I know it’s rife on here and each to their own, we don’t and won’t openly meet people who are going behind their partners or spouses back. The way we see it is if you fall in love with someone else behind your partners back then leave, and if not why risk losing someone you love for an orgasm ? Because casual sex is just orgasms and intimacy and more is love and neither should be done if you already have a partner, I know there are reasons people don’t leave but eventually it’s going to end. So much hurt to all involved. |
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Personally not something we're a fan of but frankly not our business. Inside of a club there has been a couple of times we've played with cheating singles and couples (sometimes both of them cheating). It's not something we look for and often its only been after we've found out. In the club environment its not something that really bothers us. We've just there to find to good chemistry and hot times. What goes on outside the club is not some thing we're involved with and not ours to worry about. |
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"I know it’s rife on here and each to their own, we don’t and won’t openly meet people who are going behind their partners or spouses back. The way we see it is if you fall in love with someone else behind your partners back then leave, and if not why risk losing someone you love for an orgasm ? Because casual sex is just orgasms and intimacy and more is love and neither should be done if you already have a partner, I know there are reasons people don’t leave but eventually it’s going to end. So much hurt to all involved. "
They say they love their partners but often just a front to cover their lies and all they care about is themselves. They Don’t care about the damage they cause at home or who they hurt sadly |
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For me it's trust, and it seems to escape people.
I make it plain on my profile I won't see married people. I get the odd that will try and defend they're actions, ie they're not getting laid anymore, they're more like friends etc.
If your partner can't trust you,then neither can I. And if I can't trust you, I'm not gonna get naked with you. |
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By *arand25Couple 21 weeks ago
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We found a lot of single guys on here are cheating, they're not for us as S doesn't want to help them cheat on their partners.
There are attached guys that genuinely have a sad story about why they can't have a good sex life with their partner but it's hard to tell who's lying & who isn't through messaging on here.
The ones who go through lots of messages before admitting they're married are particularly annoying.
We go for guys who are able to accommodate now, that's usually a good indicator. |
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"We found a lot of single guys on here are cheating, they're not for us as S doesn't want to help them cheat on their partners.
There are attached guys that genuinely have a sad story about why they can't have a good sex life with their partner but it's hard to tell who's lying & who isn't through messaging on here.
The ones who go through lots of messages before admitting they're married are particularly annoying.
We go for guys who are able to accommodate now, that's usually a good indicator. "
I agree. At least the ones who are open about cheating, give others the choice to meet or not to.
Years ago I chatted to a man. I always ask if they're single, if I'm in any doubt.
He told me yep single no ties. just before we were gonna have a social, a good while after , he told me he lied and was in a sexless ltr and didn't want to risk being seen out on a social etc.
All that time and energy wasted, why bother, when I explicitly state I'm not interested in anyone on here on the sly.
He was blocked.
Unfortunately some find it easier to cheat, than to try and get to the bottom of the issues in the relationship. If they're honest, they can be avoided.
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"We found a lot of single guys on here are cheating, they're not for us as S doesn't want to help them cheat on their partners.
There are attached guys that genuinely have a sad story about why they can't have a good sex life with their partner but it's hard to tell who's lying & who isn't through messaging on here.
The ones who go through lots of messages before admitting they're married are particularly annoying.
We go for guys who are able to accommodate now, that's usually a good indicator.
I agree. At least the ones who are open about cheating, give others the choice to meet or not to.
Years ago I chatted to a man. I always ask if they're single, if I'm in any doubt.
He told me yep single no ties. just before we were gonna have a social, a good while after , he told me he lied and was in a sexless ltr and didn't want to risk being seen out on a social etc.
All that time and energy wasted, why bother, when I explicitly state I'm not interested in anyone on here on the sly.
He was blocked.
Unfortunately some find it easier to cheat, than to try and get to the bottom of the issues in the relationship. If they're honest, they can be avoided.
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Anyone who openly tells us or has on their profile that they are cheating is an instant block as we just don’t need the hassle. I know people stay in sexless relationships for finance or children reasons but eventually it always ends in cheating or breakup/divorce. It’s not just the sex part it’s the intimacy and when that’s gone it’s likely the end of a relationship. |
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By (user no longer on site) 21 weeks ago
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There were always be cheaters. I don’t understand why they do it or why don’t they find a partner that is like them. I’ve always dated a woman into what I get up to sexually. |
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"Right or wrong, we don't actively discriminate.....it's too hard to tell fact from fiction we found x"
Agree it’s not something we ask or enquire about, also we only play at clubs so that makes it even harder to tell |
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I think there is a ton of black and white judgement in a few of the comments above.
