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One for the ladies of certain age since starting menopause have you found suddenly your ears get very hot and also finding I'm not able to gush as much as I was before |
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By *hippy57Man
over a year ago
Chelmsford |
My wife going through it now ,lots of hot flushes ,not so interested in sex ,not get moist naturally |
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over a year ago
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For any ladies going through the menopause.. I highly recommend the Marina Coil!! I don't feel menopausal at all. No brain fog, night sweats, hot flushes are very rare.. and still very much wanting sex (just don't get it lol) It's been a life changer |
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"My wife going through it now ,lots of hot flushes ,not so interested in sex ,not get moist naturally "
Yer i get the hot flushes and usual symptom lucky I still enjoy sex still get wet just don't gush as much |
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"For any ladies going through the menopause.. I highly recommend the Marina Coil!! I don't feel menopausal at all. No brain fog, night sweats, hot flushes are very rare.. and still very much wanting sex (just don't get it lol) It's been a life changer "
I have the mirena coil and have done for about 7/8 years night sweats are bad but I do have leukemia aswell as menopause I have hrt patches and pills |
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I had Ablation surgery about 18 months ago, and it's the best decision I've ever made.
My bleeds have stopped, the only trace of Menopausal symptoms is the occasional hot flush in the afternoon, but that's it.
Maybe I just got lucky on this one. |
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"I had Ablation surgery about 18 months ago, and it's the best decision I've ever made.
My bleeds have stopped, the only trace of Menopausal symptoms is the occasional hot flush in the afternoon, but that's it.
Ah that's good my mum had that aswell she said it was good
Maybe I just got lucky on this one."
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By *issP69Woman
over a year ago
Neath |
I've been in Perimenopause since my early 30s and vaginal dryness has been one of my worst symptoms. I can't fuck at all without lube and I'm not 40 yet  |
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"One for the ladies of certain age since starting menopause have you found suddenly your ears get very hot and also finding I'm not able to gush as much as I was before "
I find sometimes my ears get really hot too, sometimes just one ear!! No issues with anything else though!! |
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Yeah a bit mostly they itch though which is horrible. I'm dreading actual menopause I'm on the peri stage at the moment |
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By *jh59Man
over a year ago
Stoke Golding |
The wife’s going through a menopause now
It’s total lack of sex with me |
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By *orraghCouple
over a year ago
Mullingar/Kildare |
The Mirena coil will supply progesterone to your body but you will still need estrogen as well as small amounts of testosterone (this helps especially to boost libido and mitigates brain fog). Women who have undergone hysterectomies or who no longer have periods (post-menopausal) generally do not need progesterone (it works to avoid an over-thickening or build up of the uterine lining which can occur through estrogen). |
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"I've been in Perimenopause since my early 30s and vaginal dryness has been one of my worst symptoms. I can't fuck at all without lube and I'm not 40 yet "
You need localised oestrogen. Creams are messy but you can use a small amount externally too. Are you on hrt? |
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"Yeah a bit mostly they itch though which is horrible. I'm dreading actual menopause I'm on the peri stage at the moment "
Have you looked at hrt? |
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By *ustylouWoman
over a year ago
Aylesbury |
"Yeah a bit mostly they itch though which is horrible. I'm dreading actual menopause I'm on the peri stage at the moment "
The itchy ears are the worst. And not a well known symptom. |
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"Yeah a bit mostly they itch though which is horrible. I'm dreading actual menopause I'm on the peri stage at the moment
Have you looked at hrt? "
I asked my doctor they won't give it to me as I don't have hot flushes.
Sin e them my symptoms have worsened brain fog is worse a few more mood swings and low libido, still getting periods not every month though.
It doesn't help that my doctors don't have a .menopause specialist but he did say he can put me in contact with one if I need it |
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"Yeah a bit mostly they itch though which is horrible. I'm dreading actual menopause I'm on the peri stage at the moment
The itchy ears are the worst. And not a well known symptom. "
It's horrible the only thing that works is anti histamines for me anyway |
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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago
west midlands |
"I've been in Perimenopause since my early 30s and vaginal dryness has been one of my worst symptoms. I can't fuck at all without lube and I'm not 40 yet "
I had breast cancer a few years ago so I can't have hrt at all, my gp told me to try Replens cream that you buy in the chemist, it has really worked well for me. |
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"I've been in Perimenopause since my early 30s and vaginal dryness has been one of my worst symptoms. I can't fuck at all without lube and I'm not 40 yet
I had breast cancer a few years ago so I can't have hrt at all, my gp told me to try Replens cream that you buy in the chemist, it has really worked well for me."
I use a oil daily from Naydaya, helps more than any other things that I've tried. |
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"Yeah a bit mostly they itch though which is horrible. I'm dreading actual menopause I'm on the peri stage at the moment
Have you looked at hrt?
I asked my doctor they won't give it to me as I don't have hot flushes.
Sin e them my symptoms have worsened brain fog is worse a few more mood swings and low libido, still getting periods not every month though.
It doesn't help that my doctors don't have a .menopause specialist but he did say he can put me in contact with one if I need it"
This makes me so mad! You don't need hot flushes to get hrt. Download the Balance app, do a symptoms checker report and see a different GP. Nice guidelines are also useful too, have a Google. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
I'm peri menopausal, I find itchy skin and aching joints are the worse for me.
I also struggle even more with sleeping. I'm taking a natural supplement called peri menofriend by Dr vegan.
It definitely helps with the aches and pains and my skin isn't as dry, as they have soy isoflavones in, which mimic oestrogen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm peri menopausal, I find itchy skin and aching joints are the worse for me.
I also struggle even more with sleeping. I'm taking a natural supplement called peri menofriend by Dr vegan.
It definitely helps with the aches and pains and my skin isn't as dry, as they have soy isoflavones in, which mimic oestrogen. "
The itching was the worst for me also, my arms especially. The marina coil stopped all that. I take magnesium glycinate that helps tremendously with sleeping. |
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"Yeah a bit mostly they itch though which is horrible. I'm dreading actual menopause I'm on the peri stage at the moment
Have you looked at hrt?
I asked my doctor they won't give it to me as I don't have hot flushes.
Sin e them my symptoms have worsened brain fog is worse a few more mood swings and low libido, still getting periods not every month though.
It doesn't help that my doctors don't have a .menopause specialist but he did say he can put me in contact with one if I need it
This makes me so mad! You don't need hot flushes to get hrt. Download the Balance app, do a symptoms checker report and see a different GP. Nice guidelines are also useful too, have a Google. "
Me too they only suggested anti depressants which I don't want have been on them before and felt like an emotionless zombie.
I took your advice though so thank you😊 |
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wife is going though hers still horny and wetter than ever, gets hot flushes often |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
"I'm peri menopausal, I find itchy skin and aching joints are the worse for me.
I also struggle even more with sleeping. I'm taking a natural supplement called peri menofriend by Dr vegan.
It definitely helps with the aches and pains and my skin isn't as dry, as they have soy isoflavones in, which mimic oestrogen.
The itching was the worst for me also, my arms especially. The marina coil stopped all that. I take magnesium glycinate that helps tremendously with sleeping. "
Oh it was my arms too! They've calmed down on these supplements and I think my sleeping is just down to tears of shifts.
Thanks for the information though 😊 and glad you've got some relief. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I suffer from menopause, but I still have a sex drive |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I suffer from menopause, but I still have a sex drive |
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"I suffer from menopause, but I still have a sex drive "
Same still love sex but just my ears burn and stop me |
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I have hrt evorel 100mg patches and utrogestan 100mg tablets |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I "think" I'm peri, I'm not entirely sure if the things happening is just me getting old or this.
I've had trouble sleeping for years but just lately if been having terrible nightmares (I used to get night terrors quite a bit as an adult), rash across my boobs (but not sure if it's heat related) and some others.
I have the coil so hard to track x |
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Go to.your GP and explain your symptoms. There is a lot that can be done to help with the symptoms but they don't always prescribe them as they are costly.
Be persistent with your GP and if nothing changes go and see another. Davina mccoll has done a lot on tv highlighting the plight so have a look online. There is private Dr online called Dr Zoe. Meg Matthews has tweeted about her and uses her a lot for advice.
