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On balance, do you think you're happier when you're single (no ties at all) or in a relationship ? Doesn't have to be marriage or ltr, just something regular and stable ?
If you're single would you be happier in a relationship?
If you're in a relationship would you be happier single ? |
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Hard for me to answer, one of my friends used to say I was happiest when I was single. Then I met Jay and he made me feel complete. I would still be happy with my relationship with him but since he died I'm happy never wanting to
meet anyone else |
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Personally, I’m always happier when I’m single and so I plan to stay that way 😁
It’s kind of like debate about travelling alone, you’re only alone when you want to be, you can go on dates or see friends whenever you like or just enjoy a bit of solitude. Being in a relationship just adds a layer of effort I don’t need or want anymore. |
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By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago
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Single.
I don't ever want to feel like I did in my last relationship, and no one is worth risking that for.
Plus I like my own space, I get fed up of peopling after a while |
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By *eliWoman 13 weeks ago
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I think I'm happier when I'm in a good place.
I've been in relationships where they've been truly awful. Felt lonelier with them than I've ever felt when I've actually been alone. I've also been (am in) relationships where my happiness continues growing. I've never felt so understood. Accepted. Loved.
As I'm typing this I've realised I've not been single for longer than a month or so in many, many years. Don't think I could fairly answer.  |
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I'm much happier single, especially when I'm not looking. Doing what I want, when I want, with who I want. Just having my own space and my own company. Sleeping on my own in bed 🤩 control of the TV remote.
Sometimes I think a relationship would be nice, but then I try and actively date and it destroys my mental health and I remember I'm happy single again
A good relationship is great, but I'd take being single over a bad/okay relationship. I've never been one who needed to be in a relationship to feel fulfilled. |
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I’m happier when I have some kind of connection with someone… I don’t like proper relationships but regular sex and knowing I have a night together with him to look forward to once a week or so, that is when I’m at my happiest.
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"On balance, do you think you're happier when you're single (no ties at all) or in a relationship ? Doesn't have to be marriage or ltr, just something regular and stable ?
If you're single would you be happier in a relationship?
If you're in a relationship would you be happier single ?"
As of a year or so ago I'd have said 💯 love being single ..
That's still true to an extent but I have become more open minded to more since getting officially old  |
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By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago
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I thought I was happier single until last September when I meet my soul mate and wifey Rei even tho we are miles apart when we are together the minute we see each other it's bang and even tho we met on here it's not always about the sex and yes it's good nah better than good it's the connection we have that keeps us going and even when we are out others can see that |
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I'm happiest in my own version of a relationship. Putting effort in and nurturing the connection but with a few tweaks.
Time together and time to do our own thing.
Can't see myself living full time with anyone, but relationships can take you by surprise, so something I will never say never on.
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By *sWyldWoman 13 weeks ago
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Most of my relationships haven't really been happy so I much prefer being single. I think now I've been single so long I really wouldn't make a great partner . I'm pretty selfish in that I want to do my own thing and I love the freedom that brings.
However as liberating as that's been the last few years I'm still finding there are times I'm lonely. I miss intimacy, being held and having someone on my team. Sadly that was lacking in most of my previous relationships too though. I think I'm more at peace with it now than I was. I'm probably no longer hoping for my happy ever after with someone. I can create happy ever after for myself. X |
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By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago
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I'm still fairly new to single life having been in a relationship almost my entire adult life. I'm happier now than I have been in a very long time, so for now I'd definitely say single. I'm not gonna say that won't ever change. But I don't see that changing soon if at all... unless I meet someone who would like a non-relationship-relationship who i just can't resist |
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Sometimes the grass looks greener on the other side.
Sometimes the grass turns several shades of blue.
