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"I’m thinking about hosting a proper swingers house party, for genuinely horny, open-minded men and women who know exactly why they’re coming. The idea is simple: this isn’t a standing-around-chatting-all-night kind of event. From the moment you walk through the door, the atmosphere is playful, sexual, and uninhibited. No awkward hesitation, no pretending, just adults who are there to connect, explore, and enjoy real group fun together. Let’s be honest, at many parties people talk, drink, and socialise so much that they forget the real reason we’re all on Fab Swingers in the first place. This party would be for those who actually want action, chemistry, and shared pleasure, not just conversation. So this would suit confident, greedy boys and girls who come ready to play and fully embrace the experience. What do you think, would you be up for something like this?" Good luck and hope all goes well , but I think the chemistry and pleasure can never be instant and needs to built even for an hour or 2 not focused straight into it , My opinion only and not looking to discourage you or anyone , Looking to possibly do a similar kind of night ourselves but certainly won't insist on people playing as soon as they walk in , Like I say good luck and hope it goes well , we would have been interested in attending if it wasn't so ... straight into it | |||
"I’m thinking about hosting a proper swingers house party, for genuinely horny, open-minded men and women who know exactly why they’re coming. The idea is simple: this isn’t a standing-around-chatting-all-night kind of event. From the moment you walk through the door, the atmosphere is playful, sexual, and uninhibited. No awkward hesitation, no pretending, just adults who are there to connect, explore, and enjoy real group fun together. Let’s be honest, at many parties people talk, drink, and socialise so much that they forget the real reason we’re all on Fab Swingers in the first place. This party would be for those who actually want action, chemistry, and shared pleasure, not just conversation. So this would suit confident, greedy boys and girls who come ready to play and fully embrace the experience. What do you think, would you be up for something like this?" A lot of ppl are on fab for community and social experiences just as much as sex. So, while I'm sure you didn't mean to, you've not only come across as a little short sighted, but also potentially offended those who currently run successfully house parties. But by all means, if you are able to find a location to cater to needs, safety, parking, control alcohol and drugs, ensure there is a safe space for anyone who needs to take a break, look out for abusers then have at it. | |||
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"Having a chat isn't "pretending" it's enjoyable. Getting to know people is a key part of what swinging is for the majority of people. Not to say that there aren't people who are comfy with playing right away, absolutely nothing wrong with that either. It's just that many could feel pressured knowing that the host sees them as a downer for wanting to socialise first" This ^^^ I don't attend house parties to "just get down to it" as others have said, I expect some attraction and chemistry to want to be intimate with someone | |||
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"I’m thinking about hosting a proper swingers house party, for genuinely horny, open-minded men and women who know exactly why they’re coming. The idea is simple: this isn’t a standing-around-chatting-all-night kind of event. From the moment you walk through the door, the atmosphere is playful, sexual, and uninhibited. No awkward hesitation, no pretending, just adults who are there to connect, explore, and enjoy real group fun together. Let’s be honest, at many parties people talk, drink, and socialise so much that they forget the real reason we’re all on Fab Swingers in the first place. This party would be for those who actually want action, chemistry, and shared pleasure, not just conversation. So this would suit confident, greedy boys and girls who come ready to play and fully embrace the experience. What do you think, would you be up for something like this?" Just to say, this should have been captured as an orgy or play party - not a 'proper swingers party'. I think everyone's definition of what should/shouldn't happen at a HP or any other play event, usually involves a little bit of banter, boundary setting and general consent. If you don't have those things...well, I imagine you, as host, may open yourself up to all sorts of trouble. Which is probably not your intention. As others have said, probably poorly worded. | |||
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"Really appreciate everyone’s input, it’s actually helpful to hear different perspectives. I definitely didn’t mean to disrespect anyone who enjoys or hosts social-style parties. I completely understand that for many people, chemistry and comfort build through conversation first, and that’s a huge part of the lifestyle. What I was trying to describe is simply a different type of event, one that’s more play-forward in atmosphere rather than primarily social. Not pressured, not mandatory, and always consent-led but with a crowd who attend already knowing they’re open to engaging sooner rather than later. Of course there would always be space for conversation, boundaries, comfort and consent. That’s non-negotiable. Maybe ‘proper’ was the wrong word, every style of event has its place. This would just be aimed at people who prefer a more direct, sexually charged environment rather than a heavily social one. Appreciate the feedback,it’s good to refine the idea properly." I attend house parties to play, never expect to , but that is the reason I personally attend , maybe not everyone’s thing but it’s mine. Always consent and always with guys who I want to play with, I won’t play with just anyone. The socialising side is good to network But most parties have some form of chat before hand so can get the vibe from that and start to make connections. If I wanted to just socialise I could go down local pub. I know everyone is different and life would be very boring if we were all the same. Life is short , live life to the max. Stay safe and enjoy. | |||
