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We're just wondering out loud, does anybody else have as much trouble arranging meets as we do?
Whenever we post an advert, we include a short list of requirements. These requirements are:
Live within 10 miles of us
Be able to accommodate
No beards
No car/lorry meets
The replies that we get make it clear that guys either think that the requirements don't matter, or they haven't bothered reading past the first line of the advert.
If we are lucky, we might get one meet every three months. Does anybody else have a similar problem? And if so, is there a way around it? |
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It's like going into the supermarket with a list, you need to go looking for what you want rather than waiting for it to come to you .
Do a search withing a ten mile radius and contact the guys you like the look of. |
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Yes we struggle too to get meets. We quite like spontaneous meets and our main dynamic is single guys. We put a meet ad up but like your experience very few read our profile and preferences. So out of 30 replies only one or two are worth responding to. We find trying to organise too far ahead almost guarantees a drop out or no show. |
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"Yes we struggle too to get meets. We quite like spontaneous meets and our main dynamic is single guys. We put a meet ad up but like your experience very few read our profile and preferences. So out of 30 replies only one or two are worth responding to. We find trying to organise too far ahead almost guarantees a drop out or no show. "
Yes, this is the exact problem we have. |
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Absolutely. We’ve had one successful meet on here since we joined and that was ultimately only for drinks.
After a while it really starts to affect your self esteem. There’s plenty of people want to fuck A bit that isn’t what we’re looking for and seemingly no one on earth will go anywhere near me so I feel like I must be the fugliest bastard in all of the north west lol |
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Sadly, it's all too common. We have yet to have a successful meet from here. In recent times have even gotten as far as giving out an address...TWICE...only for the guys to ghost us. Also, not reading our profile, preferences, or age range is all to common. |
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By *WB85Man 13 hours ago
Staffordshire |
From our past experience with couples, we found expecting others to accommodate quite restrictive.
Many cant accommodate for the same reasons you cant.
We changed to hotel meets and were far more successful.
Just a suggestion.
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It seems like you’re too focused on your needs and not those of the other person you want to meet. There should be a middle ground somewhere.
Of course you are totally within your rights to have boundaries, but if you can’t host then why should they? |
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Very frustrating, I have tried several times to arrange a meet for a lady I see, she wants2-3 men , and it’s hard knowing who’s genuine, I suspect a lot aren’t, or bottle at the last minute . I guess I get ignored because of my age or I haven’t got recommendations. Whatever, you’d think it would be a lot easier in this day and age |
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i have on my profile no beards 90% of my messages are guys with facial hair i just block them i wont block all men i just block all those im not interested in same goes for guts who are 100/200 miles away block and after a while you'll find your inbox with more desirable guys..
the block button is the best tool on fab i can block up to 10 plus profiles most days also worth pointing out that o dont get messers ie guys who dont turn up |
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Very frustrating, I have tried several times to arrange a meet for a lady I see, she wants2-3 men , and it’s hard knowing who’s genuine, I suspect a lot aren’t, or bottle at the last minute . I guess I get ignored because of my age or I haven’t got recommendations. Whatever, you’d think it would be a lot easier in this day and age "
its never going to be easy for most men 100/200 men per woman/couple depending where you live ... alot of guys call women /couples fake just because they are not being picked ..not interested does not p fake ..swinging is not women drop knickers for all there has to be something to attract physical sexual mental and quite simple most people are and rightly so picky |
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"Sadly the age old problem of Males not bothering to read and we all get it and we do sometimes suggest reading to males that message us but that goes down like the infamous lead balloon though as the attitude is (Sometimes) it's sex site so how very dare you state preferences !? or have any even ? xxx   "
Absolutely NOT wanting to start at argument but calling single guys "males" makes them appear nothing but livestock for your use. Guys that call women "females" get called out on it, too.