I like relationships for many reasons, but they all have their challenges at times. Just having another person to consider can be a big change for some people. |
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I haven't been in a conventional romantic relationship for ten years now. Friends and family say I've looked so much happier since I've been single. I've had a number of fwb situationships since first joining Fab 7 years ago, which have mostly all been thoroughly enjoyable. I like having companionship, affection, and hot sex with like-minded people; but equally I like my independence, only having to make life decisions for myself, and most importantly not having to share my bed with anyone (except on very rare occasions). I will happily remain a single woman for the rest of my days, and know I will have no regrets whatsoever over my decision 😊 |
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By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago
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I think people in a very loving relationship will say that they’re happier in a relationship and people who haven’t had that will say single . I love my wife and wouldn’t ever want to be without her (mr) |
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By *a LunaWoman 13 weeks ago
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Honestly? I think I’m happiest single these days. My mind is less anxious. I have trust issues leftover from past relationships that with all the best will in the world still make me wary in relationships and doubt creeps in.
I know you’re supposed to enter every new relationship on a clean slate, but with so many “attached” folk on here playing away it’s a bit hard to believe anybody keeps it in their pants these days.
I just can’t be doing with being disappointed again.
Plus I’m getting on a bit now anyway. Men want younger women.
God this is depressing  |
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"I think people in a very loving relationship will say that they’re happier in a relationship and people who haven’t had that will say single . I love my wife and wouldn’t ever want to be without her (mr)"
I'll be that guy then! I'm single but have usually been happier in stable relationships. I think I'd like one again.  |
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"I think people in a very loving relationship will say that they’re happier in a relationship and people who haven’t had that will say single . I love my wife and wouldn’t ever want to be without her (mr)
I'll be that guy then! I'm single but have usually been happier in stable relationships. I think I'd like one again. "
that answers my question then |
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"I think people in a very loving relationship will say that they’re happier in a relationship and people who haven’t had that will say single . I love my wife and wouldn’t ever want to be without her (mr)
I'll be that guy then! I'm single but have usually been happier in stable relationships. I think I'd like one again. that answers my question then "
Good timing! |
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"I think people in a very loving relationship will say that they’re happier in a relationship and people who haven’t had that will say single . I love my wife and wouldn’t ever want to be without her (mr)
I'll be that guy then! I'm single but have usually been happier in stable relationships. I think I'd like one again. that answers my question then
Good timing!"
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I'm happy either way. I'm happy on my own and I've been happy in a relationship. I have my fwb at the moment and I'm happy with our setup, it works for us but I wouldn't close myself off to a relationship. |
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By *usty kayWoman 13 weeks ago
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I've never really been single so I can't compare but I don't imagine I would be happier single again.
I left my first marriage intending to have some single time and make it fun. I absolutely would have been happier than I was in that relationship.
Life has a way of giving you the unexpected though and by the time I was in my own place and had the freedom I desired I was in love again. I could not be my happiest without him and don't forsee a time I will ever wish to be single.
Swinging may help with that as I still get to do what I want as often as suits us but it's been easy to put down, sometimes for years at a time and not crave the extra. |
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I’ve never been happier than since I met Sean. He’s my absolute best friend and soulmate. I hate to even think of my life without him in it.
17 years together this year and I hope for the rest of my years to be with him by my side.
Donna x |
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By *edSirenWoman 13 weeks ago
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Currently happier single. I suppose because right now I’m enjoying the fact I don’t answer to anyone. I have complete freedom to do what I want, explore who I want, have fun when I want. Essentially be a little selfish with my time and energy.
There are elements of a relationship I miss. But not enough to compromise parts of myself that I’m enjoying exploring right now. I wouldn’t consider trading that unless they are exceptional in matching my energy etc. A true soul mate. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 13 weeks ago
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"I'm happiest in my current relationship structure.
All the peace and freedom of being single, all the sex, comfort and support of a normal relationship.
