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We have saturated the site, and most think it’s a quick fix the get knee deep in clunge, then the frustrations come when we find out we actually have to put effort in to meet people….. who knew 🤷♂️ |
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I don't think they're repelled but a lot of the questions you have can probably be answered by the sheer number of them (myself included).
It's an oversaturation, can be overwhelming, and can lead to a fatigue among women and couples seeing the same thing from a lot of men they come across. I can see why they become a bit spiky and defensive but there is a place for men on here! Don't lose hope and the right people will come along  |
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OP, if you take a good look around male profiles on here, you may notice not all single men are "repelled" on here. There are some that are, actually, doing really well. However, there is, usually, one common denominator between the men doing well on here, and it has nothing to do with age, looks or size of their cock. |
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"Why are single guys so repelled here on fab?
Or is this facility the preserve of couples and f only?"
Most will look at your profile before your message.
Yours is basically blank so it falls into the category of messages that are generally ignored.
Add some decent photos and a bio and you might see an improvement when women can see who you are and what you look like
Dicks are dime a dozen. |
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Woman do like single guys they just put boundaries on their profiles for their own sanity, hundreds of messages a day makes it hard to interact with the ones they like.
They have their own fantasy’s to make real if your profile matches what they are looking for they will get in touch.
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Most profiles that are blank or lacking in effort, will be overlooked op, for the ones that have detailed text and some varied pictures.
Lots of single men do well on here, but they put effort in their messages and bios and often attend socials too. |
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There is absolutely nothing to guage interest and attraction on lots of single guys profiles.
Why would we meet a single guy who can't be bothered to put any effort into their profile? It makes us wonder if they'll stick to boundaries, gain consent, be a nice person and critically... Turn up!
People that are looking for single guys will just move on to the next one in that case, as there is loads of single guys to choose from, many who do fill in their profiles.
(Mandatory "this is not profile advice, this is an observation of the majority of SM profiles" disclaimer!) |
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"Why are single guys so repelled here on fab?
Or is this facility the preserve of couples and f only?"
As others have said, there's MANY more single men than single ladies or couples.
Successful men tend to have profiles that sell themselves well and highlight their personality. Women have oodles of choice. You need to give them a reason to want to interact with you. |
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"Woman do like single guys they just put boundaries on their profiles for their own sanity, hundreds of messages a day makes it hard to interact with the ones they like.
They have their own fantasy’s to make real if your profile matches what they are looking for they will get in touch.
Yep this
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It's not just the numbers, it's the attitude of the weirdos, like the prick who messaged me out of the blue a photo of his A hole, even though I am straight. He never read my profile and I'm guessing sent it to a lot of other guys too.
I don't know why these gay guys are on here. They should be on their own gay site. |
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Only a very tiny minority of people will even be mutually compatible. Assuming they all had some chance, it's going to seem like a slug because all are looking for a needle in a haystack
It requires effort and implementing what you learn as you progress |
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"It's not just the numbers, it's the attitude of the weirdos, like the prick who messaged me out of the blue a photo of his A hole, even though I am straight. He never read my profile and I'm guessing sent it to a lot of other guys too.
I don't know why these gay guys are on here. They should be on their own gay site."
Please explain this last paragraph of yours?
So gay woman can be on here as they don’t have their own site?
What is your issue with having gay men on here?
Just block all men from messaging you. |
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By *hechonkyduoCouple 9 weeks ago
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"It's not just the numbers, it's the attitude of the weirdos, like the prick who messaged me out of the blue a photo of his A hole, even though I am straight. He never read my profile and I'm guessing sent it to a lot of other guys too.
I don't know why these gay guys are on here. They should be on their own gay site."
A single guy gets treated like the ladies and couples do on here and suddenly it's a problem 😂 |
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"It's not just the numbers, it's the attitude of the weirdos, like the prick who messaged me out of the blue a photo of his A hole, even though I am straight. He never read my profile and I'm guessing sent it to a lot of other guys too.
I don't know why these gay guys are on here. They should be on their own gay site."
I get messages from straight guys who are curious?
Who am I to deny helping them out!  |
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By (user no longer on site) 9 weeks ago
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They do the repelling themselves (many not all)
The ones that speak to you like some disposable cum bucket not a human.
The ones who's little ego can't take a no thank you and bombard you with abuse even though 2 mins ago you were the most beautiful thing on earth now your a fat entitled cunt because you won't fuck them.
Then there's the ones who think they are entitled to sex purely because you are here, the woah me, the desperate, the crying on the forums because they can't get their dick wet yet they messaged 100 people.
