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cpls swinging why ????
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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ok i know this is a very open question and covers alot but why do cpls swing i mean if your together as a normal cpl man wife then why does that not break your vows not having a go every1 can swing i just wonder why cpls do
and why some only do mmf or ffm or soft or full some same room some sep room some only at clubs
as for at the clubs i kind of get that we a normal cpl outside the club but swingers inside
anyway hope this starts a nice long debate |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"ok i know this is a very open question and covers alot but why do cpls swing i mean if your together as a normal cpl man wife then why does that not break your vows not having a go every1 can swing i just wonder why cpls do
and why some only do mmf or ffm or soft or full some same room some sep room some only at clubs
as for at the clubs i kind of get that we a normal cpl outside the club but swingers inside
anyway hope this starts a nice long debate "
Boredom in a relationship, Adventure in new directions, experimentation and hundreds of other reasons too many to list. |
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By *exy6768Couple
over a year ago
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Defo not boredom in our case.
We like to try new things together as a couple and watch each other enjoy other people.
We have a health sex life together and are happy in our relationship.
Everyone has there own reasons for swinging or even not swinging and no right or wrongs  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why do couples swing.... I always thought that the definition of swinging was based around couples.... Only in recent years have more and more singles been involved.
I may be wrong?
S. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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if it was only cpls how could ppl do mmf and ffm which lots of ppl like and surely threesomes is swinging and how do u get three without a single in there somewhere  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Having been in three ling term swinging relationships and married to one and just about to marry another
For me personally its like this
I'm an individual I have one life and one life only
When I'm dead I'm dead
And my partner the same
Who am I to stop that person living their
Life how they want to and experiencing the things they want to just because they love me
And the same in return?
Some may say but ya have had three relationships so does it work?
The two that failed failed because of things not connected with swinging bit like any vanilla relationship
Also I get pleasure seeing my partner enjoying herself or knowing that she's enjoying herself and happy if I'm not there
I personally think it makes relationships stronger
And the trust is brilliant
Communication is the name of the game and if she ain't happy she says so
And visa versa xx  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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yes i can see trust and commincation are vital but what if one half of a cpl sets rules and limits the other half does not agree with what then stop swinger me thinks ??? yes ??
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"if it was only cpls how could ppl do mmf and ffm which lots of ppl like and surely threesomes is swinging and how do u get three without a single in there somewhere "
i didnt say it was ONLY couples did i? I said the definition of swinging is where COUPLES swap partners, so without there been any couples involved, swinging wouldnt be around.
Swinging has its origins with couples, not singles, nor threesomes, swinging has though developed into those things and more.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"yes i can see trust and commincation are vital but what if one half of a cpl sets rules and limits the other half does not agree with what then stop swinger me thinks ??? yes ??
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Yes there are rules but agreed by both
What normally happens if there is conflict then that particular thing is not done at all
The only rule I have is that she don't do anything behind my back and that is it
Cause if she did then that would be it
Pretty much the same for her as well
Trust and love are paramount ta me and also the emotional bit anything else don't matter xx
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"yes i can see trust and commincation are vital but what if one half of a cpl sets rules and limits the other half does not agree with what then stop swinger me thinks ??? yes ??
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Then that is a miscommunication. If a couple swings then surely the rules that make each other happy should be set before the swinging occurs. Or is this singleton missing something? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"if it was only cpls how could ppl do mmf and ffm which lots of ppl like and surely threesomes is swinging and how do u get three without a single in there somewhere
i didnt say it was ONLY couples did i? I said the definition of swinging is where COUPLES swap partners, so without there been any couples involved, swinging wouldnt be around.
Swinging has its origins with couples, not singles, nor threesomes, swinging has though developed into those things and more.
