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I don’t like banter
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By *rHotNotts OP Man 9 weeks ago
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I really don’t and if anybody ever asks me how am I ? or how’s your day big turn off, how bloody boring hey?
I mean, I don’t wanna discuss postmodern American feminist literature of the 21st century on the first date, for a start I can’t stand Jermaine Greer, but somewhere between that and how are you?
Do you like the banter? |
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"I really don’t and if anybody ever asks me how am I ? or how’s your day big turn off, how bloody boring hey?
I mean, I don’t wanna discuss postmodern American feminist literature of the 21st century on the first date, for a start I can’t stand Jermaine Greer, but somewhere between that and how are you?
Do you like the banter?"
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I don't like unimaginative small talk...if that's what you mean.
I do like banter if it's funny and clever... |
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By *rHotNotts OP Man 9 weeks ago
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"No
But then I don't like talking in general  "
I can’t remember where I read it. It was possibly a Laura Marling lyric but something about we should all speak about 50% of what we do. It’s nice when there is less and it’s still comfortable. |
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By *rHotNotts OP Man 9 weeks ago
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"Yes I love it, would like to openly reply to some of the status’s I see on here, so many belter reply’s never see the light of day."
Here’s some of my recent status updates. Please go ahead so we can learn from a real master.
I’m bored
Avin pizza 4 T
Ask me anyfing
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By *rHotNotts OP Man 9 weeks ago
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"I really don’t and if anybody ever asks me how am I ? or how’s your day big turn off, how bloody boring hey?
I mean, I don’t wanna discuss postmodern American feminist literature of the 21st century on the first date, for a start I can’t stand Jermaine Greer, but somewhere between that and how are you?
Do you like the banter?..
I don't like unimaginative small talk...if that's what you mean.
I do like banter if it's funny and clever..."
Oh, you mean like wit? Yeah that’s alright. |
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"No
But then I don't like talking in general
I can’t remember where I read it. It was possibly a Laura Marling lyric but something about we should all speak about 50% of what we do. It’s nice when there is less and it’s still comfortable."
I'm good with 10% talking lol |
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By *rHotNotts OP Man 9 weeks ago
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"Awww I love having banter with someone. I need light relief from the seriousness of life sometimes - I’d get bored if there was no banter"
You know what you have a very valid point.
I actually really like banter, it’s great init, how’s your day ? |
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There's banter and banter. The trick is to banter with others similar to yourself.
e.g. name calling is not banter
bouncing off what someone says and making an intelligent or witty clip is.
I hate small talk....... I don't engage in it often but I do like a facetious bit of banter.. I'm serious at times too. Well ...... most times
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By *rHotNotts OP Man 9 weeks ago
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"I love banter it makes it fun x"
I must be experiencing really bad banter then how are you? I’m fine I say, gud she says yes it is good isn’t it ? Appy Daze she says I’m very confused now. Is she fonzy? |
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"I really don’t and if anybody ever asks me how am I ? or how’s your day big turn off, how bloody boring hey?
I mean, I don’t wanna discuss postmodern American feminist literature of the 21st century on the first date, for a start I can’t stand Jermaine Greer, but somewhere between that and how are you?
Do you like the banter?"
You call that banter? 
I’m actually 50 percent with you, if anyone says they have good banter or boast how good they are (I actually know someone who does that) i roll my eyes. It’s not the best trait in the world, there’s much better things to be good at.
But, I do spot people I can have a laugh with, a bit of back and forth is good. |
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By *rHotNotts OP Man 9 weeks ago
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"There's banter and banter. The trick is to banter with others similar to yourself.
e.g. name calling is not banter
bouncing off what someone says and making an intelligent or witty clip is.
I hate small talk....... I don't engage in it often but I do like a facetious bit of banter.. I'm serious at times too. Well ...... most times
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Yes this, I think it’s the small talk I don’t like. If banter is funny and sexy & the popular people like it than I think I like it really….. we can change our minds, can’t we? |
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By (user no longer on site) 9 weeks ago
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You don’t banter ! "
Wouldn't want to do it accidently!! 😆
I do get what you're saying though. Those conversations don't last longer than a few responses. I get more joy talking to my cat. And he's an idiot. Who ignores me mostly. |
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"Yes I love it, would like to openly reply to some of the status’s I see on here, so many belter reply’s never see the light of day.
Here’s some of my recent status updates. Please go ahead so we can learn from a real master.
