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CAMS NEWPORT HOT WIFE NIGHT 28th NOV
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Newport chameleons theme for November is the Hot Wife Night !
There is no guest list for this event, it is Members only.
This event is aimed at Hot wife couples, Cuckold couples, Stag and vixen couples or single ladies where the lady is the centre of attention and of course the lucky partners who like to show them off.
Couples and single ladies memberships can be obtained on the night with two forms of ID (photo, and proof of address)
Single men are advised to contact the club as new male memberships are currently very limited.
Please post here if you intend to come as others will see it and may want to meet you.
Theme nights are always the last Friday of the month.
For any further information about the club, please go to the club pages and look for Chameleons 2 |
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"Complain about wanking dead, they're all single men.. Do we really want more of them??  "
I think what is meant, more single respectful men who don't run around the place banging on windows/doors, grunting when females walk past them x |
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Seems the club gives the memberships to the wrong men. We've come a cross a few lovely ones that can't get membership so maybe revoke some of the current ones to allow for new ones. An interview could also be the way to go, if they cant hold an English conversation for 5 minutes, they don't get a membership x |
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"Seems the club gives the memberships to the wrong men. We've come a cross a few lovely ones that can't get membership so maybe revoke some of the current ones to allow for new ones. An interview could also be the way to go, if they cant hold an English conversation for 5 minutes, they don't get a membership x"
I have no control of club entry and can only post what events are on month to month.
I do my best with tied hands im afraid x |
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"There is a need to review membership I agree but maybe anyone with solid helpful ideas could voice these in an email to chams management? "
That would help me as i do try with them, and its no good everyone coming to me. |
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"Complain about wanking dead, they're all single men.. Do we really want more of them??
I think what is meant, more single respectful men who don't run around the place banging on windows/doors, grunting when females walk past them x"
this is exactly what I meant yeah, ideally a better age spread too |
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It would be really appreciated if management could keep a closer eye on single men gathering in the couples room
During our last visit I had to tell several of them repeatedly to give us some space, as they kept edging closer and closer.
It really kills the mood when we’re constantly having to manage that instead of relaxing and enjoying ourselves 😔 |
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"It would be really appreciated if management could keep a closer eye on single men gathering in the couples room
During our last visit I had to tell several of them repeatedly to give us some space, as they kept edging closer and closer.
It really kills the mood when we’re constantly having to manage that instead of relaxing and enjoying ourselves 😔"
Single guys are NOT allowed in the couples room unless invited.
Next time anyone sees one in there tell them to leave.
I try to pop my head round the door from time to time to check and kick them out  |
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"It would be really appreciated if management could keep a closer eye on single men gathering in the couples room
During our last visit I had to tell several of them repeatedly to give us some space, as they kept edging closer and closer.
It really kills the mood when we’re constantly having to manage that instead of relaxing and enjoying ourselves 😔"
Me and the wife were in there last week, about 6 walked in and I just pointed and said nope out, they all looked so deflated walking out 🤣 |
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"It would be really appreciated if management could keep a closer eye on single men gathering in the couples room
During our last visit I had to tell several of them repeatedly to give us some space, as they kept edging closer and closer.
It really kills the mood when we’re constantly having to manage that instead of relaxing and enjoying ourselves 😔
Me and the wife were in there last week, about 6 walked in and I just pointed and said nope out, they all looked so deflated walking out 🤣"
We did the exact same thing last week it's crazy how far they push there luck |
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"It would be really appreciated if management could keep a closer eye on single men gathering in the couples room
During our last visit I had to tell several of them repeatedly to give us some space, as they kept edging closer and closer.
It really kills the mood when we’re constantly having to manage that instead of relaxing and enjoying ourselves 😔
Me and the wife were in there last week, about 6 walked in and I just pointed and said nope out, they all looked so deflated walking out 🤣"
thats how i tend to do it, "are you a couple" 😁 |
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100% agree with the comments about some single guys. They are the reason I've not been for months and months. I have spoken to the club about it but to no avail.