Please feel free to.message me directly if you want to talk or some advice. I'm not a Dr (in medicine) but does its do have a fair bit of knowledge on this subject. |
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"For any ladies going through the menopause.. I highly recommend the Marina Coil!! I don't feel menopausal at all. No brain fog, night sweats, hot flushes are very rare.. and still very much wanting sex (just don't get it lol) It's been a life changer "
I’m probably at the perimenopause stage. Is the coil hormone based because I can’t have anything that contains hormones which could be a nightmare |
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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago
west midlands |
"For any ladies going through the menopause.. I highly recommend the Marina Coil!! I don't feel menopausal at all. No brain fog, night sweats, hot flushes are very rare.. and still very much wanting sex (just don't get it lol) It's been a life changer
I’m probably at the perimenopause stage. Is the coil hormone based because I can’t have anything that contains hormones which could be a nightmare "
I'm the same it is a minefield, if I'm not sure I ring my gp and ask, they have been really good with advice. |
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"For any ladies going through the menopause.. I highly recommend the Marina Coil!! I don't feel menopausal at all. No brain fog, night sweats, hot flushes are very rare.. and still very much wanting sex (just don't get it lol) It's been a life changer
I’m probably at the perimenopause stage. Is the coil hormone based because I can’t have anything that contains hormones which could be a nightmare
I'm the same it is a minefield, if I'm not sure I ring my gp and ask, they have been really good with advice."
My Drs can be amazing but when it comes to this not so much |
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By *ythenMan
over a year ago
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My wife’s menopause (early M you could say) given her age started last year … thank god we are and have been always very strong as a Cpl because it’s bloody tough going , obviously more so for the female , but to a large degree also for the other half of the menopausal lady.. |
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"For any ladies going through the menopause.. I highly recommend the Marina Coil!! I don't feel menopausal at all. No brain fog, night sweats, hot flushes are very rare.. and still very much wanting sex (just don't get it lol) It's been a life changer
I’m probably at the perimenopause stage. Is the coil hormone based because I can’t have anything that contains hormones which could be a nightmare "
That coil does contain hormones the copper one doesn't but that one wouldn't help you I'm sorry to say.
A lady on here told me to download the balance app which I did and there are many herbal things you can take to help with symptoms you should take a look it might help you out x |
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"For any ladies going through the menopause.. I highly recommend the Marina Coil!! I don't feel menopausal at all. No brain fog, night sweats, hot flushes are very rare.. and still very much wanting sex (just don't get it lol) It's been a life changer
I’m probably at the perimenopause stage. Is the coil hormone based because I can’t have anything that contains hormones which could be a nightmare
That coil does contain hormones the copper one doesn't but that one wouldn't help you I'm sorry to say.
A lady on here told me to download the balance app which I did and there are many herbal things you can take to help with symptoms you should take a look it might help you out x"
Balance app is great |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Methylene blue is known to help and is safe and effective unlike some recent mandated medicine |
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Get yourself some vaginal oestrogen from your doctor it will solve the dryness issue.
I'm perimenopausal but the worst symptoms for me are the anxiety and heart palpitations. |
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"For any ladies going through the menopause.. I highly recommend the Marina Coil!! I don't feel menopausal at all. No brain fog, night sweats, hot flushes are very rare.. and still very much wanting sex (just don't get it lol) It's been a life changer
I’m probably at the perimenopause stage. Is the coil hormone based because I can’t have anything that contains hormones which could be a nightmare
That coil does contain hormones the copper one doesn't but that one wouldn't help you I'm sorry to say.
A lady on here told me to download the balance app which I did and there are many herbal things you can take to help with symptoms you should take a look it might help you out x"
Thank you very much |
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"Get yourself some vaginal oestrogen from your doctor it will solve the dryness issue.
I can vouch for this & have only been on it a matter of days & the difference already it’s made. it’s nice to feel normal again 👌🏻
I'm perimenopausal but the worst symptoms for me are the anxiety and heart palpitations. "
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By (user no longer on site) 52 weeks ago
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From what I've heard itchy ears are a common thing when going through it |
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By (user no longer on site) 52 weeks ago
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I referred to brain fog today as brain frogs.
Enough said 🤣 |
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My friend is going through early menopause. She 35, no kids. Devastated now plus don't help that her fella 👻 her when he found out. |
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By *ou75Woman 52 weeks ago
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I wouldn't wish a bad menopause on any one, my dryness has been so bad the pain it caused lead me to having to give up work. I couldn't do house work or shopping or anything really. I have just gone on to new estrogen tablets and need to start off once a day for a month ... Fingers crossed once they kick in I can get back to having regular sex ... If your in any doubt at all please keep badgering your GP id hate for anyone else to have to go through this. |
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I'm so glad I came across this thread!
The burning ear thing? I thought I was going crazy. Its been so bad I've woken up with them. I bought a cool pad for my pillow which does help a bit.
The brain fog is horrendous. I still get a period for a couple of days, but they are so heavy. Like when they first started!
I was watching a Dr on TV who described menopause like a 2nd puberty.
Thank you all for sharing ✨️ |
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Just nice to share experiences and support each other lovely bunch of people |
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It is so frustrating reading some of your posts ladies… it is always possible to have her - even after cancer - if it is managed properly. It is about mitigating risks and doing what is best big picture….
For me I suffered for 10 years without realising there was help and I hate seeing other so the same…
But the crux of it for me is that oestrogen helps to mitigate the risks of heart disease (no 1 killer of women) and osteoporosis (just plain horrible)…
Managing menopause symptoms is a juggling act and managing your doctor can be even worse, but do your research and stand your ground…!
Dr Louise Newman has an amazing podcast, I listened for hrs doing research, she is the worlds leading expert in all things menopausal and if all else fails runs a private clinic who will make recommendations to your go.
But I have found that the biggest hurdle for most women is denial - admitting you have got to ‘that age’ and overcoming the stigma of even the word menopause - after that embracing something that can help with all the horrible symptoms it can cause is the easy part 😂
As many people say, if it affected men there would be automatic treatment given to everyone - look at what has happened with viagra ffs…! Yes we are supposed to suck it up as part of getting older?!
Well no thank you…!! |
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To have HELP not her 🙄
"It is so frustrating reading some of your posts ladies… it is always possible to have her - even after cancer - if it is managed properly. It is about mitigating risks and doing what is best big picture….
For me I suffered for 10 years without realising there was help and I hate seeing other so the same…
But the crux of it for me is that oestrogen helps to mitigate the risks of heart disease (no 1 killer of women) and osteoporosis (just plain horrible)…
Managing menopause symptoms is a juggling act and managing your doctor can be even worse, but do your research and stand your ground…!
Dr Louise Newman has an amazing podcast, I listened for hrs doing research, she is the worlds leading expert in all things menopausal and if all else fails runs a private clinic who will make recommendations to your go.
But I have found that the biggest hurdle for most women is denial - admitting you have got to ‘that age’ and overcoming the stigma of even the word menopause - after that embracing something that can help with all the horrible symptoms it can cause is the easy part 😂
As many people say, if it affected men there would be automatic treatment given to everyone - look at what has happened with viagra ffs…! Yes we are supposed to suck it up as part of getting older?!
Well no thank you…!!"
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Never had any symptoms maybe coil helped.
Hot ears, only when someone speaks ill of me.
I do tend to get a soggy bottom when baking.
Never gushed but I do have excellent bladder control and function.
Miostness just takes a little longer to achieve, small amount of lube or a more experienced partner, keep away from people who think foreplay is rubbing my lady bits like they are trying to light a fire.  |
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Do anyone still get the munchies like when I was due a period I would crave for chocolate & other sweet things because that’s what I’m finding so was just wondering if anyone else is experiencing this? |
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"Do anyone still get the munchies like when I was due a period I would crave for chocolate & other sweet things because that’s what I’m finding so was just wondering if anyone else is experiencing this? "
I never ever used to eat chocolate but got menopause and craved chocolate |
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By *orny PTMan 45 weeks ago
Peterborough |
This sounds like a step in the right direction.
Womb removal is an extreme procedure, that needs its name changing.
https://www.msn.com/en-au/health/other/inaccurate-and-misogynistic-why-we-need-to-make-the-term-hysterectomy-history/ar-AA1HhOFR?ocid=BingNewsSerp |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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I’m perimenopausal and I was getting certain symptoms extreme mood swifts to the detriment of my dear family hot flushes dry vagina and no libido.
