Hey all,
I seem to be looking for the impossible, a sub girl in the bdsm and swingers scene.
Im not in these scenes, mainly because i havent found a girl to properly explore them.
So to my reason for posting, any advice on finding a potential sub partner or any subs that think they may suit me.
I prefer a educated profetional, who is good looking and slim.
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Two things.
Firstly:
You don't need a girl, or partner to explore these scenes at all, perhaps that the stumbling block.
Secondly: not every swinger is into the fetish scene and vice versa. A bit like venn diagrams - the more you need to crossover, the smaller the results.
And, not to be rude but if you want an "educated professional", you might try some spelling, grammar and punctuation yourself? |
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"Two things.
Firstly:
You don't need a girl, or partner to explore these scenes at all, perhaps that the stumbling block.
Secondly: not every swinger is into the fetish scene and vice versa. A bit like venn diagrams - the more you need to crossover, the smaller the results.
And, not to be rude but if you want an "educated professional", you might try some spelling, grammar and punctuation yourself?"
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I agree I cannot find a sub Female.
A lot of people say they are sub but never seem to answer, Not sure if its the fact they are busy or they dont know how to obay!!  |
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"I agree I cannot find a sub Female.
A lot of people say they are sub but never seem to answer, Not sure if its the fact they are busy or they dont know how to obay!! "
I dont believe this is at all the place to find an unattached sub female. This is a swingers site. |
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"I agree I cannot find a sub Female.
A lot of people say they are sub but never seem to answer, Not sure if its the fact they are busy or they dont know how to obay!! "
Thats because you're asking them to reply, surely if they're sub, you should be telling them to  |
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"I agree I cannot find a sub Female.
A lot of people say they are sub but never seem to answer, Not sure if its the fact they are busy or they dont know how to obay!!
I dont believe this is at all the place to find an unattached sub female. This is a swingers site. "
That pretty much covers it for me. I'd never get into a D/s thing with someone on a swinging site. It requires trust and I may never find the person I'm able to do that with but I sure as hell wouldn't do it on a casual basis.
As for not knowing how to obey... that really really made me laugh! As I said, good luck!! |
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"That pretty much covers it for me. I'd never get into a D/s thing with someone on a swinging site. It requires trust and I may never find the person I'm able to do that with but I sure as hell wouldn't do it on a casual basis. "
Lots of - cough - "doms" here are really "oh boy i saw some rough porn, wanna try that!" |
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"I have found sub playmates on this and similar sites. It's not something you can do casually as it's all about trust. "
Yes but they need to reply first to get that trust |
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Sorry for the spelling, i may be educated but also dyslexic and posting on an iphone makes spell checking harder.
Aa for sub/dom in a causal relationship, i this your a 100% right that it needs trust.
I think you can have trust in a causual relationship, i have a few and generally any girl that i with trusts me, but thats because i believe in 100% honesty and communication.
but ideally i would want to find a sub girl that enjoyed the swinging scene that i would have the posibility of a relationship developing.
This way i would know from the start this i a life style choice she made for herself. |
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"I agree I cannot find a sub Female.
A lot of people say they are sub but never seem to answer, Not sure if its the fact they are busy or they dont know how to obay!! "
Most submissive females on here have Partners.. Even single Subs certainly dont have to obey anyone till they choose too...
I get a few amusing messages where they try to ORDER me to do stuff, it meets an interesting response.
Katie.x
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What only someone who understands the d/s relationship will know is ulimatly the sub has the power.
All the power and control the dom has is what the sub has given him.
She says no its over, she doesnt trust him then she will never fully submit.
Once she fully submits and he knows her she should never need to say no, as she will trust him with her limits and he will know how far he can push them.
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"Their is a website online that is free to join to find sub or slaves or even masters and mistresses
inbox me and will send you link
I have 3 subs now"
You have 3???
Halfway up the page you couldn't find one!!!
Well done you.
However, in answer to the original post, I class myself as a sub female, in the D/s scene. I will not do the same thing(s) with someone I meet on the swinging scene.
Although having said that, the 2 men I will currently submit to (sometimes), I met on the swinging scene. But they have gone on to become trusted, loving friends, whose hands I would gladly put my life into. |
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you might need to decide if you are after someone who is into D/s roleplay or its thier lifestyle choice , i personally love the roleplay and am compliant but not into the scene for it, ( though can take a beating if told miss , !! ) ohh by the way please dont correct my grammar as i just love to hit random keys so it looks pretty , lol |
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"Their is a website online that is free to join to find sub or slaves or even masters and mistresses
inbox me and will send you link
I have 3 subs now
You have 3???
Halfway up the page you couldn't find one!!!
Well done you.
However, in answer to the original post, I class myself as a sub female, in the D/s scene. I will not do the same thing(s) with someone I meet on the swinging scene.
Although having said that, the 2 men I will currently submit to (sometimes), I met on the swinging scene. But they have gone on to become trusted, loving friends, whose hands I would gladly put my life into. "
I know just goes to prove if you are looking for a sexual partner then fabs is what you want and if you are looking for a pet or slave or sub then the website i use if magic. |
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"Is there much of a bdsm scene in southend area? "
I have a few mate's down that way and it seem's quite big. I don't know about clubs best off asking on the bdsm site's.
KAtie x |
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Usually found that the lady who is saying they are Domme ends up being sub.
Tends to be very passionate - lot's of fun and comes for more.
Lady who is willing to submit in such a way though as you suggest may not well advertise it due to safety reasons.
The quiet ones tend to be the worst ??
Try a munch though ..
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"Is there much of a bdsm scene in southend area? "
Not in Southend as such. But if you don't mind traveling to London, there are a few places I can recommend, especially if you are relatively new, and want to know more. |
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You guys looking for subs have it easy.. you try finding a girl to come in and be a 2nd sub... and joining a poly household..
Its nigh on impossible..and I have about given up looking..
Katie. x |
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"You guys looking for subs have it easy.. you try finding a girl to come in and be a 2nd sub... and joining a poly household..
Its nigh on impossible..and I have about given up looking..
Katie. x"
swinging sites may not be teh right place to look
i know of a similar BDSM / Fetish site that may be more suitable, will PM it if you wish |
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swinging sites may not be teh right place to look
i know of a similar BDSM / Fetish site that may be more suitable, will PM it if you wish"
we would never find the right girl on here lol this is a swinging site not a dating site.. we use many site's but most of the women we come across are not right for many reasons.
FEel free to send it over but chances are we are already signed up
Katie x |
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Good luck! 