Maybe single guys might show a little more respect if us couples gave them a little more. |
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"Sadly the age old problem of Males not bothering to read and we all get it and we do sometimes suggest reading to males that message us but that goes down like the infamous lead balloon though as the attitude is (Sometimes) it's sex site so how very dare you state preferences !? or have any even ? xxx
Absolutely NOT wanting to start at argument but calling single guys "males" makes them appear nothing but livestock for your use. Guys that call women "females" get called out on it, too.
Maybe single guys might show a little more respect if us couples gave them a little more."
I couldn't agree with you more |
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Very frustrating, I have tried several times to arrange a meet for a lady I see, she wants2-3 men , and it’s hard knowing who’s genuine, I suspect a lot aren’t, or bottle at the last minute . I guess I get ignored because of my age or I haven’t got recommendations. Whatever, you’d think it would be a lot easier in this day and age "
You have a single guy profile. In our experience every single one of those that say they have a lady friend is talking bollox and she's unwell or looking after kids or something when the time comes.
Maybe consider you and her setting up a joint couples profile for those meets? |
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"We're just wondering out loud, does anybody else have as much trouble arranging meets as we do?"
We all struggle. For us, it doesn't help that Char is very, very fussy so out of 100 guys that message, there's probably only two or three that she actually fancies.
Of those that she fancies, a large proportion have no meet verifications so haven't proven themselves to actually leave the house. Of those, almost 0% have actually turned up when given the chance.
Of those with meet verifications, it seems that more than half aren't as single as they say they are and of course, we're the ones that get left standing when they can't get away from the wife, when she needs the car, when the kids suddenly decide to come and stay, etc.
It actually leaves very, very few guys for us. And let's not even start on single woman (they're not interested in us) or couples (who generally if interested in us, don't think they need to read a profile at all).
It can get you down, just remember it's almost certainly not you and unless you open up to alternative types, further distance, etc, that's the way it'll be. |
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When you go shopping and you only want Beetroot then it's no surprise that's your focus. If anyone offers you otherwise it's not their fault, they think you are weird. Just put Beetroot, nothing else!. You will still get offered otherwise of course.
But that's the way it is. |
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I get messed around as there are lots of time wasters on here. My problem is that most men that contact me are at least 150 miles away and some are even further.
I think like others have suggested you would be better to try and find what you are looking for locally yourselves or visit local clubs and socials if there are any close to you. It is rather frustrating at times though I do get you. |
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Very frustrating, I have tried several times to arrange a meet for a lady I see, she wants2-3 men , and it’s hard knowing who’s genuine, I suspect a lot aren’t, or bottle at the last minute . I guess I get ignored because of my age or I haven’t got recommendations. Whatever, you’d think it would be a lot easier in this day and age "
I would say that it should be very difficult in 'this day and age' for a man to arrange for two or three men to meet a woman and rightly so. |
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Very frustrating, I have tried several times to arrange a meet for a lady I see, she wants2-3 men , and it’s hard knowing who’s genuine, I suspect a lot aren’t, or bottle at the last minute . I guess I get ignored because of my age or I haven’t got recommendations. Whatever, you’d think it would be a lot easier in this day and age
I would say that it should be very difficult in 'this day and age' for a man to arrange for two or three men to meet a woman and rightly so."
agree with this .. attraction is a hard thing to find full stop physical sexual mental these connection are needed ..anyone fucking anyone has no sexual pleasure value at all ..
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"We're just wondering out loud, does anybody else have as much trouble arranging meets as we do?
Whenever we post an advert, we include a short list of requirements. These requirements are:
Live within 10 miles of us
Be able to accommodate
No beards
No car/lorry meets
The replies that we get make it clear that guys either think that the requirements don't matter, or they haven't bothered reading past the first line of the advert.
If we are lucky, we might get one meet every three months. Does anybody else have a similar problem? And if so, is there a way around it?"
 unfortunately people dont read they see a pair of tits |
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We used to find it annoying that many fabbers don’t read our profile ,not just men, so now we just ignore and delete messages or block them,whatever we fancy. Our very first meet we were all excited and then the couple ghosted us on the evening of the meet. Afterwards they tried to reconnect ,winking a couple of times and all. They are still very active on Fab so we just ignore them. |
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