My GP has put me on HRT patches and they’re a godsend all my symptoms have disappeared. I’ve never been this calm in all my life, libido isn’t great still but then again I have no partner to ravish just yet haha. |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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I’m perimenopausal and I was getting certain symptoms extreme mood swings to the detriment of my dear family hot flushes dry vagina and no libido.
My GP has put me on HRT patches and they’re a godsend all my symptoms have disappeared. I’ve never been this calm in all my life, libido isn’t great still but then again I have no partner to ravish just yet haha. |
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"I had Ablation surgery about 18 months ago, and it's the best decision I've ever made.
My bleeds have stopped, the only trace of Menopausal symptoms is the occasional hot flush in the afternoon, but that's it.
Maybe I just got lucky on this one."
An ablation would have no factor on menopuse. I've had one. I've had bloods done to check what stage I'm at for menopause. Results came back, as I'm no where near starting. So up next for the hystorectomy. Keeping my overies, so I don't go straight to menapouse. |
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Forgot to say, I'm almost 53, with no symtons. My sex drive remains very high too. |
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Has any lady's experienced dryness? I am starting to get it and during sex drying out which has never happened.
Not sure what to say to my doctors as he's already told me I can't have hrt cause I don't get flushes I don't really want to go on hrt but might need some help with lubrication |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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"Has any lady's experienced dryness? I am starting to get it and during sex drying out which has never happened.
Not sure what to say to my doctors as he's already told me I can't have hrt cause I don't get flushes I don't really want to go on hrt but might need some help with lubrication "
I didn't stop having periods until I was 56, I have found dryness to be a big problem in the last couple of years. I have found Dr Wolf's V san cream to be very helpful. |
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"Has any lady's experienced dryness? I am starting to get it and during sex drying out which has never happened.
Not sure what to say to my doctors as he's already told me I can't have hrt cause I don't get flushes I don't really want to go on hrt but might need some help with lubrication
I didn't stop having periods until I was 56, I have found dryness to be a big problem in the last couple of years. I have found Dr Wolf's V san cream to be very helpful. "
Ahh thank you. I am still getting periods however they are irregular now and sometimes light sometimes heavy.
I will give that cream a Tey |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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"Has any lady's experienced dryness? I am starting to get it and during sex drying out which has never happened.
Not sure what to say to my doctors as he's already told me I can't have hrt cause I don't get flushes I don't really want to go on hrt but might need some help with lubrication
I didn't stop having periods until I was 56, I have found dryness to be a big problem in the last couple of years. I have found Dr Wolf's V san cream to be very helpful.
Ahh thank you. I am still getting periods however they are irregular now and sometimes light sometimes heavy.
I will give that cream a Tey "
No worries, you're welcome. It comes in 2 different types and one acts as a lubricant too.. |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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Am going though it but hrt if they is stokers in the family my dr told me it was no good for me because of stokers in my family so I won check it out before take hrt x |
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"Has any lady's experienced dryness? I am starting to get it and during sex drying out which has never happened.
Not sure what to say to my doctors as he's already told me I can't have hrt cause I don't get flushes I don't really want to go on hrt but might need some help with lubrication "
I’m finding ‘Gina’ is good to you can buy it from boots the chemist it’s the same vagifem that you can get off the doctor just thought I’d add this if it will help anyone else |
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Thank you I haven't had a chance to speak to my doctors yet I'm a bit apprehensive about it as they didn't want to entertain me when I told them my symptoms a while back.
Thankfully no hot flushes as yet but struggling with low libido  |
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I've dryness and my sex drive goings from wanting to have sex and none stop wanting to play with pusay to now iam hardly ever horny. |
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"Has any lady's experienced dryness? I am starting to get it and during sex drying out which has never happened.
Not sure what to say to my doctors as he's already told me I can't have hrt cause I don't get flushes I don't really want to go on hrt but might need some help with lubrication "
Your GP doesn't know what he's talking about.. not every woman will have hot flushes, but there are dozens of other symptoms.
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"Has any lady's experienced dryness? I am starting to get it and during sex drying out which has never happened.
Not sure what to say to my doctors as he's already told me I can't have hrt cause I don't get flushes I don't really want to go on hrt but might need some help with lubrication "
You need topical oestrogen like Vagifem or vagariux plus the cream. It is not like normal HRT as it doesnt enter the bloodstream, just works where you need it! Talk to your Dr and if they don’t know about it try the next one until you get one who is educated on it, took me 3 years and lots of UTI before I got told about it by chance. Don’t be fobbed off by you’re not old enough or you don’t need it. Look up Davina McCall and all those other celebs talking about it they have lead the way in this and the Docs are following |
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Im on oestrogen, progesterone and testosterone. It hasn't been an easy ride, there's no way l could of gotten through peri and the menopause without Hrt. I go for Reiki weekly and that is just wonderful |
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I’m going though a hot flushes and vivid dream stage, I find it comes and goes but honestly I feel like I have internal thermostat turned up to the highest. The weight gain is ridiculous, the periods are either not there or horrendously heavy, I can’t have hrt I’m literally really tired of this but my libido is as high as it has ever been if not higher 🤷🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️ |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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"The wife’s going through a menopause now
It’s total lack of sex with me"
same here mare it's awful l miss it that's why I'm here |
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Mrs N has been fairly lucky in that she had none of the obvious symptoms. However loss of Libido very much so and she has underactive thyroid so struggled without medication to keep her weight down.
Now more her old self but still very hard to get aroused. She does accept that though and tries very hard to enjoy a resaonbly normal naughty sex life for a 62 year old. |
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"Mrs N has been fairly lucky in that she had none of the obvious symptoms. However loss of Libido very much so and she has underactive thyroid so struggled without medication to keep her weight down.
Now more her old self but still very hard to get aroused. She does accept that though and tries very hard to enjoy a resaonbly normal naughty sex life for a 62 year old."
I have hypothyroidism also and never had a problem with the weight until now |
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"Mrs N has been fairly lucky in that she had none of the obvious symptoms. However loss of Libido very much so and she has underactive thyroid so struggled without medication to keep her weight down.
Now more her old self but still very hard to get aroused. She does accept that though and tries very hard to enjoy a resaonbly normal naughty sex life for a 62 year old.
I have hypothyroidism also and never had a problem with the weight until now "
She has been to slimming world. Amazing transformation. So proud of her. She is absolutely gorgeous. |
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My journey on the menopause has been hell. My relationship is wrecked because of my mood swings, my insecurities and anxiety are at an all time high and I feel so emotionally drained. Right now I have no support and I feel like that black hole has just got even darker and smaller. It's been 5 years and still no let up. |
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My wife’s is going through it now, we’ve gone from having sex 4/5 times a week to nothing at all since November she does have mad mood swings and real bad dreams and anxiety but I get that she’s going through this so have to take it and support her best I can really l, altho is really hard sometimes |
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"I've dryness and my sex drive goings from wanting to have sex and none stop wanting to play with pusay to now iam hardly ever horny."
Strange really as now that the risk of unwanted pregnancy is gone you'd think recreational sex would appeal more and the thought of good orgasms would appeal more However............. Apparently desire can return. You just have to avoid total abstinence as that can switch it off and be far far harder to rekindle the fire in your pussy.
Menapause is cruel in the way it gives with one hand but takes away with the other. |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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Please may I recommend a very informative book OP
“Come as you are “ by Emily Nagoski PhD
ISBN 978-1-4767-6209-8
It’s a revaluation of what men in particular - ought to be aware of
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"My journey on the menopause has been hell. My relationship is wrecked because of my mood swings, my insecurities and anxiety are at an all time high and I feel so emotionally drained. Right now I have no support and I feel like that black hole has just got even darker and smaller. It's been 5 years and still no let up. "
This sounds awful I really feel for you. Are you taking anything? Just wondered if you had spoken to your doctors (not they are much help sometimes) |
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By *oelMan 38 weeks ago
Midlands, London, Brussels |
"The wife’s going through a menopause now
It’s total lack of sex with me"
This is very common, it's almost like it's an intention human trait to cause breakups/new relationships |
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"My journey on the menopause has been hell. My relationship is wrecked because of my mood swings, my insecurities and anxiety are at an all time high and I feel so emotionally drained. Right now I have no support and I feel like that black hole has just got even darker and smaller. It's been 5 years and still no let up.