Life is good 💜"
I agree wholeheartedly with this. 👌👌 |
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I've been in a LAT relationship for almost 20 years. I get the best parts of both options. I could easily be single because i'm used to being independant, making my own choices and having the freedom to do what I want. But I wouldn't want to be single and give up what we've got |
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"On balance, do you think you're happier when you're single (no ties at all) or in a relationship ? Doesn't have to be marriage or ltr, just something regular and stable ?
If you're single would you be happier in a relationship?
If you're in a relationship would you be happier single ?"
If I could ever have a good relationship I would love to be in one. For now, I’m happy being little old me 😘 |
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Single. Even if anyone stays with me for a weekend I'm itching for them to leave by Sunday.i like my own space. I don't want it infiltrated.
That being said I'm in a rship. It's OK for now bc he lives far enough away to only visit every other weekend. I wouldn't want it to progress from that. |
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Fairly newly single again and enjoying having none of the angst, or trust anxiety.
When I’m single I try to make the most of single life, I’ve been on solo breaks and a holiday and will do the same again.
There are times I miss having someone special in my life especially after a hard day when you could do with a nice cuddle, but it is what it is and you can’t live your life waiting for it to happen.
So just trying to live life and in the words of Roy Kent.. “not settle for fine….” |
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"Honestly? I think I’m happiest single these days. My mind is less anxious. I have trust issues leftover from past relationships that with all the best will in the world still make me wary in relationships and doubt creeps in.
I know you’re supposed to enter every new relationship on a clean slate, but with so many “attached” folk on here playing away it’s a bit hard to believe anybody keeps it in their pants these days.
I just can’t be doing with being disappointed again.
Plus I’m getting on a bit now anyway. Men want younger women.
God this is depressing "
💯 with you on this and I feel like age will start going against me now??? |
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A bit of column A and a bit of column B.
I could never go back to monogamy again and I don’t plan on living with anyone again. I’m very happy with my fulfilling and loving relationships whilst maintaining my independence |
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By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago
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I’m happy when in a healthy relationship. I enjoy being single, but I have a lot of love and affection to give and miss having my own person. That said, I could not go back to monogamy. |
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I don't need someone in my life to feel whole; I'm perfectly happy with my own company.
That said, I'm really happy in our relationship. K and I are good friends, on top of anything else. We live together and both work from home in the same office, so we're in each other's company pretty much 24/7. It works. I think that says a lot about our connection.
I honestly couldn't feel more loved up 🥰
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"On balance, do you think you're happier when you're single (no ties at all) or in a relationship ? Doesn't have to be marriage or ltr, just something regular and stable ?
If you're single would you be happier in a relationship?
If you're in a relationship would you be happier single ?"
I'm in a very happy solid marriage of 24yrs 😁
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By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago
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If your mum and dad had a good relationship you probably crave that type of thing yourself.
If they didn't, you probably don't place much importance to it at all..
This is my own theory & no peer reviewed scientific basis whatsoever.. |
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WOW I'm much happier married 43 years. But hubbies allowed me to play. His parents 60 years but mine was a mess!!I still thought of hubbies mum as my mother. Always took my side.. that's what families do xxxxxxxxxxm |
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By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago
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I've noticed is it's hard when you're ill if you are on your own.
If you haven't got any help etc.
I became pretty much disabled for a period of time after several spine surgeries, but luckily I'm ok now.
Your singledom is amplified in those situations.
But yes I prefer singledom, to answer the original question.
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"I think I can beat anyone in this thread.
I've been single for about 12 years now.
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18 years here. I can't be in the company of any human for more than about 24 hours (maybe 48 at a push) without feeling extremely drained and needing to get away to recharge for the following 4 or 5 days. So, perennially single here. |
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By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago
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What would be the general definition of a 'serious' relationship?
I'd define it as living together.
At this point I could go for that only if the place was big/ had separate wings..(separate front doors/entrances even)🙃 |
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I was much happier when i was in a relationship before covid lockdown then things changed very quickly and i ended up single again.
Since then i've not really been in what i would call in a happy place and i miss those happier days. |
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