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"That they don’t want people to know.
I think that a lot of folks read a lot into it though "
I agree. Like most things on here people often put two and two together and get five. I know several couples who use it and they just don’t want people to know what they get upto - simple as that. |
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"Cheater Cheater Pumpkin Eater
Curious where the Pumpkins come into this? It's not Halloween
I have destroyed a few Horrors in my day though 
Doesn't everyone say it.
Have I made it up ?? 😅"
Your totally right. Just wonder where the pumpkins 🎃 fit in lol |
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"Cheater Cheater Pumpkin Eater
Curious where the Pumpkins come into this? It's not Halloween
Your totally right. Just wonder where the pumpkins 🎃 fit in lol"
“Cheater, cheater, pumpkin eater" is a playful, teasing rhyme used to call someone out for cheating or breaking a promise, not literally meaning someone eats pumpkins. It's a modern shout-out based on the older nursery rhyme, "Peter, Peter, pumpkin eater". “ |
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By *dalisqueWoman 9 weeks ago
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"Cheater Cheater Pumpkin Eater
Curious where the Pumpkins come into this? It's not Halloween
I have destroyed a few Horrors in my day though
Doesn't everyone say it.
Have I made it up ?? 😅
Your totally right. Just wonder where the pumpkins 🎃 fit in lol"
I think it is from Peter,Peter pumpkin eater ,however i don't know where it is from.
I am going to have to Google now! 😂 |
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By *dalisqueWoman 9 weeks ago
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"Cheater Cheater Pumpkin Eater
Curious where the Pumpkins come into this? It's not Halloween
Your totally right. Just wonder where the pumpkins 🎃 fit in lol
“Cheater, cheater, pumpkin eater" is a playful, teasing rhyme used to call someone out for cheating or breaking a promise, not literally meaning someone eats pumpkins. It's a modern shout-out based on the older nursery rhyme, "Peter, Peter, pumpkin eater". “"
Thank you .No Google required 🩵 |
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"Cheater Cheater Pumpkin Eater
Curious where the Pumpkins come into this? It's not Halloween
Your totally right. Just wonder where the pumpkins 🎃 fit in lol
“Cheater, cheater, pumpkin eater" is a playful, teasing rhyme used to call someone out for cheating or breaking a promise, not literally meaning someone eats pumpkins. It's a modern shout-out based on the older nursery rhyme, "Peter, Peter, pumpkin eater". “
Thank you .No Google required 🩵"
Brilliantly done. Thanks 👏 |
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By *FF23Man 9 weeks ago
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"Cheater Cheater Pumpkin Eater
Curious where the Pumpkins come into this? It's not Halloween
Your totally right. Just wonder where the pumpkins 🎃 fit in lol
“Cheater, cheater, pumpkin eater" is a playful, teasing rhyme used to call someone out for cheating or breaking a promise, not literally meaning someone eats pumpkins. It's a modern shout-out based on the older nursery rhyme, "Peter, Peter, pumpkin eater". “"
In fairness Peter fucking does love a pumpkin. So probably accurate. |
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For me i like discreet meets just simply because im bi and not out and perfectly happy and don't want to change that. No wife etc although i know that's people's first thought when people are asking for discretion as thats understandably |
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By *D40Couple 9 weeks ago
Durham |
Surprisingly some of these comments.
We are discreet because we have young children and wouldn’t want them finding out or our private lives discussed.
Discreet for single males we do tend to think they may be cheating, but again, potentially in high powered jobs.
Interesting listening to other peoples perspective on the subject though |
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By (user no longer on site) 9 weeks ago
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I thought it meant that we don't interact/acknowledge that we've been intimate together in public/in front of others unless we have each others permission/consent |
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By (user no longer on site) 9 weeks ago
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It’s for people who want this part of their life secret, ,from their families, work etc etc
Or, a married person who’s obviously cheating and wants anonymity. The same as a “straight” man or woman who loves the opposite sex, but feels uncomfortable about it being public. |
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It means things need to be done clandestinely and on the down low.
That immediately changes the "dynamic", because it means the other party (if they accept) are now complicit too.
That complicitly may harm another person in the joint deception.
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Perhaps there is no other "partner". And the individual seeking discretion has another reason. That needs some serious jaw-jaw and discussion.
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Bottom line is that when agreeing to "discretion", the person agreeing needs to be fully cognisant of the reason(s) why, because their complicitly might have the potential to harm another, and as such they need to be in possession of the full facts involved.
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It's easier to adopt a "Sounds like too much shady shit and drama to me" and move on.