I’m bored
Avin pizza 4 T
Ask me anyfing
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I see your point lol, I wouldn’t engage with that either. |
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By *rHotNotts OP Man 9 weeks ago
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"I quite enjoy frivolous, seemingly silly chat between friends but I hate nasty, hateful, hurtful comments given under the banner of so called "banter" or "bants".
Ban the Bants!!!"
Yeah, there’s never any need for that
is there? |
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Yes exactly as has been said - small talk is boring. Banter shows personality and that's a very attractive quality. Banter is fun and cheeky. Small talk is like pulling teeth until you can escape.
Banter is a must. |
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By *rHotNotts OP Man 9 weeks ago
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"I am with you OP. “Banter” just feels like someone trying too hard most of the time. I read most of the inane drivel and think “Really? That’s the most interesting thing you could come up with?”"
Exactly this there’s been people I would love to message but unless I can think of something interesting or funny I tend not to. I find it quite disrespectful. |
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By (user no longer on site) 9 weeks ago
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"No
But then I don't like talking in general "
Pretty much this.
Plus if I talk too much they'll just realise I'm very boring and then they won't want to bang me. |
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"No
But then I don't like talking in general
Pretty much this.
Plus if I talk too much they'll just realise I'm very boring and then they won't want to bang me. "
I want to bang you to stop you talking.  |
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By (user no longer on site) 9 weeks ago
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"No
But then I don't like talking in general
Pretty much this.
Plus if I talk too much they'll just realise I'm very boring and then they won't want to bang me.
I want to bang you to stop you talking. "
It's the accent isn't it? |
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"No
But then I don't like talking in general
Pretty much this.
Plus if I talk too much they'll just realise I'm very boring and then they won't want to bang me.
I want to bang you to stop you talking.
It's the accent isn't it?"
^that was banter. |
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"There's banter and banter. The trick is to banter with others similar to yourself.
e.g. name calling is not banter
bouncing off what someone says and making an intelligent or witty clip is.
I hate small talk....... I don't engage in it often but I do like a facetious bit of banter.. I'm serious at times too. Well ...... most times
Yes this, I think it’s the small talk I don’t like. If banter is funny and sexy & the popular people like it than I think I like it really….. we can change our minds, can’t we? "
Of course 'we' can. 'We' can be contrarian bantarians. |
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If someone asks me how I am then I will tell them, if they just meant it as stroke economy pleasantness, they usually don't do it again - and at best we exchange smiles.
How are you? isn't banter or a superficial question to me. I think it's an act of respect and consideration to see how someone is, before wading into what I'm interested in.
Feminism is a fairly interesting topic, I'd be more interested in discussing Chiara Bottici's work which draws a parallel between AnarchAfeminism and contemporary Intersectionality/Kyriarchical analysis. If it's going to be one of those when it suits gender essentialism vacillations where someone is showing me memes of JK Rowling smoking a cigar. And my function is to validate that they are right - then I'll probably get a bit bored.
And that's really what it's about for me: how we converse, the openness, desire to understand, playfulness. Deep or trivial topics. I'll cut all the crap and get right down to fundamental beliefs and values. I want to know what makes someone tick and I am looking for the same.
Felt experience is important too, otherwise it all just gets kept in our headspace. |
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By (user no longer on site) 9 weeks ago
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"I really don’t and if anybody ever asks me how am I ? or how’s your day big turn off, how bloody boring .....somewhere between that and how are you?
Do you like the banter?"
This is a difficult one. Sometimes you need a filler sentence because you're often sending a cold message with no idea how the person will respond.
I try to assume the people (due to being on here) can accept a bit naughty or more forward. Therefore I try include a few funny questions or thought provoking statements.
Until I know the person's vibe it can be difficult.
Hope that made sense xx |
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I think you are confusing small talk with Banter. Small talk is throw away comments or questions. Example: how are you? What lovely weather we are having today. Or you alright?. They are conversation starters but no one generally cares for the answers.
Banter is a jokey light hearted conservation with some wit and maybe poking fun at someone very gently. It's shows you are sharp witted, charismatic and that you have a personality. Or in other words it shows you are a fun person to be with.
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I have sexually charged banter with my long term partner, other women would find offensive.
I don't consider being asked how I am as banter. Was that what you were saying?
If conversation was all seriousness and grey my brain would turn off.
I have found that serious talkers tend to be less inclined to listen to my opinion too.
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"I really don’t and if anybody ever asks me how am I ? or how’s your day big turn off, how bloody boring hey?
I mean, I don’t wanna discuss postmodern American feminist literature of the 21st century on the first date, for a start I can’t stand Jermaine Greer, but somewhere between that and how are you?
Do you like the banter?"
She tells some wild stories. |
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