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Kinda see what ya saying but having been on the scene fa nearly thirty years singles have been around fa a long time
As far as I'm aware that's the reason that wife swapping became swinging to incorporate the fact that it wasn't just couples I was a single when I started xx |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"ok i know this is a very open question and covers alot but why do cpls swing i mean if your together as a normal cpl man wife then why does that not break your vows not having a go every1 can swing i just wonder why cpls do
and why some only do mmf or ffm or soft or full some same room some sep room some only at clubs
as for at the clubs i kind of get that we a normal cpl outside the club but swingers inside
anyway hope this starts a nice long debate "
To enhance an already good sex life? |
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"Why do couples swing.... I always thought that the definition of swinging was based around couples.... Only in recent years have more and more singles been involved.
I may be wrong?
S."
It seems since they became a dating site for singles u are...
The very fact this question needs to be asked is a large part of why our profile is now hidden, swinging exists but not on the forum. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"ok i know this is a very open question and covers alot but why do cpls swing i mean if your together as a normal cpl man wife then why does that not break your vows not having a go every1 can swing i just wonder why cpls do
and why some only do mmf or ffm or soft or full some same room some sep room some only at clubs
as for at the clubs i kind of get that we a normal cpl outside the club but swingers inside
anyway hope this starts a nice long debate "
presuming peeps have taken vows, which is not always the case. |
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"Just becuause we fuck other people in front of each other doesn't mean we're not faithful to each other. Keeps the vows intact in my mind!"
I agree with this.
Way back in my youth I was promiscuous...if I was attracted to someone and it was reciprocated I happily got down and dirty with them.
I've had three significant relationships in my adult life. During the first 2 I was sexually exclusive with my partners and my current (wonderful)relationship is with someone I met through swinging and we continue to swing happily together and occasionally separately but with the full knowledge of each other.
I am not and never have been married and have no desire to change that, but curiosity after reading this thread made me trot off to research wedding vows.
I looked at twenty one sets of wedding vows, including religious, civil and cultural versions and nowhere in any of them does it mention being sexually exclusive to each other. I know that there is a Christian marriage service which includes the phrase "to avoid fornication" but this is in the part where the officiate explains why God created marriage, but it does not form part of the actual vows.
Some would people define the vow "forsaking all others, keep thee only to him/her" as being a vow not to have sex with others. However, the definition of "forsaking" is -
1. to quit or leave entirely; abandon; desert: She has forsaken her country for an island in the South Pacific.
2. to give up or renounce (a habit, way of life, etc.)
- no mention of sexual exclusivity....so in my opinion, no vows are being broken.
As to why couples swing...mainly because they enjoy recreational sex with others, and it is just one part of their relationship.
Of course there are some couples who have other reasons - boredom, trying to shore up a rocky relationship, coercion by a partner....but in my mind these people do not really "get" what swinging is.
femmefetale got it right....couples swing "to enhance an already good sex life".
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think most couples swing to keep sex exciting
If you have been married for many years you get to the point you have tried everything two people can do, when you get to that point sex can get boring so a lot will bring in a 3rd party to keep things exciting
Which is better than starting to play away to get that excitment |
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It's fun!?
We talk about our boundries and both come up with boundries that are OURS. Not Mr and Mrs boundries but ours.
How can you break you vows by being unfaithful if you are knowingly doing it in front of each other with everybodys consent?
Which also means neither of us will ever have a reason to look for an affair and be deceptful or lie about anything.
Its just an extra to our already solid relationship and varied sex life. If one of us became unhappy with it then we would stop.
mmf or mff without singles...
How about couples that know and trust each other sharing one or other of the partners to achieve this? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I started swinging because I was bullied into it... but now with my Master its because we like to do things.
We never ever break our vows.. for a start foresaking all others was not one we partook in...
We are true to ourselves and each other.
Do we need others to have fantastic sex??? hell no, the best sex we have is with each other... but we like to enhance things..and when Masters sees me writhing in pleasure with a sexy young guy and enjoying each other it makes my Master want me all the more.. Same in reverse..