There's the ones that think having 1730 cock pics from different angles while pulled back as far as possible to gain an extra cm think because they've shown their appendage everyone should be grateful to see it & gets upset when you don't want to.
The ones where there's zero effort in the profile, one line, dirty pics or even worse their wife's belongings in there and they expect you to make effort in replying they can't even make an effort in their own shop window.
So to summarize many men don't have a clue about their target audience, those that do do well, those that don't get their ego bruised over and over but it's always someone else's fault.
There's some decent guys here however the majority aren't.
The men folk repel themselves they don't need help. |
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By *agic.MMan 9 weeks ago
Orpington |
"They do the repelling themselves (many not all)
The ones that speak to you like some disposable cum bucket not a human.
The ones who's little ego can't take a no thank you and bombard you with abuse even though 2 mins ago you were the most beautiful thing on earth now your a fat entitled cunt because you won't fuck them.
Then there's the ones who think they are entitled to sex purely because you are here, the woah me, the desperate, the crying on the forums because they can't get their dick wet yet they messaged 100 people.
There's the ones that think having 1730 cock pics from different angles while pulled back as far as possible to gain an extra cm think because they've shown their appendage everyone should be grateful to see it & gets upset when you don't want to.
The ones where there's zero effort in the profile, one line, dirty pics or even worse their wife's belongings in there and they expect you to make effort in replying they can't even make an effort in their own shop window.
So to summarize many men don't have a clue about their target audience, those that do do well, those that don't get their ego bruised over and over but it's always someone else's fault.
There's some decent guys here however the majority aren't.
The men folk repel themselves they don't need help."
Nope...Still women's fault |
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I don't think it's either of those. Fact is there are far more single men on here than any other, so a majority are going to get overlooked. Add to the fact that a percentage act like complete tools and entitled jackass's. The rest of us end up getting tared with the same brush. So I can't blame them for being careful and choosy. I could spend years on here and not meet a single person outside a club or event and I'd be okay with that. |
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"They do the repelling themselves (many not all)
The ones that speak to you like some disposable cum bucket not a human.
The ones who's little ego can't take a no thank you and bombard you with abuse even though 2 mins ago you were the most beautiful thing on earth now your a fat entitled cunt because you won't fuck them.
Then there's the ones who think they are entitled to sex purely because you are here, the woah me, the desperate, the crying on the forums because they can't get their dick wet yet they messaged 100 people.
There's the ones that think having 1730 cock pics from different angles while pulled back as far as possible to gain an extra cm think because they've shown their appendage everyone should be grateful to see it & gets upset when you don't want to.
The ones where there's zero effort in the profile, one line, dirty pics or even worse their wife's belongings in there and they expect you to make effort in replying they can't even make an effort in their own shop window.
So to summarize many men don't have a clue about their target audience, those that do do well, those that don't get their ego bruised over and over but it's always someone else's fault.
There's some decent guys here however the majority aren't.
The men folk repel themselves they don't need help."
Yeah I should have pointed at this one. 👆 It's said far more eloquently. |
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As many have said. Lots of guys put zero thought into what their target audience (couples, females, other men etc) would find attractive. They would be useless car salesmen; all cars have wheels, seats, bodywork and can be driven. The whole package needs to be appealing, not just its performance! In any communication, your personality and desirability needs to shine. Read their profile, work out how you can satisfy their desires and tailor a message accordingly. If you do, there is a better chance of being considered but you are still one of many. If you don't, you get what you deserve! |
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"They do the repelling themselves (many not all)
The ones that speak to you like some disposable cum bucket not a human.
The ones who's little ego can't take a no thank you and bombard you with abuse even though 2 mins ago you were the most beautiful thing on earth now your a fat entitled cunt because you won't fuck them.
Then there's the ones who think they are entitled to sex purely because you are here, the woah me, the desperate, the crying on the forums because they can't get their dick wet yet they messaged 100 people.
There's the ones that think having 1730 cock pics from different angles while pulled back as far as possible to gain an extra cm think because they've shown their appendage everyone should be grateful to see it & gets upset when you don't want to.
The ones where there's zero effort in the profile, one line, dirty pics or even worse their wife's belongings in there and they expect you to make effort in replying they can't even make an effort in their own shop window.
So to summarize many men don't have a clue about their target audience, those that do do well, those that don't get their ego bruised over and over but it's always someone else's fault.
There's some decent guys here however the majority aren't.
The men folk repel themselves they don't need help.
Nope...Still women's fault "
It always is 😂 |
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We’ve met some lovely single guys from fab so we’re not repelling them. A decent profile, a nice message and some good pics goes a long way when you’re outnumbered and trying to catch someone’s eye xx 😘 |
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"Why are single guys so repelled here on fab?