This sounds awful I really feel for you. Are you taking anything? Just wondered if you had spoken to your doctors (not they are much help sometimes) "
Yes, i had an appt today. Hopefully what they have prescribed will help. Thank you 😊 |
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I fought for 5 years to get a GP to listen to me about my symptoms but finally got through to them. Hot flushes, brain fog, irrational anger, anxiety and joint pains being my main ones. Started on HRT in November 2024 and doing so much better.
Be consistent and do some research to take with you and don’t give up. I tried black cohosh which was amazing but didn’t get rid of all the symptoms so I knew I needed more than that.
Don’t let them fob you off with antidepressants (NHS guidelines have changed) or blood tests (IMO completely useless). You know your body and when it’s not working properly for you.
There are a few websites you can use including www.henpicked.net which has some very useful information about menopause in the workplace.
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Localised estrogen is meant to help with dryness, UTIs and other complaints within the bits, as a lack of estrogen in the tissues/cells impacts their integrity.
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I love the way this topic is under the heading VIRUS  |
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"I love the way this topic is under the heading VIRUS "
Think anything medical related is under virus thread think admin should rename it medical instead of virus |
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By *ussycat777Woman 38 weeks ago
A backalley in Fabtown |
Curious to hear ladies experience of being on testosterone whilst also on *traditional " HRT?
I've been on it for about 6 months now and it's been a game changer. Definitely helps lift my mood and general outlook on things. Had my bloods done recently and my T level was 1.6. The average is 1.5 for a woman my age so GP wants to see me next week. Not had any other changes physically (voice, excessive hair it hair loss) so I will be sorely disappointed if she tries to take me off it! |
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I know it's not a 'one size fits all' with symptoms etc...but I still find it so horrific that in 2025, the GPs are still very inconsistent with support for women going through the menopause
I am definitely one of the lucky ones who has only suffered with hot flushes for the past 4 months and after a few tests I got told I am menopausal and am now on HRT
But my fight was with numerous GPs refusing to listen that I could be menopausal as I'm 'too young' 
I finally got them to listen after badgering them that 'it's not right, I know my body and I started my periods super young' so they finally started giving me tests
I have had the Merena coil and haven't had a period for 13 years
But it took 3 different appointments with 3 different GPs for them to finally agree to do said tests!
They sent me for CT scans, MRI (complete waste of NHS money and time off of work) and then they finally did blood tests. The bloods came back crystal clear = menopausal 
Sending virtual hugs to all those who are suffering 🫂 |
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"I know it's not a 'one size fits all' with symptoms etc...but I still find it so horrific that in 2025, the GPs are still very inconsistent with support for women going through the menopause
I am definitely one of the lucky ones who has only suffered with hot flushes for the past 4 months and after a few tests I got told I am menopausal and am now on HRT
But my fight was with numerous GPs refusing to listen that I could be menopausal as I'm 'too young'
I finally got them to listen after badgering them that 'it's not right, I know my body and I started my periods super young' so they finally started giving me tests
I have had the Merena coil and haven't had a period for 13 years
But it took 3 different appointments with 3 different GPs for them to finally agree to do said tests!
They sent me for CT scans, MRI (complete waste of NHS money and time off of work) and then they finally did blood tests. The bloods came back crystal clear = menopausal
Sending virtual hugs to all those who are suffering 🫂"
I’ve been fighting with my GP for a nearly two years now as SHE says I am too young to be suffering with menopausal symptoms. She insisted in giving me a Merena coil but I haven’t been as lucky as you with it stopping my period, in fact since having it I’ve spent more time on than ever before.
I am sick of the doctors not listening to me. I know my body better than they do, |
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"Curious to hear ladies experience of being on testosterone whilst also on *traditional " HRT?
I've been on it for about 6 months now and it's been a game changer. Definitely helps lift my mood and general outlook on things. Had my bloods done recently and my T level was 1.6. The average is 1.5 for a woman my age so GP wants to see me next week. Not had any other changes physically (voice, excessive hair it hair loss) so I will be sorely disappointed if she tries to take me off it!"
Im on testosterone and its helped me lots also.
My levels were above average and was told to use every other day rather than every day.
Now they have dropped lots again, do im back up to using every day.
No side effects.
Being reviewed by menopause clinic in Nov but thinking of going private, as I'm not happy with my GP responses to my levels being really low again for all hormones |
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"I know it's not a 'one size fits all' with symptoms etc...but I still find it so horrific that in 2025, the GPs are still very inconsistent with support for women going through the menopause
I am definitely one of the lucky ones who has only suffered with hot flushes for the past 4 months and after a few tests I got told I am menopausal and am now on HRT
But my fight was with numerous GPs refusing to listen that I could be menopausal as I'm 'too young'
I finally got them to listen after badgering them that 'it's not right, I know my body and I started my periods super young' so they finally started giving me tests
I have had the Merena coil and haven't had a period for 13 years
But it took 3 different appointments with 3 different GPs for them to finally agree to do said tests!
They sent me for CT scans, MRI (complete waste of NHS money and time off of work) and then they finally did blood tests. The bloods came back crystal clear = menopausal
Sending virtual hugs to all those who are suffering 🫂
I’ve been fighting with my GP for a nearly two years now as SHE says I am too young to be suffering with menopausal symptoms. She insisted in giving me a Merena coil but I haven’t been as lucky as you with it stopping my period, in fact since having it I’ve spent more time on than ever before.
I am sick of the doctors not listening to me. I know my body better than they do, "
Change GP’s
My wife changed her and the Doctor said she was starting hers at 35 ish |
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Perimenopausal here. It's a joy. Not.
Aches and pains everywhere, not everyday but definitely during the week.
Electric zaps on my skin every now and again.
Brain fog, my tongue tripping up words, the hot flushes have started though still in early stages of that, itchy ears, periods heavy and irregular oh yay for that one lol
Sleepless nights, palpitations occasionally, libido is now named cotton eyed Joe, cos where did he come from and where did he fucking go ? Lol
Dry skin, I could be drenched in moisturiser and still look like elephant skin lmao.
Even vertigo/balance problems.
They bang on about the coil, but I don't want the bloody coil.
Hrt, now that is a minefield of trying to get it right, and I can't have combined hrt.
All this just to stop having eggs and periods... fml!
Only good thing is I can finally I can say before I think now lol. Can easily tell someone to do one if they are being a knob lol.
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By *ussycat777Woman 38 weeks ago
A backalley in Fabtown |
"Curious to hear ladies experience of being on testosterone whilst also on *traditional " HRT?
I've been on it for about 6 months now and it's been a game changer. Definitely helps lift my mood and general outlook on things. Had my bloods done recently and my T level was 1.6. The average is 1.5 for a woman my age so GP wants to see me next week. Not had any other changes physically (voice, excessive hair it hair loss) so I will be sorely disappointed if she tries to take me off it!
Im on testosterone and its helped me lots also.
My levels were above average and was told to use every other day rather than every day.
Now they have dropped lots again, do im back up to using every day.
No side effects.
Being reviewed by menopause clinic in Nov but thinking of going private, as I'm not happy with my GP responses to my levels being really low again for all hormones "
Thanks for that
Dunno if maybe mine did run a bit higher than average as I was forgetting to apply it some days and I'm still at 1.6. Will find out next week I suppose.
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"Perimenopausal here. It's a joy. Not.
Aches and pains everywhere, not everyday but definitely during the week.
Electric zaps on my skin every now and again.
Brain fog, my tongue tripping up words, the hot flushes have started though still in early stages of that, itchy ears, periods heavy and irregular oh yay for that one lol
Sleepless nights, palpitations occasionally, libido is now named cotton eyed Joe, cos where did he come from and where did he fucking go ? Lol
Dry skin, I could be drenched in moisturiser and still look like elephant skin lmao.
Even vertigo/balance problems.
They bang on about the coil, but I don't want the bloody coil.
Hrt, now that is a minefield of trying to get it right, and I can't have combined hrt.
All this just to stop having eggs and periods... fml!
Only good thing is I can finally I can say before I think now lol. Can easily tell someone to do one if they are being a knob lol.
