"Guessing this is a bit niche and not many partake in it  "
I think it is niche and also misunderstood. My only experience of it has been of some wannabes who wanted to "own" me ... but their understanding of BDSM, kink and consent was somewhat lacking.
Done right a relationship like that can be very rewarding to both parties but it takes alot of trust and full respect of boundaries.
Done wrong it can be a smokescreen for coercion and abuse. |
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"Guessing this is a bit niche and not many partake in it
I think it is niche and also misunderstood. My only experience of it has been of some wannabes who wanted to "own" me ... but their understanding of BDSM, kink and consent was somewhat lacking.
Done right a relationship like that can be very rewarding to both parties but it takes alot of trust and full respect of boundaries.
Done wrong it can be a smokescreen for coercion and abuse."
Thank you what a great summary x
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"Guessing this is a bit niche and not many partake in it
I think it is niche and also misunderstood. My only experience of it has been of some wannabes who wanted to "own" me ... but their understanding of BDSM, kink and consent was somewhat lacking.
Done right a relationship like that can be very rewarding to both parties but it takes alot of trust and full respect of boundaries.
Done wrong it can be a smokescreen for coercion and abuse."
Good summary. Our experience of it is when one in a couple consents to hand over control to their partner to make decisions on their behalf. It may or may not extend beyond their sex lives.
It works for us as part of a D/s relationship where trust and understanding has been built up.
A stranger asking for it is a huge red flag |
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By *ensualgent38Man 17 hours ago
Berks, Surrey, London & Edinburgh |
"What does being owned or having an owner entail? We had a message saying I’d love to be your owner, vague with no other detail. Naturally we’ve heard of it but any experiences anyone?"
Being invited to ‘own’ or ‘take control’ of a couple is the most intense pleasure i have enjoyed since I stayed swinging, and that’s true whether it is a one off or a longer term arrangement.
Intimate, erotic, liberating. |
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"It all feels very controlling to me.
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It is about control but the person being controlled wants that. My sub wife loves being owned by me and this was all her not me. Obviously you hear to do this with the right person |
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By *dstefiMan 17 hours ago
Solihull |
I can see it's a particular dynamic that is fulfilling if both partners are into it. If they aren't though, it's a bust.
I've been "asked" to own people twice, or at least had the concept explained.
Once a woman who I put a collar on for a sex session thinking it was just erotic sexy fun and would turn her on as she was definitely sub. Turned out she thought I was collaring her for real and went off the deep end when I said that couldn't be (we're both married and fully committed elsewhere).
The other a guy, who after a heavy spanking session where I beat his arse open-palm and wanked him till he came very quickly, then kicked me out and said he lost interest completely after orgasm, subsequently decided he was going to call me Master and hassle for another beating meet. Pestered and pestered till I had to block him because it wasn't going to happen. |
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