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But on a serious note it could be
Religion
Relationship
Confidence
Famous
Work
Minimising stalker risks
Plus many others
Unfortunately one of those reasons takes the majority on here but I think it’s important not to assume.
Personally I’d like to hold hands in public
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Surely if you're on a swinging site discretion should be expected and automatically assumed. Anyone feeling the need to specifically mention the fact they are discreet is usually hiding something and giving you the heads up that if you blab you will be revealing something that will harm the people they love because of they actions- ie if it's mentioned then 90% of the time they're cheaters, 10% in the closet. Possibly both. |
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"Surely if you're on a swinging site discretion should be expected and automatically assumed. Anyone feeling the need to specifically mention the fact they are discreet is usually hiding something and giving you the heads up that if you blab you will be revealing something that will harm the people they love because of they actions- ie if it's mentioned then 90% of the time they're cheaters, 10% in the closet. Possibly both."
I’d say jobs too. Where is the percent for those ?
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"It’s for people who want this part of their life secret, ,from their families, work etc "
Very surprised by some of the comments. We don't want to walk down the street and have someone approach us randomly and start talking about last week's meeting in ear shot of friends or family. |
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"Discreet
What does it mean to you.
A x
Keeping what goes on to ourselves. "
Just exactly this, It doesn't mean i have a wife or partner i'm cheating on, I just like to keep my business to myself. |
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"It’s for people who want this part of their life secret, ,from their families, work etc
Very surprised by some of the comments. We don't want to walk down the street and have someone approach us randomly and start talking about last week's meeting in ear shot of friends or family. "
It's the need to state it that highlights something more I think.
People around me know about my lifestyle, but they don't know who I fuck, because I have basic respect for the people I engage with and their right to privacy. This isn't being discreet, it's just being a reasonably decent human.
I don't consider myself modest, but I don't walk down the street with my tits and flaps out. Just adhering to standard social norms shouldn't need to be specified 💜 |
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"Discreet
What does it mean to you.
A x
Keeping what goes on to ourselves.
Just exactly this, It doesn't mean i have a wife or partner i'm cheating on, I just like to keep my business to myself. "
But it makes anyone you swing with feel like a dirty secret. |
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"It’s for people who want this part of their life secret, ,from their families, work etc
Very surprised by some of the comments. We don't want to walk down the street and have someone approach us randomly and start talking about last week's meeting in ear shot of friends or family.
It's the need to state it that highlights something more I think.
People around me know about my lifestyle, but they don't know who I fuck, because I have basic respect for the people I engage with and their right to privacy. This isn't being discreet, it's just being a reasonably decent human.
I don't consider myself modest, but I don't walk down the street with my tits and flaps out. Just adhering to standard social norms shouldn't need to be specified 💜"
It shouldn't need to be stated and should be expected. Unfortunately, there are some that think it's okay to shout about it at inappropriate times. |
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"It shouldn't need to be stated and should be expected. Unfortunately, there are some that think it's okay to shout about it at inappropriate times."
Exactly.
And, like people who directly tell you they're nice people, or respectful, those who feel the need to tell everyone that they are are often the ones most incapable of demonstrating it 💜 |
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we totally agree …. we want to keep our lifestyle hobby totally separate from our work, family and vanilla friends as sadly there still is a stigma and misunderstanding of what the lifestyle is all about  |
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Back when i started, it was the default and discretion was highly valued across the scene.
Somewhere, it morphed in to you requiring to have the sexual history of anyone you've had any attraction to, signed by the head of MI5 and displayed on Fab with your address and a picture of your ringpiece  |
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"Ask yourselves, do I want my lifestyle known by all and sundry? If the answers no then……"
Exactly. I don’t want anyone in real life or on here knowing what I do or who I do it with so if discreet puts someone off that’s good as they definitely won’t be for me |
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"Ask yourselves, do I want my lifestyle known by all and sundry? If the answers no then……
Exactly. I don’t want anyone in real life or on here knowing what I do or who I do it with so if discreet puts someone off that’s good as they definitely won’t be for me "
Exactly this. |
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Surely discretion is the batter part of valour. I dont necessarily want my private life potentially discussed in work environments or neighbours etc. What goes on behind my closed door is my business only |
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To me it can mean one of two things...
Either they're cheating or that they don't want it broadcasted.