"Really appreciate everyone’s input, it’s actually helpful to hear different perspectives. I definitely didn’t mean to disrespect anyone who enjoys or hosts social-style parties. I completely understand that for many people, chemistry and comfort build through conversation first, and that’s a huge part of the lifestyle. What I was trying to describe is simply a different type of event, one that’s more play-forward in atmosphere rather than primarily social. Not pressured, not mandatory, and always consent-led but with a crowd who attend already knowing they’re open to engaging sooner rather than later. Of course there would always be space for conversation, boundaries, comfort and consent. That’s non-negotiable. Maybe ‘proper’ was the wrong word, every style of event has its place. This would just be aimed at people who prefer a more direct, sexually charged environment rather than a heavily social one. Appreciate the feedback,it’s good to refine the idea properly. I attend house parties to play, never expect to , but that is the reason I personally attend , maybe not everyone’s thing but it’s mine. Always consent and always with guys who I want to play with, I won’t play with just anyone. The socialising side is good to network But most parties have some form of chat before hand so can get the vibe from that and start to make connections. If I wanted to just socialise I could go down local pub. I know everyone is different and life would be very boring if we were all the same. Life is short , live life to the max. Stay safe and enjoy." I also go to play (also never expect to, of course), I like to socialise too but I can find it a bit awkward to approach groups of people to talk to. I also unfortunately am not great about talking about sex (something I'm working on) so this concept does appeal to me to be honest. Obviously it wasn't worded the best but I understand the thinking behind it. The idea of going to a house party and doing something like a group game (non-sexual) or something is something I think could work well at getting people to talk to others they wouldn't normally talk to | |||
"I’m thinking about hosting a proper swingers house party, for genuinely horny, open-minded men and women who know exactly why they’re coming. The idea is simple: this isn’t a standing-around-chatting-all-night kind of event. From the moment you walk through the door, the atmosphere is playful, sexual, and uninhibited. No awkward hesitation, no pretending, just adults who are there to connect, explore, and enjoy real group fun together. Let’s be honest, at many parties people talk, drink, and socialise so much that they forget the real reason we’re all on Fab Swingers in the first place. This party would be for those who actually want action, chemistry, and shared pleasure, not just conversation. So this would suit confident, greedy boys and girls who come ready to play and fully embrace the experience. What do you think, would you be up for something like this?" I would be up for that sort of party but I suspect many women & couples would not be .personally I find chatting very difficult & boring , its very easy to say the wrong thing & offend someone without meaning to | |||
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"Interesting idea, but surely only works if all know or have chatted enough. The slight social allows attraction to be shown. Otherwise it's a difficult situation of feeling obligated to do things, because you attended. " I wish someone would host swingers "speed date" events. 5 or 10 minutes with each table before you move on to the next, then you fill your card in and mutual matches get each others details. We would definitely attend a version of this with single guys! | |||
"Interesting idea, but surely only works if all know or have chatted enough. The slight social allows attraction to be shown. Otherwise it's a difficult situation of feeling obligated to do things, because you attended. I wish someone would host swingers "speed date" events. 5 or 10 minutes with each table before you move on to the next, then you fill your card in and mutual matches get each others details. We would definitely attend a version of this with single guys! " Great idea. Let's it flow quicker. Nobody really can be offended if left out | |||
" I would be up for that sort of party but I suspect many women & couples would not be .personally I find chatting very difficult & boring , its very easy to say the wrong thing & offend someone without meaning to " Ngl it's really easy to not offend people, just don't be rude or pushy and respect their boundaries | |||
" I would be up for that sort of party but I suspect many women & couples would not be .personally I find chatting very difficult & boring , its very easy to say the wrong thing & offend someone without meaning to Ngl it's really easy to not offend people, just don't be rude or pushy and respect their boundaries " Equally, some people can and will be offended by anything.  | |||
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"Interesting idea, but surely only works if all know or have chatted enough. The slight social allows attraction to be shown. Otherwise it's a difficult situation of feeling obligated to do things, because you attended. I wish someone would host swingers "speed date" events. 5 or 10 minutes with each table before you move on to the next, then you fill your card in and mutual matches get each others details. We would definitely attend a version of this with single guys! That's a good idea 🤔 " | |||
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"I’m not sure why such a post offends anyone! Each party runs to their own dynamic and obviously work for those that attend as they keep running and keep having full guest lists If you want something different for your parties, then it is your perogative to do that and good luck to you! Too many people worry about what others do. When ultimately the lifestyle has enough room for everyone! And people will vote with their feet. If they like what you have to offer, they will come. If they don’t that’s their choice and nobody needs to worry about it! As long as expectations are clear from the start, then I’m sure you’ll attract the right people for what you are looking for! " I believe the way it was written, (He very much mentioned what others do) caused some of the comments. I am not sure anyone was offended, but the OP did ask for feedback. | |||
"Interesting idea, but surely only works if all know or have chatted enough. The slight social allows attraction to be shown. Otherwise it's a difficult situation of feeling obligated to do things, because you attended. I wish someone would host swingers "speed date" events. 5 or 10 minutes with each table before you move on to the next, then you fill your card in and mutual matches get each others details. We would definitely attend a version of this with single guys! " Filth club used to do this once a month in Swansea. It was a fantastic night! | |||
"Interesting idea, but surely only works if all know or have chatted enough. The slight social allows attraction to be shown. Otherwise it's a difficult situation of feeling obligated to do things, because you attended. I wish someone would host swingers "speed date" events. 5 or 10 minutes with each table before you move on to the next, then you fill your card in and mutual matches get each others details. We would definitely attend a version of this with single guys! " This sounds fun, I'd be down for this. I know Filth Club do something similar, but it's mostly standing and I appreciate due to volumes and space can be a little awkward to navigate. But with seating and cards etc, it would be awesome 😊 | |||