Or is this facility the preserve of couples and f only?"
We see single guys who come on this site, make no effort whatsoever then moan on the forums because they feel disliked.
Certainly not all, but a substantial number.
Bizarre really. |
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I actually think fab is easier for single men…
Up close it may seem like women and couples have all the choice in a sea of single men….but when you stand back and look at the bigger picture….single men get much fewer of all the negatives of using a platform like this.
Caveat…if your aim is just sex with anyone then the above is less relevant. But if you are looking for something more…then I stand by the above |
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"Why are single guys so repelled here on fab?
Or is this facility the preserve of couples and f only?"
Perfect example just happened…
We get a wink. Go to their profile, no pics, not verified, not photo verified, not a site supporter and the profile text just says “fill in later” and they have been on over a year.
This is not uncommon, half the contacts we get are like this. Some will be site supporters, some will be photo verified, some will say “looking for fun”. Wow, no shit Sherlock!
You get out of this site what you put in to it. If there’s 100 single guys for every couple it stands to reason that you need to make yourself stand out from the crowd. |
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"They do the repelling themselves (many not all)
The ones that speak to you like some disposable cum bucket not a human.
The ones who's little ego can't take a no thank you and bombard you with abuse even though 2 mins ago you were the most beautiful thing on earth now your a fat entitled cunt because you won't fuck them.
Then there's the ones who think they are entitled to sex purely because you are here, the woah me, the desperate, the crying on the forums because they can't get their dick wet yet they messaged 100 people.
There's the ones that think having 1730 cock pics from different angles while pulled back as far as possible to gain an extra cm think because they've shown their appendage everyone should be grateful to see it & gets upset when you don't want to.
The ones where there's zero effort in the profile, one line, dirty pics or even worse their wife's belongings in there and they expect you to make effort in replying they can't even make an effort in their own shop window.
So to summarize many men don't have a clue about their target audience, those that do do well, those that don't get their ego bruised over and over but it's always someone else's fault.
There's some decent guys here however the majority aren't.
The men folk repel themselves they don't need help."
This!
I recently saw something that said a lot of men model themselves in the ways that they think other men would find them impressive, rather than what women actually want whilst dating etc. Made a lot of sense to me. |
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The answer is that they’re not.
Some are frustrated because the site isn’t giving them what they want or maybe they’re feeling entitled to sex and get vocal about that.
I do think though that for every single guy that’s frustrated and feeling entitled or being a bit of a dick, there is another guy that’s quietly going about their business and meeting people. The former is going to be loud and noticed more, the latter simply isn’t.
This is a case of looking where the noise isn’t.
Some people don’t want to meet solo guys, that’s their prerogative, others do.
Single guys aren’t maligned it’s the bad behaviour of some that is |
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"They do the repelling themselves (many not all)
The ones that speak to you like some disposable cum bucket not a human.
The ones who's little ego can't take a no thank you and bombard you with abuse even though 2 mins ago you were the most beautiful thing on earth now your a fat entitled cunt because you won't fuck them.
Then there's the ones who think they are entitled to sex purely because you are here, the woah me, the desperate, the crying on the forums because they can't get their dick wet yet they messaged 100 people.
There's the ones that think having 1730 cock pics from different angles while pulled back as far as possible to gain an extra cm think because they've shown their appendage everyone should be grateful to see it & gets upset when you don't want to.
The ones where there's zero effort in the profile, one line, dirty pics or even worse their wife's belongings in there and they expect you to make effort in replying they can't even make an effort in their own shop window.
So to summarize many men don't have a clue about their target audience, those that do do well, those that don't get their ego bruised over and over but it's always someone else's fault.
There's some decent guys here however the majority aren't.
The men folk repel themselves they don't need help.
This!
I recently saw something that said a lot of men model themselves in the ways that they think other men would find them impressive, rather than what women actually want whilst dating etc. Made a lot of sense to me."
Exactly, so many guys profile appeal to men not women, then they moan that they get views and fabs off men, like no shit Sherlock! |
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"Why are single guys so repelled here on fab?
Or is this facility the preserve of couples and f only?"
In my experience single men aren't repelled.
Successful men use all the tools Fab provides.
The ability to create and reply to meet requests.
The ability to host and attend social events.
The ability to research and connect with clubs.
The ability to post meets in a designated forum.
The ability to show your person in the forums.
The ability to send and receive messages with potential suitors.