I'd love to come to this night but honestly single men will read it as a Fanny fest and it will be crawling with the wanking dead ruining it for everyone.
Friday nights need more women and couples not even MORE single men.
If only it was vetted and secured like Darlaston is instead of these creeps thinking sexual assault is fine because "they have paid to get in and expect sex"
This is in no way applicable to the few decent and respectful regular gentlemen who do not do this type of thing 🫶🏻
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Any time I’ve felt uncomfortable- I’ve reported to staff and it’s always been dealt with to my satisfaction.
I’m really hoping I’m well enough to come along to this one as it’s been a wee while since I managed to get my ass to the club! |
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"We are thinking of coming, but the hotwife deal is not our thing... Just wondered if we should maybe give this one a miss or whether there will likely be others there who are more into couples? "
There will be others there for couples I’m sure. |
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"We are thinking of coming, but the hotwife deal is not our thing... Just wondered if we should maybe give this one a miss or whether there will likely be others there who are more into couples? "
Same here......we'll be there to hopefully play with other couples. |
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"It would be really appreciated if management could keep a closer eye on single men gathering in the couples room
During our last visit I had to tell several of them repeatedly to give us some space, as they kept edging closer and closer.
It really kills the mood when we’re constantly having to manage that instead of relaxing and enjoying ourselves 😔
Me and the wife were in there last week, about 6 walked in and I just pointed and said nope out, they all looked so deflated walking out 🤣"
I’ve not been for a few weeks so I can safely say that wasn’t me, but my goodness i cringe at the behaviour I see all too often, I’ve tried to talk to a few but they do seem blinkered and have little or no awareness of their poor behaviour. |
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Just been told tonight that they will be letting some single guys come in as guests, but new membership is not available as yet.
If your a guy wanting to go, you should call the club before hand, as you may not get in on the night. |
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"Just been told tonight that they will be letting some single guys come in as guests, but new membership is not available as yet.
If your a guy wanting to go, you should call the club before hand, as you may not get in on the night."
Ooo fresh meat 
Any guys who manage to come in as guests… make sure you bring along your best conversation and not just your cocks 
Having both will enhance your evening |
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"We are thinking of coming, but the hotwife deal is not our thing... Just wondered if we should maybe give this one a miss or whether there will likely be others there who are more into couples? "
Always a load of couples on last weekend of month , CJS night we call it
Be usual single males I sure but once you’ve told them not interested they will leave u alone
Always a good nite in Chams |
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"Looks like its going to.be a busy one "
I will hold you to that plus I will assist in making it a great night as usual. Also jumping on the 'how to act as a single male' I would always suggest to chat in the social areas to break the ice etc and if you are lucky you maybe invited to the pubic areas. But you have to put the leg work in. Just be yourself and may the stars align for you. |
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"100% agree with the comments about some single guys. They are the reason I've not been for months and months. I have spoken to the club about it but to no avail.
I'd love to come to this night but honestly single men will read it as a Fanny fest and it will be crawling with the wanking dead ruining it for everyone.
Friday nights need more women and couples not even MORE single men.
If only it was vetted and secured like Darlaston is instead of these creeps thinking sexual assault is fine because "they have paid to get in and expect sex"
This is in no way applicable to the few decent and respectful regular gentlemen who do not do this type of thing 🫶🏻
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I’ve always found less single guys on Fridays than Saturdays due to the membership restrictions. This was one reason I was never keen on a Saturday but my ex partner loved a Saturday until one evening when we had an unlocked door and the room just filled up with about 15 single guys. It was extremely off putting and uncomfortable… that changed his mind and we got a Friday membership. Single guys are fine as long as they’re polite, chatty and respectful of boundaries, but sadly the idiots do ruin it for the genuine ones. Memberships should be increased for them but with stricter criteria which would hopefully then deter the muppets.