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Well said hun know most of them feelings and its robbing me of my lovely long thick hair |
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"I know it's not a 'one size fits all' with symptoms etc...but I still find it so horrific that in 2025, the GPs are still very inconsistent with support for women going through the menopause
I am definitely one of the lucky ones who has only suffered with hot flushes for the past 4 months and after a few tests I got told I am menopausal and am now on HRT
But my fight was with numerous GPs refusing to listen that I could be menopausal as I'm 'too young'
I finally got them to listen after badgering them that 'it's not right, I know my body and I started my periods super young' so they finally started giving me tests
I have had the Merena coil and haven't had a period for 13 years
But it took 3 different appointments with 3 different GPs for them to finally agree to do said tests!
They sent me for CT scans, MRI (complete waste of NHS money and time off of work) and then they finally did blood tests. The bloods came back crystal clear = menopausal
Sending virtual hugs to all those who are suffering 🫂
I’ve been fighting with my GP for a nearly two years now as SHE says I am too young to be suffering with menopausal symptoms. She insisted in giving me a Merena coil but I haven’t been as lucky as you with it stopping my period, in fact since having it I’ve spent more time on than ever before.
I am sick of the doctors not listening to me. I know my body better than they do, "
I've given up to be honest. Being neurodivergent makes it worst and I just want to be left alone, mostly now.
I understand the Karens now. |
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There is a guy who is trying to raise awareness amongst men, of perimenopause/menopause - look him up - might help from an education piece - Mitch Little Academy
I am yet to hugely disagree with what he says and completely agree that it is a joint effort |
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I have mirena coil and estogen patches and still have a high sez drive and squirt |
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By *ertcoupleCouple 35 weeks ago
Welwyn Garden City |
I'm hot all over especially at night, have to sleep with the aircon on!! Hubby ends up freezing |
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"I'm hot all over especially at night, have to sleep with the aircon on!! Hubby ends up freezing "
Same here |
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Mrs rc has a coil & when the hrt arrived, the sex drive went bonkers. We're just going with the flow. |
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Haven't noticed a lack of lubricating juices lol.
My ears, hands and feet get very hot though . |
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Talking of lubrication etc , my mum has started using an estrogen cream on her face and vagina. She is well impressed with it, she has no soreness, dryness or sensitivity in a bad way down below anymore. The skin on her face she says is miles better in texture to. |
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"Talking of lubrication etc , my mum has started using an estrogen cream on her face and vagina. She is well impressed with it, she has no soreness, dryness or sensitivity in a bad way down below anymore. The skin on her face she says is miles better in texture to."
I've not heard of using it on your face 🤔 |
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By *and12Couple 33 weeks ago
flint |
I’ve been as horny as hell since I started the menopause |
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I have been going through the early stages of the menpause since 2022 was on HRT and the coil but they did not agree with me |
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The drive has come back a little but not much tho |
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Im on oestrogen, progesterone and lm so lucky that my Doctor prescribed testosterone gel too. |
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My menopause symptoms started in 2012. I’m still suffering with hot flushes. I need lubricants on prescription. I used to gush but not anymore. I can’t take HRT or any hormone products. My mood swings have been awful at times. For a year I was only sleeping for an hour a night. |
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"I’ve been as horny as hell since I started the menopause "
Likewise |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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I’m nearly 43 and wondering if I’m starting to be perimenopausal.
My mood changes with the wind, my ears itch like hell and my periods are lasting way too long. Is that normal?
I keep seeing a company pop up on my fb feeds called bioID. Has anyone used them? I was thinking of doing my bloods through them so everything gets checked. |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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"I’m nearly 43 and wondering if I’m starting to be perimenopausal.
My mood changes with the wind, my ears itch like hell and my periods are lasting way too long. Is that normal?
I keep seeing a company pop up on my fb feeds called bioID. Has anyone used them? I was thinking of doing my bloods through them so everything gets checked. "
My brain also thinks that 4hrs sleep a night is acceptable when it really isn’t 🤣 |
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"I’m nearly 43 and wondering if I’m starting to be perimenopausal.
My mood changes with the wind, my ears itch like hell and my periods are lasting way too long. Is that normal?
I keep seeing a company pop up on my fb feeds called bioID. Has anyone used them? I was thinking of doing my bloods through them so everything gets checked. "
Bloods aren't generally an indication of where you are menopause-wise as your levels can change daily. Symptoms are by far the most reliable way to know - and there are dozens of symptoms.
At the age you are, it's highly likely you're in peri or are menopausal.
If you're on FB, there are various groups where you'll get loads of advice.. women going through it are your best source for information |
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By *otsMan 30 weeks ago
Higham |
The other half started around fifty ish but wasn't too bad but had other complications. Kidney failure, then transplant but anti rejection medication caused other issues which led to HPV and prolapse (caused by water dialysis ) eventually she had a hysterectomy and prolapse repair.
So she's been through the mill.
Not surprisingly gone off sex
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"The other half started around fifty ish but wasn't too bad but had other complications. Kidney failure, then transplant but anti rejection medication caused other issues which led to HPV and prolapse (caused by water dialysis ) eventually she had a hysterectomy and prolapse repair.
So she's been through the mill.
Not surprisingly gone off sex
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Oh bless her there are some horrible issues linked to menopause since hitting menopause I have been diagnosed with chronic pancreatitis been in and out of hospital with it |
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I feel a bit of a boaster saying it, but I have the exact opposite going on. Sex drive & gush is more than ever. Perhaps its down to Oestrogel. Wonderful stuff. |
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By (user no longer on site) 30 weeks ago
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"I feel a bit of a boaster saying it, but I have the exact opposite going on. Sex drive & gush is more than ever. Perhaps its down to Oestrogel. Wonderful stuff."
You're not alone. My wife had no bad experiences and her sex drive went through the roof. Shame I can't keep up with her now |
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"I feel a bit of a boaster saying it, but I have the exact opposite going on. Sex drive & gush is more than ever. Perhaps its down to Oestrogel. Wonderful stuff.
You're not alone. My wife had no bad experiences and her sex drive went through the roof. Shame I can't keep up with her now "
Come on over together. I'm sure we can help |
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By (user no longer on site) 30 weeks ago
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"I feel a bit of a boaster saying it, but I have the exact opposite going on. Sex drive & gush is more than ever. Perhaps its down to Oestrogel. Wonderful stuff.
You're not alone. My wife had no bad experiences and her sex drive went through the roof. Shame I can't keep up with her now
Come on over together. I'm sure we can help "
Now that's an offer difficult to refuse! Lol |
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I’m perimenopausal and my sex drive has died! |
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"I’m perimenopausal and my sex drive has died! "
I was like that at first but now on right hrt and other medical conditions are stable its slowly coming back |
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By *otshot14Woman 28 weeks ago
tunbridge wells |
Just need some advice ladies going through the menopause only wost symptom I have is vaginal dryness which lube is best and if I'm using condoms and I'm latex intolerant so I have to use latex-free ones do I still need lube or will the condoms be okay.
I miss how much I used to get wet. |
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"Just need some advice ladies going through the menopause only wost symptom I have is vaginal dryness which lube is best and if I'm using condoms and I'm latex intolerant so I have to use latex-free ones do I still need lube or will the condoms be okay.
I miss how much I used to get wet."
You will still need lube. |
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"Talking of lubrication etc , my mum has started using an estrogen cream on her face and vagina. She is well impressed with it, she has no soreness, dryness or sensitivity in a bad way down below anymore. The skin on her face she says is miles better in texture to.
I've not heard of using it on your face 🤔"
I know but she was YouTubeing haha and apparently it's very safe and it helps massively with texture of the skin etc.
She has noticed a big difference, doctors have said itself more than fine. Just a very small pea sized amount. |
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"Just need some advice ladies going through the menopause only wost symptom I have is vaginal dryness which lube is best and if I'm using condoms and I'm latex intolerant so I have to use latex-free ones do I still need lube or will the condoms be okay.
I miss how much I used to get wet."
Always use lube. The YES range is very good. |
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"One for the ladies of certain age since starting menopause have you found suddenly your ears get very hot and also finding I'm not able to gush as much as I was before "
mine have started to mostly the right ear it’s good to know it’s a thing I been thinking someone talking bad about me |
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"Just need some advice ladies going through the menopause only wost symptom I have is vaginal dryness which lube is best and if I'm using condoms and I'm latex intolerant so I have to use latex-free ones do I still need lube or will the condoms be okay.
I miss how much I used to get wet."