While I totally agree that cheating on a partner, if you are in a relationship with an active sex life isn't acceptable, what about, for an example, if you are in a scenario where everything is pretty perfect (and you used to have great sex), but for genuine medical reasons and intense pain, that's no longer practical (much to the chagrin of the partner).
According to some of the posts above, the only to options there are 1) chuck the relationship away so you can have 'honest sex' as a single elsewhere or 2) discuss it openly and hurt/distress/worry the love of your life even more.
Plenty of shades here people, not everyone is a bastard.
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"I think there is a ton of black and white judgement in a few of the comments above.
While I totally agree that cheating on a partner, if you are in a relationship with an active sex life isn't acceptable, what about, for an example, if you are in a scenario where everything is pretty perfect (and you used to have great sex), but for genuine medical reasons and intense pain, that's no longer practical (much to the chagrin of the partner).
According to some of the posts above, the only to options there are 1) chuck the relationship away so you can have 'honest sex' as a single elsewhere or 2) discuss it openly and hurt/distress/worry the love of your life even more.
Plenty of shades here people, not everyone is a bastard.
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If they are the true love of your life you will accept no sex. Wanking is now your life.
If you can’t discuss openly sex or lack off then there’s no communication and communication especially on this scene and around sex is the most key thing to making it work.
We have both agreed that if at any point medically we were unfit or unable to have sex that we would have something in place where either person with permission could have some form of sex elsewhere. Who knows what this will actually look like if this comes to it but the point is we have already discussed it majorly in advance because we understand how much sex means to us.
Cheating is dishonest and the opposite to open communication and personally I believe they can’t be the love of your life if you are prepared to put your cock before their feelings. |
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"I think there is a ton of black and white judgement in a few of the comments above.
While I totally agree that cheating on a partner, if you are in a relationship with an active sex life isn't acceptable, what about, for an example, if you are in a scenario where everything is pretty perfect (and you used to have great sex), but for genuine medical reasons and intense pain, that's no longer practical (much to the chagrin of the partner).
According to some of the posts above, the only to options there are 1) chuck the relationship away so you can have 'honest sex' as a single elsewhere or 2) discuss it openly and hurt/distress/worry the love of your life even more.
Plenty of shades here people, not everyone is a bastard.
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You'd hurt the person you love more, if they found you on a site meeting others for sex, behind their back.
It's tough to have an open conversation, but surely it's best to be honest and see if theres a way to compromise. Ie discreet meets. That to me is much more respectful than sneaking around and lying. |
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We just got this from a guy cheating his gf.
"Let’s say I’ve had a chat with my Mrs this morning and although she hasn’t said, go onto a site and find people to have sex with, she has said to do what I’ve got to do but never bring it to the house. would that change anything?"
big fat No from us, we had already said no when he mentioned he has a great and she does not know. |
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"We just got this from a guy cheating his gf.
"Let’s say I’ve had a chat with my Mrs this morning and although she hasn’t said, go onto a site and find people to have sex with, she has said to do what I’ve got to do but never bring it to the house. would that change anything?"
big fat No from us, we had already said no when he mentioned he has a great and she does not know."
This is the major reason we don’t see men anymore because we don’t trust them. If you meet with a couple who are genuinely a couple ( not just friends with benefits ) then you know for a fact they are not cheating as both there ! |
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By *asha86Couple 21 weeks ago
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Not our circus not our monkey ... we try to avoid people cheating on partners but some do lie very well and that is a problem. If we smell a rat we try and steer clear as it's drama we dont want or need. |
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"I think there is a ton of black and white judgement in a few of the comments above.
While I totally agree that cheating on a partner, if you are in a relationship with an active sex life isn't acceptable, what about, for an example, if you are in a scenario where everything is pretty perfect (and you used to have great sex), but for genuine medical reasons and intense pain, that's no longer practical (much to the chagrin of the partner).
According to some of the posts above, the only to options there are 1) chuck the relationship away so you can have 'honest sex' as a single elsewhere or 2) discuss it openly and hurt/distress/worry the love of your life even more.
Plenty of shades here people, not everyone is a bastard.
You'd hurt the person you love more, if they found you on a site meeting others for sex, behind their back.