But good luck getting a reply from the club. I emailed them about 4 months ago about Darleston and I’m still waiting for a reply…
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We used to go most weeks but it dwindled to maybe once a month now it's more like 2/3 times a year. Sad really as I love the social side and also watching the naughty fun 😈
PS. Love your bio
"100% agree with the comments about some single guys. They are the reason I've not been for months and months. I have spoken to the club about it but to no avail.
I'd love to come to this night but honestly single men will read it as a Fanny fest and it will be crawling with the wanking dead ruining it for everyone.
Friday nights need more women and couples not even MORE single men.
If only it was vetted and secured like Darlaston is instead of these creeps thinking sexual assault is fine because "they have paid to get in and expect sex"
This is in no way applicable to the few decent and respectful regular gentlemen who do not do this type of thing 🫶🏻
I’ve always found less single guys on Fridays than Saturdays due to the membership restrictions. This was one reason I was never keen on a Saturday but my ex partner loved a Saturday until one evening when we had an unlocked door and the room just filled up with about 15 single guys. It was extremely off putting and uncomfortable… that changed his mind and we got a Friday membership. Single guys are fine as long as they’re polite, chatty and respectful of boundaries, but sadly the idiots do ruin it for the genuine ones. Memberships should be increased for them but with stricter criteria which would hopefully then deter the muppets.
But good luck getting a reply from the club. I emailed them about 4 months ago about Darleston and I’m still waiting for a reply…
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"Are single guys welcome? What's the dress code?"
Give the club a call as they did say they were letting some non members in as guests so get in quick or you won't get in.
Dress code is a towel or shorts |
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Hey there
I was hoping to attend tomorrow night event at chams i use to be a member a long time ago I haven't been there for about 13 years im single male now
Do I turn up and try to get in on the door with my ID
Or can someone take me as there guest is there still genuine people on here that can help me here's my WhatsApp number if someone can help me 07858648065 |
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"Is it non members on a Friday and Saturday or is it just for this one event ?
Couples can join on the night
Can single ladies join tonight or can I come as a guest with a couple?
X"
Im sure you can come along as quests but give CJ a message to find out |
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By *ed FlameWoman 24 weeks ago
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"Is it non members on a Friday and Saturday or is it just for this one event ?
Couples can join on the night
Can single ladies join tonight or can I come as a guest with a couple?
X
Im sure you can come along as quests but give CJ a message to find out "
Thank you. X |
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Just want to reiterate to single men who are NOT members, you would be far better off calling the club before hand so you can ensure entry.
The staff have said they will be allowing guest males @£50 (two forms of ID) in but as for numbers I am not sure.
Please don't turn up thinking your going to gain entry as its staff and club discretion and NOTHING TO DO WITH ME !!
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I think as the owner of Chams it is to do with you who you let in the club. I am not a club owner myself, unlike you who clearly owns Chams, but if I were I would be taking my responsibilities a little more seriously! |
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"I’m popping along with a fwb, I’m an ex wife but surely I still qualify 
I’m an ex-wife too! I think we definitely qualify 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣"
Let’s start our own ex wives club so happy you guys are coming, it’ll be awesome to see you both x |
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By *3xymamaWoman 24 weeks ago
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"I’m popping along with a fwb, I’m an ex wife but surely I still qualify
I’m an ex-wife too! I think we definitely qualify 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Let’s start our own ex wives club so happy you guys are coming, it’ll be awesome to see you both x"
I'm an ex wife too 🤣 I won't be there tonight though. I'm working in the morning |
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"I’m popping along with a fwb, I’m an ex wife but surely I still qualify
I’m an ex-wife too! I think we definitely qualify 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Let’s start our own ex wives club so happy you guys are coming, it’ll be awesome to see you both x
I'm an ex wife too 🤣 I won't be there tonight though. I'm working in the morning "
You can most definitely join our ex wives club lovely x |
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"What an absolute amazing night !
Sooo many people!
Thank you to everyone that made the night so special.