Also well.. we like group sex.. would be a bit hard even with toys to imitate that..
and MMF and FFM is easy to sort out with couples if you had 3 couples
We personally like single guys though.. in groups of 5 or more preferably..
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"why do couples swing ??? why not ! same as anyone else id think... to exspend sexual horizons,to have fun ,to try new exsperienes and fantasys ....ect ect ect "
Totally agree, just one thing you missed the bit about boldly going ......etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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swinging is for couples, if couples did not do it then surely it just be to singles shagging about or am i missing something
as for earlier comment about bordem, i bet there is not one couple in here that would agree with you, its about fun and living out fantasies . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Defo not boredom in our case.
We like to try new things together as a couple and watch each other enjoy other people.
We have a health sex life together and are happy in our relationship.
Everyone has there own reasons for swinging or even not swinging and no right or wrongs "
Also we don't understand why swinging is frowned on, and affairs aren't so much... Craziness.
+1 for us. |
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"Ohh and tequnically, a single cant swing, swinging is two people, not a single person.
Controversial.
No, accurate, by yourself its called wanking  "
I prefer to think of it as "fucking some other guys wife" |
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"swinging is for couples, if couples did not do it then surely it just be to singles shagging about or am i missing something
as for earlier comment about bordem, i bet there is not one couple in here that would agree with you, its about fun and living out fantasies . "
+1
If we wern't completely happy in our relationship/ sex life we wouldn't do it.
To us it's black and white, we love each other and any swinging is still "us" if that's makes sense?
To that end neither of us ever feels unfaithful - why should we? - we're not being!
Ta
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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago
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"swinging is for couples, if couples did not do it then surely it just be to singles shagging about or am i missing something
What's a threesome?"
Its just that a threesome lol.
Singles dont swing they just take part in sex with others. Swinging is swoping partners and singles dont have partners. Its all just words and discriptions of the word, but if you want to get tequnical, then couples swing, singles sleep around lol. We dont care what its called for singles or couples, i was just saying lol xxx |
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"swinging is for couples, if couples did not do it then surely it just be to singles shagging about or am i missing something
What's a threesome?
Its just that a threesome lol.
Singles dont swing they just take part in sex with others. Swinging is swoping partners and singles dont have partners. Its all just words and discriptions of the word, but if you want to get tequnical, then couples swing, singles sleep around lol. We dont care what its called for singles or couples, i was just saying lol xxx"
Noooooooooooooo!
What's the difference between a single person taking part in sex with others and a couple taking part in sex with others?
Are couples who only soft swing swingers?
What about couples who enjoy FF fun but penetration only with their own partners, are they swingers?
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"swinging is for couples, if couples did not do it then surely it just be to singles shagging about or am i missing something
What's a threesome?
Its just that a threesome lol.
Singles dont swing they just take part in sex with others. Swinging is swoping partners and singles dont have partners. Its all just words and discriptions of the word, but if you want to get tequnical, then couples swing, singles sleep around lol. We dont care what its called for singles or couples, i was just saying lol xxx
Noooooooooooooo!
What's the difference between a single person taking part in sex with others and a couple taking part in sex with others?
Are couples who only soft swing swingers?
What about couples who enjoy FF fun but penetration only with their own partners, are they swingers?
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Single people have no commitment to anyone, swinging is people in a committed relationship ignoring the conventional attitude of society toward monogamy and acting in a manner many wud consider taboo.
There are no moral prescriptions against single people having sex.
That said there are many single people with an swinging mentality, who believe sex can be open, honest, between multiple partners and happen in various kinds of relationships, from strangers to best friends.
Sadly here these seem to be outnumbered by married men looking for affairs and single men who wud never let their wives swing as they look down on couples.  |
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"Single people have no commitment to anyone, swinging is people in a committed relationship ignoring the conventional attitude of society toward monogamy and acting in a manner many wud consider taboo.
There are no moral prescriptions against single people having sex.