It's tough to have an open conversation, but surely it's best to be honest and see if theres a way to compromise. Ie discreet meets. That to me is much more respectful than sneaking around and lying. "
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"For me it's trust, and it seems to escape people.
I make it plain on my profile I won't see married people. I get the odd that will try and defend they're actions, ie they're not getting laid anymore, they're more like friends etc.
If your partner can't trust you,then neither can I. And if I can't trust you, I'm not gonna get naked with you. "
This is EXACTLY how I feel. |
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Yes we do meet with married men, but men please dont message us now as not meeting.
We feel there are three types of married men. Two we will meet. One we wont.
We are very lucky to both enjoy in what we call our lifstyle hobby. Some arnt, and only one of the partnership is interested in it. They still adore there partners, love them and have a healthy sex life. This is no different to them playing golf or football. They like to enjoy this hobby. This is one of the three we will meet. The second is the bisexual man. He enjoys mens company as well as his wifes. But could never discuss this with her. We understand and will meet those. The third we wont touch. Those are the men that say in a sexless marriage. We tell them to go home, give your wife the attention she deserves and you might just get some sex.
I hope this explains why we do meet single married men and women |
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"Yes we do meet with married men, but men please dont message us now as not meeting.
We feel there are three types of married men. Two we will meet. One we wont.
We are very lucky to both enjoy in what we call our lifstyle hobby. Some arnt, and only one of the partnership is interested in it. They still adore there partners, love them and have a healthy sex life. This is no different to them playing golf or football. They like to enjoy this hobby. This is one of the three we will meet. The second is the bisexual man. He enjoys mens company as well as his wifes. But could never discuss this with her. We understand and will meet those. The third we wont touch. Those are the men that say in a sexless marriage. We tell them to go home, give your wife the attention she deserves and you might just get some sex.
I hope this explains why we do meet single married men and women"
If they are married and treating sex behind their wife’s back as a hobbie like golf they can’t adore their wife’s and if they have a healthy sex life there’s absolutely no excuse the same as not telling their wife’s they actually like a bit of cock. It’s full on cheating an the question you have to ask is if she found out would it end the marriage or really hurt the wife if the answer is yes then it’s abhorrent and no amount of you justifying it makes it ok. |
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"Yes we do meet with married men, but men please dont message us now as not meeting.
We feel there are three types of married men. Two we will meet. One we wont.
We are very lucky to both enjoy in what we call our lifstyle hobby. Some arnt, and only one of the partnership is interested in it. They still adore there partners, love them and have a healthy sex life. This is no different to them playing golf or football. They like to enjoy this hobby. This is one of the three we will meet. The second is the bisexual man. He enjoys mens company as well as his wifes. But could never discuss this with her. We understand and will meet those. The third we wont touch. Those are the men that say in a sexless marriage. We tell them to go home, give your wife the attention she deserves and you might just get some sex.
I hope this explains why we do meet single married men and women
If they are married and treating sex behind their wife’s back as a hobbie like golf they can’t adore their wife’s and if they have a healthy sex life there’s absolutely no excuse the same as not telling their wife’s they actually like a bit of cock. It’s full on cheating an the question you have to ask is if she found out would it end the marriage or really hurt the wife if the answer is yes then it’s abhorrent and no amount of you justifying it makes it ok. "
It is your choice and i respect that. But i have to disagree with you. Sorry |
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"Yes we do meet with married men, but men please dont message us now as not meeting.
We feel there are three types of married men. Two we will meet. One we wont.
We are very lucky to both enjoy in what we call our lifstyle hobby. Some arnt, and only one of the partnership is interested in it. They still adore there partners, love them and have a healthy sex life. This is no different to them playing golf or football. They like to enjoy this hobby. This is one of the three we will meet. The second is the bisexual man. He enjoys mens company as well as his wifes. But could never discuss this with her. We understand and will meet those. The third we wont touch. Those are the men that say in a sexless marriage. We tell them to go home, give your wife the attention she deserves and you might just get some sex.
I hope this explains why we do meet single married men and women
If they are married and treating sex behind their wife’s back as a hobbie like golf they can’t adore their wife’s and if they have a healthy sex life there’s absolutely no excuse the same as not telling their wife’s they actually like a bit of cock. It’s full on cheating an the question you have to ask is if she found out would it end the marriage or really hurt the wife if the answer is yes then it’s abhorrent and no amount of you justifying it makes it ok.