Please, if you have time to leave a club review it would help emensly x
CJ"
Brilliant night as always |
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1st time there on a Friday for several years, very busy & a nice vibe. It was good to catch up with old friends, but the single guys weren't much better than on a Saturday night tbf.
You were a nice host CJ X |
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I’ve always wanted to go and see what it’s like!
However it seems very much like it’s not a welcoming place for single guys to go to! And wouldn’t necessarily want to go somewhere and be uncomfortable!
Shame really as not all single guys should be tarred with the same brush! |
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"I’ve always wanted to go and see what it’s like!
However it seems very much like it’s not a welcoming place for single guys to go to! And wouldn’t necessarily want to go somewhere and be uncomfortable!
Shame really as not all single guys should be tarred with the same brush! "
There were some nice, chatty, polite single guys there & I could see they were very much welcomed by some of the couples & ladies. It all depends on how you conduct yourself, if you're chatty, polite & non pushy there should be no reason why you wouldn't be welcomed. It's just unfortunate they'd no vetting process in place for single guys, so some of the arseholes get through whatever night it is.
There's definitely a demand for decent single guys X |
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"I’ve always wanted to go and see what it’s like!
However it seems very much like it’s not a welcoming place for single guys to go to! And wouldn’t necessarily want to go somewhere and be uncomfortable!
Shame really as not all single guys should be tarred with the same brush! "
Im guessing you've never attended a club ?
Don't make assumptions unless you've actually been there in person.
Single men are always welcome at clubs and whatever gave you the opinion they were not ? |
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As said previously
Just going on comments that have been made here and the reputation single guys seem to have a bad reputation!
Not sure you need to go so defensive. It wasn’t any kind of criticism at you |
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Your "comments and opinion" are what make it seem like you'd be in the category of single guy that the comments on this thread are pointing out ruin the perception of single guys however
"As said previously
Just going on comments that have been made here and the reputation single guys seem to have a bad reputation!
Not sure you need to go so defensive. It wasn’t any kind of criticism at you"
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"As said previously
Just going on comments that have been made here and the reputation single guys seem to have a bad reputation!
Not sure you need to go so defensive. It wasn’t any kind of criticism at you"
Oh im not defending me, I couldn't give a rats arse what your opinion of me as a single guy is.
My defence is of that of the club and the people who go to it.
You cannot make assumptions and it strikes me as if you have no knowledge of the the club scene and I would encourage you to find out for yourself.
Without "single men" clubs would not function. Primarily due to the revenue they produce, and the entrant need for male and female interaction for them to function.
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I’m just reading the posts!
Your comments about me as a ‘single guy’ say a lot for how ALL single guys are portrayed without knowing anything about an individual.
What I’m saying is, from the things that have been said within this forum, it doesn’t come across as a welcoming place for a single guy! And more than happy if I ever feel comfortable enough to have an enjoyably experience to them change my opinion!
The fact you mention it in a financial benefit of single males rather than attracting the right single males may be why there is a negative f perception of them!
My opinion msked no difference as you run a successful establishment. I’m just trying to highlight how the posts make a genuine single male feel about coming! |
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"The single men that get the bad rep are the ones who turn up thinking that are entitled to get laid because they've paid to get in, and have no respect for anyone else there.
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I've met some absolutely lovely single guys at the club, when there as a single and with my partner. So long as you go with the right attitude (just saying generally, not aimed at the single guy who has perceived the club as being unwelcoming for single guys from the comments), make the effort to chat (it's as nerve racking for us women too) then you'll reap the benefits. I attend regularly now, and always have a decent night, even if it's only for social and not play. 😊 |
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Well despite what people are saying that's not relevant to the actual post of the Hotwife theme night, we had a great, if short, time. Unfortunately Life meat we couldn't stay as long as we would have liked. But it was nice to see everyone enjoying themselves, single men, single women, couples and any other people included.
