual and need cock as much |
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I was always bi from teenage years onwards- and acted upon it early. I think once I had experienced sexual experiences with both male and female I was no longer 'curious' But I find this label stuff so 'done'- just enjoy what you like. |
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Not sure myself how to answer this question
But if in the heat of the moment with my wife involved We have both had oral with another cock both ways
But definitely no attraction to another man is any other way other than watching him fuck my wife and eventually getting involved
To me I just think of it as a kink between my wife and myself
And consider myself straight happy to use the word Bi curious if can be bi curious with just oral sex
Would love to know what other people think in my private chat
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"To me bi curious needs a female as well. For example a male - female couple playing with another male and the guys both pleasing her not be fussed about coming into contact with each other . Some aspect of it can even be exciting like DVP, where both of their cocks come into contact in her vagina"
I could agree with this sentiment too |
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"Not sure myself how to answer this question
But if in the heat of the moment with my wife involved We have both had oral with another cock both ways
But definitely no attraction to another man is any other way other than watching him fuck my wife and eventually getting involved
To me I just think of it as a kink between my wife and myself
And consider myself straight happy to use the word Bi curious if can be bi curious with just oral sex
Would love to know what other people think in my private chat
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From a guy listing as straight!
More proof that status"s are bollox and the great many are liars and spoofs! |
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"At what stage or how many sexual encounters with the same sex does it take to change from being curious to Bi ?
Good question, because im not attracted to men at all but I just like freaky sex"
Two men having sex is freaky sex? It's not the dark ages (even then it wasn't freaky) |
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"Not sure myself how to answer this question
But if in the heat of the moment with my wife involved We have both had oral with another cock both ways
But definitely no attraction to another man is any other way other than watching him fuck my wife and eventually getting involved
To me I just think of it as a kink between my wife and myself
And consider myself straight happy to use the word Bi curious if can be bi curious with just oral sex
Would love to know what other people think in my private chat
From a guy listing as straight!
More proof that status"s are bollox and the great many are liars and spoofs!"
You always get one know all !!
Don’t you |
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Labels matter to the majority of people, especially on here.
I'm not bi and I'm not bi curious - Fab has failed to update the sexuality option on here and refuses to do so for some weird reason.
Sexuality is NOT that black & white so quite why there are no other options is beyond me. |
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"Not sure myself how to answer this question
But if in the heat of the moment with my wife involved We have both had oral with another cock both ways
But definitely no attraction to another man is any other way other than watching him fuck my wife and eventually getting involved
To me I just think of it as a kink between my wife and myself
And consider myself straight happy to use the word Bi curious if can be bi curious with just oral sex
Would love to know what other people think in my private chat
From a guy listing as straight!
More proof that status"s are bollox and the great many are liars and spoofs!
You always get one know all !!
Don’t you "
You are bi and list as straight...
That's not "know all" that's just know!
Bit stupid trying to find high ground... when you ate lying!
Lying is not a crime, but do not come at me... simply because I point it out!
Don't like the facts... spend energy changing it, instead of coming at me! |
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By (user no longer on site) 8 weeks ago
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I was deffo bi from the first cock I had in my mouth…… I knew I was curious but as soon as I was sucking it away I knew I would enjoy more and more….. never looked back…. |
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This post makes a lot of sense. I’m not attracted to guys but I like playing with there cock. I would not have a relationship with a guy but I would fuck them and let them fuck me as long as the cock is nice.
I’m not interested in kissing them at all!
"I think it really comes down to how you view yourself and agree with the challenges of labels.
For me for example, bi tends to imply too much of an equal appreciation, where’s that’s not how I feel. I’m very attracted to women of all (ok most) shapes and sizes etc, I want to be close to them sexually, but in real, non fab life I’d like to be cuddled up to them on a sofa, be intimate with beyond sex. I occasionally find a man’s body and cock hot but I’m not attracted in the same way and I don’t want to spoon all night or get cosy. So I’m curious about someone’s hot body and cock but I don’t really find them attractive in the same way I would a lovely lady. Therefore I think a bi label could give some people the wrong impression. "
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"I think it really comes down to how you view yourself and agree with the challenges of labels.
For me for example, bi tends to imply too much of an equal appreciation, where’s that’s not how I feel. I’m very attracted to women of all (ok most) shapes and sizes etc, I want to be close to them sexually, but in real, non fab life I’d like to be cuddled up to them on a sofa, be intimate with beyond sex. I occasionally find a man’s body and cock hot but I’m not attracted in the same way and I don’t want to spoon all night or get cosy. So I’m curious about someone’s hot body and cock but I don’t really find them attractive in the same way I would a lovely lady. Therefore I think a bi label could give some people the wrong impression. "
I think this is very well put! |
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"In my view I'll always be bi curious as I won't bottom, surely you'd have had to try both to be bisexual !?!
Well that's my take on it. "
I have gay male friends who are married to men and live with their husbands, so most definitely gay, yet don’t bottom. I am pretty sure that doesn’t make them only half gay or just curious about it. |
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For me name is not important, important ise that you and your partners enjoy your sexuality and preferences. I really adore nicely shaped and hard cock but I only want to play with it while having a group sex. At the same time, pleasuring a woman, making her scream, bringing her to a climax of a hard pulsating orgasm. It is the pleasure you cannot get with a man. At least in my head it works the way I described. |
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