I have had situations where I've been out with non swinger friends and people have recognised me and have talked swinger. I had to cut the chat off and tell them to nicely go away as it's not the place. Luckily my friends didn't catch on as it was a crowded bar |
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I'm surprised how many people here assume it is because someone is married &/or cheating
For me, discretion means that whatever happens between two people stays between those people and isn't blabbed to friends (swinging friends or otherwise)
Discretion is also part of the reason I never publically show a verification
Any veri I give is never sexual - more a confirmation that the person is real, was good natured and I was happy we met
It is no one else's business who I meet, under what circumstances and what went down
I am open that I am not single, but even when I was here genuinely single, the same rules applied
Discretion, for me, has more to do with the wish to keep my private life as private as I am comfortable with
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Won’t go gossiping to friends/neighbours/work colleagues.
I know one particular woman in Carlisle, who worked in a popular city centre shop, would show pics of guys who had messaged her in Fab to her work mates…..  |
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I certainly don't want anyone to be the opposite of discreet so it's not a word that concerns me.
But agree it should be a given, and not something you need to advertise as if it's a selling point. |
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In the case of couples I get it. Swinging is frowned upon and no one wants their business being gossiped about at the school gate.
When I see discrete written on a guys profile I assume it means they are cheating or are willing to fuck you but not be seen with you.
I'm not sure I've ever seen it on a single woman's profile.
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"Surely if you're on a swinging site discretion should be expected and automatically assumed. Anyone feeling the need to specifically mention the fact they are discreet is usually hiding something and giving you the heads up that if you blab you will be revealing something that will harm the people they love because of they actions- ie if it's mentioned then 90% of the time they're cheaters, 10% in the closet. Possibly both.
I’d say jobs too. Where is the percent for those ?
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It’s quite amusing when people confide/blab to me about work colleagues who are swingers, and use a site called Fabswingers to meet people for sex. It affirms to me, that I know how to be discreet…..  |
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"Surely if you're on a swinging site discretion should be expected and automatically assumed. Anyone feeling the need to specifically mention the fact they are discreet is usually hiding something and giving you the heads up that if you blab you will be revealing something that will harm the people they love because of they actions- ie if it's mentioned then 90% of the time they're cheaters, 10% in the closet. Possibly both.
I’d say jobs too. Where is the percent for those ?
It’s quite amusing when people confide/blab to me about work colleagues who are swingers, and use a site called Fabswingers to meet people for sex. It affirms to me, that I know how to be discreet….. "
Do you ask 'how do you know that?'
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"Surely if you're on a swinging site discretion should be expected and automatically assumed. Anyone feeling the need to specifically mention the fact they are discreet is usually hiding something and giving you the heads up that if you blab you will be revealing something that will harm the people they love because of they actions- ie if it's mentioned then 90% of the time they're cheaters, 10% in the closet. Possibly both.
I’d say jobs too. Where is the percent for those ?
It’s quite amusing when people confide/blab to me about work colleagues who are swingers, and use a site called Fabswingers to meet people for sex. It affirms to me, that I know how to be discreet…..
Do you ask 'how do you know that?'
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No, I just went along with what they were telling me, being nonchalant at the same time as wondering if they were trying to out me, because they had found my Fab profile…. |
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"Discreet
What does it mean to you.
A x "
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They could be a member of the armed forces, a member of parliament, a civil servant of the MoD, a signatory of the Official Secrets Act, a celebratory, a socialite or married...to the mob. |
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By (user no longer on site) 9 weeks ago
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"It’s for people who want this part of their life secret, ,from their families, work etc
Very surprised by some of the comments. We don't want to walk down the street and have someone approach us randomly and start talking about last week's meeting in ear shot of friends or family. "
Exactly.
Sex lives are private for most people. Everyone is discreet about them, so why should being on here be any different. |
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By (user no longer on site) 9 weeks ago
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"Discreet
What does it mean to you.
A x
If a single man says it, I think cheating.
Couples, embarrassed of the scene! "
Why would you want family, friends, work colleagues, to know about your sex life?
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To me, it means they want to keep this part of their lives to themselves and don't want people they know finding out etc.
I wouldn't necessarily assume it meant someone was cheating, unless there were other pointers to it on their profiles. |
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By *ojanMan 9 weeks ago
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"To me, it means they want to keep this part of their lives to themselves and don't want people they know finding out etc.
I wouldn't necessarily assume it meant someone was cheating, unless there were other pointers to it on their profiles. "
i totally agree with you there it’s sometimes people do not want their family members friends and working colleagues to know exactly what they do in their private lives it’s not always about cheating or anything sinister |
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Could be cheating like me, or could be because of work like me.
I don't want to mix work and this. If I think I know someone I just block them. 🤷🏽♂️
But if you ask I'm sure you'll get an honest answer... 👍🏼 |
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Discretion is usually expected in the swinging world, and most other situations. If someone feels the need to point out they are discreet its a red flag for me.