That said there are many single people with an swinging mentality, who believe sex can be open, honest, between multiple partners and happen in various kinds of relationships, from strangers to best friends.
Sadly here these seem to be outnumbered by married men looking for affairs and single men who wud never let their wives swing as they look down on couples. "
As the demographics of society change, more people living alone, the old definition of the 70's house party and keys in the bowl had to change.
In terms of morals, I doubt a single teacher exposed as going to a swing club would get any different treatment to a couple going, in terms of general and press reaction. The male being a pervert, and the woman a rampant slut as two common labels.
Society sometimes seems more relaxed, but I believe this is a veneer hiding centuries old belief systems and morals. |
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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago
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Antone can be a swinger, i was just saying the deffinition is a couple who are in a relationship, swoping partners. Dont mean to upset any sungle guys, But you are really just sleeping around, have to say nothing wrong with that and its nice ppl can have a open mind to sex. Just traditionally swingers are couples etc etc as i have said. Good luck to all you swingers out there be it couples or singles. just bloody enjoy, life it too sort xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why buy a Vauxhall Nove for 400 quid and put a grands worth of stereo in it?
Why go on holiday 3 times a year?
Why run a marathon?
Different goals for different people. Personal choice. Different life styles. |
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By *andKCouple
over a year ago
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We do it because we both enjoy it, all aspects we both really enjoy seeing eachother have fun always knowing we will be going home together at the end of the evening. It's a great hobby we enjoy together |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We tend to think of it as Hotwifing rather than swinging.
Personally I have no desire to sleep with other women.
I do however love to watch Maxi in action
I like seeing her shed her inhibitions and enjoy herself.
Most of all I love the glow she has afterwards and it makes us feel closer as a couple, which I know sounds odd but thats how it makes us feel
It also makes me lust after her something fierce |
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Further research I looked up definition of swingers....just looking at the first page of sites (nine in total) which give a definition....
...Two define it as a couples activity
...three define it as either a single or a couple
...four define it in terms of a single person....
...see below
11. TheFreeDictionary - Slang
a. To be lively, trendy, and exciting.
b. To engage freely in promiscuous sex.
c. To exchange sex partners. Used especially of married couples.
d. To have a sexual orientation toward one or both sexes.
thesaurus for swinger:
sex bisexual player slut swing swingers threesome orgy pimp swinging party whore polyamory fmf gay group sex unicorn adulterer bliss babe cheater more...
Urban Dictionary -
1. swinger 1594 up, 264 down
a person who dates/sleeps with multiple people at the same time.
Wikipedia - Swinging or partner swapping (sometimes referred to as the swinging lifestyle) is a non-monogamous[1] behavior, in which both partners in a committed relationship agree, as a couple, for both partners to engage in sexual activities with other couples as a recreational or social activity
Think Exist.com - (n.) A person who engages freely in sexual intercourse.
Merriam-Webster - b : one who engages freely in sex
Knol - “Swingers” Definition:
Swingers are people, generally couples, who are in emotionally monogamous, sexually emancipated relationships. They are loving couples with strong, secure family bonds who have removed sexual repression (usually along with intellectual, physical, and other historic control mechanisms) from their relationship. Swinging couples engage in a variety of sexual activities with other people, which they find helps maintain and strengthen their primary relationship.
Dictionary.com - Slang .
a.
a person who indulges in promiscuous sex.
b.
a person who engages in the exchanging of spouses for sexual activities.
Collins Reverso - Swingers are people who are married or in a long-term relationship and who like to have sex with other couples.
My own take...well what does the label matter - we're all just having fun and loads of sex
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Perhaps the question could also be raised...why do other couples NOT swing?
They are plenty of very happy couples out there who dont and and quite a good few very unhappy couples who dont..we dont purely because of the health risk, but still have smashing time on here..and we are in envy of all you carefree people who obviously enjoy a great thing..
Lucky sods!! lol
But what is the reason the majority of people dont? |
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..er.. cos we enjoy it? 