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By (user no longer on site) OP 9 weeks ago
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Does it matter what others think of you?
I was told once when you look in the mirror the only person you have to like or say they did their best to is the reflection |
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The people I care about, what they think matters. And as a recovering people pleaser I do perhaps still care too much about other people's opinion. But I'm getting better at saying 'fuck that shit!' |
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The opinion of those I care about and think kindly of does matter to me.
The opinion of strangers, those who don't know me or even those who pretend to know me is irrelevant.
For the first 5 decades of my life I felt invisible so it is important for me to know that I'm making a difference or having an impact on the lives of others.
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By (user no longer on site) 9 weeks ago
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No, it doesn't.
What people think and what people say can be very different.
People close to me that I have a relationship with not just sexual but friendships etc then yes their views I will listen to and take on board, but others I couldn't give two flying fucks. |
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"The opinion of those I care about and think kindly of does matter to me.
The opinion of strangers, those who don't know me or even those who pretend to know me is irrelevant.
For the first 5 decades of my life I felt invisible so it is important for me to know that I'm making a difference or having an impact on the lives of others.
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Just to add and linking it to the what we are entitled to thread, I have zero respect for anyone who says they don't give a fuck about what others think of them.
To me that just says they don't give a fuck full stop and are happy to say and do with no thought for the consequences or how their words and/or actions can impact on others. |
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I came to terms with the simple fact that with the exception of a few people close to me I can never really know what anyone thinks so I worry about it less every year.
I try to listen to the people that I love. I trust them to steer me right. |
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"It does to me.
Anyway I think I’m going to listen to Anxiety by Doechii now. "
Yeah, same. I like to think I've got better at not giving a fuck. But sometimes...
"I get this tightness in my chest, like an elephant is standing on me, and I just let it take over..." 🫶 |
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I care deeply what others think about me,as a mark of respect I strive to treat people well and with honesty and would like the same in return.
I do want to be liked and nobody hates me more than myself my insecurities and paranoia requires that I try to be liked.
The irony is I have practically zero friends and somehow always manage to rub people up the wrong way.
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"It does to me.
Anyway I think I’m going to listen to Anxiety by Doechii now.
Yeah, same. I like to think I've got better at not giving a fuck. But sometimes...
"I get this tightness in my chest, like an elephant is standing on me, and I just let it take over..." 🫶"
I think I love you  |
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Yes and no.
It shouldn’t impact your perception of yourself if you have a strong sense of self and a lot of self awareness.
However, if people think badly of you then of course that’s important and you need to think why that is? And then decide to either brush it off or acknowledge it.
If we all walked around not caring about what others thought then the world would be a crazy place. |
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I don't like it when people call me a liar.
In general, I don't care if people look at me and think fat, old bag.
I want my children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren to know they are my priority and think of me as a good, loving, caring person.
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if they don't know me or I have no connection, then no I don't give two flying fucks what people think of me.
But those I know, like or have reason to interact, absolutely yes, I hate falling out with people and never wanted to be disliked. |
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I've been to a lot of funerals in the last few years. It's become clear to me that people have very different impressions of the same person often defined by the context in which they knew them. I remember wondering who her church friends were talking about at my mums.
I've never been too concerned about what anyone but my loved ones think about me but and this experience reinforced that. |
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By *YDB75Man 9 weeks ago
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Depends what mindset im in. Most of the time i dont really care what people think of me but then someone will say something that really hits the gut and that sends me off into a slide to bad thoughts and then i have to rebuild it all again.
I am who i am and this penny dosnt fit every slot in fact not alot slots I do fit. |
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"It does to me.
Anyway I think I’m going to listen to Anxiety by Doechii now.
Yeah, same. I like to think I've got better at not giving a fuck. But sometimes...
"I get this tightness in my chest, like an elephant is standing on me, and I just let it take over..." 🫶
I think I love you "
That's just the Doechii talking 😅🥰 |
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"It does to me.
Anyway I think I’m going to listen to Anxiety by Doechii now.
Yeah, same. I like to think I've got better at not giving a fuck. But sometimes...
"I get this tightness in my chest, like an elephant is standing on me, and I just let it take over..." 🫶
I think I love you
That's just the Doechii talking 😅🥰"
Every block boy needs a little love 🫶🏾❤️ |
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"Does it matter what others think of you?
I was told once when you look in the mirror the only person you have to like or say they did their best to is the reflection "
Aside from the people I care about then no obviously it doesnt matter.
People who haven't walked in my shoes can't judge me...
If people know me then they know what kind of person I am and that's all that matters to me. |
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It used to when I was younger but now, no I don't care what anyone thinks.
I will do what I want 😌 if you don't like it, that's your problem not mine!
Iv spent too long being miserable to please others.
Mrs. |
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No I definitely dont care what anyone thinks of me.
I often tried to please others and keep everyone happy.
But its not worth all the stress.
Now I just concentrate on what matters to me.
I love messing and will do embarrassing shite just for laughs.and never care what others think.
The only person I would care about is Val but she loves the messing too.❤️ |
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“Be strong, o man! lust, enjoy all things of sense and rapture: fear not that any God shall deny thee for this.” is a quote I have lived my life by.
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And if a "god" should not deny me this, then quite what other mortals think is of no concern to me.
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I don't need to explain myself to any god, and certainly to no other mortals.
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I value the opinions of those I am close to, but only up to a point. If those impact my self-autonomy in a way I do not agree with, I will tell them so and why. |
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Water off a ducks back, too old to give a damn. Been through the mill and come out the other side.
Still standing and nobody's fool.
My gran once told me if you listen to people's opinions of you don't get angry if they're are negative use them as your incentive to strive for better and good.
You can't please all of the people all of the time. |
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