It is your choice and i respect that. But i have to disagree with you. Sorry"
Ask your self if your partner or husband was playing away behind your back and you were not swingers and you had no idea how would it make you feel? If the wife’s find out and divorce their husbands that says it all. You can’t truely adore someone and lie to them and cheating is lying. You are entitled to your opinion but my moral compass is clearly different to yours. I could never do something like this to someone but I guess that’s where we differ. No offence intended everyone’s different. |
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Having been on the cheated on end. It's shite. No other way to put it. It's wrong and knowingly putting people through that is just horrible.
If you love your partner and you want more or different than you are getting then have that chat. Talk to them about your feelings and and needs . End of . |
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"Yes we do meet with married men, but men please dont message us now as not meeting.
We feel there are three types of married men. Two we will meet. One we wont.
We are very lucky to both enjoy in what we call our lifstyle hobby. Some arnt, and only one of the partnership is interested in it. They still adore there partners, love them and have a healthy sex life. This is no different to them playing golf or football. They like to enjoy this hobby. This is one of the three we will meet. The second is the bisexual man. He enjoys mens company as well as his wifes. But could never discuss this with her. We understand and will meet those. The third we wont touch. Those are the men that say in a sexless marriage. We tell them to go home, give your wife the attention she deserves and you might just get some sex.
I hope this explains why we do meet single married men and women
If they are married and treating sex behind their wife’s back as a hobbie like golf they can’t adore their wife’s and if they have a healthy sex life there’s absolutely no excuse the same as not telling their wife’s they actually like a bit of cock. It’s full on cheating an the question you have to ask is if she found out would it end the marriage or really hurt the wife if the answer is yes then it’s abhorrent and no amount of you justifying it makes it ok. "
Couldn't agree with this more...
Justifying cheating by saying that sex is a hobby like golf is shocking. Anyone can make up a reason for their behaviour to suit the person they're trying to entice, and there's no telling whether that's even true... especially if the person telling you this is doing something untrustworthy to begin with.
When you know the damage cheating can do to a person/family...I'm sorry, but no reason is acceptable. |
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When i was young i didn't have many proper relationships but the ones i did have i cheated on all of them.
I put this down to a few things ..
1. Being young and stupid ..
2. Thinking back i didn't really care for the other person ..
I've not long come out of a 14 year relationship where i was faithful.
Now i have grown up, i absolutely could not cheat on my partner.
I could however have sex with a woman who is cheating ... my feeling on this is the onus is not on me to tell the other person what they should and should not be doing .. i don't know their situation and it's their decision.
Thoughts???
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"When i was young i didn't have many proper relationships but the ones i did have i cheated on all of them.
I put this down to a few things ..
1. Being young and stupid ..
2. Thinking back i didn't really care for the other person ..
I've not long come out of a 14 year relationship where i was faithful.
Now i have grown up, i absolutely could not cheat on my partner.
I could however have sex with a woman who is cheating ... my feeling on this is the onus is not on me to tell the other person what they should and should not be doing .. i don't know their situation and it's their decision.
Thoughts???
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Personally I think it's a cop out to absolve yourself of responsibility. It's true that you shouldn't be telling the other person what they should and shouldn't be doing but you would be an enabler. |
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"When i was young i didn't have many proper relationships but the ones i did have i cheated on all of them.
I put this down to a few things ..
1. Being young and stupid ..
2. Thinking back i didn't really care for the other person ..
I've not long come out of a 14 year relationship where i was faithful.
Now i have grown up, i absolutely could not cheat on my partner.
I could however have sex with a woman who is cheating ... my feeling on this is the onus is not on me to tell the other person what they should and should not be doing .. i don't know their situation and it's their decision.
Thoughts???
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You still have the choice not to get involved or help them cheat
I think if you knowingly meet anyone cheating, you have to take some responsibility too. |
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I used to see a married cheating lady when her husband was at work. She said he wasn’t interested in her any more and that he would rather have work and hi mates. She was utter filth, she never wore panties under her skirt. I fucked her in their marital bed and filled all her holes with cum. She even fucked several other guys off FAB. He had no idea and probably didn’t care |
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"I used to see a married cheating lady when her husband was at work. She said he wasn’t interested in her any more and that he would rather have work and hi mates. She was utter filth, she never wore panties under her skirt. I fucked her in their marital bed and filled all her holes with cum. She even fucked several other guys off FAB. He had no idea and probably didn’t care"
Sounds like a really classy lady… NOT! The marital bed is taking the absolute piss and she deserves to be divorced! |
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