The 'old me' would be piling in with an opinion on the rest of the conversation but one thing I will say is that CJ does NOT run the club and does NOT have any control over how it functions, whom they let in or any other issue. The simple fact is that he is a highly valued member of the community and spends an awful lot of his own free unpaid time promoting what is the last bastion of swinging clubs in Wales. Because without Chams Newport on a Friday night, we're all screwed if we don't want to drive over the bridge to somewhere else . |
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I think you are misreading it
This is about expressing an opinion based on comments made. ‘The wanking dead’, ‘People banging on windows’, ‘entering uninvited’ etc!
It doesn’t sound like a welcoming place that as a single guy you want to be associated with. That is the messsge here and not at any individual!
Feel free to correct me if the comments made are ill informed! Can only comment on what’s been said previously but also many more have fantastic times so it doesn’t bother them!
But all single guys are seeming to be looked at the same which is also unfair. And that’s from someone who is doing their own bit to try and enhance the scene! |
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"Well despite what people are saying that's not relevant to the actual post of the Hotwife theme night, we had a great, if short, time. Unfortunately Life meat we couldn't stay as long as we would have liked. But it was nice to see everyone enjoying themselves, single men, single women, couples and any other people included.
The 'old me' would be piling in with an opinion on the rest of the conversation but one thing I will say is that CJ does NOT run the club and does NOT have any control over how it functions, whom they let in or any other issue. The simple fact is that he is a highly valued member of the community and spends an awful lot of his own free unpaid time promoting what is the last bastion of swinging clubs in Wales. Because without Chams Newport on a Friday night, we're all screwed if we don't want to drive over the bridge to somewhere else . "
Cj is the best to be fair, he does so much for the scene off his own back |
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If single men act appropriately, there's no issue - it's the ones that don't are the issue
If anything genuine guys should want to go as they are likely to get a better experience, than the ones being a pain.
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"The single men that get the bad rep are the ones who turn up thinking that are entitled to get laid because they've paid to get in, and have no respect for anyone else there.
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Absolutely this. I once went with a partner who didn’t respect me or the environment, and demanded I ‘find someone for him to enjoy’ because of ‘everything I let you do’ the week before. This is the type of attitude that gives single men a bad name.
I’ve also seen a single, older guy who goes there regularly. On my first visit he complimented the ‘show’ I put on (I used to always play with an open door because that fed my exhibitionist side). The next time I saw him he’d been watching my ex partner and I and followed me out when we had finished with the comment ‘so I don’t get a go then?!’ I also had a single guy follow me and my ex partner everywhere, invade our personal space and acted exactly as you’ve said - with the attitude of ‘I’ve paid so I’m entitled’. It also didn’t help that that particular night was extremely quiet and I think I was one of 6 women there which didn’t help.
Unfortunately, a lot of the time when these types of guys are mentioned and pointed out to club staff, nothing is done, which puts a lot of people off returning because it’s the same offenders over and over again (the above have been mentioned and pointed out yet I still see them frequenting the club). Although to be fair, these incidents happened on Friday night with the ‘guest’ single men, but a lot more happened on the Saturdays than Fridays, because the single guys who have membership are genuinely invested in being a part of the scene as opposed to being entitled to sex because they pay a membership. However, in the single guys corner, I’ve had ‘genuine’ members of the scene that don’t put effort into getting a Friday membership also behave inappropriately and abuse the fact that women (and couples) may not see them as a direct threat simply because they’re ‘regulars’ in the scene and go to socials and are well known. These men can often be worse than the random single guys who don’t interact with the scene, because if you know them because they’re regulars, then you often tend to trust them a bit more because they’re ’well known’ to people |
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"Well despite what people are saying that's not relevant to the actual post of the Hotwife theme night, we had a great, if short, time. Unfortunately Life meat we couldn't stay as long as we would have liked. But it was nice to see everyone enjoying themselves, single men, single women, couples and any other people included.