Vaginal oestrogen seems to be working for me. Its tackled a whole range of problems i was just putting up with: UTIs, urgency and frequency issues (I can sleep through the night now) and sore labia (even toilet roll felt raw). It rebuilds the skin as well as adding moisture and elasticity.
The doctor will prescribe it daily for a short period and then ask you to go twice a week. But having done a bit of reading, this seems to be more about the cost of the cream and if you need it daily, ask for it daily.
Its felt like a game changer 🙂 |
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By *herry77Woman 28 weeks ago
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"Just need some advice ladies going through the menopause only wost symptom I have is vaginal dryness which lube is best and if I'm using condoms and I'm latex intolerant so I have to use latex-free ones do I still need lube or will the condoms be okay.
I miss how much I used to get wet.
Vaginal oestrogen seems to be working for me. Its tackled a whole range of problems i was just putting up with: UTIs, urgency and frequency issues (I can sleep through the night now) and sore labia (even toilet roll felt raw). It rebuilds the skin as well as adding moisture and elasticity.
The doctor will prescribe it daily for a short period and then ask you to go twice a week. But having done a bit of reading, this seems to be more about the cost of the cream and if you need it daily, ask for it daily.
Its felt like a game changer 🙂"
Just a note in case anybody doesn’t know (because I was prescribed it and didn’t!) that the vaginal oestrogen cream shouldn’t be used with condoms as it can damage the latex (latex free ones obviously aren’t affected the same way).
The pessaries are fine to use. |
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"Just need some advice ladies going through the menopause only wost symptom I have is vaginal dryness which lube is best and if I'm using condoms and I'm latex intolerant so I have to use latex-free ones do I still need lube or will the condoms be okay.
I miss how much I used to get wet.
Vaginal oestrogen seems to be working for me. Its tackled a whole range of problems i was just putting up with: UTIs, urgency and frequency issues (I can sleep through the night now) and sore labia (even toilet roll felt raw). It rebuilds the skin as well as adding moisture and elasticity.
The doctor will prescribe it daily for a short period and then ask you to go twice a week. But having done a bit of reading, this seems to be more about the cost of the cream and if you need it daily, ask for it daily.
Its felt like a game changer 🙂
Just a note in case anybody doesn’t know (because I was prescribed it and didn’t!) that the vaginal oestrogen cream shouldn’t be used with condoms as it can damage the latex (latex free ones obviously aren’t affected the same way).
The pessaries are fine to use."
You seem knowledgeable...I know you have to steer clear of your partner for an hour after applying oestrogen gell to your thighs (so that the hormones don't transfer) but it doesn't seem as clear with the vaginal oestrogen. Ive read its a lower dose of hormones and if you insert it high enough the hormones will have absorbed fairly quickly and the cream that then ( i was going to type 'falls' but that would suggest ive got a bucket fanny!) moves down your vagina over the next 12-15 hours is okay for him to touch. Is that your understanding too?
Rachel 🙂 |
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"One for the ladies of certain age since starting menopause have you found suddenly your ears get very hot and also finding I'm not able to gush as much as I was before mine have started to mostly the right ear it’s good to know it’s a thing I been thinking someone talking bad about me "
Lol glad im not the only one getting the hot ear literally have to have a fan on them alm the time |
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By *smCouple 28 weeks ago
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not read the whole tread ,
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itchy hot ears, not able to puddle as much as I used to, takes me long to come, needs different focus to achive orgasm,
on HRT and that has made a huge difference |
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I've started having night sweats the last few weeks, mood is a little off etc.
I think the tide is starting to turn haha. |
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Wife went threw all that , totally off sex now ..
Hence on here looking
I do feel for any woman going threw that .
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"Just need some advice ladies going through the menopause only wost symptom I have is vaginal dryness which lube is best and if I'm using condoms and I'm latex intolerant so I have to use latex-free ones do I still need lube or will the condoms be okay.
I miss how much I used to get wet."
I'm not quite there yet with dryness but I do have to drink 3 litres of fluid a day to be properly hydrated.
I go to the sexual health clinic in person because GP basic gynaecology is crap! The lady told me to use Epaderm daily ( apart from days when having sex with condoms). I find that it killed any dryness and irritation on my labia but also is a barrier from shower gel and soap getting anywhere near my vagina.
I had to leave my job because the stress was making me ill and I had a weightlifting trainer for 8 weeks. I still weigh a lot but my body has recompositioned into more muscle. The more muscle and protein seems to be improving my symptoms.
I always use water-based lubes...simply because those go with most condoms and most silicone toys.
Good luck ladies. If all else fails, I will be buying hormones from a private pharmacy because my GP isn't listening to a thing I say. |
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"My menopause symptoms started in 2012. I’m still suffering with hot flushes. I need lubricants on prescription. I used to gush but not anymore. I can’t take HRT or any hormone products. My mood swings have been awful at times. For a year I was only sleeping for an hour a night. "
I started to practice CBT-insomnia
I had to stop working to reduce the stress.
I started to lift weights and do more relaxation activities such as massage, going to the nudist spa ( cheaper than a regular spa)
I already had intensive therapy to help with my mood swings as I have BPD/EUPD so that gives terrible mood swings from the time I was a teenager.
Someone recommended herbal menopause supplements but I haven't tried them yet because supplements and medication, need to be monitored by the NHS due to my severe disabling mental health.
It's trash that women have to suffer this for over a decade!! |
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"not read the whole tread ,
but,
itchy hot ears, not able to puddle as much as I used to, takes me long to come, needs different focus to achive orgasm,
on HRT and that has made a huge difference "
Totally the same here |
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"Just need some advice ladies going through the menopause only wost symptom I have is vaginal dryness which lube is best and if I'm using condoms and I'm latex intolerant so I have to use latex-free ones do I still need lube or will the condoms be okay.
I miss how much I used to get wet.
I'm not quite there yet with dryness but I do have to drink 3 litres of fluid a day to be properly hydrated.
I go to the sexual health clinic in person because GP basic gynaecology is crap! The lady told me to use Epaderm daily ( apart from days when having sex with condoms). I find that it killed any dryness and irritation on my labia but also is a barrier from shower gel and soap getting anywhere near my vagina.
I had to leave my job because the stress was making me ill and I had a weightlifting trainer for 8 weeks. I still weigh a lot but my body has recompositioned into more muscle. The more muscle and protein seems to be improving my symptoms.
I always use water-based lubes...simply because those go with most condoms and most silicone toys.
Good luck ladies. If all else fails, I will be buying hormones from a private pharmacy because my GP isn't listening to a thing I say."
Im not sure that hydration/lube is the complete answer. From the reading i have done the skin in your vagina is thinner because of the loss of oestrogen. Its also dryer which means it looses elasticity. Lube will only mean its easier for someone to get inside you, it won't make it easier for your vagina to expand to accommodate a penis/fingers/toys. Whereas vaginal oestrogen puts hormones back directly where they are needed. Your skin will thicken, become more elastic and some of the self lubrication will return. 🙂 |
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"Just need some advice ladies going through the menopause only wost symptom I have is vaginal dryness which lube is best and if I'm using condoms and I'm latex intolerant so I have to use latex-free ones do I still need lube or will the condoms be okay.
I miss how much I used to get wet.
Vaginal oestrogen seems to be working for me. Its tackled a whole range of problems i was just putting up with: UTIs, urgency and frequency issues (I can sleep through the night now) and sore labia (even toilet roll felt raw). It rebuilds the skin as well as adding moisture and elasticity.
The doctor will prescribe it daily for a short period and then ask you to go twice a week. But having done a bit of reading, this seems to be more about the cost of the cream and if you need it daily, ask for it daily.
Its felt like a game changer 🙂
Just a note in case anybody doesn’t know (because I was prescribed it and didn’t!) that the vaginal oestrogen cream shouldn’t be used with condoms as it can damage the latex (latex free ones obviously aren’t affected the same way).
The pessaries are fine to use.
You seem knowledgeable...I know you have to steer clear of your partner for an hour after applying oestrogen gell to your thighs (so that the hormones don't transfer) but it doesn't seem as clear with the vaginal oestrogen. Ive read its a lower dose of hormones and if you insert it high enough the hormones will have absorbed fairly quickly and the cream that then ( i was going to type 'falls' but that would suggest ive got a bucket fanny!) moves down your vagina over the next 12-15 hours is okay for him to touch. Is that your understanding too?