If you need more discretion than you would normally expect from anyone invited to share something intimate then you are hiding something.
Most of the time it's a partner but I do accept there are other reasons, it's not actually for me to judge.
However, it is a prerequisite for me that a social happens in a public space. If your need for discretion means not being seen having a coffee with another human being in Costa then I will not be partaking in a conversation.
I need discretion for several reasons but I still get put off by someone claiming they are discrete on their profile. |
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"Discretion is usually expected in the swinging world, and most other situations. If someone feels the need to point out they are discreet its a red flag for me.
If you need more discretion than you would normally expect from anyone invited to share something intimate then you are hiding something.
Most of the time it's a partner but I do accept there are other reasons, it's not actually for me to judge.
However, it is a prerequisite for me that a social happens in a public space. If your need for discretion means not being seen having a coffee with another human being in Costa then I will not be partaking in a conversation.
I need discretion for several reasons but I still get put off by someone claiming they are discrete on their profile. "
Makes no sense, discretion has nothing to do with being seen in public.
If I didn't want to be seen in public with you, I'd ask to be secretive.
Also you are saying that you want discretion, but, you don't want people to say they're discreet. 😂
When I say discreet, it's because depending on the person I'd meet, they may not want to be approached in the street, or they won't necessarily want to talk about Fab or swinging in public.
And as for myself I don't want my face plastered about on the internet, and because of my previous above.
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Personally I don’t want what we do getting out to friends and family and my job is a job that would probably go out the window if our lifestyle did get out.
What people choose to do in the bedroom is no one else’s business, if we pass someone in the town that we have met before (never happened) then we would just walk on by.
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To it means people don't want to let other people know about what they do here. But also they want to leave some details of their life private to people they meet (especially phone number).
Im always rant about who blocks discreet people who doesn't want to give phone number away... |
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By *andydan69Man 5 weeks ago
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"Personally I don’t want what we do getting out to friends and family and my job is a job that would probably go out the window if our lifestyle did get out.
What people choose to do in the bedroom is no one else’s business, if we pass someone in the town that we have met before (never happened) then we would just walk on by.
Mrs "
exactly this |
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I've never understood the assumption that the unlikely scenario of being outed as a swinger will somehow make you a pariah.
If you're that risk averse, then don't do it.
If you signed a morality clause for your job, then don't do it.
Simples |
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By (user no longer on site) 5 weeks ago
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"Cheating. Always. The whole "because of my job" shtick only really applies if you're Jeremy Thorpe"
I want discreet meets. I am completely single but I don't want the whole neighborhood or my kids to find out I am on Fab swinging... |
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"Cheating. Always. The whole "because of my job" shtick only really applies if you're Jeremy Thorpe
I want discreet meets. I am completely single but I don't want the whole neighborhood or my kids to find out I am on Fab swinging..."
I think you're missing the point. Certain attributes are surely taken for granted and don't need highlighting as some sort of amazing USP or self pat on the back.
"No drama" - That's a pity. I genuinely choose drama if it's available
"Fun" - just in case you prefer dour and joyless partners
"Clean" - you old romantic, you
"No pressure" - my personal favorite because most people buzz on being pressured.
Discreet is always code for "FFS don't let my wife find out" |
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"I've never understood the assumption that the unlikely scenario of being outed as a swinger will somehow make you a pariah.
If you're that risk averse, then don't do it.
If you signed a morality clause for your job, then don't do it.
Simples"
Some of us have family who would take a lot of flak if other family members, their partners or friends found out where even on a websites with swingers in the title.
It could cause a lot of trouble for them, which can be avoided by being discreet.
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"I've never understood the assumption that the unlikely scenario of being outed as a swinger will somehow make you a pariah.
If you're that risk averse, then don't do it.
If you signed a morality clause for your job, then don't do it.
Simples
Some of us have family who would take a lot of flak if other family members, their partners or friends found out where even on a websites with swingers in the title.
It could cause a lot of trouble for them, which can be avoided by being discreet.
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You have family that will give you "flak" for discovering you have a sex life? Do you need to get their approval for other things you do in your personal and private life? |
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I don’t see a problem with people wanting to be discreet about their personal lives and I don’t automatically assume people that want to be are married.
Personally I would prefer my family, friends and children not to know what we do for fun. It’s our business and not anyone else's xx
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In our case we have an active vanilla life and we are keen to keep our fun and sexy hobby separate from work, family and vanilla friends as sadly there is still to many judgements people in this world … |
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"It can mean a lot of things. Ask the person. "
You would think that would be common sense wouldn't you than making unfounded judgements about how others choose to present themselves. Once you know the reasons then can decide if that person is for you on not. In my opinion anyway. |
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By *lex46TV/TS 5 weeks ago
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For me, it means I don’t want the neighbours finding out that I have men visiting me house because I want sex with those men wearing ladies clothes.