And most importantly, create a good first impression in a profile, ideally with a biog that describes themselves, what they're looking for and what they offer, together with a portfolio of interesting photos.
Sadly too many men put zero effort into any of these and assume that women and couples will simply fuck every man that messages them, purely because they're here.
*that concludes my Ted Talk |
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"I don't think they're repelled but a lot of the questions you have can probably be answered by the sheer number of them (myself included).
It's an oversaturation, can be overwhelming, and can lead to a fatigue among women and couples seeing the same thing from a lot of men they come across. I can see why they become a bit spiky and defensive but there is a place for men on here! Don't lose hope and the right people will come along "
Sums it up well 😁 |
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It’s the sheer volume of men on the site, it’s like walking into a chocolate factory way too many to choose from in the end you’re either don’t have your sweet tooth anymore or you go with what you know. |
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By (user no longer on site) 9 weeks ago
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"Do you think there should be a cap of how many single guys should be on here ?"
No. The decent/ compatible ones are very few and far between. The rest are easy enough to ignore. |
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"Do you think there should be a cap of how many single guys should be on here ?
No, but they shouldn't be able to message without photo verification.
Opinions may vary"
I think that would have to apply to everyone because there’d be too many work arounds |
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"Do you think there should be a cap of how many single guys should be on here ?"
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The issue isn't that there are too many men on here. The crux is that there are far fewer women to balance the numbers. |
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We look for single gents who know how to conduct themselves, are actually single, looking for regular rather than one offs (so localish) and don’t take themselves too seriously…
Our preferences are in our profile  |
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I’m not a single guy anymore but I was one when I first joined fab & still partake in swinging as a solo guy as well with my partner.
This site will have you feeling that way OP but it’s far from the truth. Get offline, go out there to events, mingle with people in a respectful way with decorum and you’ll find there’s a very huge population of the swinging community who welcome men with open arms.
I’ve had this account for the best part of 5 years, been verified 257 times with 173 of those verifications coming from single women…
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By *rlandoMan 9 weeks ago
Scunthorpe |
Ha ha !! Distorted reality here!
Swinging is a very "niche " activity
Just because "some people " have a profile, doesn't t mean they are swingers...
Loads of guys thinking , " I must be doing something wrong " here ..
If ypu want to meet a single female try a dating site , they at least answer back .. Good luck...
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I guess meeting single men could be quite scary for some females and even couples. The usual case of a minority of dick heads ruining it for us all. All we can do as the majority is to continue as the well mannered and respectful people that we are. X |
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It is working out for me, lots of straight male who would like wank buddy to watch porn together , very often. Or he writes to me and he would like to suck someone and nobody to know, I can be very discreet. |
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"Do you think there should be a cap of how many single guys should be on here ?
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The issue isn't that there are too many men on here. The crux is that there are far fewer women to balance the numbers."
And gentlemen of a certain calibre my fine friend.
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"Do you think there should be a cap of how many single guys should be on here ?
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The issue isn't that there are too many men on here. The crux is that there are far fewer women to balance the numbers."
For the entitled and lazy: there could be 1,000 women to 1 man and he still wouldn't get a look in. It's not down to a lack of women, it's a lack of attractive propositions.
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"Do you think there should be a cap of how many single guys should be on here ?
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The issue isn't that there are too many men on here. The crux is that there are far fewer women to balance the numbers.
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For the entitled and lazy: there could be 1,000 women to 1 man and he still wouldn't get a look in. It's not down to a lack of women, it's a lack of attractive propositions.
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Yes, I know. I've lost my touch. Sorry. I should give up this lark. 😢 |
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By *bi HaiveMan 9 weeks ago
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"Why are single guys so repelled here on fab?
Or is this facility the preserve of couples and f only?"
It's often a self fulfilling prophecy, based on behaviour, effort put in to profiles and levels of expectancy.
And no. This isn't a place just for couples and women.
The numbers and ratios mean nothing.
Nobody is 'tarred with the same brush'.
We're all responsible for our own enjoyment of the site, our own 'luck' and our own interactions. Nobody else's. Not one thing anyone else does will ever affect me and neither will anything I do have any impact on someone else. 🤷♂️ |
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"Do you think there should be a cap of how many single guys should be on here ?
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The issue isn't that there are too many men on here. The crux is that there are far fewer women to balance the numbers.
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For the entitled and lazy: there could be 1,000 women to 1 man and he still wouldn't get a look in. It's not down to a lack of women, it's a lack of attractive propositions.
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Yes, I know. I've lost my touch. Sorry. I should give up this lark. 😢"
That was certainly not aimed at you, Nero. So much so, I didn't think cause to state it x
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