Rachel 🙂"
This is a question I've had too and can't find an answer. Its not on the info leaflet with the cream either. |
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By *ou75Woman 27 weeks ago
redcar |
Totally understand that, have they prescribed you oestrogen I have the tablet pessaries they have been life changing x |
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"Just need some advice ladies going through the menopause only wost symptom I have is vaginal dryness which lube is best and if I'm using condoms and I'm latex intolerant so I have to use latex-free ones do I still need lube or will the condoms be okay.
I miss how much I used to get wet.
I'm not quite there yet with dryness but I do have to drink 3 litres of fluid a day to be properly hydrated.
I go to the sexual health clinic in person because GP basic gynaecology is crap! The lady told me to use Epaderm daily ( apart from days when having sex with condoms). I find that it killed any dryness and irritation on my labia but also is a barrier from shower gel and soap getting anywhere near my vagina.
I had to leave my job because the stress was making me ill and I had a weightlifting trainer for 8 weeks. I still weigh a lot but my body has recompositioned into more muscle. The more muscle and protein seems to be improving my symptoms.
I always use water-based lubes...simply because those go with most condoms and most silicone toys.
Good luck ladies. If all else fails, I will be buying hormones from a private pharmacy because my GP isn't listening to a thing I say.
Im not sure that hydration/lube is the complete answer. From the reading i have done the skin in your vagina is thinner because of the loss of oestrogen. Its also dryer which means it looses elasticity. Lube will only mean its easier for someone to get inside you, it won't make it easier for your vagina to expand to accommodate a penis/fingers/toys. Whereas vaginal oestrogen puts hormones back directly where they are needed. Your skin will thicken, become more elastic and some of the self lubrication will return. 🙂"
Noted in case I ever get to that stage. Currenlty my vagina still works with lube and 3 litres of liquid. I'm still in perimenopause and my hormones haven't dropped low enough for estrogen on the NHS. I can probably get estrogen privately but my employment is all up in the air as I'm so ill.
Also with my mental health, I'm more partial to holistic and alternative treatments before I turn to prescriptions. I've been on prescriptions since I was age 20. They need to be closely monitored because yup I'm the one with dodgy side effects.
I was going to take CBD and the pharmacist said With my mental health absolutely not. I won't take sleeping tablets even though I have terrible insomnia because, again pharmacists said you'll become addicted.
Some people can put just about anything in their body and be fine...
me on the other hand...can't even put in a disposable tampon now. PH disruptor...yeast...BV...etc.. |
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"Just need some advice ladies going through the menopause only wost symptom I have is vaginal dryness which lube is best and if I'm using condoms and I'm latex intolerant so I have to use latex-free ones do I still need lube or will the condoms be okay.
I miss how much I used to get wet.
I'm not quite there yet with dryness but I do have to drink 3 litres of fluid a day to be properly hydrated.
I go to the sexual health clinic in person because GP basic gynaecology is crap! The lady told me to use Epaderm daily ( apart from days when having sex with condoms). I find that it killed any dryness and irritation on my labia but also is a barrier from shower gel and soap getting anywhere near my vagina.
I had to leave my job because the stress was making me ill and I had a weightlifting trainer for 8 weeks. I still weigh a lot but my body has recompositioned into more muscle. The more muscle and protein seems to be improving my symptoms.
I always use water-based lubes...simply because those go with most condoms and most silicone toys.
Good luck ladies. If all else fails, I will be buying hormones from a private pharmacy because my GP isn't listening to a thing I say.
Im not sure that hydration/lube is the complete answer. From the reading i have done the skin in your vagina is thinner because of the loss of oestrogen. Its also dryer which means it looses elasticity. Lube will only mean its easier for someone to get inside you, it won't make it easier for your vagina to expand to accommodate a penis/fingers/toys. Whereas vaginal oestrogen puts hormones back directly where they are needed. Your skin will thicken, become more elastic and some of the self lubrication will return. 🙂
Noted in case I ever get to that stage. Currenlty my vagina still works with lube and 3 litres of liquid. I'm still in perimenopause and my hormones haven't dropped low enough for estrogen on the NHS. I can probably get estrogen privately but my employment is all up in the air as I'm so ill.
Also with my mental health, I'm more partial to holistic and alternative treatments before I turn to prescriptions. I've been on prescriptions since I was age 20. They need to be closely monitored because yup I'm the one with dodgy side effects.
I was going to take CBD and the pharmacist said With my mental health absolutely not. I won't take sleeping tablets even though I have terrible insomnia because, again pharmacists said you'll become addicted.
Some people can put just about anything in their body and be fine...
me on the other hand...can't even put in a disposable tampon now. PH disruptor...yeast...BV...etc.."
Just be mindful that there are no alternative options that will replace the hormones you lose in menopause - HRT is the only way to replace them. Plus HRT protects your brain, your bones, so many parts of you. |
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"I had Ablation surgery about 18 months ago, and it's the best decision I've ever made.
My bleeds have stopped, the only trace of Menopausal symptoms is the occasional hot flush in the afternoon, but that's it.
Maybe I just got lucky on this one."
I'm waiting on a surgery date for ablation, been bleeding almost constantly for 30 months. Do you mind me asking how long the procedure and recovery time was? |
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"I've been in Perimenopause since my early 30s and vaginal dryness has been one of my worst symptoms. I can't fuck at all without lube and I'm not 40 yet "
same. Recently got vagirux iftom the doctor, it’s a game changer. |
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"One for the ladies of certain age since starting menopause have you found suddenly your ears get very hot and also finding I'm not able to gush as much as I was before "
You need to get yourself on HRT and vaginal estrogen. They will help with those symptoms and indeed all symptoms. |
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Don't mention the menopause it's been a nightmare year due to irregular bleeding which always seems to coincided with whenever we arrange a meet. Normally the day of a meet |
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Menopause was tough. Hang in there ladies, I’m like a nymphomaniac since the M word subsided!! |
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I’m on hrt gel probably the best thing ever but the brain fog is still very apparent lol but still have a fantastic sex drive |
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Oh no I had this. My GP put the mirena coil in and started HRT gel. Best thing I ever did as the bleeding before driving me mad. |
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"One for the ladies of certain age since starting menopause have you found suddenly your ears get very hot and also finding I'm not able to gush as much as I was before
You need to get yourself on HRT and vaginal estrogen. They will help with those symptoms and indeed all symptoms. "
I have everol 100mg patches and utrogestan tablets |
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"Oh no I had this. My GP put the mirena coil in and started HRT gel. Best thing I ever did as the bleeding before driving me mad. "
I'm on my second mirena coil still irregular bleeding with it |
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By *100Man 22 weeks ago
Essex |
Last year I got her a neck fan it’s got 2 fans that blow cool air up her face it was a life saver but recently she has gone on HRT and now no hot flushes and is getting a better nights sleep she wished she’d tried her years ago |
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Any tips for sleep with menopause as lucky if I get 3 hours a night and also sexual appetite is at very low so tips to boost if there is anything thankyou |
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My wife has had it bad for over 15 years she is 60 now no sex drive . She has tried every thing feel for her 😢😢😢 |
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By * and RCouple 18 weeks ago
East Midlands |
My wife lost moisture and found sex painful even with lube. She spoke to doctor and was prescribed pessaries. Within two weeks sensation returned and started producing natural lubrication again. Now interested in sex again and we are having fun again. |
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Same here, no sex for about 3 years now, I'm falling for hand now lol |
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By *bhs72Man 18 weeks ago
witham |
They should rename it to men on pause. 😂 |
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My wife lost interest in anything sexual since the menopause, so now this is why I am on fab, I just can't not have anything. |
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"My wife lost moisture and found sex painful even with lube. She spoke to doctor and was prescribed pessaries. Within two weeks sensation returned and started producing natural lubrication again. Now interested in sex again and we are having fun again."
I have this but I still have sex i can't go without it |
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"My wife lost interest in anything sexual since the menopause, so now this is why I am on fab, I just can't not have anything. "
And how's that working out for you? |
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"My wife lost interest in anything sexual since the menopause, so now this is why I am on fab, I just can't not have anything. "
Same here |
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"My wife lost interest in anything sexual since the menopause, so now this is why I am on fab, I just can't not have anything.