Away from my small country village, I don’t feel the need to be discreet. |
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"Discreet
What does it mean to you.
A x "
To me, it's the complete opposite of attention seeking, it's the ability at arrive and leave without alarming the curtain twitchers. It's the ability to be unflustered when challanged and appearing no more than an old friend dropping by for a catchup.
Maybe it's easier to say what it isn't than what it is??? |
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By *dnxyzMan 4 weeks ago
LondonX |
"I don’t see a problem with people wanting to be discreet about their personal lives and I don’t automatically assume people that want to be are married.
Personally I would prefer my family, friends and children not to know what we do for fun. It’s our business and not anyone else's xx
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This! |
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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago
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"I don’t see a problem with people wanting to be discreet about their personal lives and I don’t automatically assume people that want to be are married.
Personally I would prefer my family, friends and children not to know what we do for fun. It’s our business and not anyone else's xx
So privacy ?
This!"
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By *dnxyzMan 4 weeks ago
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"I don’t see a problem with people wanting to be discreet about their personal lives and I don’t automatically assume people that want to be are married.
Personally I would prefer my family, friends and children not to know what we do for fun. It’s our business and not anyone else's xx
So privacy ?
This!"
Yes. Separate from our private life... but open within the community and wiling to play |
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By *r Bond.Man 4 weeks ago
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"Discreet
What does it mean to you.
A x "
To me it means not having the pictures and videos taken when I meet with people flashed around to people who weren’t there.
That applies to me and the people i meet. |
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"It means being a dirty little secret. So I'd prefer not to engage 💜"
Pretty much this.
I get a lot of messages, but when I say "great, let's meet at a club" I get a variation on "oh I don't do clubs".
I'm not putting myself at risk by travelling to a strange house to meet people i don't know.
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I think a lot people assume it means attached but if you have a job in your local community let’s say a teacher, you might not want all the parents at the school knowing you’re a swinger!
Plus some people just like to keep these things private and that’s ok too! Certainly doesn’t bother me, I think actually an element of discretion can be pretty hot in the right circumstances! |
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"A married person cheating "
You didn't show your face in any picture. So you are being discreet...
Does this mean that you are "cheating" on your partner ?
Presumably you have other reasons for being discreet too.
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"I think a lot people assume it means attached but if you have a job in your local community let’s say a teacher, you might not want all the parents at the school knowing you’re a swinger!
Plus some people just like to keep these things private and that’s ok too! Certainly doesn’t bother me, I think actually an element of discretion can be pretty hot in the right circumstances! "
yes I agree - I initially think 'attached' but it's easy enough to ask and sometimes it is about jobs... if someone takes the time to explain that in a profile then all good. If its a dick pic profile and the blurb just says 'seeing what's out there' or 'daytimes good' then I'm offski. |
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By *avinaTVTV/TS 4 weeks ago
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To me it means they don't want to make their private activities obvious.
Maybe they're cheating on a partner, sure.
But maybe they have a sensitive job, or perhaps they would prefer their families, vanilla friends, or neighbours don't know?
I'm discreet, even though I'm widowed and single, and theoretically can do wtf I like. But I'm not out to family, and I sure as hell don't need my neighbours knowing - for one thing there are three families with kids ranging from 5 to 13 nearby, and I can just imagine the potential for unpleasantness if they were aware I dressed.
So no, discreet can have all sorts of motivations.
Oh, and "discrete" means having the quality of being able to be divided into individually identifiable, cohesive units. Like packets of data, or quantised energy levels, or teabags.
(Pet peeve).
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"I think a lot people assume it means attached but if you have a job in your local community let’s say a teacher, you might not want all the parents at the school knowing you’re a swinger!
Plus some people just like to keep these things private and that’s ok too! Certainly doesn’t bother me, I think actually an element of discretion can be pretty hot in the right circumstances!
yes I agree - I initially think 'attached' but it's easy enough to ask and sometimes it is about jobs... if someone takes the time to explain that in a profile then all good. If its a dick pic profile and the blurb just says 'seeing what's out there' or 'daytimes good' then I'm offski."
Ohh 100% it’s about explaining it or asking about it. If it’s a concern for you, it’s an easy one right? I see you need discretion, do you mind telling me why? But then again fab and nuanced conversation don’t always go together haha! |
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