The 'old me' would be piling in with an opinion on the rest of the conversation but one thing I will say is that CJ does NOT run the club and does NOT have any control over how it functions, whom they let in or any other issue. The simple fact is that he is a highly valued member of the community and spends an awful lot of his own free unpaid time promoting what is the last bastion of swinging clubs in Wales. Because without Chams Newport on a Friday night, we're all screwed if we don't want to drive over the bridge to somewhere else . "
Thank you |
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"Well despite what people are saying that's not relevant to the actual post of the Hotwife theme night, we had a great, if short, time. Unfortunately Life meat we couldn't stay as long as we would have liked. But it was nice to see everyone enjoying themselves, single men, single women, couples and any other people included.
The 'old me' would be piling in with an opinion on the rest of the conversation but one thing I will say is that CJ does NOT run the club and does NOT have any control over how it functions, whom they let in or any other issue. The simple fact is that he is a highly valued member of the community and spends an awful lot of his own free unpaid time promoting what is the last bastion of swinging clubs in Wales. Because without Chams Newport on a Friday night, we're all screwed if we don't want to drive over the bridge to somewhere else . "
100 % agree with you |
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"Well despite what people are saying that's not relevant to the actual post of the Hotwife theme night, we had a great, if short, time. Unfortunately Life meat we couldn't stay as long as we would have liked. But it was nice to see everyone enjoying themselves, single men, single women, couples and any other people included.
The 'old me' would be piling in with an opinion on the rest of the conversation but one thing I will say is that CJ does NOT run the club and does NOT have any control over how it functions, whom they let in or any other issue. The simple fact is that he is a highly valued member of the community and spends an awful lot of his own free unpaid time promoting what is the last bastion of swinging clubs in Wales. Because without Chams Newport on a Friday night, we're all screwed if we don't want to drive over the bridge to somewhere else .
Thank you "
We all know this. It’s not Chams without CJ and his mug! 😘 |
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I find the conversation of single men not being made welcome ironic after the many comments above wanting more decent single men!
As all the comments have said, it’s the quality of *some men attending which, if you know you hold yourself to a good standard then you’ll be very welcome and do just fine!
If you ever decide to come to any club you’ll soon realise the type of man labelled wanking dead which is across all clubs even abroad and not just Newport. You’ll also see the amount of men breaking the simplest of etiquettes.
There are however many many single men I’ve crossed paths with over the years who are undeniably good characters and get a whole lot of fun out of the evenings
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I found the last few series of the wanking dead a bit lack lustre but I wouldn't go and ban them from the club just because it got a bit samey. Banging on the doors is an essential safety aspect of swinging because yeah we all been there when a hord of zombies who can't take no for an answer and start getting a bit fresh and bitey start complaining about the jingling keys. CJ has no business denying he is the owner of Chams just because he is loosing an argument about something or other. Hot wife was full of single males making silly Minecraft noises in my experience which I can take or leave, but over all I love our little club, friends, the awesome staff and strangers, without who we would not have such an awesome experience because don't forget we were all newbies, strangers and single males at some point. We should all look to get along and understand frictions will happen from time to time but with respect and humility we shall prosper! |
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Woah woah woah! leave Gonzo (CJ) out of it ahaha.
As a single male yeah I do agree with some things that’s been stated but also have to disagree with some of the things that’s been stated. 100% consent is the most important thing but you can’t tarnish every single male with the same brush, yes there can be a few bad apples but not every single male are the same. There’s plenty of amazing single males down the club that are more than happy to sit and chat and have a laugh and a joke.
It also works both ways at the end of the day! I’ve had a few single women that think they have a right to tell me who I can and can’t speak to or play with down the club but you don’t see anyone mentioning that! And I’ve seen the odd bad male acting inappropriately and they were delt with accordingly. But live and let live and we’re all adults at the end of the day there’s no point acting like children and arguing and bitching about others.
It is hard for newbies down the club and it doesn’t matter if they’re a single male/ single female or a couple and all they need is a few of the regulars to guide them in the right direction and show the newbies the ropes witch many of the regulars do that anyways and they’re always checking in to make sure your happy and safe.