Same here"
Same again |
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By (user no longer on site) 18 weeks ago
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Menopause Sends fear into the hardest of men and makes them fear for there life’s |
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"My wife lost interest in anything sexual since the menopause, so now this is why I am on fab, I just can't not have anything. "
Your poor wife  |
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I do feel abit sorry for men yes us women suffer more as we have all the symptoms but must be hard for men watching there wifes suffer so much and I know hubby is missing out but not much I can do about it |
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By *hropmMan 18 weeks ago
shrewsbury |
Since my wife went though the menopause we haven't had sex she went right off it . Must be at least 7 years |
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"Since my wife went though the menopause we haven't had sex she went right off it . Must be at least 7 years "
only another 3 years to go then
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By *fffunCouple 18 weeks ago
Somewhere just outside London |
I'm at the peri stage... Night sweats, brain fog and the itchy skin....thankfully for now my sex drive is super high..🙏 Pls stay that way... 😂 |
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Any lady got super horny just before peri kicks in then sex drive goes off a cliff? Almost like a last hurrah.!!? |
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By *and12Couple 18 weeks ago
flint |
I got super horny since I had the menopause and I bloody love it |
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"Don't mention the menopause it's been a nightmare year due to irregular bleeding which always seems to coincided with whenever we arrange a meet. Normally the day of a meet "
My regular playmates are patient and we find other things to do or I wear a sex tampon or a menstrual disc. Luckily, they are not squeamish in helping me get the sex tampon or disc out again when it's gone too far for me to reach. |
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"Just need some advice ladies going through the menopause only wost symptom I have is vaginal dryness which lube is best and if I'm using condoms and I'm latex intolerant so I have to use latex-free ones do I still need lube or will the condoms be okay.
I miss how much I used to get wet.
I'm not quite there yet with dryness but I do have to drink 3 litres of fluid a day to be properly hydrated.
I go to the sexual health clinic in person because GP basic gynaecology is crap! The lady told me to use Epaderm daily ( apart from days when having sex with condoms). I find that it killed any dryness and irritation on my labia but also is a barrier from shower gel and soap getting anywhere near my vagina.
I had to leave my job because the stress was making me ill and I had a weightlifting trainer for 8 weeks. I still weigh a lot but my body has recompositioned into more muscle. The more muscle and protein seems to be improving my symptoms.
I always use water-based lubes...simply because those go with most condoms and most silicone toys.
Good luck ladies. If all else fails, I will be buying hormones from a private pharmacy because my GP isn't listening to a thing I say.
Im not sure that hydration/lube is the complete answer. From the reading i have done the skin in your vagina is thinner because of the loss of oestrogen. Its also dryer which means it looses elasticity. Lube will only mean its easier for someone to get inside you, it won't make it easier for your vagina to expand to accommodate a penis/fingers/toys. Whereas vaginal oestrogen puts hormones back directly where they are needed. Your skin will thicken, become more elastic and some of the self-lubrication will return. 🙂"
All fannies are different so you don't know until you've tried everything.
Mine still works despite all the other horrendous symptoms. So maybe I just have thicker/expanding skin? No idea. |
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"Just need some advice ladies going through the menopause only wost symptom I have is vaginal dryness which lube is best and if I'm using condoms and I'm latex intolerant so I have to use latex-free ones do I still need lube or will the condoms be okay.
I miss how much I used to get wet.
I'm not quite there yet with dryness but I do have to drink 3 litres of fluid a day to be properly hydrated.
I go to the sexual health clinic in person because GP basic gynaecology is crap! The lady told me to use Epaderm daily ( apart from days when having sex with condoms). I find that it killed any dryness and irritation on my labia but also is a barrier from shower gel and soap getting anywhere near my vagina.
I had to leave my job because the stress was making me ill and I had a weightlifting trainer for 8 weeks. I still weigh a lot but my body has recompositioned into more muscle. The more muscle and protein seems to be improving my symptoms.
I always use water-based lubes...simply because those go with most condoms and most silicone toys.
Good luck ladies. If all else fails, I will be buying hormones from a private pharmacy because my GP isn't listening to a thing I say.
Im not sure that hydration/lube is the complete answer. From the reading i have done the skin in your vagina is thinner because of the loss of oestrogen. Its also dryer which means it looses elasticity. Lube will only mean its easier for someone to get inside you, it won't make it easier for your vagina to expand to accommodate a penis/fingers/toys. Whereas vaginal oestrogen puts hormones back directly where they are needed. Your skin will thicken, become more elastic and some of the self lubrication will return. 🙂
Noted in case I ever get to that stage. Currenlty my vagina still works with lube and 3 litres of liquid. I'm still in perimenopause and my hormones haven't dropped low enough for estrogen on the NHS. I can probably get estrogen privately but my employment is all up in the air as I'm so ill.
Also with my mental health, I'm more partial to holistic and alternative treatments before I turn to prescriptions. I've been on prescriptions since I was age 20. They need to be closely monitored because yup I'm the one with dodgy side effects.
I was going to take CBD and the pharmacist said With my mental health absolutely not. I won't take sleeping tablets even though I have terrible insomnia because, again pharmacists said you'll become addicted.
Some people can put just about anything in their body and be fine...
me on the other hand...can't even put in a disposable tampon now. PH disruptor...yeast...BV...etc..
Just be mindful that there are no alternative options that will replace the hormones you lose in menopause - HRT is the only way to replace them. Plus HRT protects your brain, your bones, so many parts of you. "
The NHS isn't listening to me so I have to find alternatives to cope. There are ways to lessen certain symptoms without HRT and those women who can't take HRT for health reasons have to use those. |
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"I had Ablation surgery about 18 months ago, and it's the best decision I've ever made.
My bleeds have stopped, the only trace of Menopausal symptoms is the occasional hot flush in the afternoon, but that's it.
Maybe I just got lucky on this one.
I'm waiting on a surgery date for ablation, been bleeding almost constantly for 30 months. Do you mind me asking how long the procedure and recovery time was?"
I don't know why they put women through this. Hugs. |
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"Any tips for sleep with menopause as lucky if I get 3 hours a night and also sexual appetite is at very low so tips to boost if there is anything thankyou "
I read this book "4 Weeks to Better Sleep: How to Get a Better Night's Sleep
Book by Michael Mosley" And looked up CBT-Insomnia.
Sexually I now regularly schedule things to connect with my body and other people's, sensory, sensually and visually. Cause if I'm just at home alone, nothing sexy is going to happen.
Luckily one of my regular play partners in the poly pod is an extremely good masseur, standard vanilla rehab massage but also erotic, sensual, yoni/vulva massage. He also massages my mouth and jaw with his hands, and then I'm all relaxed orally for him to stick his cock in.
This was cheaper and easier than seeing a sex therapist. I already pay for a vanilla psychotherapist ...that's enough work on its own.
Hope that helps. |
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Being autistic makes me wonder why people say they've tried everything when in actual fact they haven't tried everything. Lol!
Whenever I ask men or women specific questions about why their marriages have broken down and/or are sexless, it usually starts with some resentment long before the bedroom scene.
One guy told me that he and his wife never had any time alone. They homeschooled, taking turns, and they always went on vacation with their child. So they basically turned themselves into parents only.
I think my sibling was conceived when my parents sent me to stay with my uncle and aunt and my cousins for the entire weekend!!! There were multiple weekends for like a whole year. Lol!
My parents also spent 2 hours every day talking to each other.
I asked one of my friends if he did this and he said no one has the time anymore to do that. Communication is key and I personally don't want to shag someone who doesn't talk with me. I have little chats with my play partners via texts. We are not always with each other because we have other responsibilities and commitments but we keep the connection going and not take each other for granted.
I'm one of the only few people I know who had a marital breakdown who actually went to marriage counselling/marriage psychotherapy multiple times.
Maybe because people expect a quick fix and psychotherapy isn't. Maybe people are just too proud or embarrassed about the whole situation, so it's easier to avoid it all to the bitter end.
I don't like emotional, mental or physical pain, so if I can fix it, I'm damn well going to try and fix it and ignore my embarrassment. I know I can't fix everything by myself, which is why I let professionals step in and help me. doesn't make me less than.
Hope everyone finds solutions to their painful circumstances, whatever they are. |
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See gp about Imvaggis pessaries or cream, its helped with my dryness a lot! xx |
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