No one should feel unsafe or uncomfortable in any clubs as everyone’s welcome and I’m sure the staff in all the clubs around the uk do their part to keep the trouble ones out and those kinds of things are not for us to be concerned with. If you have an issue with someone bring it up to the members of staff and they’ll deal with it accordingly.
The club is very welcoming and does their best to help and assist anyone and so are the amazing regulars whether they’re the so called scary “single wanking dead male” single female or couples. If you have any issues BRING IT UP TO THE STAFF!!! Let’s be adult about this in what is a very adult place and if you’re not able to be adult enough to do that then you know where the door is! |
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It reads to me as though we have all been adult about this. A guy said he'd heard bad things & was unsure about going, advice was given about how to have a successful visit & comments have even been made about the good single guys & the need for more of those. Scarlett is right, these, so called walking dead are present in all clubs. The crux of the thread has been to recognise that doesn't apply to all men & we all need to do our best to support this vaguely resource, which is the only club we have in Wales X |
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"I think you are misreading it
This is about expressing an opinion based on comments made. ‘The wanking dead’, ‘People banging on windows’, ‘entering uninvited’ etc!
It doesn’t sound like a welcoming place that as a single guy you want to be associated with. That is the messsge here and not at any individual!
Feel free to correct me if the comments made are ill informed! Can only comment on what’s been said previously but also many more have fantastic times so it doesn’t bother them!
But all single guys are seeming to be looked at the same which is also unfair. And that’s from someone who is doing their own bit to try and enhance the scene! "
I don't understand, are you saying that people complaining about men acting inappropriately is unwelcoming? Should we perhaps keep our mouths shut instead? |
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"I think you are misreading it
This is about expressing an opinion based on comments made. ‘The wanking dead’, ‘People banging on windows’, ‘entering uninvited’ etc!
It doesn’t sound like a welcoming place that as a single guy you want to be associated with. That is the messsge here and not at any individual!
Feel free to correct me if the comments made are ill informed! Can only comment on what’s been said previously but also many more have fantastic times so it doesn’t bother them!
But all single guys are seeming to be looked at the same which is also unfair. And that’s from someone who is doing their own bit to try and enhance the scene!
I don't understand, are you saying that people complaining about men acting inappropriately is unwelcoming? Should we perhaps keep our mouths shut instead?"
No not at all. At no point have I said any comments are unwelcome or anyone should keep their mouths shut!
I’ve expressed how the comments of how some behave puts me off going, as don’t want to a) be seen in that light and b) be made to feel uncomfortable while attending because that’s how males are viewed!
The comments have been reassuring in thst if you do behave appropriately, of which I know I will, then the welcome will be fine and you’ll have a great time
Thst is reassuring to know, and when I do get the opportunity to go, I look forward to being then able to make that judgement solely for myself! |
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"I find the conversation of single men not being made welcome ironic after the many comments above wanting more decent single men!
As all the comments have said, it’s the quality of *some men attending which, if you know you hold yourself to a good standard then you’ll be very welcome and do just fine!
If you ever decide to come to any club you’ll soon realise the type of man labelled wanking dead which is across all clubs even abroad and not just Newport. You’ll also see the amount of men breaking the simplest of etiquettes.
There are however many many single men I’ve crossed paths with over the years who are undeniably good characters and get a whole lot of fun out of the evenings
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The number of good single men do outweigh the bad. It’s just a shame that memberships are so limited to these guys because of the amount of the wanking dead and the single guys that are just entitled with the attitude of ‘I’ve paid so I get’. It’s also a shame these guys are concerned about going because of the way a lot single men are perceived because of the bad ones.
It’s frustrating the club (and members) can’t come up with a way of obtaining more single male memberships, getting the good ones in but with a way of putting off the bad ones. I think that’s why a lot of the good ones sign up for couples memberships, and I don’t think it’s fair the female can use it to go solo, but the guys can’t. Maybe that’s something that could change which would encourage more couples memberships where single men are treated as equals to the single ladies on their couples membership? |
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